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Family / Re: Visiting Estranged Wife Cos Of Child by Sominablack: 11:49am On Aug 29, 2022 |
[quote author=Sominablack post=116162932][/quote] Thanks notopile, it was within the period she left me she took loan to get the shop which she had already paid for. Cc: Lalasticlala Obinoscopy Mynd44 Dominique All moderators 1 Like |
Family / Re: Visiting Estranged Wife Cos Of Child by Sominablack: 11:48am On Aug 29, 2022 |
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Family / Re: Visiting Estranged Wife Cos Of Child by Sominablack: 12:14pm On Aug 28, 2022 |
nahzyla: Thanks Nahzyla, you understood my plight but this time around she cant use my head. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Visiting Estranged Wife Cos Of Child by Sominablack: 10:20am On Aug 28, 2022 |
Thanks to all who has responded I am inspired to act wisely. Still hoping to get more insight. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Visiting Estranged Wife Cos Of Child by Sominablack: 11:07pm On Aug 27, 2022 |
Update: I finally summed up courage and went to see my little daughter. My little daughter is well and doing fine of course I have been sending upkeep before now. However, her mum is not looking as good as when she was with me. After a brief stay and discussion with my little daughter, I decided to take her out to buy some ice cream. Her mother opted to go with us too and in the process we had a heart to heart talk at the eatery. Guess what? Once again she told me i am not the issue that she does not have problem with me that she s gathering herself and that her father had disowned her because of me( they are angry with her for her negative actions towards me) She told me to go and meet with her family in villa and settle with them since we first went there for a meeting, that I should tell them she does not have issues with me. My response to her was that she has to tell her family herself that she does not have issues with me and that we have reconciled and not me telling them since she painted a wrong picture of me before them during the initial meeting their villa. However I made some efforts to reach her fathers elders brother who she always confide in since she claimed not to be in good term with her own father. Response was that she herself has to inform them (her own family)she has no issue with me and that we have reconciled. She agreed to do so ( communicate her family) but told me to assist her fix up the shop she newly rented for her business through a loan she collected and that when she will tell them about the launch of the shop she will use the opportunity to inform her family I assisted her and that we have reconciled. I then told her that we have to get things right by truly reconciling with family involvement in the reconciliation process and every other thing will fall in line including the shop but she is insisting I fix up the shop first. I also told her that since she will be visiting her villa soon to deliver some business good to a relation she should use the opportunity to inform her family that she does not have issue with me but the visit was not the right time to inform them as she may come back that day or pass a night and may not want much people to know she was around in villa. I told her she does not care about my needs and feelings all these while she has been away despite my efforts but she wants me to do her own bidding. She then said I was giving her condition before helping her. Men and brethren am not finding her idea of fixing her shop before she would use it as an opportunity to inform her family funny despite the fact she has opportunity to travel home soon which she can use to tell them. At this juncture, I need ideas and strategies from experienced and matured minds on how I can go about this with her now. Thanks in advance for your inputs. The case here is if she does not have any issue with me why is she waiting till I fix her shop before informing her family members. Please if you wish to call me you can reach me at 07037854559. Thanks Cc: Lalasticlala Obinoscopy Mynd44 Dominique All moderators 1 Like |
Family / Re: Visiting Estranged Wife Cos Of Child by Sominablack: 11:02pm On Aug 27, 2022 |
ezugegere: Update: I finally summed up courage and went to see my little daughter. My little daughter is well and doing fine of course I have been sending upkeep before now. However, her mum is not looking as good as when she was with me. After a brief stay and discussion with my little daughter, I decided to take her out to buy some ice cream. Her mother opted to go with us too and in the process we had a heart to heart talk at the eatery. Guess what? Once again she told me i am not the issue that she does not have problem with me that she s gathering herself and that her father had disowned her because of me( they are angry with her for her negative actions towards me) She told me to go and meet with her family in villa and settle with them since we first went there for a meeting, that I should tell them she does not have issues with me. My response to her was that she has to tell her family herself that she does not have issues with me and that we have reconciled and not me telling them since she painted a wrong picture of me before them during the initial meeting their villa. However I made some efforts to reach her fathers elders brother who she always confide in since she claimed not to be in good term with her own father. Response was that she herself has to inform them (her own family)she has no issue with me and that we have reconciled. She agreed to do so ( communicate her family) but told me to assist her fix up the shop she newly rented for her business through a loan she collected and that when she will tell them about the launch of the shop she will use the opportunity to inform her family I assisted her and that we have reconciled. I then told her that we have to get things right by truly reconciling with family involvement in the reconciliation process and every other thing will fall in line including the shop but she is insisting I fix up the shop first. I also told her that since she will be visiting her villa soon to deliver some business good to a relation she