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[quote author=na2day? link=topic=271905.msg4009840#msg4009840 date=1244678119]maybe she should ask the reporters what have they contributed to keep the thread alive. i am only on nl to catch fun after work, if ppl wan carry 4 head make dem bi my guest i no send.[/quote]oya no vex jare

we have stopped derailing the topic jor. so case close

Gabry:
See how u pretend to be all that innocent. CHEI!

By the way, check ou ma profile pic

naa am just clueless


ur pic is really nice and cool, did you play the instrument too?

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=277677.msg4009768#msg4009768 date=1244676855]sounds more like a nymphomaniac![/quote]even a sick woman cant utter baloney that confused person spilled down.

tope5000:
But u said u n u partner wasnt ready for a baby . . .so shy the sudden change of mind of hoping to be pregnant again?

wondering the same thing oo

@ poster

hope you know and understand the responsibility that comes with your wish

i dont really get why ppl place their personal ad on the health section, i thought this was for health advice/discussion only

and that nairlist.com was for any type of personal ads

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=271905.msg4009273#msg4009273 date=1244668990]i dont see u contributing to the thread, maybe u should practice what u preach and mine ur damn biz[/quote]she is the family section mod. so she is just doing her job

i do understand why you would take such stances, but i would rather know whats going on with them than having them hide their bf/gfs away from me.

FL Gators:
Come again?
25 and still living with mommy?

By 18 if they dnt leave to go to college. . . .make I no talk am jare.

Unless his/her/their Univeristy is a walk away.

Rofl

some people still live with their parents at age 31 sef.

for me i'd say they can start dating when they are 16yrs, i'd allow them to have their first puppy love. 'cause i personally think it's better i know when they start dating so that i can be of help to them than them hiding it from me which could result in some not so pretty outcomes.

FL Gators:
No, my no means they're not dating until they leavemy house

really?

if even they leave your house at 25?

too bad, the deed is done, and i hope lesson learned. it's time to flip another chapter.

if you and your husband are comfortable with it and you both want it, then do it. just make sure he returns the favor

if you can solely provide for you and your daughter financially then you might as well forget about him and the child support however, if your work cant provide for the both of you then go ahead and seek child support, and forget about what people think about being on child support what matters at last is that you are able to provide for your daughter not peoples fabricated myths about child support.

@ ebony

so your No means you would tell them or allow them to start whenever they pleases?

@ Tgirl

i dont know whether it's the same question, but i think sistawoman ask that on the previous pages. so here is the question she asked, check and see if it's the same question. below is the answer i gave.

Question for the group:

At what age do you have the "sex" talk with your boys and with your girls?

With your girls at what age do you have "body change talk"? Did you use any tools or books to help you. My pedetrican suggested "the care and keeping of you".

I did learn until yesterday (she had her physical) that a full line of pubic hair grows (all the way across) on a girl before she gets her first period and that my daughtar is not anywhere as close as I thought she was. And that my 11 year old son has not hit puberty yet and the doctor found this out by examining his balls and penis. So i dont have to worry about that right now.

~~Your daughter needs to understand the physical changes that will occur in her body during puberty. talk to her about:

   * Body Fat Increases

like how Her body will begin to build up fat in the stomach, buttocks and legs. tell her that this is normal and that it gives her body the curvier shape of a woman!. Also touch on the body self esteem issue. you know most gals these days are deceived into believing that skinny is the new black. talk to her about liking her body, self image. it is very crucial at this early stage so as to build up her self esteem. the early the better.

*How Breasts begin to enlarge,

you know In most girls, puberty is more commonly recognized by breast growth. When her breasts start to develop, tell her that she may notice small, tender lumps under one or both nipples that will get bigger over the next few years. When the breasts first begin to develop, tell her it is not unusual for one breast to be larger than the other. and , as they develop, they will most likely even out before they reach their final shape and size. As her breasts develop, you know she may need a bra. Some girls feel that wearing a bra for the first time is exciting, it is the first step toward becoming a woman! However, some girls feel embarrassed, especially if they are among the first of their friends to need a bra. Be supportive and sensitive to her needs and reactions.

* Body hair

tell her that soft hair will start to grow in her pubic area. and that the hair will eventually become thick and very curly. tell her she also may notice hair under her arms and on her legs. Many girls will question whether or not they should shave this hair. There is no medical reason to shave; it is simply a personal choice. If she decides to shave, be sure to teach her to use warm water and soap, and a clean razor made for women. It is a good idea for her to use her own personal razor or electric shaver and not share one with family members or friends.

*Height and weight

tell her how her arms, legs, hands, and feet may grow faster than the rest of her body. Until the rest of her body catches up, she may feel more clumsy than usual. Typically, a growth spurt precedes the onset of menstruation (her "period".

*Menstruation

Many concerns about puberty center on menstruation. Spend time helping your daughter prepare for her first period. There is no reason for a girl to be surprised by her menarche (first onset of her period), not knowing what is happening or why. Remember, menstruation may begin sooner than you expect. Certainly, once your daughter's breast development has started, the two of you should fully discuss the topic of menstruation. you can go more in dept with the biology on menstruation like why it is needed, what to expect etc. if you want.

* Hips

tell her that her hips will get wider and her waist will get smaller. and that this physical change also contributes to the curvier shape of a woman.

