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if he has turned love into a chess game,make sure u are not a pawn.gals are always 20 steps ahead of the guy emotionally,from the write up I sense you are not a shallow gal u will hold on to him till he comes to that point but my dear u can keep your life on hold in hope someone will see you as you see them.it may sound hard but I tell u let him go the fight is for your sanity,dignity and Esteem u may lose all these holding on.dysfunction is not love.give him the space to conclude you are wat he needs the more he sees you around ,he thinks u will always be there and he will just wait for the next gal that he feels is better than you ,then go after her and remind you of ur sisterzone and d cycle continues.if u stay you will make him complacent with your heart and you will b a serious chairman of sisterzone kai that boy wicked,not even friend zone phew boys ehh! may God pull u true.i know ur pains.sweetheart refuse to settle move on if he catches up fyn.if he doesn't keep your head up and forward and raise d bar of your standard

Longman6:
In as much as i usually avoid commenting on this section of Nairaland, i find myself unable to restrain from commending your thoughts, my views on the issues of love and betrayal centers around the culture of irresponsibility within the Nigerian society, most people did not grow up in good homes, even the seemly good homes aren't good at all, we Nigerians want the glamorous life style without working for it,a lady posted an update about surviving a virgin hunter gang leader some days ago and i noticed people applauded her for her bravery and smartness instead of asking her why she just hopped into the car of someone she just meet and was suddenly expecting to get a mobile phone of #400000 as an instant gift.

people get away with irresponsible behavior and pass a wrong message to others: an honest girl mets a guy who batters her heart and subsequently decides to stop loving forgetting that she is doing herself a lot of injustice, another man entices the girlfriend of another man without a sense of guilt,We simply have a dead conscience in this part of the world.And i see a lot of funny post on Nairaland about why it is not good to be a nice guy, please guys if you want to be successful in life be a nice guy because only irresponsible girls find nice guys repulsive, they just cant stand the aura of sanity around you, they are used to disorder, to the ladies avoid the initial excitement that comes with getting to know a bad boy, ask yourself would he stand with me and my kids when things get hard?. Give me a wife like patience Jonathan, Hillary Clinton and Mitcheel obama,you i just doubled my chances of having a successful life.

rare wisdom in these times of moral decadance

COdeGenesis:
How can you keep acting single when you in a serious relationship, doesn't just add up? If you ain't ready to date just stay single. Dating should be a recipe for marriage. D moment i Find out someone asked of ur relationship status and u replied single, na Just to dey fck you, can't ever be serious again with DAT kinda geh

acting single here just means make sure ur life doesn't revolve around that one person.you shouldn't be completely vunurable even in a single relationship.see let's face it there are plenty serious relationships dat have not ended up in marriage instead they leave people so broken they don't know aw to get themselves together.see u need to be single at heart anything can happen even in a serious relationship.i agree dating is a recipe 4 marriage and I am not suggesting anyone should deny his status even I can't stand such rejection just don't make ur world revolve around them.

until both of u stand on that alter just b acting single.my father taught me never to give my all to a man. he is a wise father.four years of her life down d drain....wat a waste mwchhh

Pierocash:
Lack of attitude have cost so many women of this days their relationshp,bt they wil kip saying 'my boyfrnd of 10 yrs broke my heart,men are wicked'
Now ask me,who wants to marry a knife instead of a wife?

..hu is a knife and how does it relate to this story

Nutase:
Cigarette don destroy this young man lips. From the looks of his lips I wonder what his lungs will look like.

I knew there was a nairalander thinking like me!!

let her go...if it is ment to be, it will work out well in tym.

rest n Peace sweetheart.iit was a cruel world anyway but u were sent back in the most cruel fashion may you find Peace beyond all this .

forgiveness is a tale only the strong tell.

Pidgin2:
It seems males and females are raised differently within most households

The boys act unruly and disrespectful most times, they are also sexually exposed far too early whereas the girls appear respectful and polite.

