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PoliticsTinubu, It's Not Your Turn!!! by Spiritfun(op): 8:43am On Jun 04, 2022
I was struck with great bewilderment when I stumbled into the viral comment of Tinubu boasting that its HIS TURN to become president of Nigeria. My widest imagination could not fathom on what basis this man feels so entitled to rule Nigeria as if the presidency is his sole patrimony.

Since this electioneering festival became manifest, I've carefully avoided making any online comments on political developments in recent time but this Tinubu's latest statement has stretched my somewhat political apathy to its elastic limit and I'm compelled to allow a significant paradigm shift in my political worldview and I'll start by correcting Tinubu's political Megalomania by unambiguously stating that, TINUBU, IT'S NOT YOUR TURN!!!

Yes, it is not your turn. It is the turn of the millions of Nigerians who have been sabotaged and betrayed by the political elites among whom you stand conspicuous.

It is the turn of the frustrated millions of Nigerian students who have been perpetually denied access to quality education by the synergetic efforts of an administration you collectively masterminded its ascendency to power and its predecessors. It is the turn of the teeming Nigeria youths to return to classrooms just as their counterparts in other countries.

It is the turn of Nigerians across board to have their lives secured. It is the turn of Nigerians to walk freely on the streets without the fear of kidnapping, robbery, banditry and ritual killings.

May I put you on notice that the presidency is the turn of hopeless Nigerians who are dying in rural and urban areas without access to quality health care. It is our turn to fly to LONDON, AMERICA and other countries for medical treatment just like you, Buhari and other politicians routinely do.

It is the turn of millions of SMEs that have been crippled and obviously thrown into economic oblivion as a result of unfavorable business climate made possible by successive political parasites in power, the latest of which you helped to push into Aso Rock, to have enabling economic ground to thrive.

It is the turn of Nigerians to make so Much wealth such that BULLION VANS can be at their beckon whenever the need ARISES.

It is the turn of the LEKKI MASSACRE victims to get justice. It is the turn of our security forces to be equipped and well paid to carry out their functions. It is not the turn of 50 million youths to be conscripted to fight Boko Haram with stomach filled with pounded yam and eba as you want.

It is the turn of the unemployed youths to grab the presidency. It the turn of Nigerians to have access to good roads, electricity and other social amenities which you and your fellow power hungry elites have denied them for umpteenth years.

Because it is the turn of Nigerians to control the presidency, you are the least qualified to be the one to drive this new Nigerian dream. You must come to terms that whatever role you played to help anyone get to the seat of power does not confer any TURN on you to claim the presidency.

Notwithstanding, may I remind you the TURN that truly belongs to you. It is your turn to retire and allow the youth to decide their future but as far as the presidency is concerned, it is NOT your turn!!!!
RomanceHelp!!! How Do I Save My Fiancée From The Trauma Of Sexual Abuse By Her Uncle? by Spiritfun(op): 7:23pm On Feb 21, 2021
I have a wonderful relationship with an amazing woman. She's a complete spec of all I ever wanted in a woman. She's extremely beautiful, kind, supportive... She doesn't hesitate to buy me gifts even in her moment of lack.

I'm convinced beyond all doubts that we're SOULMATES. Our love story is very interesting and we're truly in love. Time will fail me to discuss US in this thread.

However, we both agreed mutually to have sex only after we're married but she has a very ugly memory that's hunting and hurting her emotions so much that we really need find a solution to it before it causes us a great damage.

MY FIANCÉE WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED AT A VERY TENDER AGE BY A RELATIVE WHO LIVED WITH THEM. She was molested uncountably by this monter of an Uncle who took advantage of her who found pleasure in defiling a primary school pupil.

I've tried so much to counsel her but somehow, I still believe she's not totally free from that trauma. I was a victim of sexual abuse, as well but I found the courage to heal on time but my Fiancée is still battling with this horrible experience.

I hate to see my woman in pains cos I truly and genuinely love her.

I Need help urgently on how best to help my woman heal from this ugly encounter. Please, anyone with practical experience should advise me on how to handle this situation and save my fiancée from this trauma.

Mods, kindly help me reach a wider audience.
RomanceHelp! He Wants To Quit His Job For Paint Production by Spiritfun(op): 9:08pm On Jan 28, 2021
I currently earn 50k from my job but the job is not just boring, it has no future prospect. I've put in 5 years in the company without any salary increment. No additional benefits, no connections, nothing to motivate me and I'm tired already.

