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Palema007:
.... If you are to stress yourself going from one test to another before you commit, why not just join the mgtow movement..

Seriously, join the mgtow movement just for these natural virtues of true love.
The point to glean is: study her behaviour in these situations as they come up even if not necessarily creating them and only when she's been proven in these should a man be ready to commit to and invest in her, commensurately, of course.
The truth is if you as a lady already see these natural consequences of love as too much of a burden, then it shows you never seek a person you'd love but only one you'd use.

@pansophist, the financial test is bae.
A woman will only be willing to invest financially and in every way you listed here if she actually loves you but men of these days keep letting them off the hook, thanks to the brainwashing by society. She would even do all these naturally.

Men should only invest the least emotionally and financially in a woman until she's proven worthy. Be ready to present yourself in your barest minimum, and just as who you are (personality, vision, goals, skills, knowledge) without revealing your financial capacity. If she loves you for just your person, she's more likely worthy. After wedding night, you can begin to reveal more of your capacity.

But when you're showing off your financial capacity, any lady will fake all the angelic traits to tie you down.
Any lady who can't appreciate me(not my money), for just what I'm worth as to my persona alone and my goals is not worth sharing a future with.

Shortyy:
...All my course mates that married when we were in school were runs girls, who married men they met in bars. High class men for that matter. And most of them are overseas with their hubbies.
Virginity or what not isn't a criteria for a peaceful and successful marriage.
This messed up mentality of some of you men is very disgusting...

What a disconnected summation @ the bolded. Now just slow down and reread for yourself.
If all your coursemates who got married, were runs girls, how does that prove that their marriage would be successful, or that they won't cheat or they'd cheat and not get caught when the opportunity comes?

Y'all men better be going for virgins and have assurance.

Again, miss, if all those coursemates were runs girls, it shows once again that we live in an era of hoes, damn! Further confirmed by a lady herself!
Will the chaste women, please stand up?

Shortyy:
After you've broken girls hymen you'll be looking for a virgin to marry

The way you're just defending non-virginity, calm down na, non virgins still get married but not to wise men, lol.
This standard of virginity test is for the upcoming generation of young ladies and will benefit of the whole society and save the future from current society's sexual recklessness. Once ladies are kept in check, men are kept in check. That's the way it works. Ladies' looseness is to blame for society's sexual recklessness.

And sister, any lady that allowed me to break her hymen without tying me down to marriage, when I was neither armed nor violent, will bear all the blame o. If you say no and stand by it, I can't force it. Just sayin'


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pozehnani:
Hmm... Why did you say so?

Your situation is like that of a non-indigene of Nigeria who's heard all the bad news coming out from there, but after hearing the manifesto of the Presidency, is now confused about whether or not to give up their current citizenship for a Nigerian citizenship.
You will languish when you remember the freedom you once had and gave up in spite of all the red flags but at that time it will all be too late, the only flag before you will be green, white, green.

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pozehnani:
Hmm... Why did you say so?

Your situation is like that of a non-indigene of Nigeria, outside the country who's heard all the bad news coming out from there, but after hearing the manifesto of the Presidency, is now confused about whether or not to give up their current citizenship for a Nigerian citizenship.
You will languish when you remember the freedom you once had and gave up in spite of all the red flags before you but at that time it will all be to late, the only flag before you will be green, white, green.

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DrFunmisticGlow:
there's no spacing between your paragraphs you grammar nazi. It's causing a headache reading your writeup.

Really babe? I would guess you use glasses. Correct me if wrong. But anyway, while conventionally, there is nothing wrong with my paragraphing format, I will for the likes of you who would complain, try to implement spacing between them.
Not a grammar nazi either but just look at OPs posts, it's like she tries really hard to make sure it's illegible.

@bolded, your standards are very high which is not bad. But hopefully when you find such a woman, will you'll be the type of man she wants? I wish you the best.

What women seek is just the same world over, it's all of the leadership intelligences combined, and if a man can lead himself and fellow men well, building his life around solid values and principles, leading any woman will be piece of cake. It of course adds sauce if such traits come in physical specs she prefers.

