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Telling a lady that " i love her"...love doesn't exist.

AccidentedCars:
You will find love without money, but only when you're a boy. When you become a man, that grace is taken from you.

There's a level of affection you will NEVER experience, even from good women, if you can't afford a basic, livable income.

I am not even referring to sending money in its monetary form. I mean just the things that make life easier to go through.

My partner had a job interview in another city last year. Not a local thing – a real opportunity, the kind that could shift her career.

The interview was at 9 AM on a Monday.

She told me about it on Thursday evening.

By Friday morning, I had booked her a bus ticket for Sunday, reserved a decent hotel room near the venue so she wouldn't be scrambling on Monday morning, and sent her money for a new blouse because the one she planned to wear had a pulled thread she hadn't noticed.

She did her prep on Saturday. I sat on a video call with her for nearly 3 hours while she practiced her answers. Not because she asked – because I knew she was nervous and wouldn't say it.

Sunday evening she got to the city. She called me from the hotel room.

"Babe, it's clean. There's hot water. I feel like a human being."

That sentence hit me differently.

"I feel like a human being."

The bus ticket, the hotel, the blouse – maybe ₦85,000 total. Not a fortune. But it was the difference between her showing up stressed, underprepared, and exhausted from an overnight bus… and showing up rested, sharp, and confident.

She got the role.

This isn't a one-off. This is just what being present looks like when you can afford to be.

I keep a stocked kitchen whenever she's around. Not fancy things – eggs, bread, rice, the basics. But ALWAYS stocked. Because "there's nothing at home" is a sentence I don't allow in my house.

I handle data and subscriptions without being asked. Netflix, the Wi-Fi router, her Spotify. Small things. Maybe ₦15,000 a month combined. But she never has to think about them. That's the point.

I can't stand the heat. I physically cannot function when it's 35 degrees inside. So if I can't take it, how can I let her sit in it? That's fuel money. Every single day when there's no grid power. 5 to 7 litres. Daily. Especially when she's staying over.

We don't do "let's manage." We don't trek to places. It's always a cab or a keke at minimum.

That's not luxury. That's what I consider basic.

Add it up over a year:

Fuel for the generator. Transport every weekend. Groceries restocked every week. Subscriptions renewed every month. Random needs – a drug she needs at midnight, airtime when her line runs out during something important, data when she's on deadline.

That sums up to well over 2 million naira each year. And I'm not talking about MONEY sent as money. I am just referring to basic convenience.

The things that make a woman feel like she's with someone who has capacity. Not wealth. CAPACITY.

Your best bet as a young man is waiting until you're certain that love is ALREADY present before following through with generosity.

So yes, you can find love without money.

But there's a level of love you cannot preserve without financial stability, not because your partner is a bad girl, but simply because this is the fucking planet, and the nuances that make life beautiful, or at least livable, are expensive.

In summary, you'll find love without money as I did all through the years when I was a boy.

That grace is removed when you become a man.

This is why you don't have a car yet but jumping cab and keke. You spend almost all your earnings on a lady you are not married to and expect to be called a "big guy"? Bros wake up abeg and better your life first. What you narrated here no make sense.
BTW,how much do you give your parents and siblings?

BigYash:
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Girl when go get head ,you can spot it from phone conversation already.

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captaing59:
People who are ill and who see things that are not really there (hallucination) should seek immediate medical attention so that they would not believe that people born of a father and mother (biological men and women) are from same sex marriages.


This reply is for the smart discerning people

Many are mad,but few are typing.....

Chilota2:
Sha looking for something that will bring him back to the time line. Nonsense!

Is Ycee making sense? Yes!
Are you making sense? Not at all...He is talking to empty barrells

Hit me first as a woman and I will make sure you are hospitalized....direct!

Hit me first as a woman and I will make sure you are hospitalized.

Arrowhead71:
Please if you have Iran number...kindly tell them to send only one missile to Israel today and see wo i will be blown up in furious anger between your Iran and Israel ....
But I doubt your Iran get that leaver to try it

"First cut is the deepest"...ever heard that song?
Second best don't matter

Ewedegubbler:
If not for Trump and his greedy scumbag envoys who are more interested in mercantilism, Israel wouldve wiped the floor with the Iranians In june.

Yet it was the so called "super power " nation which begged for a cease fire after countless negotiation dead ends? You ought to know better

Abeg make Iran blow up this bloody nation called Isreal...

Sorry Ghana...no place like home Welcome back to Africa

helinues:
A goat that refused to respect himself.

Would the Nigerians he is fighting for will still vote for him in 2027?

Crying shouldn't make one to be blind

Vs a goat that refuses to acknowledge Sowore as a necessary tool for accountable democracy.

Cool service.

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spiceadole:
I'm sorry.. I'm married with 3 children

Oh great! God bless your home and family.

spiceadole:
If as a single lady, you are allowing a man who is not your husband to sleep with you, you will bear the consequences of all your waywardness alone.
The smart ones will insist on condoms.
The ones with little sense left will end the relationship after one abortion.
But fools will stay back and continue getting pregnant and aborting until nothing is left in their self esteem.
Of course, the guy man will dump them.

When some of us frown at premarital sex,they will say we are pretenders,we are old school..we don't have sex skills,we are not testing sexual compatibility,etc
All are lies that people manufacture just to justify immorality.
Men will mess you up wetin no good if you don't learn to close your legs and stop rubbishing yourself.

wisdom!!
I like your reasoning...Are you single and ready to mingle with the right man?
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malali:
Once Israeli Jewish Zionists went after him, I knew he wouldn't survive.

His crime, he refused to support the ongoing Gaza massacre of children.

They fought him doggedly, but he stood his grounds.

First they attacked members of his cabinet viciously:

Angela Rayner — Deputy Prime Minister (2025)
John Healey — Defence Secretary (2026)
Peter Mandelson — UK Ambassador to the US (2025)

If you wonder why Donald Trump is also acting the way he currently is, here lies your answer. They have him by the balls with blackmail.

Oil dey your head!

Afrah04:
a physically and mentally lazy man, that shows in his finances too, that's a poor man.

Exactly where your father is found...No wonder you are unapologetically desperate financially

ColdHunter:
This OPs situation is quite a pathetic one. Living in denial must be a painful way to live.

That said, when US resumes pounding them, no one should cry genocide.

Abi na US dem pound to negotiation?

I honestly hope it's true for the needless war to end.

Afrah04:
Well I never said am in love with my neighbor, I said sexually attracted. Go back to school.

Honestly there will be no need insulting a child like you whose life is already a mess at just 20years.

Afrah04:
I've always been big on not dating someone living close to me, either neighbor or even coursemates, but guys this dude . I don't know if it's ovulation konji or smtin else... He's so mysterious, calm and collected, often tries to say hi..... I just want a steamy session even if it's once fr. I nursed that thought until some weeks back I overheard him saying girls that are easy to get are loose; in this time and age what is wrong for two adults to have real sexual connections without hiding under the guise of relationship? Anyways av recollected my feelings.

Do hookup artists fall in love?

Afrah04:
first option

Then you should stop saying you like older men because as far as I know.. your type is a dangerous oppurtunist... Your financial incapability is the driving force and your greed for excessive comfort will be your albatross.

Afrah04:
This man avoid me, I know you not 😌

This is the sort of attraction your posts will bring so entertain it.

Afrah04:
if you say so, then

Are you looking for older men to service in exchange for money?
Or looking to find, love and keep one man?