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Lazypoke:
Same problem am facing right now. There is this lady in my place of work, she is five years older than me whenever I see her always smile and give her that romantic look. She will always tell me to say wats on my mind instead of hiding it, the day I finally summoned courage to tell her she told me that she can't date me that she is in a serious relationship,I was heartbroken sha but now we are really good friends.




I cannot stop loving you OLAMIPO.

Mercychen:
At 21, na love dey your head.

Are you through with schooling?

So you think she'll leave the eligible bachelors and come and date you. Na true!

Face your studies.

revived:
Op you are broke

When I was 21 nah older ladies dae chase me

Mw just dae love up to bang

You better go and make money alaye

Prince001:
Go ahead if she feel the same! Looking all d comments on here got me to realised Naija still far back in terms of growth. They are OK with a man of 65 going out with a gal of 20 and so on but a lady just older than a guy just 5 years is the taboo. Hypocrites everywhere, love is love regardless of age so far the both parties involve are adults!!!!!!

Lagosianswag:
At 19 I was falling for 25 year olds.

Now I'm 30 plus I'm still falling for 25 year olds.

My brother life actually begins at 25 plus.
Wait till then and see if you like them older or it's just the 25 plus "glow" that's attracting you.




#My25Cents

SILVERLINES:
you are one of the youths yzal bubu talks about

klickstar:
That's an hormone disorder probably you have been sighting the unclothedness of older ones when you're younger now it's telling on you before you know it you will be chasing sugar mummies I would it's love but at 21 it's simply childish lust coz you have no idea what relationship is this century not to talk of marriage especially for this Buhari time only the married ones can relate my brother please for your future sake calm down and move to the next meaningful phase of your life and not wreck your future.
Thanks

Fiscus105:
Can u toast her? Take good care of her? Fence off bigger boys who might come and hijack her?

And most important, ready to carry responsibility of fatherhood?

ursullalinda:
How adults come online to ask strangers on how to live there life's baffles me.....it's your life and the decision is yours .......take it!

TheOnlyUyai:
Better go and read your books.

You want to date your Auntie? What rubbish. God knows I don't give audience to little minions in your age group. There's one 23 year old that's been currently on my neck until I gave him the red card. I have told him countless times that we can't date. Friendship sef na even manage. Wetin we wan dey discuss? Joeboy's dreads or the new girl he just smashed? All these mummy's bossom boys sef.

I billed him 500K. He japa.

I like my men in their 30s-50s with good credit balance, and not all these children still wearing diapers and don't even know what their future holds yet.

ChasinGood:
Young man,I feel you need to move on with your life and better yourself. For the record, better die that love thought. e get why.

Himtulie247:
. Marry her if she is White or If she has Money

Aganju849:
Don't do it bro it ain't worth it

Romanoff:
You're still very young for what you're trying to put yourself through.

If you were 30 and she's 35, it's not a big deal, but at 21, you still have your life ahead of you.

adewumiopeyemi:
Forget about her bro

Go and make money

Woman wil come begging bro

kolnel:
its good to fall in love, but there are more important things in life.
you are just 21, find a passion. make money. see the world.
the beautiful ones are yet to be born.
money and love go together.

Sorrento:

Op stop wooing her,she is just being nice to you, she doesn't like you. If you keep going to her place, she will just turn you to her puppet

Sonnobax15:

Lets call a spade a spade, I'm very sure the op is about to dig his own grave with a shovel .

For the sake of your sanity, please steer clear from that banny....She ain't your mate,she knows that,and that's why she's been manipulating your feelings..... Whenever she calls you to roll over,tell her you're busy.. Keep on giving her such excuses.....

What the eyes doesn't see,the heart doesn't cherish..

Cyphar:
Just tell your heart to stop loving her. You already know it can't work out. Or do you think you can't love a younger lady the same you love her?




Bro even if it works na stress e go be for you.

Amotolongbo:
Probably you have misyarn to someone in your area.
The person might have possibly use duck (pepeye) and pig (elede) to swear for you;
“Alahun ifoun ni ti pepeye
Oro hun hun hun, inu elede lo n gbe”.

