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Pennywise:
Look, this guy has been understanding pleasing and selfless enough to sustain a 4 year relationship while the girl spent time dreaming of a fabulous proposal she read up or aisha her friend may have intimated her of. The guy should have deferred the m-word another 4 years.
Lesson? Keep it natural and sensible.

And THAT up there is why women should get on their knees and thank the almighty God for having a relationship that lasts more than six months because it shows they have an "understanding, pleasing and SELFLESS man, SELFLESS oh, SELFLESS for being in a relationship. Yeah, that's what a man's commitment to a woman is now called - A selfless act.  I guess it comes after giving your kidney to stranger and before laying down your life for someone else.

Thank you jare, Mr, Pennywise, for bringing all of these home, sometimes women don't get it, God knows what selfish things these men could have be doing, instead they chose to be in a relationship. Bravo to all the SELFLESS MEN out there.


In case you missed it, I was being sacarstic!!!!

Radiant:
So, that's the beauty? Try playing with your balls,you should feel better.

Aaayin?

[b]ITS THE WOMAN'S FAULT IN THE END [/B]

Yeah! Those darn women, when are they gonna get it? A relationship with TWO people needs the effort of only ONE person to last. I swear, I'm thinking of making t-shirts with that slogan.

LOL, aren't the comments enough to tickle a girl's funny bone? I tell ya, you can't help but love our Naija men, they take so much pride in their wrongness. It's a thing of beauty. Seriously!

Quote from: 4Him on Today at 08:26:37 PM

Sometimes No means try harder or "you're on standby till the present jerk leaves" or "i'm not sure". It makes no sense to leave at the first sign of No.

Tee hee hee, oy!

4Him

  Re: Why Do Guys Lose Interest In Relationships After The Chase?
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Quote from: stillwater on Today at 08:18:42 PM
Never plain? When did No become "never plain"?


How many women really say No and mean it?

Tee hee

Quote from: 4Him on Today at 07:15:02 PM
We always listen. If you think we don't its because you people are never plain.


Never plain? When did No become "never plain"?

Lol, Oh my! haven't you heard, NO is the new "playing hard to get" in Guyinese That's why they tell you, "Oh you don't mean that". The very idea that you might not be interested is inconceivable.

@ Poster
It's Life, I guess.

"Look beyond HIS words and try to understand that proposing marriage is a scary thing", this is what some people are saying. Okay then, I guess it's safe to say, the poor girl, so overwhelmed by the idea of accepting his marriage proposal (Yeah, contrary to what some people think, the decision does not come easy for women either) blurted the first thing that came into her head (just like the guy when he said I've finally decided to marry you) so he should also look beyond her words and understand that what she really meant to say was  "Thank you, oh thank you for finally deciding to marry me, if you hadn't, come tomorrow morning, they would be dragging my dead body from bar beach"

Aisha2, in my haste to post my thoughts, I forgot to ask you to tell your friend, BRAVO. It's nice to see women who know her self-worth and won't fi ori gbe anything just for the sake of being married. If you don't mind, also tell her man that he is very LUCKY.

I also want to point out that men aren't the enemy here, women ARE there own worst enemies. It is truly the saddest thing.

Wow…Loved reading all the comments. They were quite insightful even though the whole thing left me a little depressed… I guess facing reality will do that to you.

This topic isn’t about whether the guy should have rented the Eiffel Tower, gotten a plane full of beautiful rose petals, timed it so perfectly that the rose petals are released just as the 1000 instruments marching band he hired,  played the last note of her favorite song (the one she told him when they first started dating and 4 years later, he still remembered) and him proposing in the most eloquent, sweetest words known to man. No, it isn’t about wanting the guy to get down on one knee in a perfectly lit restaurant with a robin egg's blue box in his hand and a quartet playing in the background (which quite frankly is a little too cliche for my test). This post is not about watching too many romantic movies, reading too many Mills & Boons & Harlequin or expecting to be doused in champagne as the love of your life asks you to be his forever. It's gone beyond the asinine proposal, what this is really about is how the sexes are treated…

A man does something bad, the woman gets blamed for reacting to what he did…she should have thought it through and TRY to see the motive behind his words but more importantly, she must do an internal search of herself to figure out what SHE did to make him do what he did and finally, she must…MUST be grateful he is willing to look past HIS own mistakes and forgive her reaction to it… they tell her. Case in point, this guy proposes in the most awful way I've ever heard YET the girl is blamed for reacting the way she did.

