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Ironfaceman:
The finals showed that Argentina was being helped by Fifa all along

The possession and attack from the Spain was massive.

Yamal joins Mbappe in the league of teenagers who won the world cup

Messi can still win Ballon Dior though.

you lack basic sense...how did FIFA help argentina?

AccidentedCars:
This will offend a lot of people.

But the men who are actually winning at life and relationships know exactly what I'm about to say.

Love is not a business strategy.

And marriage, whether you like it or not, is a business.

Two people merging finances. Sharing rent. Splitting decisions about schools, food, healthcare, family obligations, career moves.

That's a partnership. A merger. A joint venture.

And you would NEVER enter a joint venture with someone based purely on how they make you feel when the room is dark and the music is playing.

Yet that's exactly how most Nigerian men choose wives.

"I love her."

Great. Does she have a skill? A source of income? A plan? Can she manage money? Does she understand that ₦200,000 in Abuja in 2026 disappears before the month ends?

"I love her."

Okay. What happens when you lose your job? When the contract ends? When business goes dry for 3 months?

Does she have something she can activate to hold the house down while you recover? Or is the plan just "God will provide"?

"I love her."

I hear you. I loved someone once.

Let me tell you what happened.

I was with a girl for over a year. Beautiful girl. Kind heart. The type of person who would give you her last meal if you asked.

But she had no skill. No trade. No income. No hustle.

Her entire economic identity was ME.

When I was making money, we were fine. The house was good. Groceries were stocked. Fuel was in the generator. Life was beautiful.

Then I had a bad quarter. Two deals fell through. Cash flow dried up for about 6 weeks.

I didn't go broke. I had savings. But things got tight.

And the MOMENT things got tight, I realized something terrifying:

I was carrying two lives on one back.

Not because she was lazy. She wasn't. She was willing to do anything.

But "willing" and "able" are two different words.

She didn't have a skill that someone would pay for. She didn't have a network she could leverage. She didn't have a side hustle she could activate during emergencies.

She had willingness. Which is useless without capability.

Those 6 weeks nearly broke the relationship. Not because of fighting. Because of WEIGHT.

I felt heavy. Every morning. Like I was wearing a suit made of concrete.

Because I knew that if I didn't figure something out fast, two people would suffer, not one.

After that experience, I made a decision.

The next woman I commit to must bring something to the table that isn't love.

Love is the MINIMUM. Not the qualification.

The qualification is: can you hold this house down if I fall?

Here's what that looks like in practice.

I have a friend. Let's call him T.

T married a woman who runs a small skincare business from Instagram. She makes about ₦300,000 to ₦450,000 a month. Not massive. But consistent.

Last year, T's business hit a wall. A major client defaulted. He lost about ₦4 million in receivables over 3 months.

Most men in that situation would spiral. Borrow money. Take on bad deals out of desperation. Fight with their wives about expenses.

T didn't do any of that.

Because his wife's ₦300k-₦450k per month covered the essentials. Rent was already paid. She handled groceries. She handled the children's school runs. She handled utilities.

T had SPACE. Space to think. Space to restructure. Space to recover without destroying himself.

By the fourth month, he'd landed a new contract. Bigger than the one he lost.

He told me later:

"If I'd married the girl I was 'in love with' at 25 instead of the woman I chose at 30, I would have been finished. Because that girl at 25 had nothing but vibes. This woman at 30 had a business."

That's the difference.

A wife with a skill is not an insult to your masculinity. It's insurance for your household.

A wife who can hold things together during your worst quarter is worth more than a wife who looks perfect during your best year.

Now, someone will read this and say:

"So you don't believe in love?"

I believe in love the way I believe in fuel. Fuel is necessary. You can't drive without it.

But fuel without an engine is just liquid sitting in a jerry can.

Love without utility is just feelings sitting in a relationship going nowhere.

I want both. The love AND the engine.

But if you make me choose, I'm choosing the engine.

Because the engine can take me somewhere even when the fuel is low.

Feelings can't do that.

I'm in a better place now financially. I made 1.2 million from a single deal last month. Took about 4 hours of real work spread across a few weeks. The rest was waiting.

But I remember those 6 weeks when cash was tight. And I will NEVER put myself in a position where my household has one engine again.

Two incomes. Two skill sets. Two people who can carry the weight.

That's architecture.

Build a house with two pillars, not one.

So you get sense like this?
Not that your other topic about how you simp for your woman
I won't even date a woman who doesn't have her own car....

Krisuba:
Look who is speaking? That year. That Nigeria beat Argentina without messing and match wars refined and Argentina came with meessi and trasshh naijjaa wwaasss it ojjoro?

which kind of school una dey go sef to dey fit write this incomprehensible jargons

Sonnobax15:

Hehehe.

