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amethystnnty1:
By your definition a soul is yanked into existence just to be an eternal slave (I agree with you).

A machine programmed to reproduce and bring another soul to a constant life of external struggle.

Don't you think the moral thing to do is to deny our programming and refuse to bring in another soul to this eternal slavery?

I refuse to enlist a non existed soul for an eternal slavery why do I need a woman and have I serve my purpose in life.?

I like the way you think to.life is a choice we actually are not programmed beings we have always had a freewill to decide what to do with our lives if that is the moral thing for you to do, then you have made a choice you see befitting for yourself.if we wer automatoms as u claim we wouldn't be having this conversation because you wouldn't even be able to think to have an opinion of your own.and hmm for the idea of eternal slavery..it's not the definition of my own existence so I really can't relate.

MISEDUCATIONS:
NO. men dont do that. its always mothers and sisters insulted, by you women and by weak sex-starved white knights. fathers are rarely if ever insulted. dont lie now. take responsibility for your misogyny.

I am being accused by misogyny by the person supporting a guy who insults every Nigerian girl at once from her home training down to the hygiene of her private parts lol now if this isn't hipocricy at its highest I dunno know what this is.

amethystnnty1:
What do you think is the purpose of life?

In a summarised summary-To serve God!

Marriage is supposed to be that which helps us achieve our purpose ,like a partner in the struggle,an environment u can be you and pull strength from when down,somonr that can. Take your matter up with God like his or her own.but our problem is that most of us want to be common we don't even know our purpose so truly speaking there is nothing the man or womancan help you with.you really don't have anything to work with in the first place apart from being a woman or a man Alryt what else ,what can you do,who do u want to be being a woman is common as well as being a man.find purpose that u may truly live

jaxxy:
Marrying the right person is the issue not marriage. 65% of people married the wrong people or with the wrong idea or philosophy of marriage.

Marriage us about understanding, understanding is about compromise bt many people can't do this as simple as it may be. It's either their way or the highway

Choosing a partner for wrong reasons,anger,willfullness,wrong idea about marriage that it settles your problems,the strong desire to dominate our partners this is our problem and marriage cannot and will not work this way..it's a holy institution that demands genuine humility,teacheable spirit,and agape love and a true knowledge of God's love to sustain.we are here shouting and arguing who benefits more lol marriage should be a win -win situation. "We"won not "I" won and "you" won lol.we think we can be married and still act and be single ironically

Marriage..an institution created by God and likened to his relationship with the church Nahhh I don't believe it's without benefit except we have all missed something or we are not doing it right in this generation.

MISEDUCATIONS:
your answer is the very attitude he's addressing. see now how you're attacking the women in his family. lol ignoring HIM who insulted you.

Not attacking anyone ..I am just stating a fact that as humans we tend to react to and interpret things based on similar experiences or examples closest to us in our environment for example if I tell you "all men are wicked scaming dogs" the first thing u would would say is "your father to?" Why because he is the first example of a male figure I had in my life so I should majorly interpret men in the example he has shown me or how my brothers have treated girls.so u see it was me drawing an obvious fact there.that was why I didn't insult him cos I took the time instead to question and blame why he spoke that way.no need to insult him he is a result of his experiences and I can't fault him for them.

donstan18:
For God sake! How many seconds will it take to say Goodmorning?

Reason why Nigerian ladies will continue to be seen as write-off on this planet. You will hardly see a foreign man praise them.

Very very disrespectful, mannerless and unintelligent when it comes to socializing and interacting with people. All their lives revolves around is nothing but money.

Had it being that her co-worker is a rich man, she would have greeted him 5 times that very morning, but due to her typical Nigerian attitude and foolishness, she did nothing but to ask if he/she'll die if she fails to greet.

Right now, I don't know between their smelling pussay and their mannerless attitude, which is more of a disaster to humanity.

An opinion of the examples u have seen around u your mum sisters and aunties really don't blame u.would have called you a fool but not necessarily cos we are all entitled to an opinion.i would have poked your intellect a bit but I don't think there is actually any to work with.I respect your opinion but the other gal could ve greeted to after all it was a new job as an old employee it's your duty to make it conducive for the new ones.

Organism000:
Stop generalizing this issue my man. You hardly know up to 200 Nigerian ladies and you have already concluded that "Nigerian ladies will continue to be seen as a write-off on this planet".

Why you carry this matter for your head brov ?

I love our ladies because they do not bow to intimidation. What was good about that morning ? Did the other lady find her intimidating ? Why is it her job to firstly say 'Good Morning', why didnt the other lady, say the 'Good Morning'.

Please do not insult our ladies any longer, they become what they are, because Nigerian men have mal-treated them so intensively that they are always on the fight/flight impulses. It is caused by environmental stress which has totally become virus programs in their ethereal bodies.

We must also blame ourselves for making our environment too hostile for our women.