A woman does something bad, SHE and only she alone gets blamed for it…she should have thought it through before doing it, she should be ready to face the consequences of her actions and finally, she must, MUST be grateful he is willing to look past her mistakes and forgive her for making them and if he isn’t willing to do that…then she’s just going to have to live with his decision…they tell her.

Bottom line, women are expected to be Sensible, Perfect, long suffering, subservient beings who should be grateful if a man deigns to breath close to them. THIS is the reality for women and it is completely unfair.

PS
I thought of prefixing the words MAN and WOMAN in the above with AFRICAN or more specifically NIGERIAN but thought…nah, I wouldn’t want to be accused of stereotyping…even though we all know that this is typical Naija behavior. Having come to terms with reality, I must say…I feel sorry for our mothers and grandmother oh, I swear those women should be put on a pedestal and worshipped.

Windywendy…if I knew were you lived and if you were not married, I’d rent the Eiffel Tower, get a plane and have them release a million beautiful rose petals just as the 1000 instruments marching band I hired finished playing the last note of your favorite song and ask you to marry…my brother!

D-Reloaded are you married? Do you like roses and what’s your favorite song?

kunleri
please friend help me out.  How do you start a new discussion, I have been on this site for a while now and still can't figure it out

I feel you man, it took me awhile to figure it out too. Here Goes
On the front page, there are forums e.g ENTERTAINMENT with a series of topics under it e.g JOKES, ROMANCE etc. You click on the topic you think your discussion falls into, this will take you to the front page of that particular topic. On the right hand side you'll see NEW TOPIC, click on that and you're ready to go.

I hope that helps.

uspry1
You're absolutely right, it's all about mind games and the saddest thing of all, is some people allow others to use their heads as ping pong. You also hit another nail on the head when you mentioned insecurity of these people. You just want to shake some sense into them and say, make up your mind.

Sadly, it is their loss, when they let the right person go.

Stillwater
Lol, I take that back. Unpaging all relationship experts. Instead, paging everyone who's trying to navigate the rough terrain that is relationship.

Purist and Mrpataki
Bravo to you two!!! It was a pleasure reading your posts. It’s always nice to see people debate their points without resorting to under the bridge name callings.  I just have one question for mrpataki…and please forgive me, if it seems like I’m bringing up issue many would love laid to rest, but I must ask:

How is the sentence “If my arrogance (which every human being has) annoys your inanity, accept my apologies an oxymoron? You see, from what I recall in my English courses, albeit the last was 5 yrs ago … the oxymoron had to do with the use of contradictory words, for instance saying someone is intelligently stupid or being agreeably argumentative but from your sentence above, I just don’t get it.

A) Is the arrogance contradicting the inanity?
B) Is the inanity contradicting the apology?
C) Is the arrogance contradicting the apology? 

At first, I thought it could be C but then I thought nah that sounds more like sarcasm because you are apologizing for something you claim everyone has (That’s like saying…I apologize for being human. Why apologize for that? If it’s not to be sarcastic).  So now I’ve found myself back at square one.  Please feel free to explain this me like you would a 5, no a 3yrs yrs old, I don’t mind. Hey,  I’ve never claimed to have the English language down pat. Thanks in advance.

Is this a trick question? This shouldn't even be something to ask, it's like comparing fresh, luscious, top of the cart apple to shriveled, bruised and battered, last one in the cart orange and STELLA DAMASUS ABODERIN is the apple here.

Stella is naturally beautiful
She carrries herself well
She is articulate.
She is Sophisticated
She's got a genteel air about her.
And my picky older brother likes her (that's always a plus for any girl)

Seriously, I could go on and on but I don't want Seun accusing me of hugging all the space.

So, Omotola who?

A Thousand  All

Hi guys,
I've never started a topic, so I hope I'm doing this right. I know we're all about supporting one another, so I'd like your thought on these Shorties. What was done right, what was done wrong, what can be improved, you know the drill.

Sorry, link taken down because of minor legal snafu.

Thanks

Judging by your post i can say you are good enough, i am sure you are not doing English Literature as a course in the University. Concentrate on your studies because they are more important than English language, that is the problem with our education in Nigeria! many people graduate with very good knowledge of spoken English but are a disgrace when confronted with works that are connected with their chosen careers.