Everyone in the company is really not happy because of how the boss runs the business. It's more of a one man show. I've realised that I'm wasting my youthful age there and any additional year in that company will not add value to my life.

I sincerely need to quit and I'm considering learning paint production from one of my family friends who has been very successful in the business.

Though I've not approached him to make my intention known to him I'm very optimistic that he'll teach me the business based on his good antecedents.

I sincerely need advice from experts in this field to educate me on the pros and cons of paint production and how lucrative it is.

Thanks in anticipation.
BusinessHe Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 10:25am On Mar 09, 2020
I need advice from experienced people to help a friend of mine make a good decision. I'll highlight the situation as follows.

1. He works in a company where he earns 50k monthly as basic salary. But on the average, his monthly earning (salary plus side hustling) is 70k

2. He works from 8am to 6pm daily. Doesn't work on weekends.

3. He's considering considering buying a car with 600k for taxi business in port harcourt. He intends to drive the car by himself as scheduled below:

4. He plans to hustle with the car from 5:30am to 7:30am in the morning before going to work and 6pm to 10pm after work on weeks days. Then, hustle as much as possible on Saturdays and Sundays.

5. What's the possibility that he will save 3K minimum daily with the above schedule after deducting money for fuel and other logistics?

6. If this business is viable, what is the best car he should buy for 600k that will be suitable for taxi driving in Port Harcourt?

7. At the moment, he does not know how to drive but plans to learn driving with the car for one month before using for commercial purposes.


Urgent advice is kindly needed.

Mods please consider this post front page worthy. At least, let's show Buhari that not all youths are lazy, lol
Car TalkHe Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 10:16am On Mar 09, 2020
I need advice from experienced people to help a friend of mine make a good decision. I'll highlight the situation as follows.

1. He works in a company where he earns 50k monthly as basic salary. But on the average, his monthly earning (salary plus side hustling) is 70k

2. He works from 8am to 6pm daily. Doesn't work on weekends.

3. He's considering considering buying a car with 600k for taxi business in port harcourt. He intends to drive the car by himself as scheduled below:

4. He plans to hustle with the car from 5:30am to 7:30am in the morning before going to work and 6pm to 10pm after work on weeks days. Then, hustle as much as possible on Saturdays and Sundays.

5. What's the possibility that he will save 3K minimum daily with the above schedule after deducting money for fuel and other logistics?

6. If this business is viable, what is the best car he should buy for 600k that will be suitable for taxi driving in Port Harcourt?

7. At the moment, he does not know how to drive but plans to learn driving with the car for one month before using for commercial purposes.


Urgent advice is kindly needed.

Mods please consider this post front page worthy. At least, let's show Buhari that not all youths are lazy, lol
BusinessRe: He Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 11:23pm On Mar 08, 2020
Heartbender:
I don't have much grasp about those areas but he'll make more than 3k. The only thing he needs is to understand the terrain. If he needs car I'll fix him right. God be with him and his hustle
After fuel and logistics @bolded?
BusinessRe: He Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 11:16pm On Mar 08, 2020
Heartbender:
I live in Port Harcourt. I could help him get a Nigeria used Pencil Light Toyota or Nissan brand for that amount. If he wants to make enough money, he should run Slaughter-Odili Road-Amadi or Slaughter-Abuloma from 7pm-11pm. He'll make more than his target
Thanks for your response. His intended routes are rumuokoro to mile 3 in the morning and rumuokoro to igwuruta in the evening.
BusinessRe: He Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 11:13pm On Mar 08, 2020
southniyikaye:
first consider the stress, I would have said you should give it out so they can give you daily returns but it's a decision you will regret later.
Get Nissan almera, just get any good and sound Nissan in that price range if you believe you can shuttle BTW work and driving
His work does not require much physical energy. In fact, he sleeps 40 percent of the time at the office cos his official duties don't come often. Besides, he stays awake till 12am or beyond daily doing nothing. That's one of the reasons he wants to maximize his time effectively
BusinessRe: He Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 10:55pm On Mar 08, 2020
kunleweb:
Wht you discussed with someone who has your best interest at heart is what you're bringing to people whom you know nothing about assuming they'll give you good counsel. Smh Vigorously. I bet my biro on it, you'll get all sort of counsels here that says tou should back out. Whereas your friend has an exveptional business plan. Stop consulting up and down. Let's learn to trust our pwn discernment
Thanks for your comment but I'm already prepared for any negative feedback from anyone. All I'll do is to filter responses and match them with realities
BusinessHe Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 10:45pm On Mar 08, 2020
I need advice from experienced people to help a friend of mine make a good decision. I'll highlight the situation as follows.

