₦airaland Forum

Mastadestiny:
Masturbation is good. It has helped me a lot, I've not suffered one out of many problems listed by the op. I've been in the act for over 25 years.
In fact I recommend it for single guys.

Fharahyiola:
Some people say kitchen design is all about beauty, others say it’s functionality first.
Which side are you on?

AllBlack:
Red is a very emotionally and intense color
It enhances human metabolism, increases respiration rate and raises blood pressure.
It has a very high visibility, which is why stop signs, Stop lights, and fire equipments are usually painted red.

More than 50% will press the RED button.

I will press RED too. But I prefer the button that ends the world.

billionman:
I'll hit the blue button cos red signals danger and everyone will tend to avoid it psychologically. I believe that psychology will make more than 50% choose the blue button.

SixSeven:
I see people's insecurities in their comments. Some even say ex is ex like it's war. There are some exes you've even built family relationships with. Life is not that hard but I understand people are different. I don't believe in force of love. If s/he will leave you, they will and if they ditch you for the ex, God riddance, they lack the self restraint. You shouldn't beg for love. Love yourself first.

Kobicove:
If that happens then you're the one who has a problem - you lack restraint

DatNiggaDaz:


Another snatched effort in futility. Wike has failed. This one will still fail

Data boiz rest. Where are the faaake achievement of the faaake certttifficcate hollldderr

SuperEagles:
How is that related to Peter Obi looting Anambra tondeath. Is lagos complaining of not being able to afford what Tinubu asked.

A worker that worked to increase you revenue from 500 million to over a trillion today deserve much more than Tinubu asked for unlike Obi that added nothing to the well being of Anambra but instead left the state in tatters n to armed ribbers n kidnappers.

Moneyyman:
Nigerians don't even understand the impact of that fraudulent Electoral Act they allowed the senate to adopt.

Let me explain.

The Act now empowers governors to single-handedly choose the candidates that runs for any position from their party.

I know governors have always had some influence over that, but that Act makes it almost 100% now.

THIS IS THE END OF DEMOCRACY IN NIGERIA!

THE VERY END!!

THE END!!!


It means that governors get to decide who is platformed. There likely won't be primaries, and any primaries would be a sham. That means Nigerians can only vote for whoever these governors choose.

Your will as a citizen cannot be expressed fully. You can only vote along certain lines. This is not democracy at all!

ncoolsome:
No matter how we want to see it no opposition has been choked to the level APC has...

correctguy101:
Na so.

That was how Mary got pregnant for her married ex.

Many would form maturity and later secretly get back together.

Old flame matters, you think na joke?

Fiscus105:
Oh, you even know you can catch rekindle feelings? Keep it up.

Mariangeles:
What is the rationale behind people inviting their ex to their wedding?
Do they do that with the knowledge/consent of the person they're marrying?
It doesn't make sense.

You don't have to prove anything by going to your ex's wedding.
No hard feelings.

SonOfWords:
That NURTW ticket officer up there say na "another egghead"😂.

No be only egghead, na conical head.

SixSeven:
Aside Obi and Kwankwanso, no other politician has been able to prove themselves ALONE outside the establishment.

Repost👇

Obi has the brightest chance going by the last election result followed by Kwankwanso. I choose these two because they left PDP and did not have the structure of the regular party, which Atiku benefitted from using the PDP platform. You also have to look at the time they had to test themselves between the election primaries and election.

If you want to know what that means, Ribadu ran the Presidential election in 2011 under AC and failed with that party structure. Obi and Kwankwanso have been able to test their popularity as candidates outside the regular establishments and done well. Both had no Governors in their party before contesting and pulled a good number in the last election. Buhari used his CPC to bargain with AC to get the Presidential slot in APC. Buhari could say whether he used ANPP or CPC, he could gather votes. I'm not so sure Atiku can do that. He was a presidential candidate of the Action Congress in the 2007 presidential election coming in third to Umaru Yar'Adua of the PDP and Muhammadu Buhari of the ANPP. Atiku came a distant third in that election with less than 10% of the votes.


Obi and Saraki/Kwankwanso

A Saraki will be a difficult campaign for APC that has defaulted to using tribes against themselves. Saraki ticks two boxes of Yoruba/North Central who have been looking for relevance since Gowon.

Here is the stats of the declared winners since 1999. Mr Bola Ahmed tinubu was not a popular president elect

Here is the brief, factual list of Nigeria’s presidential election winners since 1999, including each winner’s name and the percentage of valid votes they received.

1999 – Olusegun Obasanjo: about 62.78% of valid votes.

2003 – Olusegun Obasanjo: about 61.94% of valid votes.

2007 – Umaru Musa Yar’Adua: about 69.60% of valid votes.

2011 – Goodluck Jonathan: about 58.87% of valid votes.

2015 – Muhammadu Buhari: about 53.96% of valid votes.

2019 – Muhammadu Buhari: about 55.60% of valid votes.

2023 – Bola Ahmed tinubu: about 36.6–37% of valid votes.


A United opposition will defeat tinubu before the election begins. With a wiiiiiiiiiiiiiide margin. There is no need to argue about that.

Fact: Tinubu remains the most unpopular president to have won the Presidential elections. He is the easiest to kick out. Back then, PDP told AC, CPC and opposition parties when they were reigning that to kick us out, you need to unite as opposition. That's what they learned in 2015.

WizardOfNG:
Well-said. The guy does not even know how to reason intelligently yet touts himself the leadership solution for Nigeria that has old and young people , different religions and literally hundreds of ethnic groups.

