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[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=286764.msg4064414#msg4064414 date=1245559145]Imagine you woke up tomorrow and find that the govt has banned all from eating meat.
goat skin, chicken, cow meat, everything is contaminated or uneatable for two years. what would you do? [/quote]i will sue the government oo

i cant live without meat nau

mohawkchic:


~Are You That Insecured about your looks??

good question.

@ post

i dont cuz those mag covers arent real thanks to photoshop, editing, and good airbrushing which makes them look like Aphrodite while in reality some of them have big ripped pimple underneath their mouth and nose so no need to compare maself to them

how about seeing a dermatologist to see if there is any quick fix

what about using makeup to cover it up?

Fhemmmy:
I wont advice my sister to get into such marriage oh, cos such men always maltreat the woman, cos dem no send.

LOL

the moment the r/s ends everything that was between us ends also, including those email and others

if you dont have time to go a clinic then wait TILL you have TIME

JJYOU:
what is wrong in your ma or pa choosing for you? too many marriages falling off the wagon

and i dont see how them choosing for you makes the marriage happily ever after?

wrong section, shoulda b in the romance section.

anyways @ post, am not a man but i know that ex pros. do get married

Missy B:
It isn't too late!

no mind him

GOSH,HOW BORING

justybaby:
[b]y do u all even carry fake news, nd look how many pple hav ignorantly committed sin by their horrible statements, plz wen u hear a story google it up 2 confirm b4 u say sumtin dat wil put u in ur grave one day.[/b]HERE'S WAT D VATICAN ND THE CATHOLIC CHURCH DID IN DAT SITUATION

The Brazilian press attacked the Catholic Church today, falsely reporting that the 9-year old girl, raped earlier this year by her step-father and pregnant with twins, had been excommunicated.


The Archbishop of this Northeastern Brazilian region explained that, contrary to the press reports, all those involved in the abortion have incurred in excommunication latae sententiae (automatically) “except for the little girl, who is not morally responsible for this tragic act.”

The girl was required to have the twins aborted on Thursday at a hospital in Recife, Brazil.

The Catholic Church teaches that a person who commits a sin of grave matter must be fully conscious, or in this case, have a mature understanding of the act they are committing.  Archbishop Cardoso said that “in order to incur an excommunication, it is required to have a full conscience of the act. In this sense, the Church is benevolent with the minors and the victims of abortion.”

“All those who approved, promoted and performed,  confirm all these in dis sites
www.catholicnewsagency.com/new.php?n=15301
see? see stop bad mouthing d catholic church

maybe you are the one who needs Google up stories by you start bad mouthing ppl. the article in this story was the ORIGINAL story reported by AP and other news sites before it was posted here. so wot the heck is your problem maybe you should write to AP and many other sites who originally reported the story and tell them to Google it up before posting nonsense. and wasn't it a member of the Vatican that also said that the action of the Brazilian whatever was wrong? so maybe you should warn him also? rubbish.

TheSeeker:
Yes, some of them think they are too stuck with it than to break up mostly because when they put paid to that, a starting fulcrum is always a problem, mathematically bearing of which I don't think they may ever find. The derailment or emotional cracker it inflicts isn't what I bother about at least they both are old enough to handle that at some point or the other, what does make my head spin is what position the kids will find themselves. I can't imagine my parents have a divorce after all I have witnessed them go through and knowing how much they have shared their feelings between each other. It will tell a lot on such kids that it will on the parents and that is why I love African values on marriage in that once you're married to one man, you ain't going back. Even if the marriage is rough, I believe the psychological trauma will be a lot lesser than it would be if they had to divorce. Mel Gibson's wife filed for a divorce a few weeks ago because he(Mel) impregnated another woman while they were still separated. I think our local superstars are beginning to emulate this dreadful western practice.

the emotional derailment that comes with divorce in my opinion is not best overcome with b older. even the older older ones do experience traumas that sometimes requires serious therapy before it gets better esp. when the marriage has survived for a long time. it's not an easy process and yes, i do share your concerns regarding the children of divorce parents, the kids are usually the ones mostly affected deeply by it. as regards to the african marriage i really wished  i could i have shared in your belief/excitement about "forever being married" but sadly i cant.