1. He works in a company where he earns 50k monthly as basic salary. But on the average, his monthly earning (salary plus side hustling) is 70k

2. He works from 8am to 6pm daily. Doesn't work on weekends.

3. He's considering considering buying a car with 600k for taxi business in port harcourt. He intends to drive the car by himself as scheduled below:

4. He plans to hustle with the car from 5:30am to 7:30am in the morning before going to work and 6pm to 10pm after work on weeks days. Then, hustle as much as possible on Saturdays and Sundays.

5. What's the possibility that he will save 3K minimum daily with the above schedule after deducting money for fuel and other logistics?

6. If this business is viable, what is the best car he should buy for 600k that will be suitable for taxi driving in Port Harcourt?

7. At the moment, he does not know how to drive but plans to learn driving with the car for one month before using for commercial purposes.


Urgent advice is kindly needed.

Mods please consider this post front page worthy. At least, let's show Buhari that not all youths are lazy, lol
RomanceHe Wants To Venture Into Transportation Business, Please Advise by Spiritfun(op): 10:04pm On Mar 08, 2020
I need advice from experienced people to help a friend of mine make a good decision. I'll highlight the situation as follows.

1. He works in a company where he earns 50k monthly as basic salary. But on the average, his monthly earning (salary plus side hustling) is 70k

2. He works from 8am to 6pm daily. Doesn't work on weekends.

3. He's considering considering buying a car with 600k for taxi business in port harcourt. He intends to drive the car by himself as scheduled below:

4. He plans to hustle with the car from 5:30am to 7:30am in the morning before going to work and 6pm to 10pm after work on weeks days. Then, hustle as much as possible on Saturdays and Sundays.

5. What's the possibility that he will save 3K minimum daily with the above schedule after deducting money for fuel and other logistics?

6. If this business is viable, what is the best car he should buy for 600k that will be suitable for taxi driving in Port Harcourt?

7. At the moment, he does not know how to drive but plans to learn driving with the car for one month before using for commercial purposes.


Urgent advice is kindly needed.

Mods please consider this post front page worthy. At least, let's show Buhari that not all youths are lazy, lol
RomanceAnd She Said YES To His Third Proposal by Spiritfun(op): 1:05pm On Feb 07, 2020
Refer to my thread

https://www.nairaland.com/5585907/he-wants-propose-before-traveling

After going through the advice of nairalanders in the above thread, I decided to follow my heart and propose to the woman I love so much.

Towards the end of December last year, I arranged for a meeting with her at a major eatery in my state of domicile. She excitedly obliged to my request.

We agreed to meet by 12noon by my phone beeped around 11am and behold it was her message Informing me that she was already at the venue waiting for me. I was excited and hurriedly dressed up to meet her.

She looked so beautiful in her dress and I was excited. We exchanged pleasantries and she Crowned it with a kiss on my cheek, a gesture she hasn't extended to me prior to this time. I felt relaxed.

We placed our orders and before I could do anything, she handed her ATM to the waiter to pay the bills. I protested but she insisted and I succumbed.

We hard a good conversation like we never did. Then, I decide to propose again. I wanted to go with a ring but I was scared she would say no again and embarrass me in the public. So, I simply told her how much I love and cherish her but could not understand why she turned me down two times without explanation.

Before I could say more, she stretched forth her fingers and asked me to put the ring that she's ready to marry me now, having tested my love and persistence towards her. She told me she felled in love with me a very long time ago but she was very scared of being hurt the second time so she kept hiding her feelings towards me. This was her reason for saying no to my two proposals.

I told her I didn't come with any ring because I was not sure what her reaction would be. She said it's fine that the ring is just an outward expression of what we share. That, moment, we got officially engaged and that was the best moment of my life.