So yes, while aware I'm not perfect, I've never met a woman I wasn't able to lead well and develop her worth in leaps and bounds except those I cut off from my life and I'm certain that will be the case with that woman.

My standards are not that high either, just that sadly, the system made ladies of today so vain, they never bothered to develop themselves intellectually and I'm one guy who's allergic to beauties without brains and NFAs. It takes me the shortest amount of time to cut them off. I'd rather be celibate than suffer them.


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What a crappy post in so many ways. First off, zzor, try typing like a graduate. Always leave a space after each punctuation i.e. comma, dot, etc. Also know when to start a paragraph, it makes your post legible.
Second, so you mean to tell me you went to the market by yourself, bought a cream with your money, used your own hands to rub on your body, everyday for months and turned around to blame men for that. How foolish.
The reason you did all that was because you don't believe you can make yourself valuable enough to attract a man and so your lack of self-esteem made you focus on faking your body.
Just so you know, each man has his specs and some like them light skinned. But let me tell you truth, no man in right mind, not even those that prefer light-skinned will ever be turned on by bleached skin, being so disgusting because its glaringly fake, and sometimes smells.
The best thing any lady can do for her skin is an even tone, spotless and glowing skin with perfect hygiene.
As for me, I'd pick a highly intelligent, high-flying achiever virgin girl, with aforementioned skin features, all natural (even hair)and a banging physique( if you know what I mean), ebony shade than any bleached mass of flesh.

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Entrepreneurrr:
My fellow nairalanders.
I am 25years old and a virgin and also a novice in love. I don’t have the confidence in approaching females (getting anxious) though sometimes i get confidence but after I make the move and collected a lady’s number, to keep the relationship is hard for me.

I recently approach a lady that was given me green light since, but after i escorted her with some gist I asked her for her number which she says she doesn’t have phone, and i told her that she doesn’t want to give me her number, she said no. After some days she is passing-by and pressing phone. I just burn face.

I believe all this Is happening due to the kind pf background i came from i.e I spent most of my times alone, my schooling days in boarding skul where there are no females; we relocated to a quite place. So relating with women is hard for me.
NB: many females do give me green light, but after approaching/chatting with them, they will start acting funny.

What advice can you give me?

Dpsychologist

Your problem is you have not discovered your worth, and you'll end up seeking acceptance from ladies, which will ruin your relationships with them. You discover this when you work towards and begin to achieve your dreams.
Oga, you're 25, forget ladies, you have a bright future ahead of you which they will add no value to but will only waste your time, focus, mental strength, emotional balance and cash. Funny enough, what you learn building your own life will not only end up attracting them to you like a magnet but will teach you what kind of ladies to accept and how.
I agree with Dpsychologist, no man is born weak, our modern environment programs the masses of men to be so weak. Rebel against the system.

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@pocohantas(thought that was Pocahontas?), whoever made that statement made a very baseless and ignorant comment. Like wtf, how can you even compare the strength of a male lion to that of a female? He's twice as strong. He alone would bring down prey five females would work together to do. He just leaves hunting to the females except greater strength is needed and lazes around a lot. You must have heard of the lion's share. Well that's because when they bring in game, He gets his portion first before any of the females or else whoever stands in his way could get killed. Tell your friend to get his facts right.
And the pride doesn't end when the male is killed, it's simply the end of that male's dynasty and the beginning of the new male's. No animal hunts lions.

As for y'all on this thread who like the knight, y'all obviously haven't played very advanced chess. A knight though able to jump over pieces can be so easily caged by a good player. Asides the queen, the next strongest piece on the board is the rook. Two rooks in tandem, can do what no other two pieces can do, they can all by themselves and from way across board, paralyse, hunt and kill a queen while defending each other but then again that's by a very good player as well as easily checkmate a king when all other pieces are out. Knight and bishop can compete for next.

