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QuinQQ:
What do you mean? Of course it was my pregnancy and we "loved" each other and we only did it HALF of once

Why was it a problem that she was pregnant and trying to hide it if the unborn baby was yours? Or was she sharing it with another man and you didn't know?

What a tale by moonlight. He didn't see his social media posts until a day to the wedding? Fantastic father.

Donald Trump that wants to be the sovereign leader of Iran after being the de facto leader of Venezuela for a few days? All the countries on his list better be careful. Iran, Cuba, Nigeria... "you are fired"

QuinQQ:
Oh it was a big semi-open secret of a scandal. Her very respectable parents covered up she was already pregnant durring the wedding. Something that shouldn't be a big deal. They were trying to pass off she married as a virgin!

Wait, it wasn't your pregnancy?

Election and selection.

Elzazzi:
In all you said you didn’t even consider finances. Or is that not important? That’s what really holding men back lately. A man who can feed himself should get married and start bringing in children?

I completely understand that. It's the duty of the parents to bring them up and support them till they are comfortable. This is why families were very interested in marriages because the man's family would have done everything to raise him, support him so he can have his own home. This thing is still common in Asia and you will see that we have similar patterns when it comes to marriage unlike the West. They train you for responsibility and they support you but today, you are on your own. About the economy, let me tell you, economy will never be better. It's not a curse. It is just how life is, those who married just last year will find it easier to marry than those who want to marry today. Yesterday is always cheaper than today.

Families are failing in raising both men and women properly today, they only care about western education and white collar jobs. The other things you are taught normally in most African traditions are
1. Sex
2. Food
3. Raising a child
4. How to be attractive to your spouse
5. Rituals

A example is the fattening room. There are similar traditions to this all over Nigeria but we don't even bother to study our culture and traditions and find a way to merge it with today's realities. We just discard everything and start doing public proposal for a girl when you are yet to approach her family.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7475300334710164742

Sex for instance became a taboo because of religious texts and instead of children understanding it came with responsibility, they were scared with sins and they took the easy way out, condoms and preventive methods. Finance that you mentioned wasn't just having a trade that brought you money, they gave you land etc. They made sure you went through apprenticeship etc. It's not just about having money, but you were taught how to spend and where to spend. I am not living in utopia, I am realist. If parents are serious today, if they have a male child, do everything possible to support him to be a man. A responsible man. The economy is hard but would you rather your boy have baby mamas that will still be your responsibility or a father who knows what to do to fend for his family? Parents in the 70s, 80s and some still do today helped with housing, car or whathaveyou. Those things that will help you stabilize for 1-2 years. Things have changed today but we must apply sense. Did you see that post where that guy was saying that most of us today live scattered in cities and paying rent here and there when we could combine our money and stay in family houses? Everyone now wants to be independent and we all know it is easier when you combine resources than when you go alone.

AI has been a menace since it was introduced. People don't even put effort anymore. They just dump AI slop on us. Pathetic.

danvon:
Try to be there for your children, parental support really matters in life.

Bill Gates and Paul Allen wouldnt have become billionaires if the mothers at Lakeside school didnt agree to get a computer for the school.

Try to be there is not a licence to try to be them! Let the children breathe and play please. Don't steal their show.

QuinQQ:
1 was 18, she was 16 and pregnant.
Divorced and happily single

Did you marry or were you forced to marry because she was pregnant?

queenbetsy:
honestly, you couldn’t have said this any better but then, it’s the situation we’ve found ourselves in

Something I should have added is that marriage teaches patience. I was listening to a man in his 100s say that people today are so quick to divorce at the slightest bang but they were brought up to weather it out. It's not to say people should suffer in silence if it is not working but it's only going to get worse in this me-centric times we live in where we put everything on the internet and we compare our filtered lives while others help us like, share and comment on what they have been shown. Everyone wants to he Mr and Mrs Right and they will always have fans even while plotting their own destruction. No one wants to compromise anymore or work to preserve the institution. Our alter ego is so big for the cameras that the ego no fit hear word again. Our lives are now a show

PheelzAlmighty:
What in god's name do you need the information for

Conformity: This refers to changing one’s behavior or beliefs to match the standards of a group to fit in or be accepted

Won't tell the public but I can tell you that marrying young was never alien to Africans until the Western education confused them that they have to wait till they have PhD before they married. Meanwhile, marriage is a school of life and no amount of books can teach you. It's the only school where the certificate is given before you attend it. Some people tear theirs in the name of divorce.

