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Abimbola80: Hallo my people, I got to the embassy around 8:25am with my family. I was called to the queue around 9:15, did all document verification and straight to the other building. On getting there, I paid $1,320 for 4pple at window 22 and submit all my original docs and photocopy for window 19 with Int passport. I was in the front row looking at the 3cos. It was only the CO in window 14 (Young boy) that was nice, d CO in window 13 is too harsh and heartless, just they ask unnecessary question. Cos I was tired and hungry, I prayed for God's favour to have a stress-free experience. To be candid, favour beckon at exactly 12:32, the guy at window 14 called me and my family. This is my experience:
CO: Are you....
Me: Yes
Co: do you swear to say d truth?
me: yes. Then sign the form
Co: what is your highest qualification
me: MBA
co: what is your project topic?
me: Comparative adv in small and medium scale coy in lagos....
co:What is your first degree course?
me: AAAAAAAA
Co: which state do u serve, year and your PPA?
me: Sokoto
Co: bring out white paper and circle the address
In less than 4minutes, this wonderful guy gave me d visa without stress.
I want to show him my documents, but he said i shld keep them.

To be candid, it was God. I had an interesting and wonderful experience. Thanks for your
supports and prayers. This house is too wonderful, let's keep the flag flying.
For those awaiting interview or 2NL or may1 result, I wish you all the best. God is more than enough

Congratulation to you and your family!

nbright: Even when you are in love you still worry after sex... To me I think that "worry" is a part of your conscience... Telling you that you've commited a sin (pre-marital sex).. That is for those that are religious and we all know the ladies are more religious than the men.. (percentage wise).

To me its more like satisfaction. What's the point of romance when both parties are not truely satisfied. I would be worried wanting to anticipate 'if it was done right or wrong' or 'if he/she was satisfied' or 'if i was boring'.

The problem of worry is best curbbed by discussion by both parties!

carmelion: ^^^^,this man where have you been,and what is the meaning of profound?huh?

I have been good, just watching from afar! The thread is like a sine wave, but i enjoy it when its balanced. You write well but with so much pain and anger, you should let it go!

carmelion: Both lust and infatuation might lead to love later but i just hope you know the difference.

I don't think LUST can transform into LOVE. Just as a sour food never turns sweet. Both love and lusts originate with a sort of attraction.

For Love: attraction is not selfish or sexual, its deep, inner and lasting. While for Lust its temporal and for selfish gain. When you meet someone an attraction develops which could turn out to be fuel for love or lust.

carmelion: For single ladies here who are in a relationship .I just saw this on the front page and i agree with almost everything there.Use it and checkmate your man.It truly hurts when you discover that you and your man are not on the same page.

To you ,you guys are in serious relationship,
building your future together,walking to the promise land.

To him,you are just a side chick.One of those girls to quench the sexual urge.
It hurts more when you have turned down a lot of other guys.

Go through this and know when something is not right.He must not do all,but when he is guilty of most of it,all i can say is hmmmmmm................

https://www.nairaland.com/1243856/signs-he-just-not-into



On the physical and emotional levels, a guy who will not share just doesn’t want to go too deep. That can be fine for a fling, but it’s not worth making an emotional investment on your part.

No matter what age you are or level of dating experience, reading men’s interest in you can be a struggle. Many men prefer to remain a mystery, opting for privacy in all areas of their lives until they are ready to make a major commitment. God bless the fella who will tell you his intentions up front. But for most men, catching on to their subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues can be an easier way to get their message and avoid unnecessary heartbreak. If you are wondering if your guy is on the fence, but are unsure of whether you should jet, here are 14 telltale signs that he is just not that into you. If anyone you are seeing exhibits a significant number of these traits, it is time to tell him to move along.

1. He takes forever to text or email you back

In this technological age, there is nothing easier than sending someone a quick email or text. If your male companion takes hours — or even days — to respond to these simple forms of communication with even one line of acknowledgment, it’s time to kick him to the curb. This is not only lazy — it’s also rude. He might not be sending you a text message, but he is certainly sending you a clear message of another kind. On to the next one!

2. He maintains physical and emotional distance

Does he often break eye contact, even in private? Or withhold sharing personal details about his life? On the physical and emotional levels, a guy who will not share just doesn’t want to go too deep. That can be fine for a fling, but it’s not worth making an emotional investment on your part. If you have had your fun, it’s time to move on to brighter horizons.

3. He never comes over to your house

Men don’t like to go out of their way — especially if they are not that into you. A guy who likes you wants to make efforts to show you are special to him. Someone who won’t even drive to your house or take the subway can’t be expected to give much in the long term. There are other top-notch fish in the sea. Trust.

