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marlow1962:
Nigerian musicians and rubbish wack songs are 5&6.
Davido sings rubbish
Burnaboy sings rubbish
Wizkid sings rubbish
Aseka abi wertin be him name sings rubbish
Your favorite Nigerian musician songs rubbish.

Wack lyrics with no meaning. It is not their fault, Nigerians as a whole love rubbish so much, that's why the government is dishing out rubbish to them and yet they are comfortable.

Fela is the only and last Nigerian musician with meaningful songs and lyrics, the rest are just bunch of repeat rubbish.

After pamperingyou

saphiere:
Any man who marries me would be the luckiest person on earth.

Honesty111:
Wow. Nice. God bless him.

Which one Nigerian players do for naija here? Someone should point me to any.

kanu did it with his heart foundation program..

markkuss:
God will heal you!!...I know you have been sick..I remembered when you posted it..

Mumu

Kingcalls:
Kool...Bua is a better business man than dangote... remove government backing and dangote will not even thrive if he had a shop in alaba .... I trust Bua's dealings to dangote

hmm dan dan over to you!!

TheVerdict:
Please, as much as this is up for discussion, let us be careful what we put in public space. Your submissions up there - 1 and 2 are contradictory. From he 'sounded financially okay' to hiding her salary because of 'difference in pay'packet? Is this to assume that he is no longer 'financially okay'? Or that he is 'financially okay' but she earns more than him? Or that he is 'financially okay' but would still be jealous because she of how much she earns?

Please, have a proper formating of the mentality 'she is your responsibility and you are to take care of her'. It is a demonic mentality that has killed a lot of young men before their time.

Okay, wait! Did you read the part where he said 'she lent him money to buy her a car - her car?!' And she didn't let him rest till he paid the money.

I have often said that some women bring nothing other than sex into a marriage because they were raised to think a man is to take care of her every need - including her sanitaries!

This woman is worse than Judas Iscariot!!!

Back to the topic;

- the guy goofed big time! No full disclosure? Yet you married her? Did you guys court at all?
- the father of the girl is an apology to manhood; you encourage your daughter to do this to another man's son? And you also have a son!
- the mother of the girl?! I have no words for her!
- the brother: he even followed them to the house to apologize? What a shame!

The young man should involve his family in this! A woman like that is NEVER to be trusted! His death is imminent if he is not careful.

They all did not apologize because they are sorry, they apologized because they were caught!

My take. And yes, I am married!

Hmmm you are making a point!! Since the family knew and u are kept in the dark..that is a big danger!!! One of my distance cousin too died because none of his siblings are in Nigeria only the mom and when she visit them the wife will be unsettled with her stay..u know she will go now and just be communicating on phone . Do u know her elder brother do stay with them in same house with the hubby , his mom was not comfortable each time she visit the son.until his dead the lady ran away with their child cos she is afraid that they will find out if they go out to look what cause his death

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

Wow!!! Man no dey try yet they will be calling us fools!!! At our back. Bro let her learn the lesson she deserve if you love her still continue your duty has the head.. funny God has Neva failed you even when she thinks you are the fool unknowing she is the biggest fool!!!. I swear this social media and stupid ladies on TV advising ladies both married and unmarried foolish things are the curse of this generation of vipers we now have. It scared me more each time I think about all dis happening... My ex was doing that she won't want me to give my mom and siblings good money to feed but she can buy anything she wanted for herself. But wisdom is profitable to all who seek for it.. I got the key and I told her that can neva happen that curse our breakup and she went to abort pregnancy of 4months.

Doc thanks I have been cleared of the pus cell and free of staph.can I have ur number

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markkuss:
God will heal you!!...I know you have been sick..I remembered when you posted it..

Please go and sleep.. ignorant element

[quote author=kwasoly post=99494859]Read to understand before exposing your ignorance.
May the Lord give you understanding[/L]

Now I know you don't understand English

markkuss:
ode!!!

