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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 8:55pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
MariaLavina:how possible is the bolded? Not possible. It's only natural to want to love and be loved... except the psychopaths we have around. We need someone at sometime in our lives. How we balance that is what matters most. Saying you can be totally independent is irrational to me. |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 8:58pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
bukatyne:I guess the man is supposed to provide money for sanitary pads every month too. There is no where I said a man should not provide for his home. My point is simply, women shouldn't get married because they are looking for a man to provide for their daily needs. That's a silly mindset to take into marriage. If one take such mindset into marriage, that person is seen as a liability. No one likes liabilities. Women should see their husbands that person who will take them to the next level in their life and not someone who will be providing daily food and needs! 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 9:04pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
bukatyne:when you say not working, how do you mean? 7 to 5 jobs... where did I mention rich? If you do not understand my post, why don't you ask for clarification. Being rich does not equal success. Many of our mothers were full housewives i.e the not working you are saying but some had farms or some little trade they did. Many mothers built houses and supported their husbands. Yes, times have changed, things aren't as easy it was... my point is even as a "house wife", the brain should not be defunct! .. do things! |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 11:46pm On Jul 05, 2018 |
majekdom2:Wanting to be loved is a sign of neediness. When you are needy, you are not yet independent. How about you become "Love " ? The problem with our world today is that we take/ expect more than we give. How can we all want to be loved with no one wanting to be that Love? . We can not have what is not existing. Balance is important, no doubt neither did I ever type total independence. Take note of that! |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by lexy2014: 1:12am On Jul 06, 2018 |
Famousqueen:I didn't say u shouldn't rock ur boat or ur boat shouldn't rock u. Ozzy etomi didn't say u shouldn't have kids &neither am I saying same. D young lady said unmarried ladies shouldn't get married. That's y I said b4 u start dancing galala that what she said is music 2 ur ears, u should ask urself y she hasn't left her marriage if marriage is such a bad idea |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by KanwuliaExtra: 1:52am On Jul 06, 2018 |
You don tok ya own. Others like me love the “marriage SAFITIKATE” o! Even if na “goat” I dey marry, not my consine! I don h-ansa “MRS”! Just to taste it, period. The benefits are very FEW, the rest Na “state of mind”! If you are happy, you are happy. Marriage is not a key ingredient in achieving happiness! 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Silumi(f): 8:49am On Jul 06, 2018 |
amethystnnty1:I like the way you think to.life is a choice we actually are not programmed beings we have always had a freewill to decide what to do with our lives if that is the moral thing for you to do, then you have made a choice you see befitting for yourself.if we wer automatoms as u claim we wouldn't be having this conversation because you wouldn't even be able to think to have an opinion of your own.and hmm for the idea of eternal slavery..it's not the definition of my own existence so I really can't relate. |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Silumi(f): 8:53am On Jul 06, 2018 |
jaxxy:I totally agree with you sir.well spoken! |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by BanMePls: 9:27am On Jul 06, 2018 |
Famousqueen: I understand this feeling. I was here until someone came to take my common sense. She is a Bundle of Joy. May true love finds you |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Biglittlelois(f): 1:27pm On Jul 06, 2018 |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by amethystnnty1: 5:11pm On Jul 06, 2018 |
Silumi: Do you know that under the right laboratory condition it can be predicted to almost to a certainty what action the brain will tell you body to do every single time. So if it it's possible to determine the sentence you're about to alter seconds before you do what do we call free will "There is also agreement in the scientific community that the firing of neurons determines not just some or most but all of our thoughts, hopes, memories, and dreams." --The Atlantic FREE WILL is nothing but an illusion by our brain from the idea of self. |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Silumi(f): 12:52am On Jul 07, 2018 |
amethystnnty1:I have had courses on neuroscience and I must say that your interpretation of these facts may be a bit sqwed.That fact u quoted was borne from "learning and memory consolidation". For our brains determining what our body does or telling what our body to do is true but its not something the brain was born with its something the brain learns with time "when you think for eg I want to carry a cup your cerebral cortex interprets it and sends information to your cerebellum to coordinate the movement of picking that cup because to information on how to pick that cup was stored by your cerebellum the first time you ever learnt that movement it's all a process called learning and memory consolidation. The firing of neurons determining our thoughts in that quoted article does not necessary mean it tells us what to say *No* but it could stimulate the path in which our thoughts take eg underfiring of some neurons could cause a person to think in the depression line and over activity also could cause anxious tots it's just the way the body works everything for a particular action but all this are learned they don't give birth to a person depressed or anxious your first experience of this emotions is what sets the pace for how the brain will behave in those situations. in essence sir we create ourselves we see we learn the brain stores and produced the memory when needed.our brains are plain sheets everything in it today sir we put it there consciously and unconsciously by our actions. So we are masters of the brain we teach it in essence we program our own selves not solely.not any supreme being. The fact that you can trigger some neurons to do some things in the adult brain is a pure case of what has been learnt and stored all his life.if this fact is how you present it babies would be born talking and capable of all emotions and not having the burden of having to Learn a language.or the would run out of the womb because they would be a programmed knowledge on how to run in fact they will feed them selves because they would be born with the know how. Free will is