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[quote author=Ich_el]Who is nwabueze plz[/quote]your government teacher in school.

nissparts: Some parts will be difficult to reach.
E.g ECU (Brain-box)

What do you mean sir, can you elaborate? I haven't had any ECU problem with mine though, all I have been doing is regular change of oil, brake pads, tyres etc.

Xtrail is not bad at all, I dont know much about the technicality of cars but I have been driving mine since 2010 March. No issues till date. Electrical components more complex than toyota Rav4 old model, apart from that they are in the same category. Parts are plenty in Lagos, N700k is not low for a used one now or hasn't the woman used it in Nigeria? I bought mine as Niger used from a pastor who bought it brand new. My man, its a good buy, go for it if you confirm its good. Xtrail is not popular in naija becos it is not used in USA. You know our "American spec" mentality now.....

[quote author=wwwkaycom]Please Gurus in the house, can someone tell me the authenticity of this product which is seriously gaining popularity in many parts of Nigeria. The distributors claimed that the product improves engine efficiency and fuel economy. Can people who know about it tell me how true this is? I want better fuel economy even though my cars are not performing badly at the moment but I am afraid of pouring anything in my fuel tank, thank you all.[/quote]I have seen this product too. They say its from the US. Ogas in the house, pls help

Methink it is better for the shoeless Jonathan to avoid making a speech the way he did than to release some of his grammatical bullets/missiles to the rest of the continent of Africa, leave Jona alone, "Temi Yemi".....

abeg my man, the pastors we get for the churches today na yje real "ogas at the top" o, servant ke? you think say na Apostle Paul we dey talk about?
Many of them be tin god these days o......

Oluwarotimi Chibuke Amaechi of course, Jonah Jang, though an old man, will be a stooge of the clueless one and to this I say NO.

Mustay: What about her mum? She seems to be 'reasonable' from your post.

Running to another state to me is a lame way of facing your problems. Your wife seems immature and unwilling to learn from previous experiences - she ought to have covered her father family's shame. Is the the only child? What does the dad do for a living? Does she prefer to kill the marriage because her godfather's demands aren't met?

Why can't she donate her money towards the family whilst you take care of the home front? It seems she isn't even willing to sacrifice or compromise which was why I mentioned immaturity.

MILs( management of in-lawd) takes two to tango.

As much as I agree with professionals being what the term represents, I also know counselling is one of them but exposing the confidentiality of your client is *%$@$(!!!

Please face your problems squarely. Someone needs to moderate a talk with her family especially her dad and your wife needs to see a counsellor to know her responsibilities as a wife, her rights as a wife and where they stop too!

the mother is considerate and reasonable to some extent but she is always trying to avoid having problem with her husband. She maintains her silence instead of talking sence to Biola especially. Biola's father retired from the prison service as a carpenter in 2006. She is 3rd in the family. The eldest is a woman, married also but seems to have kept her distance from her dad. I have heard my father-inlaw abusing her and her husband in my presence on two occassions. Biola don't listen to her sister's wise counsel at all. Her elder brother resides in PH hustling to make ends meet, he doesnt seem to be interested in Biola's issue at all. He once told me that I really have to work hard to help his sister by separating her from his father, this has turned out to be a very difficult task for me. Can you see my life? She is running from pillar to post now, my aunt called me few minutes ago telling me that Biola came to meet her in her church today and that she is with her at Ado-Ekiti right now. Her uncle, a pastor whose advise she has never taken for once is now making effort to see my boss/employer so that he can prevail on me. My boss has intervened in our squabbles twice in the past and I remember the last time she went to report me to him that he (my boss) told her she is pushing our marriage toward the rock, she never listened to him. Can you see my life? My colleagues and even juniors at work has all become my emergency marriage councellors since Biola has announced me publicly like an 8 day old baby as the yorubas will say. That's one of the reason why I sought transfer to Benin, because many pretended to care buy are actually making jest of me. I cant walk tall as other hapilly married couples do in the church, do you know that Biola once insulted an elderly woman, a marriage councellor in the church for giving her a sincere counsel? The women group who were joining us in prayer for the fruit of the womb have become so cold to me, only few still find time to encourage me. I know it that enough is enough on her. Thank you all for your contributions, I am carefully studying every suggestion, God bless you all.