Some parents don't bother about training their male kids anymore but allow them the freedom to do whatever they like while the girls are trained and made to do multiple domestic chores

Don't complain about your husbands if you are not ready to train your sons because they will be someone else's spouse one day.

op I don't think this is only peculiar to your area. infact it is a general occurrence .most women were raised with the mentality that they are ment to take care of the home, kids and a man so right from time the take up this responsibility and grow into the role. No insult intended but a boy's role in the home is not properly defined they don't get to do chores,they have different curfew time and parents tolerate their indiscipline more than girls.life actually downs on them at later point in their lives that is why most teenagers are just a parcel of unbridled zeal,no iota of respect for anybody and unfounded boldness that makes them obnoxious. Most female teenagers on the other hand are just too gullible getting deceived everyday by their male teens and older men in fact an average teenage gal is goalless she just want to grow up and play the role society has laid out for her. #teenagers#

Pidgin2:
It seems males and females are raised differently within most households

The boys act unruly and disrespectful most times, they are also sexually exposed far too early whereas the girls appear respectful and polite.

Some parents don't bother about training their male kids anymore but allow them the freedom to do whatever they like while the girls are trained and made to do multiple domestic chores

Don't complain about your husbands if you are not ready to train your sons because they will be someone else's spouse one day.

op I don't think this is only peculiar to your area. infact it is a general occurrence .most women were raised with the mentality that they are ment to take care of the home, kids and a man so right from time the take up this responsibility and grow into the role. No insult intended but a boy's role in the home is not properly defined they don't get to do chores,they have different curfew time and parents tolerate their indiscipline more than girls.life actually downs on them at later point in their lives that is why most teenagers are just a parcel of unbridled zeal,no iota of respect for anybody and unfounded boldness that makes them obnoxious. Most female teenagers on the other hand are just too gullible getting deceived everyday by their male teens and older men in fact an average teenage gal is goalless she just want to grow up and play the role society has laid out for her. #teenagers#

saintmark88:
Ahh, it's terrible, there's nothing we wouldn't c n dz country..... It's because we have decided to be slaves n our very own country, nobody is talking, everyone is silent afraid of his head. In those days u can't go to a tertiary institution n d presence of students and make such comments.... They will stone him. But this is what we have been reduced to by our politicians

let me not even begin to lament of the state of things because the average Nigerian man is being bullied every single day by this politicians and he lives in oblivion of it everyday. they (Atiku included) have reduced the average man to a state in which his goal is to meet the basic need of life that he has no time or enthusiasm to be creative or stand up for himself against a government that cares less about him.if Atiku had invested the money he stole in his eight years to the so called "public university" he is insulting today maybe they would have been able to produce graduates up to his taste .He has a hand in the state of the federal university and as such should not be ranting as he cannot point one infrastructure or single thing he did in all his eight years to better the institutions in any way.such a hooligan.

saintmark88:
What an insult!!!!!!!!!!!?

arrhh my brother u stole d words from my mouth like imagine the insult..

Dreal11247:
But there are other churches where those things are allowed. If she feels she can't abide by the rules, is it not more honorable to locate one of the churches? You are neither here nor there.

you are Ryt though ..she had that choice I wonder why she didn't do as u suggested.

Dreal11247:
It is not an issue of giving to Ceasar what belongs to him. The Church is a deliverance church and all the instructions are for the good of the individuals involved. Just imagine if it was the bride that brought the groom to the church. It is a maximum display of hypocrisy.

its nothing about hypocrisy its just a case of when you are in Rome act as the Romans do.maybe its d guy's church and not hers and so her conviction is not inclined towards the churches doctrine .her not putting makeup in the church ground is a sign of respect for her man and the church doctrines.just for the wedding to hold

youngestmilly:
share your experience. Firstking u too

there were moments wen wherever I went I was always covered with cobwebs .it was weird I would b about to enter church and it would just cover me in the kitchen wen am about to cook ,on my way to school it was so bad DAT a friend said I should go to MFM for deliverance.that day I sat down an prayed and a passage was laid on my mind Isaiah 59:6. am not going to quote it here I urge u to check it up and be wowed by the power of the holy spirit.