Your grandparents got married in their 19s and early 20s when it was most fertile for the woman and when the men had more energy to raise families. Today, they are bombarded with fear while not afraid to be chiking each other. Parents keep deceiving themselves that their children are not ripe for marriage but their body is going through hormonal changes.

BlackfireX:
carry go....

but really sex is good but responsibility no go allow nigerians enjoy it


Just an observation

Then they are not ripe enough to have sex. I don't mean ripe in terms of age but their mind is not ripe. The greatest fear of sex is having a child. Why? Responsibility. What do you think?

BlackfireX:
I can see you love sex... nothing wrong in it...

Carry on ...scatter the place

Unashamedly

But not to scatter the place

yarimo:
show me where he said he wrote letter of resignation in what you posted, must you post if you don't understand what you read ? Why didn't he address himself as former deputy national chairman of ADC? Why deputy national chairman of ADC?

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He disclosed that Funke Akindele’s movie Behind the Scenes crossed the billion-naira mark at the box office, but the producer received less than half of the revenue after cinemas and distributors took their share.

According to him, while the public celebrates impressive figures, the actual money that goes to the producer is far smaller because exhibitors and middlemen claim a large portion.

After all the hullabaloo with Afolayan, e Don cast abi e no cast?

SixSeven:
It's what the numbers do for you that matters. Kunle made a statement that is deep there and those in showbiz or football know this. You can take in 10bn, that does not mean it all belongs to you. Sales is not equal to profit share. I was just watching TLC too talking about how they made just hundreds from the millions that was made from their art. Oliseh was also explaining the other day how football contracts work and not all the thousand pounds per week goes to the players. All we hear is contracts and deals and money but you are not there to know what the Ts&Cs are. Art and business sense must go together. Everyone also has a niche market.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AJpuLqTOTYI

Thomas2024 denreledave delta521

yarimo:
The letter was Forged by criminal Mr Ralph nwosu just to get money from ATIKU and co

So his Facebook account was forged?

“Many of us do not believe that a new party will be registered under the current leadership of INEC. Dr. Mahmud Yakub is not Jega and President Tinubu is not Jonathan. Those were the people in charge when the APC was registered and many were pessimistic about the prospects of registering a new party, but we said, ‘let’s try it anyway.’”

Insert the new INEC Chair.

CJStarz:
People living anyhow life

.. The last line sounds like a call girl. I picked up my things and left. Omo, women ehn. Raise your girl child in a way that she will not embarrass your lineage. Yes, I know why I chose the girl child only.

Your friend, his business.

Your business, your friend.

Total votes: 671,121...

How many people watch BTV? Nice try with your AI results

What do you gain from posting a private conversation by 2 for the world to read?

Parents are living vicariously through their children and it is becoming a menace. It is a lack of identity, a lack of self worth and an abuse on the innocent child who is not allowed to enjoy their childhood or youth with proper adult supervision. Don't take the attention away from the child, let the freaking child play in their own world and environment. Na agbaya de steal the show of pikin, letting these kids face unnecessary humiliation the following week when they have to compare their parents. Damn it! Small time nau, these parents will enter the changing rooms of the kids and we will start complaining about Sexual Abuse. Eediots

The phone is not helping matters but when you see a lot of adult behaviour in Nigeria, you can tell that many of them have unhealed trauma. It's not just a Nigerian thing, I know, but I can tell you that parents today have spent more time condemning their own parents' style of parenting more than they have done in the actual work of parenting their kids. I feel sorry for kids born today because in a few years, many of them will come on the internet and curse their parents for putting their lives on the internet without their permission, from the announcement of pregnancy to livestreaming their birth and opening a social media page for them before they had sense. The phone has really revealed the children in us. There is a time and place for everything.

Why is this man afraid of free and fair elections?

June 12, 2013 by The Nation

PDP, Jonathan have failed Nigerians, says Tinubu

ACN leader lashes govt on economy, security
President Goodluck Jonathan’s administration is confused about how to tackle Nigeria’s challenges, especially poverty and insecurity, a leader of the newly-formed All Progressives Congress (APC), Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu, has said.

He said the Federal Government promised peace and security, but under its “unwatchful eye” insecurity has grown and Boko Haram “has turned large tracts of northern Nigeria into no man’s land”.


But, a bright future, he said, is on the horizon as the APC, which he called “the government in-waiting”, would rescue Nigeria from its confused state.