@all, thanks so much for your concerns. Yes I blame myself for being so naive, for being too simple, for being foolish. I was carried away by love, beauty and those fake "spirituality display" by students in higher institutions. I met her during one of our inter campus fellowship programmes. When she start her problems, there are times that for 3 months, it is difficult to send anything to my old grandma, I lost my mum at 14. My aunt, a primary school teacher in Ekiti who has been so caring and who laboured so much on my education now talks to me only on phone, Biola's attitude has discouraged her from paying me visit. Can you see my ordeal? I have never done anything with a lawyer in my life, someone told me that the one I consulted is a deacon and marriage councellor in his church. As someone said along this thread, the lawyer told me it will be difficult to sail through with the divorce case since "all avenues for reconciliation has not been explored". I don't know why that should be an issue in a marriage like mine. Though I am confused at the moment, I have had enough of Biola and her family. I need a break, I am making effort to seek the opinion of another legal expert next week in Benin. Very grateful for your concerns, cheers!

Dear friends in the house, kindly help me out. I instructed a Lawyer to file divorce for me last month but instead he asked people to plead with me, my office and phone line has now been turned to another thing as a result of the number of people trying to intervene. I met my wife at the Polytechnic, Ado Ekiti in 2007. I was in my final year at UNAD then. We courted for 4 years and got married in 2011. I began to have the thought that I am getting married to the wrong person in 2008 when my fiancee started making unnecessary monetary demands. At that time, I was a youth corper. She will be asking for N10k at a time my total monthly allowee was just N15k. I complained about the habit and she apologised. She later started using style to use her younger sister at FUTA to ask for money, recharge cards and other things which may not really br bad if I were to be working with good pay at that time. I discussed ot with her and she said she is not sure I can really shoulder the responsibilities of marrying her. I wanted to use style to end the relationship but she started begging and sending people to me especially my pastor's wife. She claimed to be testing me. I tried my best for her financially but I knew she wasn't satisfied. After NYSC in 2009, I started teaching in a private school with a pay of N18k , it was complaints all the way, she went for service that year, she finished in 2010. I sat her down to discuss the issues of our life together, she apologized for her past behaviour and promised to get things right. She actually changed and I was impressed. She got a job with a private firm with 40k per month, I was able to secure a job through the father of one of the students I coached for SSCE and JAMB in a private firm 3 months after her own, my pay was then 100k. We started planning for marriage. I was able to get a 2 bedroom for 150k a year, bought an old1996 volkwagen passat from the man who helped me secure the job for 200k, with this I thought marriage should be the next thing. I saved some money and secured a loan from my office coop society, making a total of 550k. I discussed with my fiancee all along. We did introduction, and we later fixed our wedding for December 2011. I asked for engagement list, she brought a list totalling 480k, I became confused, this is someone who knows my financial stand. I told her to plead with her family, she flared up, asking if I thought she was less than human since more than that were spent on some of her friends who had gotten married ealier. I pleaded with her that things will get better, she refused to listen to me, I told to let's postpone the whole thing to 2012. She later came begging again using my pastor's wife, I agreed again, my pastor and his wife sat her down and taught her a lot of things about marriage. We went for the wedding as scheduled for Dec 2011. During our wedding, I saw the other side of her family, I had to hurriedly asked my Aunty to organise food and drinks for my guests, thank God for the little money I left in the bank and gifts from my boss, my office and few friends and relations. They made sure that the food and drinks which I paid for never get to my guests, but my dutiful and experienced Aunty saved the day for me by the grace of God. wedding over, I discussed all these with her and she begged and blamed the devil as usual. That was the beginning of my ordeal in the hands of Biola, the lady that I loved and her family. The father called me and told me how I embarrassed him by initially postponing the wedding, I apologized. He made a list of demands from I and my wife, I tried to explain things to him without success, he told me that his daughter is an investment from which he must make profit, I was shocked at some of the things he said. I discussed with my wife, she took side with her father saying het family is our responsibility. That is not bad if we have the resourses but with 100k (now 130k) per month, their demands will be difficult to meet. Our marriage is now 17 months, it has been one argument or the other. In 17 months, mu wife has never missed her mensural period for once not to talk of being pregnant, that is not an issue as long as her family's demand are met. I have been spending heavily on fertility tests since we clocked 6 months in marriage, I decided to stop it last march. Her father continues to threathen fire and brimstone each time his financial needs are not met, she become sentimental each time I pick up issues with her saying I am "maltreating" her because she has not conceived. Her father has never been bothered by this issue for once, only her mum shows concern once in a while.
Since march, my doctor has been asking me why I should have high blood pressure at 33. Biola's father's demand could sometimes be so ridiculous, I have stopped any form of financial contribution to them since November 2012. The fire has increased in intensity since then. Our foodstuff which we buy in bulk will disappear in 2weeks, but since march, I have said enough is enough, worked my transfer to our Benin office from Ibadan without her knowledge, abandoned her in Ibadan and finally asked a lawyer to institute divorce against her in april. It is this lawyer who is wasting time now telling me that things are not that bad, that we can make up things, I am not ready for all these, he has involved so many people in pleading with me while my former pastor and his wife who knew us from the beginning are insisting we can't go our separate ways. Dear Nairalanders, this is my heart I am pouring out to the public, what should I do, unfortunately and unbelivrably, Biola's father continues to tell everyone that cares to listen that his demands from me are legitimate, what do you advise, thanks so much.