What is the age of leaders of most nations of the world ?

Eg USA, China, Indian, Russia etal? Only foolish and unexposed Nigerians, because such is the norm in our nation full of bigot, think age discrimination is cool and the "old goons" should be rounded up to then be dumped in the Atlantic ocean.

Most Nigerians don't understand that discrimination of any kind (against age, race or gender for example) is wrong because of our bigoted obsession with identifying a demographic to demonise and blame for the problem of Nigeria.

yesloaded:
Another policy to frustrate Nigerians si they won't have time to concentrate on happenings in Nigeria

Service providers sell people's number anyhow in the name of recycling

One device yen yen yen

Maybe we should unlink numbers from BVN and let our BVN remained without numbers

Dshocker:
One of worst mistake one would ever make picking a wife, is by choosing her because she has a phat ass, big boobs, or because she has beautiful face, your regret would be televised on 3D TV.

UnknownQueen:
What do you think is the biggest mistake women make before getting married?

Tenrack:
Title please

Tenrack:
women fantasize about romance but only as the receptor of the gestures. Very wicked, selfish and ruthless gender. I wish I knew more bout their conniving nature earlier. When I see a woman, first thing that comes to my mind is, how diabolical is this one?

thatigboman:
There's already a leak of the judgement. That supreme court say the matter should be referred back to high court

Hezzyluv:
This man no dey seriously serious. Just imagine what's coming out from the mouth of the man wey no allow Jonathan drink water keep cup.

The same insecurity caused by Tinubu, Buhari and sundry just to rubbish PDP couldn't be stopped by APC now.

SixSeven:
You have a good observation but don't forget that India has the largest population on earth. It's like someone saying don't take financial advice from Nigerians because....

Now, to the point in the passage. You know our marriages in the past were not based on love? Marriage was based on sustenance and it needed a man and woman to help us manage it and they give birth to go on and on like that. I believe there should be affection but the love nwatiti thing is not entirely ours. We believe that selecting a good family for you itself is love and you grow into it. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that system is perfect but look at what we have today. It's why they are now saying love is blind, marriage is the eye opener.

Maybe the couple should be blind first and then open their eyes to love later

SixSeven:
Marriage Is Not an Achievement But Responsibility Is
Many young people now reject marriage as a measure of success, and they are not wrong. Marriage by itself is not an achievement but it is a social structure. Now let me educate them a bit, what deserves closer attention is not your rejection of the idea of marriage, but the growing discomfort with responsibility that often accompanies it.

In African philosophy, a human being is measured largely by character. Achievement lies in the ability to act with restraint, care, and accountability. Marriage without these qualities is empty and freedom without them is destructive.

Sex has never been treated as morally neutral in any serious society. This is not because desire is evil and we are not biological people but because sex carries consequences. It creates emotional bonds, social expectations, and the possibility of children. A culture that treats sex as casual while demanding stable outcomes is not enlightened. It is inconsistent with social order and you can see the results today. One guy is always writing on his posts here on NL that the only advice he has for men is to conduct DNA.

For women, sexual fidelity was historically preserved to protect clear lines of responsibility but the ones who think they have opened eyes said it was for control. In a world without DNA testing, fidelity ensured that motherhood, paternity, and inheritance were socially legible. It allowed men to be held accountable and children to know where they belonged. Sexual norms were less about purity and more about responsibility. This did not mean women alone bore moral burden. Female sexual discipline made sense only in societies that demanded male duty in return. When restraint was expected of women but responsibility was optional for men, the moral logic broke.

Motherhood, like fatherhood, is more than biology. To bring life into the world is to accept obligation. The woman who nurtures, guides, and forms character performs one of the most demanding social roles that exists. A society that dismisses this labor while celebrating autonomy misunderstands freedom.
The family unit matters not just because it is traditional, but because it works. It is the foundation to society. It is the first place where limits are learned, where care becomes habitual, and where responsibility becomes personal. When family structures weaken, the cost of this weakness does not go away as people think it will fizzle out. It reappears in institutions asked to do what homes once did. There was a reason we said a community raises a child and why our proverbs talk about family and lineage. For so many years, the West tried to break our hegemony, they wanted us to leave our values and ethics and be like them while secretly admiring our foundation and structure. Thank God many people have japa now, they can now see the difference between oyinbo life and our society where each child is everyone's child but unfortunately when they go back home, alas even the people back home want to be like the oyinbo man without knowing it's a sad life disconnected from our roots as a people.

Young people are not wrong to question marriage. They are right to question hollow traditions. What must be reconsidered is not marriage as a trophy, but responsibility as a value.


Sexual freedom without accountability is not progress. Fidelity without mutual obligation is not justice.

I am happy this generation is sleeping anyhow and anywhere with anyone they like. When the chicken comes home to roost, you will then appreciate the wisdom of your forefathers and mothers in preserving the institution called marriage and why society needs order, accountability and responsibility. It is what we call you go see for yourself. When you are young you question many things but with age you start to understand many things too. Your parents got married because it was a sign of responsibility. Some people asked why the opinion of a married person was more important than that of an unmarried person. Those who maintained this tradition knew that it takes a special person to live with another wo/man as husband/wife and still be normal. That's why in the past, for politicians, they used to yab themselves if anyone of them had family issues that "you that cannot take care of your home wants to take care of our country".



Marriage is a school.
Freedom is a mirage.
Marriage is not an achievement.
Becoming a responsible adult is.