Then, I broke the news of my travel plans to her and she broke down in tears but after my assurance to her that I was going to come back to marry her in less than two years, she wished me well and told me she would commit suicide if I disappoint her emotions. She told me how much she had expected my third proposal after being convinced that I am the right man for her.

I remember how recently she has been very curious to know whom I'm going out with. I remembered how she always insinuate carrying my child.

I'm so happy that I'll be married to my best friend and the only woman that meets my criteria for a wife.

So, nairalanders, never give up on what you want untill you either get it or lose it completely.
CrimeHow I Paid Nigeria Police In Their Own Coin by Spiritfun(op): 2:05pm On Dec 25, 2019
Yesterday, I decided to hang out and I found myself at the bar. I ordered some meat and drink to enjoy myself. Then, three guys entered and sat beside my table happily.

One of them called the waiter and asked her to give each of them any they wanted.

Then, he began to narrate his his story to his friends.

He said he was coming back from his grandmother's residence two days ago around 7pm and suddenly, a police van stopped beside him and ordered him into their vehicle. He tried to resist but they forced him into the car.

They asked him to bail himself with 50k or he will be taken to the station. When he inquired from them the crime for which they arrested him, they told him that is not necessary. He told them he'll prefer being taken to the station than give them a kobo.

Eventually, they took him to station and put him in cell without statement. One of them told him to raise any amount for his release or phone friends and relatives to come to his aid if he has no money. He insisted he committed no crime that warranted them to arrest and incarcerate him.

After spending two days in the cell, he was released and asked to go. One of the police officers told him to thank his stars that other people they arrested bailed themselves with huge amount else, he would have spent more time in there.

It was then that he sought for a way to deal with them for detaining him unjustly. Then an idea came to his mind.

After they gave him his cloths and other belongings, he asked them for his wallet and cash. The officer told him he didn't give them any wallet or cash. Then he started shouted at them.

He insisted they collected his wallet containing his ATM card and a cash of 200k he was given for his school fee and upkeep.

A senior officer intervened following the fiasco. Eventually, the case landed at the DPO's office. When the DPO asked the officers why they arrested him, they could not say anything meaningful. He demanded for the guy's statement and they could not provide any.

Then the DPO was infuriated and told the officers to provide both the cash, the wallet and any other thing that belongs to the guy within 48 hours or face his wrath.

When they left the office, the officers began to plead with him to say the truth since he knew they are innocent of the accusations but the guy told them to shut up and obey the DPO so that they too will feel the pains innocent Nigerias go through when they extort them.

A day latter, they called him and he went to the DPO's office and was given 200k for the alleged cash and another 20k for other valuables he claimed they took from him which they could not provide. The DPO pleaded with him not to make the incident public and apologized to him for the unjust detention.

He left the station 220k richer after scamming the scamers in uniform.

Do you think the guy did well?
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 4:05pm On Dec 17, 2019
J111333:
We will see how far the principle will go. Well I traveled as a completely single dude unlike you with a baggage.
I briefly dated a white, latino, black, Asian and middle Eastern on a tour (all those were on purpose though) but family pressure insisted on Naija marriage and for a long time, there was no rock and there was no Mohammed.
Right now, village pipu are begging for even oyibo wife and I'm glad they are playing my cards now. cheesy
Only you? Lol[b][/b]
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 3:57pm On Dec 17, 2019
theTransporter:
isn't there something you are forgetting to let us know?... is she already dating someone else? , if you don't know up till now, then ask her, don't even propose again, just invite her to somewhere cool and ask her to tell you why she's refused ur proposals, and still wanna be with you "as friends ", you might find out some facts for your self that will make you to re-propose or abort mission....

let it not be that local man is here fantasizing about "ur future wife" and she's "all over her bestie"..... hold ur travelling plan to itself first
As much as I know, she tells me whenever any man make advances towards her. She always sends me screen shots of their chats. I may be wrong but I don't think she's with anyone
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 3:54pm On Dec 17, 2019
J111333:
Then go ahead with your plans of engaging her else you'll keep traveling back home every year in search of wife.

As for the bolded, we will see when you get there. cheesy
LOL. I know what u mean but let's just say I'm too principled. But if nature has destined a white girl for me, there's nothing I can do about it
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 3:05pm On Dec 17, 2019
extremelygolden:
I thank God for your life. It's not easy to be celibate at a time like this. You're indeed a real man.