[quote author=X-factoria]I disagree with the part in bold. ACN is not clever, they are being under-reported because the press in Nigeria are also guilty of partisanship and the military infested mentality of always beaming the light on the Presidency and the central government. For example, Obanikoro's son won an election in Lagos Island but till today, the boy has not been sworn in despite winning an appeal at the election tribunal. ACN influenced the Lagos judiciary to vacate the order of the election tribunal. That singular incident has not been widely reported by any Nigerian newspaper and media houses because it was not about Jonathan or PDP. When Fayemi unlawfully sacked LG Chairmen in Ekiti and was overturned by the court, it was also under reported but if it happens in a PDP controlled state, Liar Mohammed would issue statement that will be reported by all media houses.

Another reason is that ACN is a regional party. They have never managed the amount of wealth that PDP is managing. They have not managed multi-ethnic and multi-religious agenda that PDP is grapling with. If they get that big, it is very easy to see how they will fail judging from their undemocratic tendencies.[/quote]A journalist friend told me that ACN and Tinubu spends a lot on stories they want or do not want in the press. You are very right, the Nigerian press is something else. May be because of the enormity of the poverty in the land, they overreport or underreport an issue based on who greases their palm or not, that is just the reason why people like Tinubu is seen as heroes in Nigeria. Can you imagine the number of very senior journalists bought by tinibu, now working either directly or indirectly for him? They can no longer speak the truth just because of what they will eat, my brother, most journalists are real enemies of Nigeria, cheers!

Nothing makes ACN better than PDP, they are even worse. Its only that ACN is a very clever party, exposing the opposition while covering themselves. In any sane society, the likes of Lagos speaker Ikuforiji and even Tinubu himself are supposed to be cooling it off in prison by now. Come to think of a man whose worth in 1999 we know, now becoming stupendously rich to the extent of wasting over 20billion naira on Ondo election of last year without feeling anything, ACN and PDP are birds of the sdame feather flocking differently, cheers!