4. He avoids touching you in public

If your guy friend loves to embrace, kiss and cuddle in the privacy of your home, but won’t even hold your hand on the street, this is a major warning sign. Either he doesn’t want to be seen as being “with” you, or he is scared one of his other lovers (or his wife!) will see you out in public. Drop this dude if he won’t even hold your hand.

5. He rudely shoots down your ideas

A guy can disagree with your way of seeing the world and still care. If all he does is disrespectfully disregard your perspective when communicating, he likely doesn’t think much of you. You don’t want to be with someone who can’t treat you nicely, especially when you are simply talking. Next!

6. He only sees you after midnight

It’s hard if you really like someone to open your eyes and admit to yourself that to him, you are a booty call. If you can handle that, more power to you. But don’t expect this relationship to go anywhere. If you want more from a man, it’s time to search elsewhere.

7. He won’t let you leave things at his house

If you are at his place often, a guy who is into you will be happy to let you stow essentials there. But if someone you are frequently dating won’t even let you leave a toothbrush at his house he is either a) an obsessive compulsive neat freak, or b) trying to hide you from other women. In either case, you might want to distance yourself.

8. He attends major events without you

Friend’s house party? Parents’ anniversary dinner? Maybe even his own birthday? Sometimes a man wants to maintain his independence. And at other times he wants to ensure that you don’t get too involved in his life so he can move on any time. If he never wants you around at a time of life that’s meaningful, you don’t mean that much to him. You also have better ways to spend your time — with family and friends who really care.

9. He refuses to make future plans with you — short- or long-term

Does this guy squeeze you into the corners of his life? Refuse to plan weekends away? Keep his schedule open weeks in advance? If he only makes last-minute plans with you, while cramming in other activities with friends, he is just not that into you. Sorry, but you deserve better.

10. He flakes out on plans you do have at the last minute

This is another clear sign that he does not respect you or your time. Make room in your life for someone who does.

11. He’s already involved with someone else

This man might say he loves you, but if he is seriously involved with another women, he can’t really be giving you his all. He is a man divided, so how into you could he be? Worse, even if he did leave his mate for you, he has lied to her. He will likely lie to you. You don’t want that. Stay strong and carry on to another man.

12. He doesn’t seem that interested in intimacy(romance)

If your sex life with dude is little to nothing, he is basically saying that he can do without you. This is rude, frustrating, and a little cruel. You don’t need that. Do what you’ve got to do for you, and find that man who makes you feel desirable.

13. He pulls a disappearing act

When you don’t see a man for days, weeks or months at a time without explanation, he is just not that into you. He might be seeing other people, or simply doesn’t want to spend his time with you. If you aren’t seen as life-enhancing by this man, take the time to find someone who cherishes you. Your time, energy and love are worth it.

14. He encourages you to date other people

This is a sure sign that he wants to be totally free, and is not in a mind to commit himself. You probably won’t change him, so why waste your time? No guy is worth it. You deserve a man who wants to spend quality time with you, and reflects back to you your own self worth. There are people out there who will treat you with loving respect. If your significant other exhibits many of these behaviors, take the hint and resist investing another minute. You deserve the best in life. Keep striving until you find the love you deserve.




WARNING!,If he is a player,he can still bypass most of these ,meeeehn,we need binoculars

Good writing! Perhaps guys we need to measure ourselves on a scale:

If you already have a doll, be sure to counter these and others to make her happy!

If you do not, it is inorder to prepare yourself outrightly so as to enjoy your relationship when it comes.

To as many ladies who have been hurt by posing gentlemen: ACCEPT MY APOLOGIES on their behalf!

2sexy.net:
Aside the name calling... You are on point. A girl is currently with me and her friend wonders what she would be doing with guy like me while she turns down 'BiG' boys with cars...

Little does her friend know that I am already working on getting a job with an oil firm before I finish my NYSC... And you know what that means. The said girl does not even know what I am doing cos I never told her. She has no clue about any of my plans for the future but just want me. I'm still surprised at it all.

But her friend was the one who told me she turns down guys cos of me... The silly friend asked me if I got a car and that I am lucky that her friend despite her beauty turns down guys, does not flirt etc. She added that girls who are not as beautiful as her do date guys for the cash... And tomorrow, the friend may come here or elsewhere to say guys are bad, they use and dump girls, they dont want to settle down, all they want is se.x etc.

You ladies, most times are the cause of your own predicament. You cant tell me you have never met a nice guy. Of course, we are very few and hard to find like gold. But 'ojukokoro' no go let una see road.

Like my ex who confessed last month cos I dump the fool in 2009, she said she wanted to have fun and I was too serious then, coupled with the fact that guys were coming after her( so, dem no dey come again?). She visited me twice in 2012 begging me... Desperation don finish her life. she is first daughter and igbo.

