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DownTime44:
Hi guys


Please i put up this post basically because of my elder brother. I sincerely want to know if i was wrong talking to him, or I could have just let him be. I wasn't myself ever since i talked to him, and i was somewhat having guilty conscience since then.


I have an elder brother, he's 38 years old and also the first son. I am the fourth child in the family of five. The second child is a female and she's married. We lost our third child, that's my immediate elder brother some years back, while i have a younger brother. I came from a humble background. Lost my dad while i was in JS 3, even before his death we had been hustling on a daily basis for survival, and we live happily as one big family. My mother, siblings and i do hawk daily before we could eat. All thanks to public school in Lagos, my family wouldn't have had the opportunity to basic education. We hawk daily after school, weekdays and weekend. My family was bred and brought up in Ajegunle.


Few years after the demise of my father, we struggled to pay house rent. We had to leave Ajegunle to a local and developing area. I didn't allow my family conditions deter or weigh me down. Never! I believe I'd make it in life legitimately without venturing into crime, fraud, theft etc. After my secondary school, i was into all sorts of labour work. I worked in factory, building site, cleared bushes, laundry man , just to save up and further my education. I worked for 6 years after my secondary school, bought a bike from the little savings i had and proceed to school through jamb. I gave the bike to someone who often deliver #6,000 weekly for the upkeep of my family. I was in year 2 when i let go of the bike, it was on a higher purchase and the agreement we have had elapsed. I hustled my way through school and graduated. I'm done with service last year but couldn't land a job, probably due to my age. I'd be 29 this year and most graduate trainee often request for age below 28. Although, i had a 2.1. I'm only managing in a pure water factory to make ends meet, keep soul and body together and support my family


I sat my elder brother down and talked to him. He has been hustling like every other person in the family but i don't understand what's happening. He didn't futher his education nor learn a handwork. He's 38 but still live under his parents roof. He has been doing conductor work for many years. The family had talked to him several times to look for something else. It's fine you are hustling as a man for survival but doing conductor for many years without thinking of what else to do is wrong. A family friend of ours who later got to know what he does for a living had advice him also.


The bus he was following, the driver had misunderstanding with the owner and he collected his bus back. My elder brother had been idle for months, doing nothing. He claimed he has gone virtually everywhere in search of bus he could be working with but couldn't get any. This is a family that we all had to bring something no matter how little to survive. I was talking to him as a younger brother. I asked him why didn't he heed to people's advice when they were advising him then to stop the conductor work and look for something to learn, if perhaps he doesn't want to further his education? He doesn't believe in Nigeria education, because he could count graduates without job or those with petty job. My elder brother wear almost rag as clothes. I had to give him some of my little wears I'm managing. He has just one slippers. We don't wear same size of shoe or sandals, we could have been sharing that also. He sold his phone to feed sometime ago and had been without phone. I was initially saving to get my mum a small phone but i had to give him the phone instead.


He was crying when i was talking to him. I understand the situation of things in the country, which i myself is going through. I was just trying to know what other things he could come up with. I am not happy seeing him sitting idle doing nothing. The fact that he's the first son and found himself in this condition at that age breaks my heart daily. My mum had been so worried about his condition. I had to convince her that things will be better. I don't want her to develop high Blood Pressure that could lead to her untimely death.


Please guys was i wrong talking to my elder brother?

What did you study in school?
Make we start from there

Ifeanyi4491:
speed?

yes

i received one of my items today

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adubam:
You get Customs on ground wen they give you live scores?

.no boss,I dey get notifications for email

One cleared, eleven more to go

Updated:2 more cleared,9 to go!

Custom abeg speed up biko,I need to sell and recover ASAP

ab221:
I ordered on the 1st of May. Its now 10 days exactly

File for a refund,they will give you,there was an issue so they returned it,I have experienced this long ago

cybaraevyn:
At this point, I don’t know if it’s the strike that’s holding my items or customs duty tax/charge. I have two combined deliveries of 11 orders each. It’s saying “failed to clear at import customs” tho. Does anyone know what’s wrong?