I will advise that you deep the leg of house into it (“e ti ese ile bo”) sir

Omicron007:
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CryptoClub2018:
Una too dey read meaning to unnecessary things. The money spent either by the bride or groom family on the wedding doesn't guarantee the success or failure of the marriage. It's not a yardstick

tobechi20:
Bring kids into the picture, and often, one’s sex drive takes a nose dive. Especially for mothers.

Low libido is a very common issue for new mothers as they are healing from childbirth, grappling with fluctuating hormones and extreme sleep deprivation.

While we know adjusting to a new baby can profoundly impact a couple’s life (including sexual intimacy), we, as a society, act like it shouldn’t. We act like there’s something wrong with a new mother needing a timeout from sex.

New mothers who admit to having less sex drive are often met with people urging, “Just do it anyway,” and “You’ll get in the mood.”

But what if you don’t get in the mood, even when you take this advice? What then?

Why aren’t the feelings of the woman valid? Shouldn’t she be listening to her body? Her mind?

I’m not sure where we got this idea that a husband owns his wife’s vagina. Or that he is entitled to intercourse, MouthAction, handling, or groping. I’m pretty sure I didn’t see that covenant in the paperwork. But I have an inkling that this entitlement is very much based in misogyny and male privilege.

Men are led to believe, often since they are young boys, that women should have sex with them when they want it. Even when their wives are not “in the mood.” Because sex is the way he feels intimate. Sex is the way he connects. Because putting your husband’s sexual desires first is supposedly the best way to avoid divorce.

These antiquated and sexist designs for marriage are damaging to women.

When a married mom doesn’t put out, she’s called “cold” and “selfish” and the dreaded “bitch.” She’s told she must have “something else going on” mentally. Outsiders to the marriage, and maybe even therapists, will question if the wife was ever sexually assaulted. Does she have a history of trauma? They’ll try to make connections that aren’t there. Because how could a wife possibly not want to have sex with her husband?

It is sickening and horrific to think of a woman having sex against her will, married or not. It’s disgusting that we automatically assume something must be “wrong” with a woman who is having a gap in her groove. Beyond all that, it’s dangerous.

Suggesting that married women and mothers should just “do it anyway” is sexual bullying and coercion. If a husband acts on the “just do it anyway” cliché and forces it — that’s called rape.

When we attack married mothers for not putting out, we’re reaffirming once again what’s important in this society.

A man’s needs, not a woman’s. A man’s voice, not a woman’s voice.

Iyaebe:
Are you a twin? I sent mine back because I can't share my dad's attention and love with anyone so I sent him back immediately, he followed me to this earth and failed to listen to my instruction of staying back and I had no option than to do the needful.

Insidenaija:
Source: https://newspremises.com.ng/paul-and-peter-okoye-follow-each-other-back-on-instagram/

LollySeaSide:
Ronaldo and Varane @Old Trafford is not enough reason for Zizou to take up the job.
We agree that OGS is not very experienced to manage the talents currently on the Red side of Manchester, he needs time.
Great coaches like Zizou, JM, even the wizard himself, Sir Alex Ferguson didn't just rise to legendary in two years.
They took time to figure out a lot of things.
Unfortunately, club owners these days have thrown the spirit of building into the deep blue seas.
All they want is win, win, win.
We should not forget that every team playing wants to win.
#Oleneedstime
#Solskjaer4Utd
#GGMU

Mercychen:
Lol...

One thing I can't do is eat from the same plate with a friend. If you can't serve me separately, forget it!. I'm not joining you.

So far, it's only my ex I ate from the same plate with.

Mercychen:
Why invite someone to join you when you don't actually mean it?

Don't even try to condemn the guy because he didn't ask you for food. You invited him and he did nothing wrong by joining you. So, can't blame him knowing full well theres hunger in the land.
Who would see an opportunity to quench hunger this period and not jump at it?

If he was of the habit of dipping hands into your food uninvited, it would have been a different thing but that doesn't seem to be the case here. So

Abeg free the guy and stop calling him to join you.




That's a delicate phrase to use in this period and shouldn't be abused otherwise you face the consequence.

Kobojunkie:
You endured it for 3 years and now you want to come to ask us what? If you can break up with her because of it?

There is nothing illegal about having a foul mouth and it could even be a symptoms of mental issues she has yet to tackle. You can suggest mental health counseling to her but know that there is nothing wrong with her as as person in that.