All I can say is that just hold on to God... ( I know say na una know God pass)


Guys ARE no fools... Yes, most will take you out, buy you stuff, se.x etc but when they want to marry, they know just where to go... I know of a guy who dated fun-loving girls but when her wanted to marry nko, he went for a DIRECT opposite of the kind of girls he dated in the past.

GBAM!!! Just like that!

carmelion: I would have moved on to the next update(according to idowu),you know we are supposed to learn something new every week.


But then reading all through from pages 73 up to this point,3 posts caught my attention,
Adeniyi A

Youngalex

Ichidodo(boubou)

so I decided to pause and address the issue to led to all this. There is a lot to learn from it.

I am not trying to please anybody,cos my explanation is not important but I would like to say that its a pity that this is the stage I have found myself.

I don't like it ,but at the same time I can't help it. That of Chike orji pained me the most cos he was my first friend here,and I never hesitated to tell him that. I remember the reply to his mail I sent to him,I wrote


"..............I know you will be wondering why I always complain of loneliness and at the same time,not want to mingle. I am trying to but it seems as if am forcing a bitter substance down my throat. I seriously have a lot of work to do on myself. Please I just hope you understand and bear with me."



Adeniyi. A mentioned a proverb about ladies missing the right man because of the way they behave. He is very correct,and I will indulge every lady(including me) to heed to that advise. He also wrote"should I stop using a razor because I had a cut"?

Of course not,but you must agree with me that you will only use it when neccesary and you will not lift it in hurry. You do it gently. That is exactly what is happening to me now,but maybe am taking it too far


Youngalex wrote about a girl that gave him her number but has refused to pick his call. Well I don't know the lady ,her age,or her reason for behaving like that,but then she might be in my shoes. Maybe she is scared
.Maybe she is fighting hard to let go of her past. Just maybe.

Now you will ask,"then why did she give me her number"


Peharps ,you presurized her,and she just gave it to you,so that you will leave her alone.

Perharps she gave it to you,cos she has been keeping to herself for a long time ,then someone spoke to her,about being friendly(just like dailynews told me). So she decided to give you a trial(reluctantly).


Also don't forget that you met her online. More than 70% of Nigerians do not believe in online dating. It is full of scam. Maybe someone has talked fear into her,so she does not want to go ahead with it anymore. She is expecting you to get tired of calling ,and finally stop.


Personally,one thing I don't like is that part where both parties agrees to finally meet offline. What happens if one of you gets disappointed at what he /she finally saw?.

You know picture and real life is never the same. Sometimes,the picture is better than the real person,sometimes the real image is better than the picture. In such cases,it takes only the MATURED minds to actually go for quality character other than physical appearance.


But then I won't blame anybody,everyone has a choice.


I don't know how long you have called her but the phone might be missing.


I don't know what the reason is but I want guys here to know that it takes a lot for a broken woman to fall in love again.I know that what I did was not neccesary(I mean telling someone your tribe and religiion is not a big deal) but that is to tell you how withdrawn my experiences has made me be. It has costed/caused me a lot of things,but am just scared of trying again.

All men are not the same,but how do you identify them without getting close?.I don't completely blame men for my mistakes. These days I choose to say,"I did not play my cards well".

Ichidodo,wrote something about respecting 'my space'.Then this must be very serious.If some one who has not met me realife,can perceive my attitude,and has decided to give me my space,then I can only imagine what I must have done to my self offline.lol


To everyone I have turned down in one way or the other,please don't feel offended. Smartie gurl wanted to add me on facebook,and I told her no,I prefer PMs. Please accept my apology. I promise to work faster on myself,and hope that I would come out of my shell in no distant time.

Also understand that Ihave said a lot of dirty things about myself here.I don't regret it ONEBIT,cos I choose to do it,but at the same time,I have to protect my image and my person.


To dailynews and any other sweetheart here,who has the intention of sending me a mail to match make me with someone offline,please my answer is No.

I did not open this thread to look for a husband. I opened it for the reasons I have stated earlier. The original topic of the thread was"SINGLE LADIES LET'S MEET HERE".I think it was Jaybee the moderator that changed it to the current topic. I never knew that guys would be this involved.



If I find him here,I would be so happy,at least that would save me the stress of telling HIM about ME all over again.

He must have known me and accepted me for the way I am.Moreover it would be a huge moment for this thread and for Nairaland as a whole.


Aside this,I would prefer a guy who approaches me real life if he feels he likesd what he saw.


Yes I need a life partner, most importantly a SOULMATE but trust me when I say am not desperate.

Aside the ladies here,If I have a thing for you,we might not need to voice it out,as long as you can read codes.

P.R.O.-FOUND!!!