Please have a deep conversation with her. If she loves you enough she ought to be free with you in letting you know what is it that's holding her back from accepting your marriage proposal.

Could it be health related, spiritual, family issues, or a vow she made in the past? Look her deep in the eyes and tell her to be free with you and tell you the truth why she's been turning you down.

And you can actually pray that God reveals whatever it is to you, and trust Him to do exactly that.

I really pray the expectations of your heart shall not be cut short.
Few of your type in this forum is the reason some of us still hang around for advice. I pray you meet your heart desires too.
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 3:01pm On Dec 17, 2019
luvyaself95:
You be original dumbass
is not an abuse, is just that you are what i describe you.
You have absolute right to your choice of diction but being conscious of how others feel in their usage is maturity.

The height of every man's wisdom is tested in their foolishness. You may call me whatever you want but you have no clue about my dilemma till you're stuck in my shoes
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 2:57pm On Dec 17, 2019
J111333:
If you have a trusted girlfriend before traveling abroad, I suggest you hold her tight in whatever way you can.
A lot of us made that mistake of not doing so and we are still paying for that.

Ehhmmm I said trusted, don't forget that. undecided
That's my dilemma!! I don't want to have anything to do with white ladies. As for the girl in question, I've proved it beyond reasonable doubt that she can be trusted with anything I leave in her custody.
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 2:51pm On Dec 17, 2019
HARDDON:
Wow to the frustration, waste and pains average guys go through.
Baffles my brain.



This is really very painful.

You are in the super friendzone and a gate guy can't wake up one morning and wants to be man of the house. It irritates the lady of the house.
Forget the flaunting... You are nothing but a bestie.

There is no Sexual attraction and she can't see herself submitting to a YES man.

I know there are a lot you didn't expressly state here. But I know, I just know.

Solution?
Breaking forth from this shackle is no mean feat. But it's not undoable.

You have to do the opposite of all that you have been doing! Starting with Ditching that wack idea of proposing again! Is there any different thing you want to say that she hasn't heard and turned down before?
Oh sure, you can of course buy her attention by swinging the bribe line of travelling, the way average guys do. But he who brings ant infested log to the homestead, must never complain when visited by lizards.


Grow some balls and Start ignoring. Cut chats, calls, visits and all.

Apply their principle on them:

Has a gurl asked to buy her something and you refused b4? How did she react?

Good, that is how u shld react now. You can't let her play with your emotions and you swallow it like a dunce.

henceforth, if she has the guts to shake the table, you take it a notch up by breaking it. angry
This is your only way forward. If she is really worth it.


On a final note,
How can you value sand when it is always available?


SENSE PILL:
Ladies Love Balls.
We'll guy, I appreciate your contributions but only the man that wears the shoes knows exactly where it aches!

As for my stand on sexual purity, I don't think that's her reason of rejecting my proposals twice cos I didn't take that decision because of her. It been a long time stand of mine that only GOD himself can make me compromise. Believe me, I'm not an ugly person. There's no month that passes without one or two ladies wooing me in their own ways. But I won't react negatively if I find out that I'm not sexually attracted to her. After all, it's not every lady that appeals to me either.

Like I mentioned previously, I'm gonna move on without her but I'm sorry man, that's not until I've tried just one more time. It might sound foolish but I know what I want.
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 2:07pm On Dec 17, 2019
Ginaz:
Abeg come and marry me jare... grin
LOL. I like bold lady like you
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 1:58pm On Dec 17, 2019
TOPCRUISE:
Apologies on that man. Wish you the best cheesy
No worries
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 1:50pm On Dec 17, 2019
TOPCRUISE:
Foolish you. She will say yes when you tell her you want to travel abroad.
Must you comment insultingly. What happened to being polite?
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 1:38pm On Dec 17, 2019
AfroKnight:
Lol.

You think she has the qualities you want in a wife.

She doesn’t think so of you.

Pot of beans.

If you influence her into saying yes by telling her your travel plans, you are building a house on sand.
I'm a very confident man! I go for what I want anytime. If she doesn't want me, I'll move on and never look back cos keeping her around will block potential friends
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 1:35pm On Dec 17, 2019
ambivert27:
As a lady, I will tell you that this babe loved you already, could be that she's trying to test your patience level.

