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queensmith: 250k? for a years work, physical burden and heavy lifting? not to mention aftercare and nursing? the poster is having a banana! The audacity of Nigerian men.


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see, getting married and having children is definitely not for everyone. I wont advise any woman to marry or give her baby to the op. He seems very damaged. Esp given his flawed financial assessment of what having a child (or being a woman) is worth. I think he needs to find other avenues to feel fulfilled.

This is why I pitched the minimum education requirement as HND or Bsc so that simple arithmetic like this don't give the likes of you a brain wreck.

The lady will get a total of 750k between the conceived time and delivery time and another 600k for taking care of the baby for 1 year (of course I will be responsible for the baby(s) upkeep during this period).

queensmith: Why does the OP believe he is capable of being a competent father? Since he is well and clearly unable to have fruitful relationships with women at least enough to form a family.
What makes him think he will have decent relationships with his children? I'm just appalled he hasn't looked at his social disability inward and try to fix himself, than ignorantly believe he can fix it with money?

If he ever does have children, by way of relationship or otherwise I feel very sorry for anyone involved.

This is insulting!

pak: I did a little investigation and realised that the poster is just reacting to the pains of his previous 8 year relationship.
It might even make a meaning to his fear/hatred of Calabars/akwa ibom - the previous babe might be from that area ! who knows

See one of his posts below





My advice, don't narrow your view of women to your experience with one or two .

Search far , search deep. With God on your side, you'll find a good one and forget about all these loony ideas

How did you dig this out. Yes I let her go. Nothing spoil. I need kids.

sauer: Your suggestion is the most ludicrous on this thread. What stops him from using the adopted babies for rituals? And would anyone who wanted to use his own children for rituals not gladly marry and do just that: use his own children? Plus. . .the guys who do use their children for rituals, you ever heard any of them paying a woman for this?
Dumb response!

U just spoke my mind.

sauer: Your suggestion is the most ludicrous on this thread. What stops him from using the adopted babies for rituals? And would anyone who wanted to use his own children for rituals not gladly marry and do just that: use his own children? Plus. . .the guys who do use their children for rituals, you ever heard any of them paying a woman for this?
Dumb response!

Thank you for saving me the stress of responding to him.

seyibrown: @ poster

Can you give the 'arrangee mother' a guarantee that you WILL be alive/hale & hearty/of sound reasonable mind THROUGHOUT the 'term' of the contract so as to perform ALL of your contractual obligations in this proposal? Imagine her being 7 months gone with you not around or able to fulfil your part of the contract ...

God willing I will.

seyibrown: @ poster

Can you give the 'arrangee mother' a guarantee that you WILL be alive/hale & hearty/of sound reasonable mind THROUGHOUT the 'term' of the contract so as to perform ALL of your contractual obligations in this proposal? Imagine her being 7 months gone with you not around or able to fulfil your part of the contract ...

God will I will.

coogar: i cannot believe you haven't found a successful applicant since you made this thread......with the unemployment in nigeria, your phone should be red hot by now.....choose wisely though before you roll in the hay with a witch!

I tell you, I got over 50 bb requests today and the calls I returned today is over 4k. Now I am even confused as to which I should follow up cos it will take a lot of resources to follow up all the interested ladies. I'll be meeting about 6 who reside in ph between now and sunday and will surely be meeting the abj chicks by mid dec.

A lot of scammers have also tried their tricks. From the one demanding air tickets fare to other wanting 200k monthly (as if person dey pluck the money).

For those that called and took out precious time of your busy schedule to talk and advise me, I say a big thank you. I can only wish I am as lucky as you are. God bless you

greatgod2012: @ op, i think sisikill has really helped u on how to effectively achieve what u want, but i will like u to answer kobojunkie's question.

Common, I know he's just joking. Why would I want to use my hard earned kids for rituals?

RudySmith: ^^^^^^ ........ 4 the amount he is going 2 spend on this deal, he may as well tap that, just 4 enlightenment purposes, and also bcuz it is *cheaper*.
Last time I checked, artificial insemination was not cheap.

That is it. Artificial Insemination don't come cheap you know. It would have been the best option though. Cos sex, we can try to make it remain as professional as possible by refraining from too much contact.

Enoquin: Yes, I am from Akwa Ibom. The way you specifically mentioned these two states is quite funny but if you say nothing...no probs

Nothing against them at all.

hispinkolo: does she have to endure s ex with you? or will this be done via artificial inse menation??
Have you covered your bases as per lawyers? It is a contract and must be signed to make it legal.
Who would give up her kid for 250k?and miserly 50k pocket money?It's better you find someone that wants the same arrangement but you both wil have access to the kids OR wait till when you are rich..
Someone was on here rendering her services as a surrogate for 500k or so...look for the thread.

What I have is what I've offered. I'm sure there is someone out there too that want to have kids and no marriage. I don't want someone that wants to sell her baby.

RudySmith: Of course u need an attorney, there is much more than can happen than what u just wrote. what if she decides 2 take back guardianship of the child? what if she decides 2 run away with the child? what if she suddenly loses her damn mind and want more money? what if she claims the deal never happened?

Oh if that's what you mean, all that will surely be put into place. I thought you were talking about her access to the kids.

ileobatojo: I would love to be a fly on the wall in a psychoanalysis session with this OP.

That being said, there is something refreshing about the OP's stance. I don't see much wrong with this surrogacy situation you are looking for except the missing love of a mother your children will have to endure growing up. I only hope you will keep it purely professional and not sleep with the woman. There are other ways to donate your s.emen. Also, you didn't say but I hope you have given good thought to how you will practically go about raising these kids the best way possible?

Out of curiosity, why don't you want a divorced person?