I Hate 9ja: u av been duped
no need of affidavit of support,if u're from 9ja...u xpenses goes thus
passport 18k
medicals 30-35k
police report 5k
visa fee $330/N55000
$165 for green card processing when u get to usa...with wat u av spent already...u wld done d whole processing and still av a minimum change of N50k after buying ur ticket...if ur enemy is been denied @ d embassy after the cas u said u av spent....tell me....wat av u gained.....dont allow him him to co join anoda person wit u...if u applied single

Correction: $165 to be paid before you depart from the country!

I am very bothered about how people open up themselves to be dupped but so much to a detrimental point. Single applicants can spend N300,000.00 conviniently without health issues (including flight tickets), so those using AGENTS to play the EDV lottery should be fore-warned.

AGENTS do not make you win, they only snap you photographs & help fill in your data page.... Why pay them as if they did the winning for you All you need is your confirmation number to know if you win, & if you do there is a link that directs you to all you on all the information needed!

BE WARNED!!!

chykezworld: ....i am happy to write my success story here n i give all d glory to God.
My interview ws a classic 5sec type...i ws interview by CO13...n ofcuz it was all guys affair,i mean d CO....i got der around 5.30am...did d security checks,payed in dollars n tendered my credentials,den after awhile d widow 13 strtd first,den d odas...i was called by 13
co...gudmorn
me..i was smiling n greeted him warmly,den he was smiling.
Co...wat r u doing nw?
Me...i wrk wt a pherm. Company.
Co...as in drugs company?
Me...yes
co...who do u hv in US?
Me..family friend
co...r u married,any children
me...no
co...nxt wk go n pick ur visa
me..tnx
na so d Mata tak b...may God b praised.

Congratulations bro!

daddykelly: yea am relaxed now,my oga @ the top(God) has done it..i moved yesterday evening from okota to onikan in order not to miss the interview...i passed through hell because the guy i was directed to don't even have a wrapper not to talk of carpet or mattrass to sleep on,while i dey sleep 4 under air condition 4 my uncle house @ okota....i have to borrow wrapper from his neigbour because there is no way i can go back to okota @ that time,so i endured.
I woke up around 3:13am because i was nt comfortable,started browsing(if u check u'll see my post around 3:33am).
I arrived @ the embassy like 15 minutes to 5(i was the 1st person there),waited until 6:00am a police man came and scanned us.later we were told to line up(i was no3 in immigrant queue).submitted 2nl only and passed through security checks(very tight).
Paid my dv fee 330 dollars(i paid in dollars) @ window 22.
Later called to submit my documents @ window 17.
After 5 interviews i was called to window 14(a cute white guy),he dint even tell me i just put my hanh there take finger print,the interview went thus:
co:do u swear to say the truth and nothing bt d truth?.
Me:yes i do
co:are mr ......?
Me:yes i am
co:wat is ur highest qualification?
Me:waec
co:what year?
Me:...
Co:are u currently a student
me:yea
co:skul?
Me:....
Co:course?
Me:economics
co:level?
Me:....
Co:list ur last semester courses
me:...
Co:is that ur skul i.d(cos i ws holding it)
me;yea
co:let me see(i gave him),oh u 'll graduate this summer?(him don cirle the address since)
me:yea
co:congrats,pick ur documents in the circled address next wednesday,if u cant u can fill the back page 4 smone else 2 pick it on ur behalf(he gave me nd the g card payment stuff)
me:thanks u sir(i run comot b4 him go call me back).
Note:window 16 gave 1 ap to a guy and was drilling one gal wen i left b4 dem go tranfer her to me...lol

Congratulations!!! Na God

Abimbola80: My wonderful e-family members, pls pray along with me as I will be going for my interview tomorrow. I covet your prayer for mercy and favour. Be expecting my testimony tomorrow by God's grace

Go & excel in your interviews, your visa has been approved!!!

Hello peeps,

Just booked my flight at N159,000.00 to Dallas-Fort Worth International Airport with Emirates.

For more booking information you can contact a family friend who is an agent: Contact Doyin of Zatim Travel & Tours at Ikeja Plaza, doyinishola@yahoo.com

She will give you a good deal!

Hello forumites, happy new month! How was the holidays?

Wishing all those having their interviews this month, a great SUCCESS! Those awaiting 2NL should receive it & those who just received theirs... Pls prepare thoroughly o, so that the CO will not say one thing & OGa At The Top will say another!

Its been pretty boring since i received my visa, everything here has become boring...i hope its normal. About booking my flight now with an agent friend with Emirates.

