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am inn;

am a graduate of computer science and specialize in web development and graphic design but am LOOSING MY PASSION and its very worrisome.

Olayemi1995:
Pls for correction of date birth stuff. Wen I went for registration yesterday I found out dat jamb wrote March 8 for me instead of March 9. So I av to change d dob. Bt in dat Cafe dey said I av to finish d nysc registration wit dat March 8 and av d green card bfore I av to change to March 9. I av register and my green card is out so wen I went to cafe to to change it to March 9, d cafe man found out dat is March 8 I also used for the waec and he said I can't change it again since waec also is March 8 dat I shud leave it lik dat.
Pls I need ur assistance sis Lola and wot is d way out although av been using March 8 since my primary School and during d jamb regularization I corrected it to March 9 bt is still showing march 8.
Pls ma/sir I need ur respond

relax and dnt worry urself...NYSC wont ask u for your birth cert..
i am in same issue with you the they told me the same thing, mine is july 14 but i saw july 17..its not an issue, provide the year of birth did not change or the error did not make it more than the 30yr maximum as stated..

i my self personally choose not to correct it..

Obagoblog:
hmmmm... my brother go to the hospital to check yourself.

Abeg Nairalanders, how much does it cost to do a general check up at any general hospital?

go to any general hospital to ask for the general price for your general check up...

you are telling someone to go to the hospital, you too, wont you go to the hospital and ask ur stupid question

airex:
Small job u get, the whole church, community, surroundings and village don hear.

hahahahahahahahahahahah

o.p say "the annoying part is that everybody in 'my area' and church are all aware that I work in a bank." ;Dhahahahahahaha

i no fit laughoooh

Jh0wsef:
see una just dey gamble with passed corpers emotion

hahahahahahahahahahah

kecee99:
If I was to go back in time, I would not have listen to any idiot about how porn and masturbation are very healthy and harmless. Mentally this dirty and disgusting habits have rewired my poor brain to such an extent that all I can think of is nothing but sex. Teenage years which are meant for socializing and reading good books, have all been wasted in the name of I want to watch porn and masturbate I hardly have female friends Cauz I see them as nothing but sex objects who i can manipulate for my own enjoyment and pleasure. Masturbation made my self esteem to become very low down to the extent after each climax I began contemplating my own suicide but God didn't let such happen. God lead me into meditation which I used its powers to stop masturbation and porn for good, it has been two years now I haven't masturbated nor watch porn. Everything seems different now except for the urge to have sex with women which I believe is normal for all men. Don't listen to any person advising you to masturbate bcauz once you get addicted you can hardly quit but with a strong believe to why you have to quit and with the help of meditation you can.

obob what you said is 100% true..i can relate very wellll cux i was once addict..
omo hw i haven't watch porn and for abt a year and some months now is still a mystery to me..omo God 2 go try for my body, i notice after a 5 days fasting and prayer, my lust and urge died for about 5months..

meennhh...masturbation nearly ruled my life..the thing finish my life..chaaiiiiii...

Homeboiy:
Fear of giving an ugly girl belle dey fear me o

ahahahaahahahahaha one jst they disturb me badly

serious, ordinary hug can impregnate them

o.p i can relate very well..

this was how i lost my ex...

she hardly ask for anything, and the mistake i made was that i thought she was okay, not knowing say babe need money badly.

though, i gift her the little i have, but she wasn't okay with it, so she left for one G-nigga.

o.p no kill ya self ooh , just try n do the little you know you can., no matter how broke you are, appreciate with little stuff...

lol...o.p, you are indeed stupid, verrrrrry stupid..
now, oya tell them the kind of guys they should go into relationship with

massalati:
Thanks so much bro am very greatful and can your recomend any book?

books like

* Healing after loss
* believe you can by john Manson
* How to win friend and influence people
* Emotional
* Dating secrete
* freedom from sinful thought
* handout for emotional manipulation
* Looking up when life is looking by beth moore
* power of imagination
* self improvement (in pdf)
* Law of success
* What do you do with your time by sunday adelaja
* You are a bad ass_how to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life (forgotten the author)

read and practise what you read and you will be amaze to know that you are jst running away from problem and challenges in life that are not actually chasing you
giving negativity the power over you that day truly do not posses, study them and get ur confidence back, we all need someone both always learn to work ALONE IN LIFE.

lastly bro, a legend on nairaland once said and i quote, " if you are not ready for marriage, jst forget WOMEN "

massalati:
thanks so much for your contributions i really appreciate but one more thing please, do u always feel jealous seeing your ex with other guys?
we had the same experience and please how can i contrl my emotions because most time i do cry in silent for the thought that no one truly loves me the way i do and it made me depress most of the time, i even fake my death just to get her back but suprisingly the next DYshe went 4 a party when the rumour was spreading that i was death, bro i love this girl and am sorry for bothering u with my problems. most times i do hate my life, being an introvert has caused me alot bro why is life so unfair and why was i created this way? boss is so painful n frustrating most of the time my gentility has made people to see ME as a weakling.HOW CAN I CONTRL MY EMOTNS

yah..seeing my ex with other guys made me freaking jealous, its normal.
frankly speaking man, u have alot to learn
you have alot a books to read and alot of prayer 2 pray, you have alot of research to do and i have alot to tell you bcux have bn there but man, i can bet my left balls, that you are going to be alright.

