Brighton1:
My girlfriend is highly enthusiastic, she's so beautiful, slim tall with straight legs and nice curves, very fair in complexion, glowing skin, highly discipline, she's not just a church goer but a true believer, she's a chorister in her church, her voice is magnificent. She is an angel living among humans. A female of incredible beauty with or without makeup and I really want my unborn kids to look like her.

But what is causing big problem between us is her way of dressing. She dresses like an old woman. Infact when Faith Oyedepo said ladies should stop dressing like grandmas while looking for husband, she was single handedly referring to my girlfriend.

All her skirts are so big like parachute, her shoes seems like what she inherited from her great grandmother, only God knows where she got those shoes from, she's always covering her hair everyday.

I'm not saying she should start exposing her body, NO! All I'm saying is for her to dress modestly, that would give people the impression she's truly 25 years old and not 52 years old woman.

Look at Mercy chinwo, Sinach even my girlfriend's look-alike Ada Ehi they all dress modestly. Atleast we still dey see their figure 8 anytime they dress.

Just this afternoon, we were about to go out as per sunday flexing, I drove to pick her at her house only for her to come out looking like what I don't know... then I angrily asked “you be housemaid? You just look like an old housemaid". She came down angrily from my car and jam the door and went inside. Me I no send oh, I zoom off too.

This is not the first or second time she's dressing like that to follow me out despite all my complains. There are nice clothes I bought for her but she won't wear them. I'm tired.

If u get money like 50k go buy the clothes you like for her and forcefully collect those her clothes wen u enter her room

My babe is like that too na bcus say i never get money that's y i never do wetin dey my mind

Matix222:


I’m 20

Wetin u dey find for relationship i guess you're not even paying her bills

20yrs u don dey Bleep this world don spoil

Matix222:
My girlfriend is supposed to visit me today as is also a very special day to me( my birthday) she said she will be coming in the morning and won’t go to church since then I have called her up to 17 times no response including texts is she probably fvcking another guy now so couldn’t respond? I need advise

She don tire boss let go of her must she spell it out, if she is fucking another dick like you imagine its still game over for you...


My girlfriend was misbehaving recently not giving me attention, because of her work overtime the relationship became so boring

She felt it the way i adjusted to it i didn't even send her, she dished out her anger to me that i am not giving her attention, i got angry in the process and ended the whole thing, untill she came back few days begging that she will change i got her back now her attention they suffocate me self

She had luck that d banny that would have replaced her was mumuing herself she would have been history

Man up bro and do the needful

Background
Previous studies have indicated increased risk of mental disorder symptoms, suicide and substance misuse in lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) adults, compared to heterosexual adults. Our aims were to determine an estimate of the association between sexual orientation identity and poor mental health and wellbeing among adults from 12 population surveys in the UK, and to consider whether effects differed for specific subgroups of the population.

Methods
Individual data were pooled from the British Cohort Study 2012, Health Survey for England 2011, 2012 and 2013, Scottish Health Survey 2008 to 2013, Longitudinal Study of Young People in England 2009/10 and Understanding Society 2011/12. Individual participant meta-analysis was used to pool estimates from each study, allowing for between-study variation.

Results
Of 94,818 participants, 1.1 % identified as lesbian/gay, 0.9 % as bisexual, 0.8 % as ‘other’ and 97.2 % as heterosexual. Adjusting for a range of covariates, adults who identified as lesbian/gay had higher prevalence of common mental disorder when compared to heterosexuals, but the association was different in different age groups: apparent for those under 35 (OR = 1.78, 95 % CI 1.40, 2.26), weaker at age 35–54.9 (OR = 1.42, 95 % CI 1.10, 1.84), but strongest at age 55+ (OR = 2.06, 95 % CI 1.29, 3.31). These effects were stronger for bisexual adults, similar for those identifying as ‘other’, and similar for 'low wellbeing'.

Conclusions
In the UK, LGB adults have higher prevalence of poor mental health and low wellbeing when compared to heterosexuals, particularly younger and older LGB adults. Sexual orientation identity should be measured routinely in all health studies and in administrative data in the UK in order to influence national and local policy development and service delivery. These results reiterate the need for local government, NHS providers and public health policy makers to consider how to address inequalities in mental health among these minority groups.


Of the 94,818 participants in the analytic sample (those with available data on sexual orientation identity, mental health and covariates), 97.2 % as heterosexual, 1.1 % identified as lesbian/gay, 0.9 % as bisexual and 0.8 % as ‘other’ (Table 1). People meeting the threshold of common mental disorder or low wellbeing were significantly different across all study variables (using bivariate t-test or chi-square tests): they were younger, comprised more females, and had lower levels of educational attainment, more current smokers, more longstanding illness/disability and fewer married/co-habiting participants than those below the threshold (Table 2). Significantly higher proportions of those who identified as lesbian/gay, bisexual and ‘other’ were found among those who met the mental disorder threshold

Conclusions
Adults identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual or ‘other’ are at increased risk of poor mental health and low wellbeing compared to those identifying as heterosexual.