Be calming down, seems those guys were slow today if not they ought to have cleared some for today
I still have UpTo 8 package with them , yersterday they cleared 3 and almost all of them is the same thing.
So your's is not different either

Gr8ness4:
Hi guys, please I need the customs direct line. He be like say dem don hold my iPhone 13.

Did you get any message in that regard or call?
Better still wait a bit or else they go chop u small

The ones removed on diesel and kerosene what have we benefitted from it, useless country

Arry110:
beware of scam o

No problem Boss just saying,I got no problem with them

sleemoon:
Did u call them? Cos i remembered i called them a week later after AE refunded my money and it didn't reflect in my account... After the call, the money reflected after like 2mins...

Good to know

Man united very useless club of mine,I don't put them on my ticket, don't even know why I carried them over 1.5 and I lost, the last game on my ticket,very useless club

eteebanky1:
Since you'll still go and buy dollars at black market rate from aboki to fund your dollar card

Why not open providus bank (commercial bank) account and request for their classic MasterCard $1200/month limit......but their current rate is 740/s

But its still worth the stress compared to operating a dollar card account or prepaid card from uba

Can one open account with them online

Weedhustler:
Is buhari about to die?

This is a clone man, person dey die twice?

Useless Porto

Same here,all my orders abnormal clearance,this country is becoming more frustrating by the day,wetin this one mean kwa

Real Madrid

Barcelona is useless

Lek poznan nah waoh,one goal fah

Barca eshey 2.5over

Can Barcelona score three goals?

Goa and run with men and stop that nuisance man, you can't beat those ladies and still claim you won

Useless Chelsea,, make una sha score goal even if it's half but let it be goal
Akpamu club

castro2468:
Speedaf

The guy said I should pay 400 Naira

Ng...E or NG...R

descarado:
I'm positive his brothers health problems started with them. They made his life very toxic.

Sure,they never liked the lady

dboY1123:
I lost my brother early last month and I have been unsettled and paranoid. He visited us a day before and he was healthy and hearty only for us to hear of his death the next day which was on Sunday.

He was admitted in the Hospital, on the bases that he was short of blood. He took 4/5 pants of blood and stayed 1/2 weeks before he was discharged and that only made him live for a month or so.

I want to know more about his death, exactly what happened. His wife is someone who didn't relate well with us (in laws) and she distanced my brother from us, while he objectively did as well.

This wife didn't visit my mum throughout her stay in the hospital for more than 3 months before my mum passed on a year ago. When I visited the hospital where my brother was rushed to being the same place he was admitted, they told me that he must have been bothered about somethings, and that the drugs he was given parts were hypertensive, that he stopped taking the drugs and all those excuses.

I was informed by the nurses that my brother has been suffering from insomnia, he hardly sleeps in nights and if he does, it's just few hours. All these things, the wife didn't tell us anything.

Now, I want to take the fight to her. I need her to tell me exactly what transpired, how did it happen! She's been in 40 days mandatory sit-at-home stuff and I can't wait to sit her ass down and interrogate her.

Should I get her arrested for questioning by the police?

Modified

Oga, what a hell is wrong with you, get her arrested for what? if your brother is suffering from insomnia, why did he not tell you guys himself, in life nothing is sure, anybody can die anytime! several instances shows such, if you don't want to embarrass yourself, better leave that woman alone

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Nacoss25:
Good day nairalanders. I need a sales job for any FMCG company. I have been a van salesman for both Nestle plc and Wamco plc for 4 years, I lost my job due to my distributor then became financial incapable to continue the business.
I reside in cross River state, am ready to relocate to any part of the country. Pls help me
Below is my CV
My contact. 08039607569
Thank you Sir/Madam.

do you know makurdi well, if yes send in your cv to this email-poissonconsulting@gmail.com

Penalty and tension
Man United be like they no play well today

chudez0147:
Then be ready to be taken for granted

Well, you don't know me
Part of the job I do currently requires maximum respect which is fully accorded because I set boundaries
So, I know what I'm saying