I bet you the reason she would give after trying to find out why she's been saying "no" is non-existence.
It's not in my nature to persist around a lady after the first attempt. The reason I can't let go is still beyond me and sometimes, I try to ask myself if I'm under a spell but believe me, I'm in charge of my thoughts.


Till date, if I don't call or chat her in a day, she will get angry and accuse me of not being caring. She obviously can't stay beyond a day without hearing from me and so do I but the reason she won't let us stick together forever in marriage is what baffles me the most.

I've done some background checks but can't see any serious man in her life except me coupled with the fact she shows me off on her social media handles.

Sometimes I've tried to woo two different girls but they reminded me of her and how much she flaunts me on Facebook and as a result they see my moves towards them as trying to get under their pants and zoom off.

If she truly needs me, she better accept this last proposal or forget me forever.
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 12:49pm On Dec 17, 2019
extremelygolden:
Don't inform her yet about your plans to immigrate to Canada, that will definitely influence her marital decision.

Propose again for the last time this Yuletide and if she declines you just flow with the relationship. A day or two to your departure to Canada, call her for a discussion and tell her that your desire was to travel out together and spend a lifetime with her, but since you weren't "good enough" for her, you have decided to leave the country alone. That you were actually processing both your travels documents until she declined your marriage proposal the third time.

Tell her you pray she meets the type of man she desires. Wish her well and exit the scene.

And please, make sure that last meeting holds at a neutral place where there will be no room for intimacy, to avoid leaving a child behind (after nine months) on your quest for greener pastures.

I pray she says YES anyway!
Your advice has sunk into my mind and I appreciate that. Let me state that our relationship has been pure platonic and I don't intend to do otherwise with her or any other fellow till the dowry is paid. That is my personal principle and I'm sticking to it 100%. I've really invested a lot of my mental, emotional, strategic resources on this girl so much that it hurts to see her go.

She's not financially demanding and I've not spent up to 20k on her since we started simply because she won't let me spend on her even when I'm willing to. Most times, she asks for loans and I give her but she will always pay back on time even when I am not ready to accept the money from her.

With your advice, I'll conceal my intention of traveling until the last proposal. Thanks
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 11:03am On Dec 17, 2019
Abfinest007:
don tell her anything just propose if she didn't not accept move with ur life
Do you think it will influence her decision?
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 10:57am On Dec 17, 2019
donbachi:
Forced marriage...one reason of a broken home.
No one is forcing anyone here sir. One has to clear all doubts so as not to regret in the future
RomanceRe: He Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 10:54am On Dec 17, 2019
Romanoff:
Don't be too in a hurry to be with her. If you know each other as well as you claim or if she loves you as much as you've described, she must have very strong reasons for turning down your proposal.

Find out that or those reason(s), this will determine if you'll need to even propose the second time.
Thanks for your suggestion. I'm oblivious of her reasons but I tend to find out first before proceeding.
RomanceHe Wants To Propose To Her Before Traveling Abroad, Please Advise. by Spiritfun(op): 10:38am On Dec 17, 2019
I met this beautiful girl sometimes two years ago. She's intelligent, smart and well mannered. I professed my love for her some two months into our friendship but she outrightly said NO.

I decided not to give up on her but to show her more love and care. As days went by, our friendship grew stronger, my love for her grew as well. Our life's goals are so similar that I find it very difficult to let her go.

I made sure I took the center stage in her life by doing everything necessary to help her build her dreams and its working perfectly.

I started showing her off on my social media handles just to test her reaction but contrary to my expectations, she loved it. I was proud that somehow I have perforated her defences.

Along the line, she started professing love to me too and that was the best moment of my emotional life. Then I decided to propose to her again but alas, she said NO and I was very sad and frustrated and she noticed it. At that point, I decided to give up on her and focus on other goals in life. She pleaded with me not to let our friendship die because she's afraid of losing me. I didn't bother to ask her for explanation on why I should still remain her friend without knowing where it will lead to in the end. I didn't also bother to ask her reasons for turning me down two times. I just agreed to her plea and ended the conversation.

I tactically started avoiding her to enable me heal but she would complain and plead with me to keep the friendship. I sucumbed because this girl has almost all the qualities I need in a wife and because of my standard, it's really difficult for me to find someone else that matches my preferences.

I know almost all her secrets and she knows mine too except my plans to travel abroad, preferably Canada. I made sure I did not let her know about this for some reasons.