true... of may things that are illusions in this life it is not one of them.if it was truly an illusion we won't have different religions because we would all be born with the knowledge that we are to serve the God that protected us. Choice in religion today is a sign of free will,Good and bad people is also a sign ,the evil we leave with today all this are choices man has made by his own freewill. If God was a power freak and took free will from us we would all be Christians we won't even know there is something wrong(you have two hands a person born with one is an abnormality y because two hands is the accepted normal)so serving God would have come natural and at so much ease but it's not so today because we struggle with flesh every day . If we wer machine sir we won't be having this conversation because there would be no desire of any form to rebel against our maker it won't be part of our programme.You and I have free wills if not we would have been on the same page about God but u have your opinion and I have mine.choice an unaltered form of Free will at its best. 1 Like |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by amethystnnty1: 5:20am On Jul 07, 2018 |
Silumi: It is a human condition the inability to fully express the content of our reality (which I believe is subjective) so I take responsibility for writing so little that you weren't able to adequately interprete what I meant. I wish I had something that could transcribe as fast as my thought. Silumi: I did not infer that humans were programmed with knowledge that will inform every one of our actions at conception. I used "programming" for lack of a better word. In fact I am of the belief that who we are as an individual is constantly evolving and this depends on a lot of variables most of which are no choice of ours. "They don't give birth to a person depressed or anxious" you say. You do know that genes account for about 50% of the predisposition to suicide behaviour. Take as an example, Chinedu a morbidly obese boy by no fault or choice of his own was born into a family with a history of depression (yes, it is hereditary){GENES & DIET}. His parents weren't the worst parent but not a great one either. They provide for their son the basic need but like most Nigerian parent {CULTURE} they couldn't reach their son to know how truly he was feeling inside. As an introvert an extremely shy boy he was always the laughingstocks at school PIGGY he was called, he had no friend and was always being picked on by the school bullies{ENVIRONMENT}. One day he fell asleep while in class and he woke up to the laugh of the class to see that his trouser has been pulled, this was the trigger for him. When he got out of the school that day his mother wasn't there to pick him up because she was held up in traffic for about 30minutes because there was a protest by some university students over a hike in tuition price {ENVIRONMENT}. Chinedu jumped in front of a moving trailer and off himself a few minutes before his mother arrived. He was 17years old. Simulate this for a double of Chinedu in another universe or even if possible on a computer program. Take into consideration over billions of years everything to the minuscule details from the big bang to the formation of the first cell to the evolution of every species to first man to everything that lead to his father and mother to the billions of sperms his sperm compete with to make it to the egg in his mother to everything that happened while he was in the womb of his mother, everything that determined his genetic makeup and his neural physiology (which is gonna determine his every next thought and intentions). No one is born as a blank slate (science ; evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology has shown that), if that were true identical twin raised under the same conditions would by definition be thesame in every way, but the fact is they'll differ in temperament even if they are same sex more so if they are different sexes, they'll differ in intelligence, cognitive ability and capabilities, talents and in a lot of ways (they might be similar in some or most ways too). Now let's continue with the simulation, expose the clone of Chinedu to everything the original was expose to not changing any external factor to the tiniest fraction of a second. If such an experiment could be done I believe a billion clone of Chinedu in a billion universe would still jump in front of the trailer at the exact time the original did every single time. So ma'am that we are having this conversation is because of trillions and trillions of variables that wasn't set in motion by us. We are always gonna end up here having this conversation, every thing that has ever happened brought us here. ***Note that i haven't factor in the CHRISTIAN SOUL which according to the bible we are told is inherently evil. |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Silumi(f): 2:31pm On Jul 07, 2018 |
amethystnnty1:So chinedu has what we call an endogenous depression which is treatable if he had gotten help earlier it doesn't still stop it from being a misnormal.he was sick and needed help. It's been actually nice discussing with you.your line of thought is new and different and it made me smile and wonder at most points lol I just can't keep going back and forth on this I may not totally agree with u but I respect your opinion on this issue it's one I believe did not come too easy.do have a nice day |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by amethystnnty1: 8:45pm On Jul 07, 2018 |
Silumi: Have a pleasant one too! |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 8:55pm On Jul 07, 2018 |
LivingFree:Baaaabe. |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Uglymugg: 10:04am On Jul 08, 2018 |
Biglittlelois: Biglittlelois: Uglymugg: |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 8:10pm On Nov 17, 2018 |
Lawlahdey:Wherever she disappeared to........issokay na |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by antojack: 8:21am On Nov 18, 2018 |
pocohantas: Anty in dis wan u have it wrong, have a church member who z working with shell, take home per month 1.2m, Free company Hus, but she always complained of who to eat d money wit, as in husband |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by pocohantas(f): 11:34am On Nov 18, 2018 |
antojack: Ok... |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by elipheleh(m): 6:59am On Dec 23, 2018 |
Famousqueen: Should I pray for you so you will never get married in this life? That way your wishes are guaranteed. |
Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by LordsApostle: 7:33am On Dec 23, 2018 |
delugajackson:u killed it. 100 salutations for you
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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 2:19pm On Jan 14, 2019 |
delugajackson:In most part of Nigeria, d reverse is d case. D woman do everything while d man drinks and Impregnates her |
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