* Skin and hair

inform her that her skin may become more oily, and she will notice that she sweats more. and this is because her glands are growing, too. It is important to teach her to shower or bathe every day to keep her skin clean, and to use a deodorant or antiperspirant to keep odor and wetness under control. Despite her best efforts to keep her face clean, she still may develop pimples or acne. This is normal because her hormone levels are high. Almost all teenagers develop acne at one time or another. Whether her case is mild or severe, there are ways to keep acne under control. Talk to her doctor about treatment options for acne.

but most important on my list and personally for me is for you to teach to love and accept herself. self esteem and self worth are very important issues so don't forget to bring up the discussion.

Pregnancy at Different Ages: 20s, 30s and 40s


Pregnancy In your 20s

Healthy women in this age range usually have it pretty easy when it comes to pregnancy; it's no wonder they have the most babies! They often conceive within about two months of trying, have a relatively low risk of miscarriage (about 10 percent), and have the fewest medical complications during pregnancy. Some other perks of having a child in your younger years include a low risk of Down syndrome or other chromosomal birth defects and, for reasons not entirely understood, a low risk of giving birth via cesarean section.

However, in some instances, younger is not always better. Women ages 20 to 24 have a slightly higher risk of preeclampsia, a dangerous pregnancy condition that causes high blood pressure and protein in the urine, than women in their middle 20s and early 30s. This is largely due to the fact that women in their early 20s are most likely to be having their first baby, which is a risk factor for the condition. Doctors are unsure why some women get preeclampsia, and the condition is a serious one. It can lead to a slowdown of fetal growth and preterm delivery.

Women in their early 20s also have a greater chance than those in their late 20s and early 30s of having a low birth weight baby, largely because of poor health habits. For example, women ages 20 to 24 are more likely to smoke than women 25 and older, and smoking doubles the risk of having a low birth weight baby. Young women are also more likely to have a poor diet, delay prenatal care, and gain less than the recommended amount of weight (25 to 35 pounds for women of normal weight) — all of which increase the risk of having a baby who is underweight. Low birth weight babies also have a greater chance of health problems as well as lasting disabilities. Fortunately, reducing your risk is simple: Eat well, take a complete vitamin, and seek good prenatal care.

Pregnancy In Your 30s


Many women feel that waiting until this stage of life to have children is ideal, since they're more confident and financially secure. And if you're in your early 30s, your pregnancy risks differ little from those of a woman in her 20s. However, pregnancy at this age does have its difficulties. For one thing, it may take you longer to conceive than a younger woman because you ovulate less frequently. Fertility tends to decrease slowly after age 30, and your chance of giving birth to a child with Down syndrome or another chromosomal defect increases.

You've probably heard that 35 is a benchmark age when it comes to pregnancy problems and declining fertility. Actually, most women 35 and older have healthy babies, but studies suggest that they may have more problems along the way. First, fertility begins to decrease more rapidly after age 35, making it harder to conceive. According to statistics from the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, about one-third of women older than 35 have issues with fertility. If you are 35 or older and you have not been able to conceive after six months of trying, consult your doctor. Many fertility problems can be successfully treated.

Women in this age group are also more likely to suffer a miscarriage than younger women. In fact, a recent Danish study discovered that more than 20 percent of pregnant women ages 35 to 39 miscarried.

If you're 35 or older, you'll probably be offered amniocentesis, a test used to diagnose Down syndrome and other chromosomal abnormalities. The test isn't offered to everyone because it poses a small risk of miscarriage; 35 is the cutoff age for amnio because it's the age at which the risk of having a Down's baby (one in 378) is about equal to the chance of the test causing a miscarriage. Some women choose to have the amniocentesis; other opt for a blood test called a triple screen, along with an ultrasound, to help define their risk of having a Down's baby before going forward with an amnio.

Women older than 35 are also more likely to have problems such as preeclampsia, diabetes, premature birth, and a low birth weight baby, as well as placental problems during pregnancy. The most common of these is placenta previa, in which the placenta covers part or all of the opening of the cervix. This condition can cause severe bleeding during delivery, but complications can usually be prevented with a cesarean section. Luckily, most of the other potential problems can be remedied with proper medical treatment and good prenatal care.


Pregnancy In Your 40s

Today it is not unusual for women in their 40s to be giving birth for the first time. Unfortunately, conception may be difficult; more than 50 percent have difficulties conceiving. The pregnancy risks of a 40-something woman are similar to those of a woman in her late 30s. The two risks that increase most markedly in your 40s are chromosomal abnormalities, such as Down's (the risk is one in 100 at age 40 and one in 30 at age 45) and miscarriage: According to the Danish study, the risk of miscarriage reaches about 50 percent by age 42.

Women at this age are also almost three times as likely to develop diabetes during pregnancy than moms in their 20s. You may also have more problems during delivery, such as failure to progress and fetal distress, which may help explain why first-time moms older than 40 have the highest risk of c-section — 43 percent, according to a recent study conducted at Harvard Medical School.

Pregnancy Advice for All Ages

Regardless of statistics, whatever your age, there are steps you can take to improve your chances of having a healthy baby.

    * See your health-care provider for a prepregnancy visit. This is especially crucial if you have chronic health problems such as high blood pressure or diabetes. Your provider can make sure that any medications you take for these conditions are safe during pregnancy.

    * Take a vitamin containing 400 micrograms of folic acid daily. Start before you become pregnant and continue throughout the first month of pregnancy to help prevent certain serious birth defects of the brain and spinal cord.

    * Get early and regular prenatal care. Working with a health-care provider to come up with a game plan for a healthy pregnancy will go a long way toward keeping you and your baby safe and sound.



hope you find that helpful 

pele oo, na dat boi lead me into tempatation

no vex plzzzz