Gbam!!!you have said it all.this is really plain hipocricy if not y did the other lady not greet worse i can swear the person that sacked that gal is sleeping with the other one if not what happened to cautioning the girl or putting her on some form of probation lol it's good to greet o but some people just naturally wake up in a bad mood ever morning...they don't just do mornings

Biological debridement... basically safe but fear that the maggots may release toxins in to the wound that could further complicate it.

mhisbliss:
Old enough to teach you a thing or two, love is not a choice, very naive statement there,we don't choose who we fall inlove with nor can we turn it on and off as we please, I've seen people who got married to ladies who had babies outside wedlock yet they're still living in peace, i have seen wives who made infidelity a career but thier husbands stayed with them, so going on and on about his financial status like a raving lunatic makes me believe you're not even old enough to use nairaland, you don't know another about life

Love is not a choice you say ....lmao...lol..this young ones never seem to amaze us.you will get there in time..some things are better learned personally.lol

BluntTheApostle:
My sister, do you define substance by material possessions?

What if I tell you that there are hundreds of broke guys who won't take that nonsense?

Perhaps, this guy has inferiority complex. May have nothing to do with lack of money. There are some men, just like women, who are so messed up that they can't imagine their lives without somebody. They cling to the person, taking all nonsense and even committing suicide when the relationship finally collapses.

Nahh substance was in no way aimed at denoting wealth in my statement..I ment self respect,self awareness that he deserves some form of respect to.wisdom to decipher what love truly is.and that he too deserves it..

mhisbliss:
You can't jump into conclusions like that, Maybe he really likes her, irrespective of his financial status

Lmao....how old are you? Dude is broke no man with substance will take this.. love is a choice..you don't make it with people who keep hurting you.if he is still staying he obviously thinks she is doing him a favour.

Dami12345:
Lol would you like to marry him or be his bestie??

That won't be a bad life at all...i could really use genuine honest people in my life.

CarlosTheJackal:
?y friend okey has been engaged to his fiance for a year and he told me in confidence that he wasn't going to marry the lady because she is Old and he needs a 23 year old bride instead of his 34 year old fiance.

Okey bad mouths the lady anytime we hang out together to create a bad impression about her with me but when i go visiting, the things he tells me are different from what i see with the lady.


Last year the lady called me up to please help her talk to my friend use condom when sleeping with his other flings. The truth is that i know Okey side chic who is also my great pal because she is a good talker and she can analyse politics like Maupe Ogun.



Okey promised the fiance to marry her during the last Easter so the girl had inform her parents in the village that her fiance is coming for wine carrying but the truth was that Okey was doing wine carrying for his 23 year old bride with the loan he took from his fiance. For the record, Okey is an average guy with dough but he was cash strapped then so he took 300k loan from the fiance to travel with her to the village.


I was the only one that knew about the game being played out and i was seriously bothered because this lady has really sacrificed a lot for my guy. Treating the worst STDs and forcing him to do likewise, aborting a three month old baby after the guy lied to him that he was in a secret society so if he should have a baby now that he will die. (Sounds funny but my friend has a Nigeria Oscar for his theatrics)



When they got home he dropped the lady at her place and never bothered to bring the lady to come see his family. The lady do call me every time giving me detail of what's going on just like my friend calls me to tell me of how much convincing he is still doing to the family of his 23 year old student bride. I asked my friend what about his fiance and he said she is at her father's house that he has told her that he can't marry her.
I called the fiance to know if my friend is still coming and she said my friend will still show up.


Finally, my friend took the cloth the fiance made as uniform for their marriage rites and use it to go pay bride price for his 23 year old student bride. When he told me with joy that God he finally blessed him that after a lot of pressure against his marrying the 23 year old bride from her sisters that the girl's father finally agreed. I asked him what about his fiance and he said he won't tell her for now that he will just find a way to quarrel with her for the next three months then he will end it. It was then that i knew that my friend was evil and will throw anyone under the bus just for his selfish desire.



I just called the fiance and told her to forget about marriage with my friend that she should come back to Lagos to face her life because Okey is now married. She didn't believe it but when i took her through the emergency travels he makes to the East for one job or the other, the stories that i was used as an alibi to cover for him and others. The fiance was devastated and i told her to watch out for a quarrel before they will travel back. I told the lady not to be scared to tell the guy that i told her everything.

Today, my friend sees me as a Snitch and someone that couldn't keep the guys code. I told him that we are no longer those boys in school with useless code that everything we do now shapes our old age

God will not fail to bless you for this act..if you had gone along with your friends you would have also borne the consequences of his karma..thank God for the wisdom to abdicate yourself from such wickedness.your honesty will reap a reward God is not asleep.

Zealoy:
Pls guys there's this babe I love so much so I approached her and asked her out but she says let's just be friends that she's not yet ready for Relationship yet, pls guys what do u think I'll say to her cuz I can't stand being just a friend I want to be more than just a friend to her.