its only a hungry man that steals food.

youngestmilly:
Bro most of the stuffs here are really for the matured in spirit. I get mine through the word of God for now cos am still growing in spirit. I can remember contemplating whether to go to the gym or stay home and kinda meditate. I decided to open the bible to read just any verse and the first verse I saw says 'for bodily exercise profiteth little but godliness....' do you also experience stuffs like this?

when it happens u re like wat d hell?? its just spot on

AnonyNymous:
Good post
Not that I have any experience because nobody loves me
But, I feel like if a man is able to connect on so many levels, cheating won't even occur to him. Imagine being able to talk about anything with your girl/wife. . . showing her a funny meme you saw, talking about religion/politics, a TV show you both watch together, or even just useless trash talk . Sex would be like the physical manifestation of your emotional bond, so much that you wouldn't even imagine having it with anyone else. Lol. Women like that don't exist though, and neither does this kind of love, at least to my knowledge. These are just pretty words and they don't apply to real life

brilliant opinion.. but like u said, it hardly exist for these days humans are just containers of selfishness walking about. everyone is too busy loving himself and looking for someone to love them again.

KissChrix:

Quite unusual, OAU wey be say strike na their second name

e no reach university of Jo's ....strike is their middle name

congrats to you all.

firstking01:
Stop doubting the word of God...that message was for me, it was too clear abd obvious...i just dnt know what's wrong with humans and reprobate minds...do you know that same week i was in a bus and God used the preacher to caution me again?....asif that was not enough, on one sunday afternoon a brother walked upto me and said, "bro, God said i should tell you that you should not allow friends distract you and that he sees that finger of God in my life"....if you look at my post you will see where i talked about God speaking audibly to mature christians, this is exactly one scenario i experienced live under that sunny sunday afternoon....bro, if i start telling you my encounters with God almighty you won't believe me cos most times i ask God why me??....upon several occations i 've been called out under the unction of prophesy by men of God and what they usually tell me is, young man you are blessed of God and you have the calling of God in your life"....i was in a church last month still under the spirit of prophesy i was called out by the pastor and he said" bro, i dnt know you before but i see the finger of God in your life, he said there are somethings i do in wisdom and that God gave me the gift of healing and so many other things i cnt remember now"...now, i can't recall the last time i took drugs, i even hardly fall sick, the last time it looked asif i wanted to fall sick; it was a simple prayer i made andt cast it out....yeah, i 've been enjoying God since i encountered HIM in 2008...HE has not failed me not for once...HE has chosen me to preach, heal and cast out devils and there's nothing you or anybody can do to change that....i beseech you to desist from doubting God and trust in His word because His words are YEA AND AMEN....Wish those atheiest who's been givinge mentions will read this.....


N/B...this is little compared to the other cumbersome encounters and experience i 've had with GOD....Be blessed.

the Good lord bless u and keep up the good work he has started in you.u owe no body any explanation of your conversion I believe u and God does to

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with d price of rice and oil and the way the economy is u still ve the Emery this pple ehhh do whatever you want

get ur shit together there is more to life than one person rejecting you and u killing yourself over it.learn from it then get up and get moving b4 life pass u

Hardeysolution:
applauds.. ........where did you learn this? Tribal goat..

forgive him pls ..not every one on nairaland is mentally stable. his answers tells all about his IQ level pardon him.

"most popular" funni and this is my first tym seeing him in all my yrs of schooling NYC.

Cutehector:
Jokes apart, it's not right to wash a woman's clothes.

its a matter of opinion not fact. its was strong people who are secure in their relationships do.it doesn't affect d guy or d gal's esteem to do such basic things for each other.

I thank God for salvation. Jesus is the best thing that happened to this world

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shout out to Mr marshal bakut, Mr enis,pa James.. best teachers ever may God strengthen and keep you