In my opinion and yes, I want to sound tribal, Igbos despite how they have been marginalized have brought more development to the country than shame. Yoruba and Hausa are the one who have brought shame upon our country. If they want to say anything they'd say Awolowo is great, Abiola is great and those are heroes to their own  tribe, Awolowo especially. I challenge the fact that MKO would have made a good President. He would have been a Sharia President. Somehow, people who think they can ruin Nigeria, God knows how to silence them Abacha as an example, then MKO and a host of others. There are two more left, guess who?

i dont think it does anyone any good dwelling tribalism. i believe all the tribal equally contributes to the downfall and improvement of nigeria as a whole. so siding one side does nothing but to prolong the unnecessary argument

TheSeeker:
Absolutely right you are. You know what I think all the time? I think why do people who have been patiently married for as long 20 years go through a divorce. The pain will be excruciating I suppose.  Sometimes I hate to think that one day I will have to ply into the rigors of marriage, a solemn union it is but comes with its complexities.

yea, i get ur point. i mean if they have been enduring the pain/joy/sorrow for more than 20yrs why seek divorce now? however, i am made to believe that more often than more they tend to believe that it will always get better today or tomorrow and some people are still a prisoner of their traditions that seeking divorcing isn't always the first/best option for them, until they break it. while others just prefer to die in pain or so other reasons albeit, whatever be their reasons i dont think seeking a divorce and going through the whole process is an easy decision for any couple. at least the reasonable ones. it's more than seeking an annulment, it's also derails/wounds the person mentally, physically and psychologically.

and not  to worry, you arent the only one fearful of marriage, i have seen many people with similar complains. i once had a someone tell me that he's really afraid of marriage, i mean he cant seem to understand the idea of being with one woman for the rest of his life and go through all the emotions involved with it. he's just afraid of commitment. and quite honestly, i do think you have a reasonable fear, at least you know what a marriage constitutes unlike some folks who goes in thinking that marriage is a bed of roses until it hits them.

TheSeeker:
Not possibly because when the decision is made there is no going back unless we want to bring divorce into the picture which is not a sign of a healthy decision. I want to believe your decisions will be right on point so I will expect nothing short of a long term marriage. I wish most of our women can think like you have portrayed, unfortunately they don't.

yea, i think every couple goes into marriage thinking of happily ever after, unfortunately not everything is always predictable.

dorleey:
@TOPIC, y dont u ask d difference between a husband and a male prostitute.

bravo!.

@ poster

if you know the difference between your own mother and a prostitute you surely will know the difference between a wife and a prostitute.

TheSeeker:
I wasn't talking about dating either. But first of all, you have to be in love with the person first and the next phase comes in. Seeking parents' opinion is good but then you can take some of their advice and merge it into some of your jurisdiction to ensure they all align with your facts. The ones that are out of place, find their true meanings and get draw conclusions from personal observations. It is complicated really, so I understand where you're coming from and hey, I never said or meant you are naive.

i guess we were both agreeing on the same thing but with different approach   because that's exactly what i am saying. yea, i will seek their "opinions/ advise" but that doesnt mean i have to lose my own independent mind/thinking in the process and be swayed away by their opinions. at last it's still my decision 'cause am the one going to possibly spend the rest of my life with the person not them. the decision will finally be mine eventually.

and don't worry i didn't say you were calling me naive, i said it in response to this

I suppose anyone who expects to be tutored about love hasn't really experienced what it is all about.

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=286712.msg4064513#msg4064513 date=1245565995]na how many names una dey get for nl?[/quote]who b "una" again

TheSeeker:
Which are?

maybe u should try the search engine

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-82580.0.html

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-263482.0.html

TheSeeker:
I suppose anyone who expects to be tutored about love hasn't really experienced what it is all about. I do understand it takes more than love to make a marriage work and that is where I stand. Some other qualities have to be factored in and how these qualities relate with the relationship and how they will with the marriage have to be thought through. In as much as I believe my parents will know a lot more about relationships and marriages more than I do, I believe I have to make mistakes just to learn who I am and I have to take responsibility for all my actions. My parents could be wrong too. Sometimes they make wrong assessments too and are prone to erroneous views and beliefs.

i don't see it like that. this is not about who you going to "date" but "marry". big difference. and seeking opinions/advise about marriage or relationship for that matter, is what i don't see as b "tutored". anyways to each his own. like i said, i will seek my parents opinions/advice if the need arises and i dont see that being naive or anything else. i see it as b what i prefer.

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=286712.msg4064504#msg4064504 date=1245565619]na true u talk, nice guys dont count but i am currently under going training to un-nice myself   na who bi morenike?  


why i no go vex, me sef wan shine congo nau  [/quote]wot kinda question b that naa, u no sabi FL Gator again

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=286712.msg4064504#msg4064504 date=1245565619]why i no go vex, me sef wan shine congo nau [/quote]

why u dey vex naa

i think there are at least two topics on PDA

TheSeeker:
In my opinion, if you can't take their advice then there opinionated ideas isn't called for and can your decision be predicated on their advice? I believe you know your intending spouse better than they do.

sometimes we always tend to believe we know better while in actuality we know little esp when it comes to "love". some ppl when their are/claim to be "in love" they are too blinded to see the real person they are dating and only an outsider can see certain things in that relationship the individuals are too blinded to see. i value my parents opinions and i will seek it when the need arise.