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Kellorah what kind of loser hooks up with a girl on Nairaland after advertising his married life? abeg drain him for all he has got!

bayol2001:
i feel u sugar pp, i just thot maybe u used to form all your stories, ok my own advise to i sugar pp, men alwayz like to feel in control as playboy said, i think u r just troublesome from your lines that i have gone thru, u sounded like you and your bf were in the same locality, u even just told we nairalanders that he is your guy not your nf, what is the different btw guy and bf?pls explain beta cos your problem keeps increasing day by day, sori for saying that,


note:when a girl is not intrested in marriage,she tends to misbehave because she cant be bothered in any way, u r lukin beyound bf anf gf with him, from my own conclusion i feel that is y u not acting right, where in nigeria r u based and where is your bf?sugar pp u dont type like u r in your mid 20s, sori abt dat too, u should know dat u dont insult a man,

i got married at the age of 22, my wife was 20 then, so u r ripe enuf to get married, trust me your next bf might be worse.think well my child,

you this bayol dude i think you just like the sound of your own keypad thats why you just rush to write sensible +senseless comments and combine them into one post.
I let dude be in control but kinda of hard when spending £50 on me becomes breaking news and the whole world needs to hear about it. P.s. dude is meant to be one of Lekki's "big boys". He is doing his Master's in the UK and i am not that far away.
Now bf has more rights than a guy, bf can expect me to be faithful and bf can make more demands.
I didn't say i am not interested in marriage i just said if its a choice between wahalamatic marriage n bein happily single then i know which one i will choose. I am happy you and your wife are happy and you have a fulltime job to take care of her hope u have kids to?

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longer

wow so many choices and offers! which lady will u pick?!

maedan:

@ sugar pp don't mind them, I always saw the sense in your topic. They must have too, even the die-hard chauvinists who think its we ladies that lack the brain in question . Coming to a public forum to air your issues is in fact helpful to the readers not just the posters. Even when some people make up fake stories, there is always something to learn. Anyway, sugar pp, don't give up your faith/interest in marriage; it's a good thing in most cases .

Thanks Maedan!

Answering the other questions brought up:
am i immature? should him not picking up phonecalls or answering text messages really matter? i don't know if i am immatured i might be considered such in some cases but i think in reality i am just plain damn "real". It is a warning sign if a guy does not pick phonecalls or reply ur texts messages i take it as a complete disregard especially in today's world where communication has been made so easy and cheap all he could have written is "hi baby sori sori cnt chat now" or something to that effect better still he shouldn't need prompting. Once in a while he should feel the need to stay intouch.
am i an attention seeker? yep ofcos. Any girl that isn't is just pretendn wait until 5yrs into marriage then her true colours will come out. Now the trick to ladies is if you give them what they want you are guaranteed to live longer!
was he really busy? probably he is doin his masters so i don't like to disturb him but if you are chatting on messenger you are not all that busy to have a quick chat on the phone
maybe he is nolonger interested in me? that's a 35-65 scenario. 65 bet that he still likes me (this estimation is a bit on the conservative side) trust me i don't waste time on guys the minute dude says he is not interested i am out the door.
why don't you go see him physically? for now we are both in different jurisdictions and i can't spend money goin to see him if he is not acting right

bayol2001:
sugar pp is d nairaland clown, she as too many posts, i have a feeling she is a scam, she might be using our conversation summary for a romantic magazine, i dont trust her, admin should do sumtin, who is the moderator?once again lets all ignore her, a few of her topics her:
1. My Guy Is Messing Up So I Need A Blind Date
2 Is It A Dangerous Game Seeing your Ex?
3Why Does He Think His Games Will Make Me More Interested?
then the last is How To Create A New Topic,

i reli dont trust her on NL,

Dear Nairalanders you can be rest assured that i am real and my topics are completely real. To clarify dude is not my bf he is "my guy" (there was no official asking out). Anyways the dude is on here he knows himself i am not mentionin names but he is always all up my business that's why i address most of my topics to him so that he can see reason from more intellegient folks like urself.

bayol2001:
i have carefully read all your comments NLs, from my own point of view:
firstly,i feel sugar pp is the one that as the problem,
secondly,i feel sugar pp is the childish one because if u have a problem with your bf,u should settle with him and not come and wait for people to comment on your problem.[/b]thirdly,sugar pp is alwayz posting a comment abt her bf, [b]i dont think sugar pp is the only person that as a bf on nairaland. fouthly,i feel sugar pp is not a patient girl,i see no reason y u should tell your bf to get lost, she is the immature one.sugar pp never talks abt her bfs good side if u NLs have noticed.i just feel sugar pp is not even matured herself.do we have any age restriction on nairaland?can somebody ask her for her age, she sounds below 18,

NLs i think we should just ignore sugar pps topic because she is always having issue with her boyfriend.if we dont ignore sugar pp now,[b]it might me her married life that we are going to start commenting on.[/b]my fellow nairalands pls let us ignore sugar pp topic maybe that way she will go and settle with her bf.