I am not surprised one bit because everybody wants to impress each other with their spoken English and subsequently ending up in learning nothing at the University

In my opinion, this is a very dicey suggestion. Yeah, Ideally it would be nice to forgo the spoken English and just concentrate on our chosen career but let’s be realistic, that’s just not possible. Think about it, how good is a doctor is he can't communicate very well with his patient? How effective is a Lawyer, if he can barely string a sentence together? We live in a society where 1st impression matters and one of the 1st things we notice in a person (apart from how they are dressed) is how they talk. So no matter how knowledgeable he is in his chosen profession, he still needs to be able to express himself articulately or he might as well forget being a professional and be an iya elepa in the market (no offense to any omo iya elepas in the house )

I'll also recommend a phonics program/software (in addition to the many suggestions already listed).

Good Luck.

Honsule
The last pic you have is the best. What a cutie, I love babies with chubby cheeks.

In my opinion, I don’t think buying second hand clothes is bad…if that’s what you can afford. The keeping up with the Jones mentality we have, is what gets us in trouble; everyone wants to show up the other person at the detriment of their purse.  The old saying, cut your coat according your size, still holds true today…if I can’t afford 1st hand clothes, why twist myself into a pretzel trying to get it when I can get good second hand clothes? Besides, it’s not like it’s going to have second hand stamped all over it, so everyone will know.  If you don’t tell anyone it is second hand, they will never know.



About the Infection aspect of it, I think it is a given that when you buy these kind of things…the first thing you do is wash them. They now make laundry soaps with disinfectant, so I don’t think the infection excuse really holds water but it does bring up something else… How many people bother washing their bikinis, bras and underwear immediately after buying it, I don't mean okirika underwear oh, I mean new ones from the stores and boutiques. Can you imagine how many people have worn them all in the pretext of "trying it on"? That's not even second hand…more like 10th hand yet some of us don't even bat an eye wearing them because we think it's new.

Lol, oh no! Combrazor, we've been deleted! I guess things got a little heated yesterday.

Sincerely apologise for that guys, didn't mean to cause any brouhaha.  Honestly my mama taught me better than that

If the Ghanian storyline was absolute crap, how is it better than a Nigerian movie.  The story is the main thing

It was better than a Nigerian movie because the production was incredible, the shots were excellent, the sound was on point and directing was beautiful. Besides, I think movie making goes beyond the story, haven't you ever found yourself so taken in by the way a movie is shot yet disappointed by the storyline? If movie making was only about the story, why do we have awards given to best editing, best directing or best cinematography.


What we need to understand is that we can't focus on just one aspect of movie making (i.e storyline) at the expense of all other aspect of it. If we find a way to combine ALL facets of movie making, I honestly believe we will get there.

Forgot to add, I am an aspiring screenwriter, so seeing what Nigerians churn out and call movies, irks me to no end. it's amazing how far our Bollywood counterparts have come, especially with cinematography, when some 10 yrs ago, we were on the same level. I also agree with the comment about getting real people to do the work instead of hiring your younger sister, brother in law, sister in law's grandmother as the Director, producer and editor respectively

They should start by having a script. Sometimes (all the time) I get the feeling they just tell the actors what to say. Imagine this if you will

Director (if you can call him that) to lagbaja - So Tamedo will come to you and ask why are you sleeping with his wife and you'll say because you love her.

(Turns to Tamedo)

Director  to Tamedo - And then you will get angry and try to punch him. Shei you get? Oya let's start.

Director to "crew" - Where are the Babaluwes and the unfunny characters with charcoal on their faces? Okay put them there so they can waste time by talking in rubbish in delibrate broken english because nothing spells blockbuster than having undeveloped characters taking up airtime.

Directot to self - Yep, if this isn't the best movie ever, I don't know what is.

And ENOUGH with the endless storylines. Why can't they tell a story in 90 mins? Why do we need 6 parts, with each part almost 3 hrs long? By the time the movie ends, they've strayed so far off from where they started you're left scratching your head thinking, "what movie was that again?" (Or is that just me?)

And for the love of all that is good and sacred, STOP using the same people over and over again. I love RMD (Segun Kadiri was my absolute favorite soap character) but enough already with him running around in dungarees trying to be a hip young thing. Dude, you are 40 something, no one will ever believe you are in your 20s okay, so spare us. It's time these old actors start acting their age and look for dignified parts.

Finally (yes, there is a finally) please, please, please, stop with the songs that practically tell us the whole story.

"Oh she was a poor young girl, who left the village to seek greener pastures in the city.
Chorus - Life is not fair, life is not fair
"When she came to the city, she met people who took advantage of her"
Chorus - How unfair life is, How unfair life is
"They took her money and now she is sleeping under the bridge"
Chorus - This unfair life, this unfair life

, Meanwhile, the title of the movie is "The unfair life of the village girl who came to the city to seek greener pastures and was taken advantage of by the bad city people"

Egad!!!!