[quote author=massalati post=85963578][/quote]lol..bro keep calm, and like i said, accept ur loss.

u ar currently passing through what i passed through
am an introvert too and at a time i was obsess with my ex cux at that time, she was the source of my joy, she knew all this and start playing with my emotions.,sometimes when i call, she would put the phone on another guy's mouth, sometimes when i call her at night, jst to hear frm her about her day, she hardly picks and when she do after series of calls, she will tell me she's going to night club all jst to play with my emotions cux she knows i hate all that stuff..

i knw u ar scared of being alone like i sad b4, probably difficult to woo another decent girl like her, i knw that feelings too, but bro IT'S THE ONLY WAY!

delete her contact, block her everywhere on social media and start ur recovering asap! it will take time b4 u will sure heal..b4 doing all this, send a text or letter to her, pouring all ur mind out to her but never beg her.NEVER!..am regretting doing this..

forget the aspect of u dnt want other guys to hurt her, jst forget cux if she's going to come back to you ,that's the only way, let karma and nature meet up with her..she's going to have sex with other guys and you cant stop or change it..
when mine left, she visited me 2weeks latter only for her to tell me the guy she left me for have 2 kids unknown to her..
i ask if will can still get back and that am ready to forgive her, she said NO and that she likes the life she's living now..i jst let her be..

me that was so obsess with her, wanting to be by her side and hear her voice everyday, i dnt even knw if she's alive today i cant even remember her number again , the last time i called her was when she lost i junior sister, since then, the rest na history

so bro, trust me, u wont die jst leave! and you will be glad you did..

massalati:
Yes is really not easy i tried my best to let go but i always see her everything i do and since she find out that i love her she startd misbehaving with me...i love her bu i want to leave her honestly but is not just workin

bro i can relate very well..
same thing happened to me, dated her for 5years, all of sudden, 5years memory wiped out of her head within a blink of an eye, she hardly pick my calls, read my text but hardly respond, start giving me all sort of attitude. i jst texted her "see what loving you too much has cost me"..as in, she jst broke me down cux i nvr expected..

bro jst forget about her, there is absolutely nothing u can do do.

jst try and move on..i did dsam and its working.

you can leave her and move on, you ar probably scared of being alone, its better than staying.

when mine left, i was down in every area of my life, mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, i mean every area, i sacrifice all to see if we can iron things out and make sure thing a normal agin, but all was nothing, my only option was to move on cux i was fight a lost battle, i did, thanks to nairaland pals, dis guys worked really well on me..am now having a decent and awesome life after her..

bro i swear, you can move on ,you can, jst man up ,agree and accept you lost, jst move on but dnt make her ur enemy and also dnt make her ur friend too..

massalati:
thanks boss i have tried to work on my self is not just easy bro

keep trying..
NEVER you in your life stop trying.
same thing happened to me and made a U-turn to work on my self and its working but truth to be told; "ITS NOT EASY"

o.p you are a big black liar..
you have no intention to rape her, I BELIEVE YOU FOR THAT..but you have other hidden intention, mayb you like her, wanted to befriend or date her, using her house maid condition to take advantage of her thinking she is ignorant or dnt have sense but you ended up deceiving yourself..

you use mouth tell person something for her own sake and good but she decline, that nonsense in between your legs and your silly act of concern still push you go touch her..

or

lemme guess, lemme guess hhhmmmmmm.....

she wore a short skirt shaking her bumbum and you thinking it was a green light and you wanted to confirm the green light by touching her, only to be disappointed it was a shinning and glittering red light with loud alarm
hahahahahaahahaha.....

o.p i believe you nvr wanted to rape her but you had other intention as i earlier said..

and stop calling yourself introvert...
introvert hardly convo with a lady they jst met, we dnt force convo, we show less concern, AND WE HARDLY TOUCH LADIES we dnt knw

this is 101% exactly what i am passing through..well, life goes on and on and on..

lol frankly speaking, i never knew the meaning of body count all this while..
una no get work

op keep calm and do not be troubled..

am current in the same situation but this guy is my boss son..