thank you all,

Well peeps thank you all for your comments and advise. Now i will try to address the issues discussed some summarised by this bayol2001 dude and bolded above. I am Nigerian and as it is with Nigerian tradition and custom sometimes when a couple can't resolve their many issues they take it to the elders or those with more wisdom or more neutral parties.
Yes i am not the only Nairalander with a bf but probably the only one with a bf that refuses to grow up!
yeah ofcos i see no reason for a girl to tell her bf to shut up (under normal circumstances) infact i didn't i told him to "get lost!" not that i am condonin this conduct either but if a girl has been constantly airing her dissatisfaction and the guy keeps ignorin then its only natural she tells him to get lost if she means it.
I don't talk about his good side cos i haven't seen much of it also its not his good side that is frustratn me or that i need the help of nairalanders on!
btw i am above 18 in my mid-20s infact.
By God's grace it won't be my married life you would be commentin on next cos i will be wise enough to choose carefully before walking down the aisle. Unlike some other girls i am not freaked by marriage didn't do the whole dream about white wedding as a little girl and untraditional as it might sound if i am happier single i have no problem remainin as so.

put ur pic up "fresh" boy

where do you live? are you looking for play?

@ maedan well i sure like attention but if he refuses 2 give me it then i might hv 2 get it outside n jst play along with him. The ball is in his court how he wants things to be between us

brillant advise playboy u r worthy of ur username i will try ur new strategy thx! p.s. u sure like d word "brute"

well i'm obviously in the right section cos i'm lookn 4 romance and this is romance section isn't it?

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So the summary of what he did today: he called me earlier and complained that i hadn't replied his messages which he sent late last night/early morning (around 3am) this was after he ignored for the whole day my own text messages to him. Nehoo i didn't say much n he eventually said bye.
Later on i tried calling him and he refused to pick up his fone (thats part of his usual tantrums). So we eventually got chatn on messenger n i tried calln him on there and again he refused to pick up sayn he was "busy" yet we were chattn on messenger.
I told him i had something important to discuss but he still refused to pick up. I got pissed off and i told him to get lost and stay lost so that was it.
I know it sounds like kiddies stuff but trust me its all him hence the reason i say he is immature! seriously there's more to the story but basically all he needs 2 say is how much he loves me and can't live without me [i][/i]but he rather waste his time with non-graded girls that are just fooling him. He is too proud and just not romantic enough!

@ playboy he is nt only a brute he is also a silly monkey! arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh a silly silly monkey!
@ maedan there is the long n short version of the story. Which do u prefer?
@ jaybee i guess love is blind as they say

by upgrading to a better guy

wrong section move ur ass to the meeting and dating section!

why are guys nowadays so immature? ironically it could have worked but he has completely ruined it!

POSAKOSA1:
Now do you want a lollypop candy for your EX being your friend ?

na i only mentioned that cos i knew a smart ass will point out that how can be friends with all my exes if one sworn to not remain friends

yes

one of my exes once said he could never be friends with his ex i thought it was a strange concept since i have remained friends with all my exes and have managed to detach myself from any romantic feeling towards them. So just wondering what the concensus is on nairaland? btw that my ex did not stick to his word cos he is friend with me ha ha

Sori to say but ur girl seems childish to the core! tell her you also need space make it atleast a month then she will come back to her senses. Then you guys have a date to discuss things and to also have fun and see if the magic is still there. But seriously you both need a break to breathe and enjoy the single life and the options out there. Btw the issue of her sleeping with the other dude is kinda irrelevant even if true since she seems to have been a bit unstable that period perhaps she was just looking for attention.

yep you too

Well guys thx 4 all d prayers and support cos my guy is now playing ball he got me two gangster shirts and trouser yesterday and he has promised to be a good boy. Btw saw some of ur pix and dnt mean to be rude but most were not tempting enough
@ juniourdav ofcos i kno wat i want: a decent man n future husband material.
To all of yous

lonelypal:
Just one question?
whats in for me if I find u worthy of all this money licking adventures u just highlighted?
and whats wit d obsession wit F1race?

u hv opportunity 2 go on a date with sugar pp aka "hot cake" and you are asking what is in it for you?

kellorah:
LMAO! Threader, will u be paying for their visa, tickets, etc?

Sounds pretty desperate to me.

i will only pay for my own visa its not desperation jst alternative 2 waitn 4 my guy 2 play ball

nope u cn get comedy shows that are same price as cinema or slightly above that. Same thing as concerts.

I said my friend saw him not that i read it! and i didn't go into more details but it defo wasn't innocent as in Jenson was scared that the story might get out

Only apply if you are willing to do one or all of the following for the date:

1. Take me to watch Formula1 live
2. To watch horse racing
3. Bungee jumping
4. Parachute jumping
5. Man United match
6. Live concert
7. Comedy show
8. I'm open for other interesting suggestions

P.s. Don't bother with nice restaurant and shopping been there, done that trust me nothing is/can impress me. Will prefer Candidates to be Nigerians, christains only and you can be based in any country although visa restrictions might mean date might be delayed by a couple of weeks/months.
Btw i am not desper8 and not looking for husband (just yet)

Well mayb that's wat my nija brothers are missing! good PR folks