Have a great day e-family!

ifeanyi.abdul:
Good day House,
To God be the Glory! Interview appointment was 10am today and it was successful; After going through all security checks and making necessary payments, we were called at window 20 to submit only 1 passport photograph, 1 photocopy and original of only birth certificates for 5 of us and marriage certificate. The guy at window 20 never even demanded for our academic credentials, and we wondered why?
We waited until our ticket number beeped!
CO: Good afternoon
US: Good afternoon
CO: How are you?
US: We are fine thank you, and you? He replied: very good
CO: Please do your thumb prints on the machine - we both did that
CO: Please raise your right hands and promise to .....
CO: To my wife, you are the principal applicant..... my wife answered yes
US: We remained standing with the kids for the interview. I was not asked to go and sit down with the kids

INTERVIEW PROPER
CO: What's is your highest educational qualification
My wife: Answered
CO: Do you have any document for this
My wife: She presents Original and 1 photocopy
CO: Do you have WAEC?
My wife: Yes, and presents her Original WAEC and 1 photocopy
CO: Everything is good, pulls out white paper and hands over to us!

To all members of this great forum, we remain eternally grateful. God bless you in your dreams!

Note: We had 2 birth certificates; the NPC, and the normal birth certificate for myself and my wife. The man at windows 20 looked at both, but choose the NPC. He remarked : your NPC certificate is a certified one (authenticated), and I said yes.
We prepared so hard; asked ourselves questions and even carried 2 big albums for courtship, introduction and wedding, but CO never asked us to present any album and only asked us 2 questions during the interview proper as highlighted above. We can clearly see God's favor and hands in our interview.
GENERAL ADVICE TO ALL: Please, let's not forget our God when we get to the U.S. When things are rosy, let's learn to hold on to God at such times more than when we encounter problems.

Congrats to you & your family!

@jidex001: congrats! Hold the fort till i land.

sunday45: Funny parts, one security man told us to drop any weapon, liquid, or OLONDE(charm) that's with us, everybody smiles.
Uhm, glory be to God in the highest. After submiting documents, I wait for my number to be called. But the two first male COS at window 14 n 15 started from B417 upward. But mine is B403. I shocked and started remembering all the informations and advise I tapped from my E-family. Immdiately one female CO open window 16 and called B402. I'm crazy, becos she was tough. I hope in God for the best. B402 interview last for 30 mins. Guess what? My number beeped at window 14 a looking handsome man.
Me; goodmorning sir (smiles)
Co; goodmorning
Me; its nice been in ur presence sir
Co; what is ur highest qualification?
Me; SSCE
Co; you don't do WAEC
Me; yea
Co; you did NECO?
Me; yea
Co; what year?
Me; 2007
Co; you did Biology?
Me; yea
Co; you did Mathematics
Me; yea
Co; you did English?
Me; yea
Co; what is ur biology teacher's name
Me; bla bla
Co; what question?
Me; photosynthesis
Co; and what is it?
Me; ( quickly remember the information one E-family says that i should give short definition unless ask to speak more) i defined in short.
Co; You work as what?
Me;bla bla
Co; where?
Me; bla bla
Co; when you got to America, what job you wanna do?
Me; Any job
Co; you wish to study more?
Me; yea
Co; What course?
Me; microbiology
Co; brought out one two sheet to pick up visa next week.
Glory be to almighty God in d highest. Thanks my E-family for ur prayer and information. I love you all. Anybody heading to indianpolis?

Congrats bro!

Hello house...

Picked up my passport (with DV-1 visa) & the sealed envelope. It still feels like a dream! Thankful to God.
Can't wait to touch down Dallas-Fort Worth Airport in the next three (3) weeks.

Wishing those having interviews: success, those awaiting 2NL: Congrats in advance.

loveshowgirl1: Thank you all for your various contributions and love shown in this forum, it's surely helping many of us. We know it's not by our strength or what we know but what God almighty has signed, when you believe in it then you will surely benefit from it.


I really do appreciate you all and will continue to contribute to the best of my knowledge.


My POE is Texas, will start making immediate arrangements to land mid end of next month. I hope to meet with u guys over there someday soon. Thanks to all and stay blessed. I spread my success story and glory and grace to all those awaiting their interviews, be bold, get ur documents intact and do not fail to pray to our father almighty. Wish u guys all the best.


Lolo.

Dats great@loveshowgirl...
Looks like those of us going to texas might just have a party!

Hello dolls & gents:

Its has been a wonderful page 73. Some pages back, the single ladies in the room were kind enough to open our eyes to 'WHAT THEY WANT IN A MAN'. Though some of the lists were long, it gave an rather accurate measurement of 'WHAT THEY WANT FROM A MAN'.

While i am yet to graduate from the University of Women Affairs, it is sure that their wants while being unending remains vague. Changing from one to another. So dolls, please do justice to this question!