The association varies across the life course, with the lowest relative risks seen in midlife and the highest among older adults

Our study used cross-sectional data suitable for estimating prevalence, but future studies should consider longitudinal patterns (such as onset and persistence of new mental health problems) and clarify mechanisms


Conclusions
Adults identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual or ‘other’ are at increased risk of poor mental health and low wellbeing compared to those identifying as heterosexual.

The association varies across the life course, with the lowest relative risks seen in midlife and the highest among older adults

Our study used cross-sectional data suitable for estimating prevalence, but future studies should consider longitudinal patterns (such as onset and persistence of new mental health problems) and clarify mechanisms

Reference
Office of National Statistics. Measuring Sexual Identity: An Evaluation Report. London: ONS; 2010.

Google Scholar


Hayes J, Chakraborty A

Beretta03
Beehive01
Umbrateeth04
AndriodAi

AntiLGBTQ

Beehive01:
HOMOPHOBIC PEOPLE OFTEN HAVE PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES

HOMOPHOBIA
Homophobic attitudes may say a lot about the person who holds them, new research suggests.



A new study of university students in Italy revealed that people who have strongly negative views of gay people also have higher levels of psychoticism and inappropriate coping mechanisms than those who are accepting of homosexuality.

This doesn't mean that homophobic people are psychotic; rather, psychoticism is a personality trait marked by hostility, anger and aggression toward others. But the study does suggest that people who cling to homophobic views have some psychological issues, said lead researcher Emmanuele Jannini, an endocrinologist and medical sexologist at the University of Rome Tor Vergata.

"The study is opening a new research avenue, where the real disease to study is homophobia," Jannini told Live Science. [7 Thoughts That Are Bad for You]

The psychology of homophobia

Earlier research has found homophobia to be a complex subject, with some studies suggesting that people with visceral negative reactions to gays and lesbians often harbor same-sex desires themselves. Other studies, though, contest that idea, and suggest that homophobic people are truly averse to same-sex attraction. Other factors — such as religiosity, sensitivity to disgust, hypermasculinity and misogyny — seem to play a role in anti-gay beliefs, Jannini and his colleagues wrote in an article published Sept. 8 in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

But no one had ever looked at the mental health or psychopathology of homophobic people. In the new study, the researchers asked 551 Italian university students, ranging in age from 18 to 30, to fill out questionnaires on their levels of homophobia as well as their psychopathology, including levels of depression, anxiety and psychoticism. The homophobia scale required participants to rate how strongly they agreed or disagreed (on a 5-point scale) with 25 statements, such as: Gay people make me nervous; I think homosexual people should not work with children; I tease and make jokes about gay people; and It does not matter to me whether my friends are gay or straight.

The students also answered questions about their attachment style, which categorizes how people approach relationships. The "healthy" attachment style is known as secure attachment, in which people feel comfortable getting close to others and having others get close to them. People who are insecurely attached, on the other hand, might avoid intimacy, become too clingy or desire closeness but feel uncomfortable trusting others.

Finally, the students answered questions about their coping strategies — defense mechanisms people use when they face unpleasant or scary situations. Defense mechanisms can be healthy ("mature" or unhealthy ("immature". A mature defense, for example, might include regulating one's emotions and not depending on others for validation. Immature defense mechanisms might include impulsive actions, passive aggression or denial of a problem.

Homophobia and anger

Overall, the better the mental health of the person (based on the responses to the questionnaire), the less likely he or she was to be homophobic, the researchers found. People with "fearful-avoidant" attachment styles, who tend to feel uncomfortable in close relationships with others, were significantly more homophobic than those who were secure with close relationships. The researchers also found that people with higher levels of immature defense mechanisms were more homophobic than those with mature defense mechanisms.

High levels of hostility and anger, measured as psychoticism, were also linked to homophobia, the researchers found.

But other mental health issues had the opposite association: Depression and neurotic defense mechanisms (like hypochondria or repression) were both linked with lower levels of homophobia.

The findings position homophobia as a trait more often seen in dysfunctional personalities, but personality isn't the whole story. Homophobia is a "culture-induced disease," Jannini said, so personality traits probably interplay with factors like religion and conservative values. The researchers are currently expanding the study to students in Albania, Jannini said. They're also studying how the fear of not being "man enough" might influence homophobic attitudes.

Sexual Orientation And Symptoms Of Common Mental Disorder Or Low Wellbeing:

Background
Previous studies have indicated increased risk of mental disorder symptoms, suicide and substance misuse in lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) adults, compared to heterosexual adults. Our aims were to determine an estimate of the association between sexual orientation identity and poor mental health and wellbeing among adults from 12 population surveys in the UK, and to consider whether effects differed for specific subgroups of the population.

