₦airaland Forum

Gmajor:
NCAN over to you

I sight u

alienvirus:
Electricity in my area in Lagos has been very good. We hardly have power outage since 2 months ago. I always turn off my refrigerator. I haven't refill my gas cylinder since 2 months ago. My generator has been on unprecedented holiday.

Kudos to whoever that's making it happen. I hope it continues forever.

Yes. I know we are in rainy season. I am sure this is not the first rainy season in Nigeria.

Nairalanders what's the situation in your area?

Quite fair.
7.30am - 10.30am
12.40pm - 5.00pm
10pm - 4am.


I would say pretty fair

Earthbound:
....whatever happened to the old saying; 'Never spread your dirty linen in public'?

The girl's boobs pass Olympus has fallen, I swear nothing remain for there.

Olympus had crumbled

I stumbled upon an article and decided to share it here




Divorce has got to be one of the most terrible things a man or woman can go through. It’s also one of those situations where you can never fully grasp the pain and torture until you have to go through it. But one thing is clear, just like I say for the hurdles of being an orphan and what orphans have to go through, it is a unique rough path for every individual. You cannot claim to understand the pain or the angle of the pain…we can only imagine.

I am sure my regular readers are wondering why Elsie is talking divorce, she is not even married. LOL, yeah! I had an experience which got me thinking. Some of you know I have been living alone for years now, which inspired the post I did on single ladies and perception of living alone as a spinster in Nigeria. However, last year, I made a decision which soon became the worst decision of my life.

In April 2017, I decided to move in with a friend (For the records, I am never trying this again. The only human I can live with right now has to be my husband or I am not interested.), which I did. The decision stemmed from the fact that friends and family constantly complained of the fact that I hardly go out or mingle with people. So when the opportunity to have a flatmate reared its head, I jumped on it, hoping to make more friends and probably get more business connect. Things went on well for 6-7months until it went south.

A decision I made in April with joy, had me shedding tears in November and entering the New Year 2018 with debts to pay (typing this is quite easier now that debts have been cleared). I beat myself up so much for letting me slide into such situation. It was one of the roughest moments of my life and God came through for me through friends and good people. Funny part is, of all the things I thought this decision could help me achieve, I achieved none. I rather came back to my normal life with one less friend and plenty lessons learnt.

Fast forward to me being settled in my cute place and chilling… I am happy, balling, 2018 started off great but I still miss that companionship. I remember everything my flatmate loved, liked and enjoyed. I think about how she laughs, her opinion (though I don’t agree with all), her charisma, her drive, her priorities, her strength, her weakness, her fried rice delicacy, etc. I make a meal sometimes and I remember how lit up she would get if she walked in on me cooking. I remember our hangouts, schemes, jokes, gists…I remember everything. The good memories and it makes me smile. I do not want them back cos I was extremely hurt and decided to push every negativity away but I remember, smile and miss it sometimes.


Then this got me thinking about going through a proper divorce. I mean, I only had to stay with a friend less than 6months and I experienced this change phase. Now imagine having to be separated from a man or woman you have loved for years, communicated with for years, built a life with for years… at some point I was calling everybody around me by her name cos I had been programmed to call her by default. I mean this is someone I used to call a lot and I am the kind of person who calls people by a name. If I could feel this way, be broken for a bit over just a friend, how much more marriage?

Instead of judging people who are divorced, being a hypocrite about their plight and acting like your marriage still stands because you are the only son of God and Jesus combined, try understand the pain, how strong they have had to be and mind your business if you have nothing good to say. Yes, Christians hammer on the fact that God hates divorce but fail to remember that he does not hate divorcees.

Losing someone you have loved or may still love is no joke. A divorcee once said this to me – “Elsie, it’s better to lose your partner to death than to someone else. It is extremely hurtful and terrible. But God is faithful.”

Especially for those who didn’t want a divorce, there will be periods of anger at everything and everyone. Whether

Unfortunately, in our quest to find love, we open our hearts to so much pain and disappointment that it becomes hard to recognise love when it finally comes knocking.

You have exerted so much energy chasing the wrong people and things that your heart no longer has the zeal to fight for the right one. Now you are just there, hoping the right one has the heart to go the extra mile to revive your already wounded heart. What if that doesn’t happen? What if you are both wounded and have decided to curl up. It’s time to guard your heart and take good care of it.