“As leaders of the new party and government in-waiting, we intend to pursue dynamic, time-tested and bold policies that will liberate our people by making sure our wealth works for us,” Tinubu said.

Nigerians, said Tinubu, have become increasingly divided as a people because the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) government continues to take faulty steps in addressing poverty and injustice.

“They have ignored the cause and gone after the symptoms,” the former Lagos State Governor told a packed audience inside the Grand Committee Ballroom, Westminster Hall, House of Parliament, London on Monday. He identified failed policies on power, employment, economy and security as evidence of bad leadership.


Tinubu, the keynote speaker at the British African Diaspora Conference, spoke on “Leadership, national development and the people”.

He urged the Federal Government to apply a consistent policy of targeted law enforcement operations along with an active programme of economic development, negotiations and potential amnesty for penitent Boko Haram members.

He said rather than take this step, the nation has been treated to series of government inaction and indiscriminate use of force, which culminated in the declaration of a state of emergency in three states.


“The Jonathan government set up a special Committee on Boko Haram and Security matters, but sadly before they could perform, he declared State of Emergency in three Northern states: Yobe, Borno and Adamawa.

“This is symptomatic of a confused leadership. If there is security in this jumbled policy, neither I nor the majority of Nigerians can find it!”

To the fomer Lagos governor, if Nigeria is to mature as a democracy, its electoral system must be improved. He decried the fact that those who control the system manipulate elections with such impunity that they now see misconduct without sanction as a normal way of life.


Said he: “Look at the recent controversy surrounding election of the Nigerian Governors Forum (NGF) chairman… A group comprising all the nations’ governors could not even conduct a simple 35-person election without a disputed outcome.

“With this recent experience, I fear the length those in power would go and the means they would employ to manipulate results when the battleground is the entire nation and the stakes are the general elections in 2015.

“The NGF debacle symbolises a disdain for democracy and the popular will. If we are to save Nigeria, we must rescue the electoral process from its abusers,” Tinubu said.

In his view, a great philosophical gulf separates the government from the progressives. “This current Nigerian government is a retrogressive one. Much of what they claim as growth is but the harsh redistribution of wealth from the bottom to the top. The bottom gets squeezed while the top expands. They are serving us the salad of corruption.

“They consume our today and squander the nation’s tomorrow. For 14 years, the PDP-led government cannot turn anything around. A new leadership is required to put a stop to this.”

Tinubu criticised Nigeria’s economic policies, saying the economy is being reconstructed “as an oasis for a small few and a stark desert for the many” while the government pretends to endorse the same budget-cutting austerity policies as much of Europe.

“We are not Europe; we are a Third World economy. That these policies have failed in European nations with higher standards of living than Nigeria gives our leaders no concern.”

Tinubu said the people live in dire straits, yet the government would rather waste the money than spend it on public benefit because they do not believe the people deserve it.

He said the progressives would bring pragmatic solution to the country’s woes because in their approach to the political economy, they do not rely on textbook answers as they do not “live in textbooks.

He said: “We live in the real world and thus seek answers from real world experiences. Here is a real world fact: No large nation has ever attained sustained growth without government running budget deficits to build the required infrastructure and without other government policies promoting development of the key industries that would become the spine of national development.

“Here is another such fact: No populous nation ever attains prosperity solely by extracting its raw material to exchange them for the finished goods of other large nations. We must industrialise and diversify our economy

“It is for this reason – to save the nation from the stranglehold of permanent poverty and poor governance – that the members of the progressive opposition political parties have decided to put aside personal ambition (including my own ambition) to form a new party, the All Progressives Congress (APC). We do this because Nigeria has entered a critical state of economic depression.”

According to Tinubu, because of the unfair nature of the electoral processes and the gross imbalance of its political economy, the people have been props in a drama for which they should have been the main characters. “We must change this,” he said.

He said the progressives must move Nigeria away from a place where the whims and narrow wishes of self-centered reactionary elite dictate the fate of over 150 million people.

“On our side, we will take our chances with a free and fair election, for we shall offer the people an innovative programme consisting of a national industrial policy that includes radical infrastructural development and employment targets,” he said.

The former Lagos governor spoke of “the Glorious Nigerian Revolution”, which he said has nothing to do with force of arms.

His words: “The Revolution of which I speak has two major parts. First, is the peaceful conversion of our quasi-democracy into a full-fledged one. Second, is the implementation of policies turning the political economy away from its retrogressive, elitist bearings.