You're human, it's okay to feel all that now you're always together.
First, you're making yourself suffer because you're trying to get her. Never try to get a girl. Your happiness in life is not tied to anyone. You asked her out, she said no, let it end there.
That you even bought her things is already a turn off because every penny you spend on her tells her how desperate you are and she loses all interest in you cause she's already fed off all your desperation you give off . In other words, the more you do to please her, the farther she will be from your reach. Stop all that and soon she'll start coming to test whether she can still mugu you. If you stand firm and not budge for even the littlest things, you'll regain emotional control and the tables will turn.
You work from home, you're prolly a techy. If so, you have a whole world of skills to develop no matter how much you've already got. So focus on that no matter the urge for her. Just keep setting high goals in your tech field and keep reaching for them, gather all the skills and don't stop, you'll soon see you have no time. Make yourself a great achiever and soon you'll see you don't deserve a girl that's been passed around all sorts of men and has no value and skill set but only a virgin to wife and who can add value to you.
And for future purposes, do not take counsel on issues like this from women but only reasonable guys

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baby124:
Who leads Germany which is the best country in Europe presently? Don’t insult women again except you were not born of a woman. Fix your personal issues and don’t blame women for it.

Miss, I respect my mother and my many elder sisters but even they have the same attributes at least without my impact on their lives. And no personal issues to fix here. Women have not in anyway affected my life because I never have let them, rather, I've positively affected some.
I respect all good women too and have nothing against your gender but fact remains and which your comment proved, women tend to be sentimental in issues, defending fellow women even in wrongs and generally are not disposed to problem solving, so only few do. It's why I said 'on average'. Angela Merkel hasn't changed what obtains with the bulk of you. Asides yours, just take a look at your fellow's response below too as an example.

cococandy:
Starting your address with a deeply ignorant comment doesn’t help you get listened to. I stopped reading after the bolded. Deeply ingrained ignorance!

Well, won't say I'm surprised cause even your response still proves my point. Yet again another emotional comment that failed to address the problem highlighted in the OP and so the problem will persist if it was left to you to solve, hence no improvement in the society - typical, ain't it?

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While there must be several sane and humane Moslems. Islam is the worst religion to have hit the earth when it comes to bloodletting. "Religion of PISS"ing of the whole human race.

PharmaGirl:
Your opinion Reno.
If that's what you believe, then its fine.

But remember, they didn't impregnate themselves.

So while you're giving reasons on why you won't help 'deliberate single moms', don't you think it'd be nice if you also preached to the men who impregnated them?

Tell them to carry their cross honorably. Tell them to provide for their kids so their kids' moms will stop running to your TL, begging for money.

baby124:
Why is this guy obsessed with women and what they do with their vagina? Na curse?

cococandy:
He probably thought he’s said something worth applauding. But all he is is a vaginà police like the rest of them

The universal female problem and why women on average cannot contribute to the development of society like men do and the bane of the fraud called feminism.
A problem was just highlighted and when you could have analyzed it and come to the conclusion that a woman who opens up and gets pregnant for any man(except by rape) must be foolish if she didn't tie him to a financial commitment (like marriage), only to go off seeking pity from society.
But what did y'all do? You dumped rationality for sentiments to side with women even in wrong and attack the OP and even men.
How do ladies get this narcissistic and still breathe?
Give up the urge to always side with your gender rather than attempt to solve a problem. It'll help you be more productive all round.
@PharmaGirl, except raped at gunpoint, was totally in your hands whether or not you both would have it. You hold the key to the door no matter how good I am at walking through open doors, so your points are illogical.

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PrideofLincoln1:
I voted 10 days ago to cleanse the maggot out of our National discuss and that's one thing you will never be able to do from Umudike. I doubt if you can get a Visa to US as long as he's the President. He will lose on Nov 3rd and you can go back to wherever you crawl out of Mr Hypocrite.

Bro, if you can't tell by now that Trump isn't only winning, but by a landslide and massive redwave, I'm afraid you've got a lot to learn about reality in the U.S. You may respond however you wish but I'll just wait for 7 days to come back and re-educate you.

dermmy:
Fake preacher. You can't come here and start forming holiness. A preacher who lacks clear understanding of the scriptures. A preacher who preaches hatred and support racism. Go back to your bible and study it well.

Only God knows if you even have time to study the scriptures daily and pray cause you are always on every thread. Watch as your neo-nazi god will be disgraced out of office next month.

You too.
Trump is only racist on MSM, not in reality, and if that guy is a preacher, do you really expect him to vote a party that is pro-LGBTQ, abortion, socialism, what do you think?