Here are some tips to take care of your heart:

Don’t be anxious

The feeling of anxiousness is where all your insecurities come to play. This makes you try to alter so many things just to be perfect for a partner. You are worried about your feelings, their feelings, the outcome and if you two will be great together because you already see them as the perfect partner. Take a deep breath and avoid over analysing the outcome.


Take it slow
Avoid moving too fast. Don’t confuse taking things slow with prolonging the chase. There is a difference. You need to learn this in order to take care of your heart. Be clear with your signals, but build a friendship first before committing.

Maintain your standard

Let go of every unrealistic standard you have, but maintain the realistic ones. You are not asking for too much; you know what you want and can get it. Letting go of your standards just to settle or be in a relationship will only hurt you more in the long run. People go in and out of relationships within weeks or months because they have no standards.

No expectations, no assumptions

If you do not expect, you will not be disappointed. Don’t hurt your heart further by expecting them to fit the idea of that perfect being you have in mind. Give people room to be who they are, then decide if you can love and tolerate them. Assumptions, on the other hand, ruin even a perfect relationship. If you don’t assume, you get the facts right.

Communicate

Take care of your heart by engaging in proper communication with your (intended) partner. This will help you get to know them properly. However, you must make them feel comfortable talking to or with you so that they can open up.

Define

Define your relationship and stick to that definition. Is it for the long haul or just a short-term hookup? Be sure you fully understand the advantage and disadvantage of whatever form of relationship you are going into. If you start feeling a different type of way or vibe from what the definition of your relationship is, go back to the drawing board and communicate.

Bout to get back to winning ways

Wakandar:
These names are confusing me.

U sef dey there

Naturalobserver:
CEELO is actually a name of an america artist that sang"F u"...So F this BBN shit...everything fake...Even d big brother himself with a trebor voice trying hard to come out with a bass.

Complete is ceelo green

jaymichael:
Shebi that one good na. In my own case, there will be network on the floor of my bedroom but not on my bed. If I really want to browse, I will move to my parlour on top of my 3 seater couch, that's where I will get good network reception. I will still subscribe to glo sha not withstanding. I just don't trust those Indian Airtel people. 4Gb is normal 800mb.

No network in my house except in the toilet and on the kitchen cabinet.. I still have 7.9gig left

Pls add 08026351534

Thank God for my life. All in the name of getting back to Lagos on time, I was doing an average of 135km on Sunday. Was overtaking a trailer when it suddenly veered into my side of the road to avoid a pothole. Na only God o. #speedkills

Aiye ooooo. Aiye akamara

newsynews:
Tribalism will not kill you o.

Are you trying to say that a Yoruba woman will dismantle their unity just as you guys love to claim Lola Omotayo did to Psquare?

help me ask

dreamworld:
Hey ma, how much for a mellon suck

watch whatever u put in ur mouth

motun2017:
i use gtb 737 n v neva needed a token except my 4digit pin

I use the same 737 and for every online transaction, it would need my OTP code

talk2saintify:
How Much is RS 3 Core In Naira??

exactly #16.51kobo

Pheals:
early in the morning o ga o

as e dey hot

Monsuru1966:
wtf


my dick no go ever stand walai

try it first

Is it the kind of Style she suggested?
Is it the kind of sound she makes?
Is it the number of Rounds she can Go?
Is it the duration she can hold on to before she starts to complain?

melon

where u put navel...

Daniel Etoroma, a.k.a. AKALAKA, who went viral after his “pre-wedding photos” with his two brides were shared online.Daniel has married his brides traditionally in Orie-Irri, Isoko South in Delta state.
Congrats to them! See photos from their wedding!

high on some shiiii

Trending new picture of a young lady who shared this on her Facebook timeline yesterday for her friends to enjoy ?
What will you say about this? Trendy or Trashy?

spot on

holatin:
what about

1) front of army barrack

2) inside a police station compound
or

3) in front of a psychiatric hospital.......so they finally admit you in in order to cure that craziness wey dey affect you.

mtcheww

why no front of aso rock... psshhhh