Then, I found myself being obsessed with her again and she's been all over me too.

Now the crux of the matter is that I have perfected my plans to travel on or before February next year and I want to give her the last chance and propose to her again. I've conditioned my mind to accept whatever response she will give me and move on with or without her.

My major problem is whether to tell her about my travel plans before I propose to her or vice-versa. I know she also nurses the dream of living abroad. I'm afraid she might accept my proposal if I let her know about my Canada plans if I let her know about it before proposing to her.

Kindly advise me on this please cos I don't want to make any mistakes. I LOVE THIS GIRL and I'm certain that will make a good wife for me.
PoliticsRe: My Experience At Nigeria Immigration Service - Port Harcourt by Spiritfun(op): 12:39pm On Oct 29, 2019
Spiritfun:
Sequel to my determination to seek a better standard of living outside the shores of Nigeria, I proceeded to obtain my international passport at the Nigerian immigration office, Port Harcourt.

Precisely, I was able to process my data and got my details captured into their system early September. I was assisted by one officer who successfully helped some of my friends and relatives to obtain their passports.

Initially, I was curious to ask him when the passport will be ready, he told me about one month. I payed 28k for the passport, that's some thousands above the official cost. I didn't mind because I know say nah naija we dey. Las Las, someone must get him choppings. Lol.

After a month, I became impatient and I called the officer to inquire why the passport wasn't ready as he promised. He told me unequivocally, that they don't have materials to print the passport. I further asked him when it was likely to be ready then he told me that it's quite uncertain. I was told that most persons that their details captured two months earlier haven't received theirs. I became upset and disappointed in our country the more.

To prove their ascertion, I called one of my former students that I saw there on the day I got my details captured he told me he got his passport the same week after paying additional 5k to the officers.

Then, I confronted the officer that's assisting me with this claim, he told me that if I need it urgently I should bring money and I'll get it. In the end, after much argument, I was compelled to pay additional 7k so that the UNAVAILABLE MATERIALS WILL BECOME AVAILABLE. This is indeed, Nigeria!

Since I came back today, I've been wondering what kind of a country we have. One officer I met had the audacity to tell me to give him additional 22k and he'll print the passport immediately.

Someone needs to really investigate what's happening at Nigeria Immigration Service, Port Harcourt. How on earth will printing materials be lacking in their facility for more than 3 months and no body is doing anything about it?

Things have not just fallen apart in Nigeria, every thing don scatter!
Mods help push this to front page so that this injustice will get to the right persons
PoliticsMy Experience At Nigeria Immigration Service - Port Harcourt by Spiritfun(op): 9:41pm On Oct 28, 2019
Sequel to my determination to seek a better standard of living outside the shores of Nigeria, I proceeded to obtain my international passport at the Nigerian immigration office, Port Harcourt.

Precisely, I was able to process my data and got my details captured into their system early September. I was assisted by one officer who successfully helped some of my friends and relatives to obtain their passports.

Initially, I was curious to ask him when the passport will be ready, he told me about one month. I payed 28k for the passport, that's some thousands above the official cost. I didn't mind because I know say nah naija we dey. Las Las, someone must get him choppings. Lol.

After a month, I became impatient and I called the officer to inquire why the passport wasn't ready as he promised. He told me unequivocally, that they don't have materials to print the passport. I further asked him when it was likely to be ready then he told me that it's quite uncertain. I was told that most persons that their details captured two months earlier haven't received theirs. I became upset and disappointed in our country the more.

To prove their ascertion, I called one of my former students that I saw there on the day I got my details captured he told me he got his passport the same week after paying additional 5k to the officers.

Then, I confronted the officer that's assisting me with this claim, he told me that if I need it urgently I should bring money and I'll get it. In the end, after much argument, I was compelled to pay additional 7k so that the UNAVAILABLE MATERIALS WILL BECOME AVAILABLE. This is indeed, Nigeria!

Since I came back today, I've been wondering what kind of a country we have. One officer I met had the audacity to tell me to give him additional 22k and he'll print the passport immediately.

Someone needs to really investigate what's happening at Nigeria Immigration Service, Port Harcourt. How on earth will printing materials be lacking in their facility for more than 3 months and no body is doing anything about it?

Things have not just fallen apart in Nigeria, every thing don scatter!

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