i no dey even talk shi shi

so next time, keep ur mouth shot and do your own while secretly gathering evidence should in case the thing burst out one day..

o.p the boss will trust you now, but for other works, jst forget teaming with them cux they wont trust you and they might not help you cover any mess you make..

kunleweb:
Straying is more psychological than the way people treat it. Someone was doing same around me, quick I find am tfare move. My principle about life is simple. I allow people to stray and move on. Ba da mu wa. But I won't be anyone's rebound. Be it friend, lover, pastor or associate. My golden rule is be responsible for your actions and act responsibly. He's jittery to due his emotional investment. I think I should advice him Happy heartbreak in advance cause no matter what he does when people go through this phase of wanderlust, words don't appeal to them unless them miss road suffer a few bullet wounds. Some don't even recover for life. Many ladies who are single till deep 40 and 50lost a chance like this in their 20s.assuming more guys will come. For where. Wu sai. Many dey mountain as we speak eating all sorts of concoction, cook towtow join, yet new husband no gre come. Karma is a bit h. It has a way of making people pay badly when they miss their chances.

very very true

kunleweb:
The devil has sowed his seed and is still somewhere in the middle. My dear the moment we start demanding passwords from ourselves trust is gone. You're just trying to manage a sick situation. Give her time to go and explore. It's better she feels she's in charge of her life than feeling controlled. It's the way with women. They easily get mentally distracted. I advice you both deal with this before moving further or go your separate ways

BTW there are people who desire a wilderness process of good and bad and evil and ugly before they settle down. It's wired in psychologically and mentally. Some people want to get lost lose their way go through burns otherwise they'll feel unfulfilled and controlled. And as long as this itching is there you're in trouble. You can't mentally cage a person lest you breed a beast. Allow her roam. After she suffers some shark bites, she'll come back to you. With her heart mind and spirit in the right position. If you keep her forcefully. Sorry

o.p i will share with u my story if i can still even remember them self..

exactly what you are passing through, same age(her age), same year of dating (5yrs), same first love experience, same graduate like you, same admission wahala (that made her left me), same attitude of you caging her, being over protective and insecure..everything almost alike bt b4 i start, u better listen to this man and screenshot this comment..

cux o.p, whether you like it or not, start getting ready to park, your 5year subscription is about to expire..

dnt look at me like that oga i knw what am saying

you may think its impossible, but you will be shocked when what you build for 4 good years will die an instant death within a blink of an eye..
e no go even shake her
she wont even remember what you both pass through

its painful shaaa....

o.p ,i dnt understand, wait oh, na the profile pic u dey hide?

you even use her pic 4 ur dp? you no well...


ah no fit laughhhhhh ooohh

2 foolsssss!

o.p trust me, that babe go send you into depression ...heavy one for that matter

awwfar:
Daddy give her one more chance since you believe then never fhuck

hahahahhahahahahaha....u no well oooohh

Phenomenal16:
.....am currently experiencing it.....though am no longer bothered.... Anytime he calls I will pick ....I was really heart broken initially but then I av moved on........I was actually a good gal......being too nice is bad...........

pls dnt stop being too nice..

Goderlist:
Arsenal will win 2 : 0. If u are doubting, u will die before the 1st Jan.

mumu

BigSarah:
Vg

you VirGinal??
space booker

The girl i dated for 5years left me (very painful)

my ex lost her junior sister who is very close to me after battling an unknown sickness for 2years.

My graduation from higher institution with a very good and comfortable GP (one of my most happiest moment)

Creating 3 website from the scratch, though non is yet completed) and improving on my graphic design skill even with a tight schedule

I fully receive my salvation and drew more closer to God and this year, i have prayed more like never before.

I permanently stop masturbation after 6years.

nice one o.p..

This has been my plan and thought since i graduated late this year.. business!, self employ!, business!, self employ! ringing all over my head..i haven't gone for my service yet but i have already structure my proposal down, all equipments and materials needed..

i dnt have anything now, i don't know how it's going to happen or where it's going to come from BUT I MUST TRY! AND TAKE THAT BOLD STEP.

you want a laptop?
for learning programming?
Good!
O.P i really cant help, but lemme tell you something;

look for a work that can pay u 15-20k monthly, do it for 3-5 months and ensure u save 10k month which will give you 30-50k, then get a laptop of average spec, that was how i bought mine 35k laptop then when i was still in school.

and also,

dnt wait for laptop before you start, i started with android phone and learnt it for 2years, when i got the laptop, i started re-editing my codes cux both device screen is different.

if u really want 2 learn it, laptop is good but dnt wait for it..start with what you have and with the little knowledge you have.

[quote author=francisgodstime post=85174694]pesin fit use android phone learn am?[/quote

yes naa...

na android i take start..