Agree be a her friend for 4mth when she has liked you and has become too used to you..ask her to define it.if she refuses leave her.in that 4mnths invade the hell out of her life put on the perfect act....she won't know what hit her.she just needs something little to convince her...for her not to tell you no upfront and go she may like you a bit already chill... patience is a virtue

oluwadara01:
We all know what we are waiting for - Nomination.
Why should it be till 'like September' when schools resumes in September. Besides, the whole thing is in stages. You should know that each stage has a deadline (especially the Admission process). Don't know the modality for other countries, but if it's China, you still have other things to do even after getting nominated. That is why nomination - which comes first, should be out much earlier than September(you can also read the previous threads)

You are reading threads.i am speaking from experience.chill.some of us are here to answer your questions not wait for nominations.

IamJix:
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Someone that understands this language should please interpret..

There is nothing to say I am just greetings you people

tolianc:
Why did u say we should take out mind off the scholarship for now?

Because no body will respond to you till like September

Rickyzagy:
What is love first. I call it the ability to accept or tolerate someone despite anything bad or good the person has done. Total acceptance

Now do you love him? Can you stay with him even if his condition change?
You need to ask your self many questions.

If yes then learn how to shot you mouth or forcing your opinion on him cos that is the most marriage and relationship killer that is hard to cure.

You are to advise him not force him

If you love him and you are sure that he love you equally then let nothing put asunder.

How old are you? This definition of love will put you in trouble it's what makes one sell respect for acceptance .love is not tolerance . tolerance is work not love

Lol it's called see finish but must importantly he has seen another girl hr is considering he wants to try her out but it's too much of a coward to dump you he wants you to do it to avoid bthe guilt on his path it's simple math tnk me later.assholes everywhere! Lol

AnonHq:
Anytime i read threads like this i just shake my head
there is no doubt that medicine is the most difficult course to study and as such anyone who graduates successfully is usually respected and adored....because if you know what it takes to go through med school..the crazy ward rounds, sleepless nights just to pass the MB, the insults you receive in front of your patient and all, you would not come here to make ridiculous comparisons!
yes everyone is important but there is a hierarchy, and doctors are at the top of the ladder

Awww the only person with a brain here.allow them they think it's to go to school to do 15 credit load.the things you face to be a doctor is better left experienced than explained

If you feel inferior in the presence of doctors the problem is from you not them you see that ward coat and stethoscope you say they are bouncing about with nigga thay earned it through grueling hours that not all courses demand if you have not been through the process please don't belittle it.medicine is a noble profession and that word "over hyped" is so wrong on so many grounds.w E should all sick to make our courses relevant and stop the hate.no one jabs other professions Like this but then again greatness attracts hate.wat can I hate

ideologies:
As a man who trained his daughter well, will you allow your daughter marry a man with poor home upbringing?


You ladies are funny!

These kind of mentality are the reason you need tougher upbringing.

Your lives are mostly based on fantasies not realities.

I really don't know what you are responding to I can't find a link between what I said and what you are saying.
No insult intended but it's "this kind of mentality is" I couldn't comprehend the diction to.

You see our problem now.she will now grow up to marry the man that nobody trained when he starts messing up the marriage they will say it's her fault for not keeping her home.my son eh am just waiting for you.u cannot come and be entitled and irresponsible like most men of this generation.

stefanweeks:
Time will tell

Allow her the are yet to find her 'mumu button'.lol time will really tell.

stefanweeks:
The boldened confirms you have never been in true love (which is rare by the way).

In this state, you tend to do whatever you can to make that person happy.

Yeah yeah that true love ish... she is 18 though lol.he leaves,she wakes up and receive sense to watch her investment later on.

Damn!! The heart of man though.no body can turn me into a mad woman o.all these women Have issues...nahhh I can't stain my conscience to keep a man.its pathetic

efesodje:


Your boyfriend is unique then

Or lacking in serious self esteem or desperate.pls there are young people on this forum let us not sqew their understanding Of what It means to be unique in a relationship.its not unique it's pathetic

KevinDein:
TBH, based on the stories I hear from my female colleagues, with regards to their contributions to the "home", I think we men, especially in "modern" Africa where women take part in the corporate lifestyle in addition to their domestic roles, are getting the better end of the deal. I won't swap our "stress" with theirs,

It's tough for some of these ladies, guys.

(and I hate taking sides with women on nairaland)

You are truly objective in your thoughts.its wonderful.you men do your best (some)if roles wer better defined it will be a lot easier.in older times men knew and went for what they wanted.if it was a home maker the wanted , they married her and had no problem in her being totally dependent on them as far as she took care of them and the home.men now say they want the same then complain when she askes for money they want the independent woman and the home maker all in one.its attainable but Not every one can attain it hence the strife

Lol funny.watever works for everyone one.there are roles they should be defined and we should all stick to it.i like the Mr fix it husband scenario though exaggerated but funny lol."escort me to pee" wat nonsense....

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