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Advice to Men.

Listen to me, there is one Grace or power that God put in women. There are like small God, sometimes the way you treat them determined your success in life. Old men with life experience will tell you this. Women can raise you and they can pull you down.

Be wise to tolerate them. Ignore their weak point and worship them as well cause they are small god. You may totally disagree with me but those who has understanding will know.

Respect women and when they bless you it works cause there is authority in their mouth. Believe it or leave it.

Let me be frank to the Men/Women or God or Sisters/Brothers and Husbands/Wives.

The best deliverance from Fornication or Adultery by asking Holy Spirit for the Grace to say NO. Secondly is by covenant with your eyes or private parts by saying NEXT TIME YOU DO IT THEN YOU SHOULD BE MAD OR CRIPPLE FOR LIFE.

Job in the bible made such covenant and Bishop David Oyedepo did same years ago. That is the best way to be delivered from adultery and Fornication.

Job 31:1 I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?

Wisdom for the Singles..

Do not get it wrong. There are levels or stages of Relationship.

If both just met then both are strangers to each others. Treat him like stranger first before opening your heart. Desperation makes people jumped from stage one to an advance stage within weeks of relationship.

You shouldn't bring stranger to your bedroom, you shouldn't give your phone to stranger to go through. You shouldn't trust a stranger with your emotions. You shouldn't introduce stranger to friends or family. Take it easy and KNOW each others well before both advance to the next stage and next stage and next stage before you can trust each others.

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WISDOM IN HANDLING IN-LAWS

The bible warned us not to be an ignorance of the devices of the devil. One of the devices of the devil in frustrating a relationships and breaking homes by wrong handling of the inlaws.

Yes, there must be conflict between in law and sons or daughters in-laws. One of the main reasons is personal interest or threat. They see the fiancee as a threat to take the attention of their son or daughter from them. They strongly thought their sons or daughter will no more be giving them an attention either financially or cares after the marriage.

Another is family background differences, The fiancee has been raised in his or her own family in a particular way and she or he is coming to another different background family. There must be conflict in their behaviours or approaches to things.

Some had been wrongly brainwashed that every mother in law are evil or witch. That made the daughters in law to prove stubborn or be on a safe side to prevent the witch in destroying her home. Her mindset has been polluted by that wrong believe, because she has believed that every mother in law are evil, she will be having bad dreams of her mother in laws not that the mother in law is a witch but the devil is using the wrong information to deceive her.

You need wisdom in handling the in law. Romans 13:8 Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.

The only thing you are owing your in-laws is TO LOVE THEM AND UNDERSTAND THEM. No body can harm you if you are doing good, 1Peters 3:13. Light can not overcome darkness. Love your in laws.

Appreciate your in laws. Do not be selfish without an understanding. These people has been living with your fiancee for years and they did not kill him or her. They kept your fiancee for you till date. APPRECIATE THEM. Greet them, either they respond to your greeting of not. Be nice to them. Give them gifts. Call them when necessary.

SEE THEM AS YOUR FAMILY. Members of your immediate family are not perfect but you have lived and manage them for years. Do same to your in laws. Develop them and impact them positively and politely. . Accept their weak point and tolerate them.

AVOID CHANGING YOUR IN-LAWS. No one is perfect, nor even your own immediate family. There may be many things you might not like about the character of your in-laws. Avoid changing them. You can only change them by love not by forcing it on them.

BE GENEROUS TO YOUR IN LAWS Entertain them and do not punish them with hunger. Be generous to them in many way. Call them when necessary, encourage them when there is need, laugh with them and make them your best pal. Surprise them with recharge card.

UNIFY YOUR IN LAWS. Do not scattered them. No family without its problem. As you are coming to the family, do not add fuel to the already burning issue n the family. Do not judge anyone but be neutral, do not take side but unifying all side. Do not hear from this angle and broadcast to all. Avoid let any side use you as a bait to settle. Any issue you can not settle then be neutral and do not judge even if you know the truth.

LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP. Do not force yourself into any family. Investigate the family well. Their culture or beliefs before you enter. In Africa, there are family with demonic culture and believe, look well before you enter their. Light and darkness can not be together. Go to your Pastor for counselling if you have found any suspicious beliefs about your in law. Broken relationships is better than broken marriage.

to be continue.......................

For the Singles....

Do not marry a LAZY man. There are difference between a LAZY MAN and a JOBLESS man. A man that lacked an idea of making a daily income is a LAZY MAN. Humble yourself and do something to make profit legitimate.

Lack of job is not an excuses for laziness. Even if there is no job, God has giving you two hands and two legs then apply your idea to use them to make a daily profit. BE A MAN, put your hand to do something legitimate. There are many opportunities around you to make money. Stop all the excuses.

LADY DO NOT MARRY A LAZY MAN, RATHER MARRY A MAN OF VISION, A MAN OF IDEA, A MAN THAT SEE OPPORTUNITIES IN EVERYTHING AROUND HIM.

For the Singles:

SEEKING TOO MUCH ATTENTION.

One of the reasons for breaking up is the LADIES ALWAYS SEEK FOR TOO MUCH ATTENTION FROM THEIR GUYS. Yeah, everyone needs an attention but guys are totally different from each others.

You need to know your guy very well. Some are too dedicated to their work, social life, friends, families, business etc.
Secondly, YOU CAN NOT CHANGE A MAN OVER NIGHT. That is him, he is dedicated to his work. He is pursuing money or his career. You are his girlfriend or his fiancee and you can not change him overnight. Demanding too much attention from him will put him off. He will get weary of you and HE WILL LOOK FOR SOME ELSE SOMEWHERE THAT CAN UNDERSTAND HIM BETTER.