DailyNews: Because of this your negative statement, let me now open up on why I asked Carmelion those questions. I have this very close friend, very very close amongst others...and he lives in United States, we knew from childhood, and his being in America owes tribute to me, so I am like his mentor and all...

Before he left Nigeria, he had no girlfriend, so since he had been living there, he had tried to find a life partner, but said that most girls he meets there aren't as well groomed and Nigerian-oriented as our sisters here in Nigeria, and he always said that he would love to marry someone from Nigeria, and bring her immediately (6 months maximum) to the states. he has everything in place both here and in the states....

Now, for years now, he had been pestering me to find him a girl to marry, that any girl I recommend, that he would go for, cos he trust me so much, and I told him I can't, reason that I hardly mix up with the opp sex, which he refused to accept and told me to go for fishing for him, and I refused...

just some days before I contacted Carmelion, I had been telling him that he should pray, that there is someone I have met via internet, that I am convinced that the lady is a wonderful lady, and would make a good partner...I told him a lot, and even gave him link to this thread, and after going through it, he asked me if it is so so and so person, and I said yes...he said she sounds wonderful, that I should maybe arrange a meetup with her, and so he could come down immediately this Easter...I told him to calm down and let me chat with her first to find out her tribe and religious denomination (becos he told me he wanted an Igbo lady from a good christian background).

So that was why I decided to have a chat with Carmelion.

Remember, she started this thread in January or February, I had never made any attempt to message her cos I made it open here that I am not ready for now...so, @Ichidodo, withdraw your statement, and if at all you really want to go for her, I wish you the best dear...its not a competition, but pls be real and make sure u are serious and for real...so we can read some testimonies soonest.

If only you know who I am, I believe in impacting lives positively not just by words, or by giving people hope alone...I act when I see a need to, but nairalanders have always given me a reason not to act when necessary, and its all good.

Wish you the best.

Wow!!! #mouth wide open so tey fly jump inside#

mirob: Hi all, have been following this thread but hv not commented, now I hv a little issue, my man of a year now just said something and I'm wondering within my self to take a bow now or still stick around, I asked him where this relationship is leading us and he said that I should relax but that if I'm desperate to marry now that I should marry anyone that I want to marry. With this kind of statement I'm wondering what he meant, I don't know what to do, should I go or still stay with him hoping it will work out, apart from this statement we have been doing well. Pls don't mind d long sermon.

Hello mirob-doll: you are very much welcome to confide in the house, we have very genuine people here!

While i would advice you to thread carefully, i will also say don't let go. You stated that besides this one fault of his, you have been doing well. Men don't like to be hurried into making decisions or pushed so to speak. Perhaps he was in a bad mood, or you said it in a manner he doesn't appreciate,...

I would advice you give him the benefit of the doubt, make him understand you love him & you know he loves you but you want to know the plans he has: about his career, his family, ....& you! But NEVER make it about you in the beginning. Men who have rehearsed answers to this question will give it to you at a go! So don't be fooled that getting an answer is the solution.

Give him some time but SHINE YOUR EYE! 'Make you no dey inside water & soap still dey enter your eye o!'

zyxxx: I am so sorry bukkylois, I totalli feel yu, break-up no mata d reason isn't ezi. Rite nw, yu nid to b strong, engage in hobbies yu luv doin, reach out to ur trusted galfie's. Embrace ur single life et use ds time to look inward into yu, as 4ur momma, r mother's not all lyk tha. They love us so much D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ worry too much. Pls involve her, let her know wasup, she'll join yu in prayer for yu to meet "d one".

Hello haus, hv bn jes a reader 4a yl nw......et I am readi to b a part of ds wonderful group. So, erm.....•̸ϞƔ‎​‎​‎​ name is zyxxx doll......tha sounds so sci-fi, covers face*

Very welcome to you zyxdoll...!

bukkylois: Guess I shld tell my story
Started dating this dude abt 3yrs ago(april makes it 3yrs) he was just starting his life all over again after leaving edo state where he was born to jos. He said he needed a new life devoid of his parents influence. I dated him wen he had nothing, practically nothing. I knew he was a graduate and had a bright future. We struggled financially for abt a year with me helping him with the little I had since I was just a student. Life started getting better for him n he took care of me with the little he had. Then he got dis rily kul contract. He was at least an average guy with a nyc crib and a lovely ride...nxt thing I knew gurls started flocking around and he felt good. Started being rude to me, I just took it as one of dose things. He stopped taking care of me, though I am a lady that loves using my money to take care of myself, at least I felt he shld appreciate me as his gf wif little gfs. For over a year he nvr spent a dime on me. I felt worthless in his eyes but still took it again as one of those things... Finally He proposed to me and I foolishly said yes. After about 6 montjs d dude surprised me! Told me to get a job b4 he can marry me, mind you I am business oriented and I tld him I would prefer to run my business than work under someone else...he kept ranting that he didn't plan his life dt way so I must get a job..next strike was wen he told me dt wen I get a job I am going to be saddled with feeding the family while he takes care of other bills. This was so disturbing cos I feel a man should feed his family..though I dnt mind supporting but making it look lik my job wasn't just it. The last strike I finally caught him cheating on me last week, he kept denying but am no fool.
Rily sorry my story is all over the place but I keep thinking of all I went tru with him, he rude behaviour n how he has no respect for me. To worsen the matter my mum is rily insisting I get married soon..ha! Am just in my early 20's for God's sake. I rily need to start my life over again but I am scared. Don't no wer to begin and I feel so stupid for letting dis relationship stay dis long b4 realising dis dude was just using me. I need ur advice...am in a rily sad place rite now