should use the opportunity to inform her family that she does not have issue with me but the visit was not the right time to inform them as she may come back that day or pass a night and may not want much people to know she was around in villa. I told her she does not care about my needs and feelings all these while she has been away despite my efforts but she wants me to do her own bidding. She then said I was giving her condition before helping her. Men and brethren am not finding her idea of fixing her shop before she would use it as an opportunity to inform her family funny despite the fact she has opportunity to travel home soon which she can use to tell them. At this juncture, I need ideas and strategies from experienced and matured minds on how I can go about this with her now. Thanks in advance for your inputs. The case here is if she does not have any issue with me why is she waiting till I fix her shop before informing her family members. Please if you wish to call me you can reach me at 07037854559. Thanks Cc: Lalasticlala Obinoscopy Mynd44 Dominique All moderators 1 Like |
Family / Re: Family Meeting Cos Of Wife Advise Needed Pls by Sominablack: 5:13pm On Aug 17, 2022 |
efficiencie: Nice talk, thanks 1 Like |
Family / Visiting Estranged Wife Cos Of Child by Sominablack: 11:27pm On Aug 03, 2022 |
Goodevening all, please I need mature advise from the house, my wife left my house for over three months now with my little daughter,though I am still taking care of my little daughter by sending upkeep. Now my limit daughter is on holiday and called that I should come and visit her, and I ask her to give her mum the phone where I told her mum to come back with my daughter at least for the holiday or send my daughter to her parents (my wifes parent) where i can easily get access to her too. But my wife said the state of security challenge in the road they will go through to do any of my wish above is a big issue that i should rather come since i am alone and they are two. House is it advisable i visit for the sake of my daughter? Or what do I do for the sake of my daughters request this holiday? Thanks for your input. 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Please Who Can Help Inteprete This Dream by Sominablack: 1:34pm On Jun 26, 2022 |
Happy Sunday all, I had this dream where I came to a hall with all its Airconditioner on but nobody was inside. When i made move to put it off to avoid wastage, i discovered the switch button was put off already but the ACs were on, so i had to change the switch button to "on" for the ACs to be off, please what's the implication or meaning of this dream. Note that this dream came when I was asked to pray for family issues that has to do with restoration and breakthrough. Thanks for your input. 1 Like |
Religion / Please Who Can Help Inteprete This Dream by Sominablack: 1:23pm On Jun 26, 2022 |
Happy Sunday all, I had this dream where I came to a hall with all its Airconditioner on but nobody was inside. When i made move to put it off to avoid wastage, i discovered the switch button was put off already but the ACs were on, so i had to change the switch button to on for the ACs to be off, please what's the implication or meaning of this dream. Note that this dream came when I was asked to pray for family issues that has to do with restoration and breakthrough. Thanks for your input. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Sominablack: 4:06pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Maverick777: Sincerely a low budget feminist 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Wife Still Asks Her Ex For Money by Sominablack: 1:11pm On Jun 10, 2022 |
Maverick777: This Kobojunkie of a person is always biased in all his comments. Thought it was only me that noticed this. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Family Meeting Cos Of Wife Advise Needed Pls by Sominablack: 7:45am On May 04, 2022 |
I finally honoured the meeting with my relatives, it was a long one, but at the end I was asked to go and discuss with my family while they discuss further with their daughter, that it's not a matter of rush so that things can be made clearer. Clearer as in how I asked? They were still reliving the past(abortion,past relationship)prior to our marriage although the cautioned their daughter on keeping friends with negative influence. At the end we left but i was disappointed that even the mother and father who were impressed with all my efforts and the mother who visited us in our home to confirm her daughters attitude could not pinpoint things out. In all, I knelt down to apologise to the larger family who were hearing on our past life for the first time prior to marriage. Please note I did not beg for her to come back but I stated to the family that whatever decision they come up with I will honorably abide by it. Because of the long deliberation and how moody and tense everywhere was I could not talk about my childs welfare at that moment. I have taken the ball to their court and I have done my best. Thanks all for your support. Cc: Obinoscopy Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique 1 Like |
Family / Re: Family Meeting Cos Of Wife Advise Needed Pls by Sominablack: 1:00pm On May 02, 2022 |
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Family / Re: Family Meeting Cos Of Wife Advise Needed Pls by Sominablack: 8:33pm On Apr 30, 2022 |
kepstone: @Kepstone,thanks a lot, you spoke like you know me well. Am not losing her,she is the one losing me sincerely. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Family Meeting Cos Of Wife Advise Needed Pls by Sominablack: 1:02pm On Apr 29, 2022 |
Thanks all for the advice, I appreciate. But as it is now, am no longer interested in the relationship any longer, how can I do with my daughter of 7years that's the only issue bothering me now, cos I dont want her to influence her negatively. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Family Meeting Cos Of Wife Advise Needed Pls by Sominablack: 10:18pm On Apr 20, 2022 |
Greeting Nairalanders, My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago. Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do? 71 Likes 11 Shares |
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