Men think differently from women. Most women wrongly thought if truly he loves me then he MUST call me daily. If truly he loves me he MUST remember my birthday etc. Men think differently. Other men may be doing that but if your men is not doing that it does not mean he does not love you. If a guy has not call his fiancee for few days then the lady will be having negative thought. Anxiety lack of trust, Fear, depression and insecurity will full her heart then break up

All you need is to UNDERSTAND your man and do not compare men cause they are different. Take it easy, YOU ARE NOT YET HIS WIFE and you have not authority over him yet. But understand his weakness of not giving you an attention and TRAIN HIM TO BE MATURE TO BE GIVING YOU AND ATTENTION. Let him develop and improve then when you marry him then YOU HAVE AUTHORITY TO TEACH HIM WELL. AND ENCOURAGE HIM TO BE GIVING YOU AN ATTENTION. It's a process, it's not by force, it's by understanding and love then he will yield to your suggestion.

Be wise.

Marriage or Having a Child. Which one is An Achievement?

There's a popular trend now that "Marriage is not an achievement".
How true is this?

A popular and successful blogger got pregnant before her wedding and she made a statement that HER GREATEST DREAM (pregnancy) HAS BECOME TRUE.

I thought marriage should be every ladies greatest dream. Please put me through this...

Is this a subjective or absolute statement?

You opinion counts......

Is Adultery forgivable?
Can you divorce your spouse cause of Adultery?

SHOULD YOU PRETEND IN RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE HIM OR HER MARRY YOU OR SHOW YOUR TRUE BEHAVIOUR.

Which one is better?

ONE OF THE MYTHS OF RELATIONSHIP: Bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh.

Many people has been brained washed to believe the myth that THERE IS A PARTICULAR PERSON GOD HAS DESTINED FOR THEM TO MARRY AND IF THEY DO NOT MARRY SUCH PERSON THEY WILL MARRY THE WRONG PERSON. So people are looking for their souls mates, bone of their bones.

They want to pray and fast, they want to consult prophets and pastors, they gives out names to see vision and dreams FOR THEM NOT TO MAKE THE MISTAKE. Pastors supported it with the statement of Adam to Eve, this is the bone of my bones. This is not true this is a myth and many preachers are making topics and prayer points out of it.

We are more than seven billions on earth and IF GOD HAS DESTINED ONE PARTICULAR PERSON TO YOU THEN HOW WOULD YOU MEET HIM OR HER OUT OF SEVEN BILLION PEOPLE ON EARTH.

If there is someone who matched you and there is a tendency the person is in Asia, South America or Europe or any town in Africa, you may not meet such person in your life time.

Devil has used this myth to make many single today. If a sister has determined that she likes this brother to be her husband and all her prayer is toward this brother as all the qualities she wanted in a man is in this brother and she loves him and wanted him by all means. There is another brother who likes this Sister and he talked to her for marriage BUT THE SISTER REFUSED THE PROPOSAL OF THE SECOND BROTHER ONLY AFTER THE FIRST BROTHER. The second brother tried to show her love and giving her gift but she refused cause she is aiming on the first brother to marry. The second brother got tired and went to marry someone else he loves same way. Eventually the first brother disappointed the sister and he got married to another person and the sister is now in square one looking for her bone of her bone.

Many people have experienced the illustration above. Bible says in Ecclesiastic that sow your seed here or there because you do not know the one that will grow, either this or that.

Here this YOU ARE NOT CREATED TO BE ATTRACTED TO ONLY ONE PERSON, Even a married people will eventually find themselves attracted to another person. The will of God is for you to get marry to a child of God that is suitable for you. You make your choice. If you have made a choice of Brother A for marriage and He refused to marry you then go for another person that will accept you for who you are.

Bible says Whoso findeth a wife findeth good thing. That is to say EVERY SONS AND DAUGHTERS OF GOD ARE GOOD FOR YOU BUT FIND THE ONE SUITABLE FOR YOU.

There is no particular person in the world that you must married there are many you can make your choice from. God has a special person for you to marry and if you miss him then you missed your bone, that is not true. I do not want want to carry ANOTHER PERSON BONE O, that is a myth.

Wrong teachings about relationship and marriage are ONE of the tools the devil uses to delayed marriage and create heard breaks and divorces.

Be blessed.

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Wisdom for the Singles......

In every relationship, DO YOUR BEST TO POUR WATER FRONT FOR YOU TO MATCH WET GROUND. If you did not pour water front then THE GROUND MIGHT BE HOT. Meaning?

When you are in a relationship pr you have a fiancee. Wisdom demand you should be nice to his siblings, be nice to his or her parents or his or her friends. Be a peacemaker do not be a family breaker or friends breaker.

As a fiancee, then you started sowing seed of hatred, confussion and division among families members, among friends etc. The guys loves his parents and siblings and this is your regime as fiancee THEN YOU TURNED EVERY ONE AGAINST EACH OTHERS. You starved the junior one with food in his absence. You made his family and friends sees you as TERROR.

A time will come that YOU WILL NEED SOMEONE TO SPEAK TO YOUR FIANCEE WHEN YOU HAVE DISAGREEMENT WITH HIM.

WHO WILL SPEAK TO HIM ON YOUR BEHALF?
Who will calm him down to forgive you?
Remember those relatives or family members or friends you have shown terror in the past you might need them in the future. Either in your relationship or in your marriage to him.

Be wise, no one win it all. One day for you and the other day is coming and it may not be for you. Be wise.

God vhould remove them all

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