@bukkydoll:

Don't be sorry for sharing your story, you would get advice which will help you make very important decision in your life. You are very right to want to get gifts from your man from time to time especially if you both started from scatch (so to speak).

The issue of continuous waiting for things to get better is what i still haven't been able to wrap my fingers around. Would it be because things are now going well for him so you anticipate a change for the better in the future? While, so stories may have happened so, more than 50% of experiences proved that a 'sour fruit is always known from the outside'. I don't condone ladies accepting a proposal in a make-do relationship.

If a guy cannot respect you, then he doesn't love you & if he cannot love you now, he will never love you in the future...cHIKINA! Don't look at your mum's face o, lik you said you are still young & probably with good qualities...a great guy will come along! Your mum would not live with you & your husband o, so if it is good you all will enjoy it, but if it goes sour....its only you that will endure it.

Don't regret your experience, because however it was would contributing to making you a pillar to your future partner. NEVER AGREE TO MARRY A GUY THAT DOESNT RESPECT YOU! That's why in my list of what i want in a lady, RESPECT comes before LOVE!

mabebe1: hi, m a newcumer here, lets 4get abt d 4head-any hug/kiss 4 me?..am mabebedoll

Welcome mabebedoll

Hello very beauriful dolls and articulated gents, it has been a while.

We must all acknowledge in life that not all of us can reason alike: some will be rash and others will be subtle, some will be quick to react and others will be mild, some will be animalistic while others will be angels... but in all these we have to find some common ground for co-existence and possible collaboration so as to achieve a common goal or to maintain a stable environment.

Destiny has been defined in ancient times as the "fulfilment of a higher purpose". Every once in a while we are forced to look at the very spot with which we stand and ask ourselves: Is this the purpose of my life? It is no wonder that after the answers some people get in asking such questions is so frustrating that it drives them to an edge. Whilst most single ladies have come to the conclusion that their lives exist around men, all existing factors prove to be contrary.

So brace yourself because whilst destiny locates a fixed position for your life, the bulk of the decisions on how best to get there or whether you never get there at all lies within the powers of the person called "ME"! Yes, ME! Say it so many times aloud, and soon enough you get to believing that it all lies in you. Life cannot aportion a whole chain network of pathways on how to reach your destiny, we'd all be a bunch of ZOMBIES just walking around. Tell me....what fun and freewill exists in that.

So next time a boss runs you down, a partners tears you apart, situations hold you down... PICK YOURSELF UP, DUST IT OFF and walk on cuz I ALONE DECIDE HOW TO GET TO THAT PLACE THAT HAS BEEN DESTINED FOR ME!

loveshowgirl1: Hello housen I want to thank you all for your prayers for it worked for me and I am very much grateful to God and you all.
I got to the embassy, at about 5:10am and waited till they called in 6.30 non-immigrant and 7.00am immigrant visas and did the normal process of document submission and got in to pay my visa fee and then I sat waiting on my number to be called.
To be honest I cannot remember the window I was called to after a couple of hours but behold it was this cute and nice gentleman that the lord sent and he started with the interview.
CO: Are you Ata......
ME: I mmediately completed my name for him and he smiled.
CO: Please sign your DSP form, did the oath taking and finger print stuff...
ME: Did all required.
CO: what's your highest qualification?
ME: BA ........
CO: What year did you finish?
ME: Told him the exact year while he was going thru as I answered each question.
CO: What have you been doing Since you graduated?
ME: Told him, couldn't get a job so I worked with my mum and eventually opened a boutique, made him understand I wore pretty much what I sell so he smiled.
CO: Have you served the NYSC?
ME: Yes I have and told him what year.
CO: What was your primary assignment about?
ME: Told him was secretary to the local government between my year of service and my duties and he smiled as usual.
CO: I will give you ur visas, brings out 2 forms circles one part for visa collection and the other for USCIS payment.
ME: Thank you.
It was not what I prepared for but what I expected and prayed for. So guys I wanna say a big thank you to you all @Spoondar, Nero XP, Gny Kelly, Remyjay, Femo, Psatadi, Remmy, Doctor, Gentiger, and all of una, really una too many to name, abeg make una nor vex but those I didn't name don't be offended I remember you all and love u guys. My interview was easy and I wish same you u all.Thanks and am still here for u all.
America here we come.
Hugggggs to u all.