What a record. A very funny one indeed.

Not even our super eagles can be tamed like how Argentina was tamed yesterday . To the extent that Messi was begging for Cucurela to be sent off by covering his mouth with style . Last night final really exposed the fraud and equally restored peace back to the world at large

which fraud? Go and sit down..Spain was just lucky simple!

FlyingDragon1:
Foreign used 2012 Toyota camry Sport V6 13.5M
Full option with thumb start
Date of entry : May 2026
Call/ Whatsapp: 09076258745

This looks really nice..what's your best price?

Fkehinde:
Registered Toyota Rav4
2008 model
Flash on firstbody
4plug engine
Very sharp body and interior
Engine perfect
Gear perfect
Ac need attention
Buy and drive condition
Price 4.5m to owner
Settlement 200k
Location Surulere Lagos

08162000413

looks like the right hand drive converted to left hand from China.

dominique:
The photos look AI-ish


more characters needed

username sounds akwu...na...ish.

Up Argentina!!

WatchYourSix:
What in the flying fvck is across the bridge??

Na you no sharp.. across the bridge means the "eastern region"

brain54:
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On what basics?


Guy rest. Excecise is important no doubt. Especially for fitness. But no matter the level the exercise and work out, it's irrelevant if the gene pool isn't excellent.


Good gene pool is the foundation on which you can build anything else. You can spend all your life in the gene and still look awkward.


That's why you have some 20 year olds looking 50 and some 50 year olds looking 26. It's not the gym basically but the gene.


If the gene is good you are probably good to go with very little or even absolutely no effort.


Stop arguing with me.


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Go take out the trash boy ....it's almost noon.

brain54:
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So you think in your mind's eye only physical discipline and good genes has no role to play at her looking like this at 55. Na she dey work out pass na.


Maybe she is Jonny worker and spent all her 55 years in the gym.


Dedicated curve exercises ... nothing person no go hear for NL.


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If i post my picture now some small uncouth boys with poor reasoning ability will say i have good genes

brain54:
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She has good genes.

Happy birthday to her and all my fellow July borns.


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she works out right from time...it is called "physical discipline" not "good genes" so give it to her because those curves are only possible through dedicated excersice.

nairavsdollars:
Old mama youngi. Happy birthday Kate

I bet she looks better than you even at 55

Love800:
Wow.

That is nice.
Appreciate.

Thanks I appreciate 🙏..

techbro1:
Having sold cars over the years, some customers never come back for their number plates. Many have left the country too making them have no use for these items.

These plates are everywhere in my house and I have no use for them anymore. Is there a way to recycle the plates or can they be sold back to the licensing office?

what happened to the vehicles bearing them?
Except a vehicle was butchered for parts how did you get them?

This girl can't be a virgin...No way!!

pocohantas:
No, I didn't.
I learned handwork.

Oh great!

pocohantas:
What is first choice? Years ago I wanted to attend UNN as my first choice. In 2026 I wouldn't choose any public university. So first choice can change over time and can be replicated to even be better. I think the topic here is many didn't marry someone they are genuinely attracted to.

Were you finally able to attend the university?

I am interested! Keep your ten million...just have two kids for me.

RandDigital come o..no be you be that so?
Chai! Poor south Africans going back to slavery below the white population soon

Image123:
Have you heard of the word investigation? Has anyone ever died around you?

Your question is totally baseless...it's either you rephrase it or you scram!!!!

VenExchangee:
I see nothing here, the dead also enjoyed from other people's own...

So it must go on...
E be like osusu, them don contribute for her, na time for her to contribute for another person

Don't mind those ones making noise..even the church that will officiate things will bring their own list too.

SatanIsAllah:
Russia's population is 140 million, Ukraine's is less than 30 million.
Can't Putin pick on someone his own size or is he a coward?

Don't blame Putin,blame that Ukrainian clown turned president for not knowing his mate ... zelensky

So how was Umahi priviledged to be around her when talking to her boyfriend ?
Was she disrespectful enough to pick a phone call in front of her principal client or was there a clandestine affair keeping them close off duty?

Love800:
What do mean by you are a very talented mechanic?

I learnt to fix japanese and eurpean cars as a mechanic apprentice before going to the university

Sonofgod1990:
That how someone took advantage of me and defrauded me about $300,000 on this nairaland. My kindness Sha

As na mumu you be na ...kind full

This guy is cooked!

flexyrule:
AI-generated bullshit!

Nigerian Mechanics are quacks and frauds.

There's nothing wrong with these brands. People still drive them without having any issues.

Thank you! Finally a sane driver with real time experience