“We seek policies pointing in a progressive direction affording the average person a chance at a dignified life. This will be through the provision of gainful employment, quality education and essential social services for those who need the helping hand of government to survive.

“I see no shame in believing progressive government can improve the political economy and the lives of the people.”

Man who could not sacrifice his Easter trip to Lagos for Jos has spoken....

'This Experience Will Not Repeat Itself', Tinubu Assures Victims Of Jos Killings

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t-e4yDIUsmQ


00:00
Please be seated. Eh, you have no light at the airport and I have to fly back within the next 10 minutes. To you leaders, I've had this. To the victim, there is nothing I can give you whether money in billions but console you and promise you that this experience will not repeat itself. I take uh for example Favor Roda. I know the pain. I see how on the video you head on to Ayuba and the pain and agony in your heart. But it is only God. It's only God [clears throat] who can give you joy and comfort. No amount of money can pay all of you back. Yes, as government, we will try our best to comfort you, to walk with you. The best solution is for Jos to be just the one that people like us grew up to know.


02:19
Please have your seat. I salute all of you leaders, but I've had the experience of the past. Why is the past not a source of lesson for us? I've listened to Jang. I've listened to Washington. I've listened to Nacho (omo AI Nacho ke , you need to always verify things yourself, that's why I left this bomb in the post, don't depend on people to do everything for you, trust but verify). I've listened to the governor. Governor, you and I were elected on a promise of peace and prosperity, not to comfort and create widows and widowers. To bring prosperity as a promise, to bring inclusiveness as a government, to share the hope and aspiration of everyone to lead our youths and if they are represented here, let me give this assurance. I don't want to be here commenurating and consoling.


04:41
I want to be here to establish peace. leaders who have received us, who had accommodated us politically. I brought the symbol of this cap to break the shackle. Shackle of violence, shackle of ignorance, shackle of poverty, shackle of hopelessness. We must break it together. I thank the men and women of the armed forces particularly the police for what they are doing and what they about to do. You must on earth and find the killers. I'm glad I here. I'm glad COAS is here too. Chief of Army Staff. I'm glad the minister of defense is here. Our dear leaders, I have been to Jos, I have enjoyed Jos in those days of peace.

06:30
We've had our political activities here. I'm glad you are still alive. We thank God for you and many of you. Thank you. I used to point to your house where we spend the night where the leaders both the leaders of our politics, where I was active as a young man. You accommodated us. You open your doors for us. Then why do we build a division? Our promise then was progressive development, improve standard of living for our people. Not to bury but to develop. Immediately we return to Abuja. The committee has mentioned you increased the number of leaders including Natawi, the governor and the minister of humanitarian affairs.


08:01
The minister, thank you. Come see me. Take numeric analysis. You are a data person. For the victims, let's see what we can do for their losses. We cannot replace a human beings. But whatever we do to give them minimum comfort, we will. Thank you Bosani the honorable minister for communication is here to give you assurance we are going to install immediately a network of camera >> [applause] >> That will help the law enforcement agencies to identify the troublemakers instantly. [applause] over 5,000 job network Bosun you can use time and give the assurance because the time is flying, if I keep talking, we will miss our way and you don't have accommodation for us>> [applause] [cheering]


Talmabout sacrifice 🤡

At the rate this parties are going, they will soon start going to Okija Shrine to swear that they won't sabotage their parties.

Hahaha. You are putting your mouth in wetin no consain you.

While last election was "won" by going to court, they have already schemed methods of winning this next one through technicalities. The chairman said something you should pay attention to. Even if ADC wins, we will give the medal to Morocco and take it away from Senegal

Mariangeles:
If it's not generally acceptable, no.

You may like it or not but I would rather a man who marries women in a polygamy than date women in form of a polygamy. What does that mean? If you are a man, marry that girl! Be a man. Your children, feed them. Feed your family. Don't play polygamy games while pretending to be monogamous. Don't be a coward. Many a men, rich men, poor men who live a monogamous life and we find out the side chick and her kids from the will of the lawyer. Cowardice.

Whether society likes it or Mariangeles doesn't it does not matter to me as long as you are a responsible person. Damn what society will say when you have your own home to run. Be a man.

Mariangeles:
That which is approved according to God and man.

Which is monogamy right?
Okay let me concede to you for the sake of arguments. If you grow up in a society where it is polygamy, is that right or wrong? E.g I am a Mormon, I can marry more than 1 wife. Is that right?

Mariangeles:
I'm saying we should do it right, or not do it at all.

What is right?