Methods
Individual data were pooled from the British Cohort Study 2012, Health Survey for England 2011, 2012 and 2013, Scottish Health Survey 2008 to 2013, Longitudinal Study of Young People in England 2009/10 and Understanding Society 2011/12. Individual participant meta-analysis was used to pool estimates from each study, allowing for between-study variation.

Results
Of 94,818 participants, 1.1 % identified as lesbian/gay, 0.9 % as bisexual, 0.8 % as ‘other’ and 97.2 % as heterosexual. Adjusting for a range of covariates, adults who identified as lesbian/gay had higher prevalence of common mental disorder when compared to heterosexuals, but the association was different in different age groups: apparent for those under 35 (OR = 1.78, 95 % CI 1.40, 2.26), weaker at age 35–54.9 (OR = 1.42, 95 % CI 1.10, 1.84), but strongest at age 55+ (OR = 2.06, 95 % CI 1.29, 3.31). These effects were stronger for bisexual adults, similar for those identifying as ‘other’, and similar for 'low wellbeing'.

Conclusions
In the UK, LGB adults have higher prevalence of poor mental health and low wellbeing when compared to heterosexuals, particularly younger and older LGB adults. Sexual orientation identity should be measured routinely in all health studies and in administrative data in the UK in order to influence national and local policy development and service delivery. These results reiterate the need for local government, NHS providers and public health policy makers to consider how to address inequalities in mental health among these minority groups.


Of the 94,818 participants in the analytic sample (those with available data on sexual orientation identity, mental health and covariates), 97.2 % as heterosexual, 1.1 % identified as lesbian/gay, 0.9 % as bisexual and 0.8 % as ‘other’ (Table 1). People meeting the threshold of common mental disorder or low wellbeing were significantly different across all study variables (using bivariate t-test or chi-square tests): they were younger, comprised more females, and had lower levels of educational attainment, more current smokers, more longstanding illness/disability and fewer married/co-habiting participants than those below the threshold (Table 2). Significantly higher proportions of those who identified as lesbian/gay, bisexual and ‘other’ were found among those who met the mental disorder threshold

Conclusions
Adults identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual or ‘other’ are at increased risk of poor mental health and low wellbeing compared to those identifying as heterosexual.

The association varies across the life course, with the lowest relative risks seen in midlife and the highest among older adults

Our study used cross-sectional data suitable for estimating prevalence, but future studies should consider longitudinal patterns (such as onset and persistence of new mental health problems) and clarify mechanisms

Reference
Office of National Statistics. Measuring Sexual Identity: An Evaluation Report. London: ONS; 2010.

Google Scholar


Hayes J, Chakraborty A

Beretta03
Beehive01

AndriodAi

AntiLGBTQ

Prettygirl200:
I don't wear makeups but I love big ear rings, I have two holes in my ear. I put two earings on but don't like nose piercing. I love beautiful hairs nd braids. I love beautiful clothes that are a bit revealing. That's me

Why do ladies wear reveling clothes domt you guys know is disturbing to the male gender

I view the thread just the first page then it was just 3 page and i left never knew it spanned 30 pages


Many of this men won't learn until they catch std

thesicilian:

This is a married man speaking. Listen to him.

Rubbish advise bro,


The marriage is over already that petty advice will breed deceit nothing more

Adetayo41:
I planning to leave the house for her, I am still in much pain. I swear to God. But will be sending her money for my twin babies

How una take get pikin in the first place you sure say na your pikin abi na vibraator own


Sorry oo

Adetayo41:
my wife has been depriving me intimacy for the past 1 months, i touched her yesternight, she declined, and later in the middle of the night, I caught her using a vibrator, although I did as if I was sleeping,


What should I do house.? I am pained though

Send her packing she dey mad


If you were not performing the way she likes it
She would have suggested you buying her vibrators for assistance

She is a cheat send her home and let her people know she cheated on you with a machine

When the oba of benin was defeated, the whole Nigeria went down under the British control


The edo people fought gallantly but their rival never underestimated them...


The maxim machines after the benin war was what was used to bring down neighboring Ghana and other part of Nigeria

dawnomike:
This is very serious... Maybe you should sell your dad's house for her first.
I am sure she will agree afterwards

If i could i will i love her so much

Hello....

Am new to nairaland, a friend introduced me to this forum to get good advice he told me some of the replies could be very extreme, so I will go straight to the point
There is this pretty lady in my area she has a very big ass with perky boobs the way I like it , everything about her turns me on she is dark tall and has a good smile, and her mom happens to have a shop in my area, just so I can see how I will go and buy something I don't need, she has really messed up with my head like no other lady has done before I have approached her severally she said she is not my type but I told her I don't mind I just want friendship even if is breast I can see to touch I would be very happy, but one thing I don't like about her she is always demanding money from me I don't mind giving her the money but she doesn't have time for me everytime excuse upon excuse I can sell my father's land to make her happy so she can be with me , please brother's help am i Going insane over her is this norma
One more thing anything i see her my joystick is always on the rise is all this normal

Please pardon my bounders