Mumu

xavuv:
It might be true for the parish they beleong to.
I know a parish where they even discourage candles coconuts etc. They kind of elevate prayers more over coconut and candle fetishes

What did candle do una!!! Sef.. is it wrong to pray with candle? Is a symbol of light!!! Relevation spoke of candles, and more... What you don't know don't speak I'll of it

markkuss:
you people are deviating...my post is not about criticism.. its about my current situatuon

Please GO and count sand! Your situation Neva dey dance galala

Choski78:
When the apostles saw the cripple at the temple entrance, the cripple begged them for money and they told him silver nor gold the have not, but in the name of jusus christ stand up and work, we larnt that instantly he rose, as simple as that, any prayer that is not that simple, is not from God and is simply witch craft so be careful, and know yet this anything God can't do does not exist, I challenge you to join NSPPD 7am live stream prayer and see how your problem disappear.

What did you know that God does not do? You ppl just quote what favours you and you think you are alright.. comot for hear make I read well... Yeye anything God can not do does not exist ...same God said I can do all things!!! The I am that I am!!

kwasoly:
Gone are the days pple decieve me in the name of following Jesus blindly, bros you already know the answer kindly confirm to me through the Bible where Jesus or any of his disciples performed that kind of magic. If is not in the Bible run for your dear life

Do u actually read bible... Abi u expecting bible to start writing how and when sickness and all the wonders was performed.

markkuss:
Calvary greetings to you all.

I was in a serious challenge recently and was push to visit a white garment church. After the prophecy, I was told to get bucket, grace perfume, 3 blue candles, 4 white candles, and some other stuffs so they can prepare them. I then bath with it. That's its going to rid away any bad luck..everything was bout 4k. The cash is not the problem..but my question is this. If I fast and pray myself without doing all this, does it mean I can get positive results..

Please all the matured christains, come and help me o..

You are very much confused!!! How will your prayer answered when you don't believe anything why going there? Na una dey spoil una self

Unlimitk:
Yorubas and Bini ppl have more spirituality than ibos
This is not a contest, d facts are there for u to see
Yorubas alone in spirituality spreads across west Africa to the Americas
In ChristianityChristianity,I don't think I have to tell u the tribe leading in it
Even in whole of Africa ,ogun state is d headquarters of African Christianity in Africa
Argue with your key pads

yet na them do juju pass

Chiba my man!! ... Making greater tomorrow proud

You Neva start Sha know that guys are not smiling again [quote author=Jubilancy post=73280637]Very beautiful advice. ......thanks.....this will be helpful in my search for a hubby [/quote ]

The Bible said when a man find a wife. Not when God gave u or find for him. If our Lord can not force salvation to mankind how then earthly wife? Remember our Lord only create if as a companion but Adam say she will be my wife. So Adam finds her. God will only make you see things Abt her if u are okay it fine. Remember the story of Isaac when he sent his servant to a village to bring a certain lady as his wife but the servent saw a lady on his path that her kindness was good and brought her to Isaac.

PLEASE I need serious HELP !! I have severe headache and pesistance unless I take paracetamol it won't come down.. and same time I will be having indigestion and slow breath. Please it has been 6 month now

Am a guy from Delta State, base in Lagos. A graduate and a working class. Need a serious minded lady for marriage.

Sorry to say dis men eyes Don open now why ladies now do their olosho work professionally like makeup artist,massaging, hairdresser etc... Go to lekki the number makeup artist and body massage ladies u will wonder why they are so many.. that is a reform way of doing their things . Oni I sorry u Know well that I mean? Your ladies u left at lekki still doing their spa

u cn sent the contact through nna_nya@yahoo.com. am interesting

Forceup:
Where is Harry Kane na...

Spurs must not lose.....


Assnal 2 Spurs 4

Full time

haba u against arsenal sef na wa.... Shey u think say na bonza we dey do?

ChizzyMaris:
What do you do when the person you're in a romantic relationship with has a best friend of the opposite sex, and has refused to let go of him/her despite the fact that you've registered your displeasure for the friendship countless times?
Especially when what brought them together in the first place is that one of them had a romantic interest in the other, but was friend zoned instead?

Let's talk.

a female bestie is not a problem. i happened one have one until she got married... at first we have emotions but when maturity step normally it should come from the guy become ladies are emotionally attached and releases all the affection to the guy. in that situation self maturity from the guy will step in and nurture that feeling into a real love,make her understand your feeling and goal. i tell you she will ever love you. she wishes i become her best bride during her wedding but that can't happen.
bottom line maturity always plays an important role here. as for the other female, understand your man and try be ur man best friend not just give me money and come do routine