Congrats dear! I noticed that when your documents are in order, the interview is usuall smooth! House please note.

nero xp: @ Imcool,de Emirate Flight was booked in de U.S around 1250 but normally lyk sum few weeks before departure date,it shuld be around 1150$ to Texas.My port of entry is fort worth,Texas...
Abt de USCIS fee,it was also paid by ma mum in de U.S,drawn frm U.S account...

@nero xp: fort worth is also where am goin2 nxt month. I guess al see u!

Kunlexymoore: Congratulations. Also nice info. When u said 4 people were denied, can u specify if those 4 guys came for immigration visa interview or the more popular non-immigration visa interview and do u know why they were denied? Thank you.

The 5 of them applied for immigrant visa.
1) Two couples were denied for failure to prove that they had a sound relationship together.
2) A set of kids 2boys (Not DV selectees) were placed on A.P because they could not prove their relationship with their dad.
3) A guy was disqualified because the resident country in his inital EDV was Northern Ireland, and since he has never been there...was disqualified without interview.
4) A married woman was disqualified because she is married with two (2) kids but entered the EDV as single, & the forms sent to KCC as single. According to the CO, the DV rules states a married person must leave with his/her family members...so she was disqualified
5) A lady was disqualified (though not a DV selectee) for not being able to prove her relationship with her host.

Please married couples should go with enough pictures, and rehearse with your spouse everything about your marriage, dates, times & people in your photos. I noticed that married couples are scrutinized seriously, they have the longest interviews. Please prepare very well & the visa is yours!

adesojiaderemi@:
simayanke4real and loconzo00 congratulations

Tnx brother, it was just God!

pstadabi: . Dis is lovely once again congratulation. Dis is divine intervention from jehovah overdo. Welcome to AMERICA. Pls my good friend don't forget me in prayer cos my interview is coming up nextweek tuesday and I need ur assistant in prayer. Then secondly my HND too is a statement of result not certificate. Hope there is no problem about that.

Thanks. No problem too, just tell them that your certificate is not yet ready.

junkerhill: Congrats to my brothers who had their interview today

Loconzo00
Simayanki4real.

Tnx bro!

Am so much greatful to God for all he has done in my life, since i benefitted from the testimonies of others...this is mine!

Got to the embassy at 6:20am and soon we were called for 7am appointment. We joined the queue and followed protocols till we got in, was give B419 tag. Paid my visa fee in dollars ($400 & was given my $70 change). Sat and waited for my number to be called so i gave my documents (one set of original and photocopy). Sat down again to await my number for the interview proper.

Where i sat, i watched as others were interviewed & about 4 people were denied & 1 on A.P... Before i left. Only two COs interviewed today @ windows 14 & 15, they were so nice and lovely. My number beeped on the screen by 12:30pm, & i stepped forward to the CO @ window 14...he is a young white chap. The interview went like this:

CO: Are you Mr ...?
Me: Yes i am
CO: Good afternoon
Me: Good afternoon sir
CO: How are you doing?
Me: Am fine & you?
CO: Am fine, Thanks...
Does the fingerprinting
Does the oath taking
Does the signing
CO: What is your highest level of education
Me: HND
CO: Discipline
Me: Industrial Safety Technology
CO: what school
Me: Petroleum Training Institute
CO: Where is the school?
Me: Effurun-Delta State
CO: How long did it take you to complete it
Me: ND-2yrs, IT-1yr, HND-2yrs...That's 5yrs in all
CO: Have you done your NYSC
Me: Yes
CO: Where
Me: Ogwashi-uku, delta state
CO: What did you do
Me: Teach
CO: What class
Me: SSS 1-3
CO: That's good, seems your documents are in order..so i will approve your visa. Goes ahead to explain pick up & payment of USCIS...

Thanks to all of you who contributed and keeps contributing to our success...@goldhelpmeooo, roodboy, pstadabi, adesojiaderemi, tycoon77, spoondar, nikkystel, odunemmanuel, anthofrie, mantiger, jidex001, gunners4u, femo & the rest...God will continue to bless you all.
To all those awaiting interviews, Go forth & collect your already approved visas...those awaiting 2NL, it shall land soonest. Thanks all...!!!

God is faithful.