I don't want the complications of a divorced person.I have a mum that will be willing to take care of them. That aspect will be well taken care of.

Siena: There's nothing wrong with a man or woman wanting kids, but not wanting the emotional attachment or marriage which society deems requirements. There's nothing to say that parents need to be married - they don't.

The only issue here (as I see it) is the way stpat1's going about it. He needs to safeguard himself, and none of his posts mention an attorney, or any form of legal documentation. What's to stop the mother changing her mind? Bro, you need to make sure you're protected, so be sure to use the services of an attorney.

Ladies and gents, remember this is not about right or wrong, the OP's not here to be judged, he's brought this up for discussion, and nothing else. Certainly not snide remarks about rituals, gender issues etc.

Well I didn't mention attorney cos I do not intend to restrict the kids from their mother at any point in time. She is the mother and will remain so. The only issue here is that it is no binding that

I marry her or pay her for life

[quote author=lola.luv]Some of these 'made men' are the problem. It is much better they remain single than put a woman through misery.
My ex is a made man; great job in the oil sector, handsome and all.
But I truly feel sorry for the unlucky chick who becomes his wife.

So don't make it sound like it is only women with the problem.[/quote]Well I'm not a made man so I'm not in that category

victorian: This poster is really bitter...well, u need to be happy within u, to bring happiness to any child, u bring to the world.. Or else, they will end up been bitter or suicidal.. A word is enough for the wise..it's up to you and the baby mama...best of luck.

But seriously, I'm not bitter. Its just what I want. I'm a happy and free spirited person and wouldn't want that dampened by all the commitment, sacrifices, and other issues associated with marriage.

RudySmith: U do know that u could get all this for free, if u took ur time and look 4 the right person. There r many women out there who want children but do not want the duties that comes along with them. U know? women who want children and still want 2 have some kind of a social/fun/nightlife.
Just b fully honest with the girl about ur intentions and ride on.
btw when u write the kid will need 2 b continually taken care, u mean taken care by who?

Of course taken care of by me but she's free to have access to the kid(s) at anytime.

Fesisko: op,for real or you re joking?y did you want to have children out of wedlock?

And what's so special about Wed LOCK?

Okontami: @OP, I can understand your anger and bitterness. Your writing is that of an emotionally wrecked man filled with so much anger. Dear all,please we need to watch how we treat each other. Please let us stop betraying people who put their trust in us. I know guys who are made and still patronize pro*stitutes daily because they can hardly find a difference between any Naija girl and a pros*titute. They tend to justify their actions by saying you even spend far far less carrying olosho to having a regular Naija girl who will ask you heaven and earth, cheat on you and still put you thru troubles of emotional wreck.They tell you that an average Naija girl is more prone to HIV than a prost*itute. Therefore Mr Poster, let off the anger and the lack of trust. Have an open mind and you will surely find that lady who will add real value to you and make you happy in all ways. Please dont go thru this path.

I understand your concern, but what I'm bothered about is, Is there anything wrong with me just wanting to have the kids without and those wifey lovey lovey and all the stress and headache that comes with it? Are you saying it will be a disadvantage for me or the kids? Pls let me know. Leave out the issue of emotions and lemme see what you really have against it.

RudySmith: The lady will only stop working 4 a month or two and he is offering 2 pay her 100K per month 4 a yr after the birth, why would u expect this guy 2 pay more than that?

Poster
Since u r a hard working man, who will raise the kids? will the mother have right 2 c her children whenever she pleases? will she have 2 sign a paper that gives away her rights as the mother?

Thank you jare my brother. I am not saying its worth it neither am I trying to buy the kids.
That's just I can offer. Remember that the kids will need to be continually taken care.

I'll appreciate one who's willing to look pass

The revenue but for the love of the kids who she can be assured will be well taken care of.

vislabraye: How many times will you have to sleep with the woman? Is it every time you want?
Why are you not married but want to raise children?
How do we know you are not a ritualist?

My advice: Go to a recruitment agency.

No be only rituals. Don't want a wife, just want kids. I no be gay sha o. Not just ready for all those wifey wifey stuffs

Enoquin: Out of curiousity, what do you have against Akwa Ibom and Calabar girls?

Nothing against them at all. Are u from there?

emilyone: na wa o.!
women don suffer!

I see nothing degrading as you're making it look in what I've asked for.
Wetin make dem suffer?

[quote author=acidosis™]To start with, upload your HIV examination result.. lets see[/quote]That's no issue, as a job requirement I undergo medical test every 3 months. She will have it on demand or a fresh test conducted at center of her choice.

What's hilarious about it? The offer or what?

I am unmarried and would want kids 2 max.

Here's my offer, you have 1 baby and you get 250k, you have twins (will have to take fertility drugs) and get 500k.

During the pregnancy period you'll get a monthly allowance of 50k while after delivery you'll get a monthly allowance of 100k for a year or more (can be agreed on). After the kids have been handed over, you'll get 250k as severance but you'll be free to visit the kid(s) anytime.

Minimum requirement is a university degree or HND. Can come from any part of the world except Akwa Ibom and Cross river (No offense intended).

Must be a non smoker and at most a social drinker

Must be willing to go through medical check up

Must not be divorced. Can be a single parent though.

Must not be more than 30 yrs old

If these are meet other negotiations can be agreed on.

If interested pls reach me on

saintpatrics(at)gmail.com
07085694495
BB pin: 32647939.

Pics can be sent to expedite the process

Interesting thread. Will like to know who the lucky buyer will be. Would have gone for it but just don't like the colour, bumper and the alloy

Very true

Pray. Its best option now. I was dead broke by the weekend, I prayed to God and this morning I was blessed financially and also got a call for another financial encounter.

Pray my brother

Send pics to saintpatrics@gmail.com