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dnt add him that shld send him a message! he shldnt jst b able to wiggle his way back into your life. He shld earn ur friendship

no big deal what did you want her to do with the pics? if you specifically want her to destroy the pics you can ask her otherwise its not abnormal/suspicious that she has the pics its not like you found her fantasying and dwelling on the pics

My friend broke up with her fiance a few months back. It seemed like a bad break up although the detail of events is a bit sketchy but to be honest i think it is more my friend's fault than anything. Anyway her ex has been wanting to meet up with me, i have no problem with him and i think he is a nice guy so i see no problem going for a friendly coffee or whatever. However given who he is i have been avoiding the meeting giving him whatever excuse to postphone/cancel. Now he has requested we meet up again and i agreed but will this count as betraying my friend? mind you i don't know the guy's true intention but on my part i have no feelings for him what so ever, he is not my type and there is no chance of anything developing. So is it okay for me to meet up with him?

i think the best thing for you is to establish the "don't go bak to exes rule". The fact is the time for him to try and resolve watever issues you guys had in the relationship was when you were crying and begging him. Think about how far you have gone in healing emotionally and now he wants to throw you off balance? he might regret his actions quite alright and trully love you but it is too late (atleast for now). Date other guys and if you feel he has more to offer you then you might start to listen to his pleas

michelin89:
Nor mind those yeye girls. Na me be the woman of your dreams.

yeah remain in his dreams i'm the woman in his reality. Go figure

yes i'm based in the EU na u hv 2 wait 4 my pic i am very private like that but u do sound interestn. We shld hv a chat someday unfortunately nt today mayb nxt weekend i'll b all urs. Dnt wori friendship is all i'm lookn 4 (4 now) p.s. i'm in my mid twenties

@ petersecur cn i come n meet u in madrid? plsssssssssssssssss ok pls send me ur pix how old r u? gosh my heart is beatn fast

join d club!

Ebonyeyes:
I think its love at ist read, im in love with you Where are you located so we can take this thing to another level, my pastor prophesied that I will marry a millionaire in 2010

woman if u kno wats good 4 u, u will stay well clear of my man! ur pastor prophesied ko ur pastor prophesied ni scam artist! gold digger!

Wen u say it was goin smoothly how sure r u of that fact? did he ever state his level of commitment to u? did he ever use the "L" word?
Well he realy cld b busy evn if nt heavily busy he mite b stressd or jst needs space. I tend to b like that sometimes, i cn go 4 days nt tlkn 2 a guy i'm datn nt cos i dnt like him but i jst like hvn "me" time but since guys tend to take it personal i mak the extra effort to b available.
The other option is that he is losn interest n tryn 2 brk up wit ya whichever the case the best thing u cn do is leave him for a few days evn weeks (u hv no choice). Single life realy is nt that bad n if u r lucky u wil get to go on a few dates that u otherwise wldnt hv been able to say "yes" to

petersecur:
My Dear friend stay where You, I was a very Poor guy before, all the female girls i dated run away because i was so Poor that i could not even afford a Jeans, , i could not help it and i remain single for years,, because no female is interested in me, so i was lonely for years without any female friend, only male friends,so i had to travel to Europe through Morocco and In the first week of me entering Spain, guess what? I won a Lottery, I am amoung the first set of people who the Euro Million lottery In Spain the year 2003 and I won €15, Million euros and since then My Life has turn around until One day Thing turn around, and Today I am really Loaded and I am worth Over 700 Million naira, so i have everything In life! I Just give you my life testimony and i advice you to be patience and i promise you things will get better and you will reap what you sow!! Guess what? I am still searching for that special queen of Mine, i am waiting and searching and i dont pose as a rich dude, because i am a young man and always on low profile, because of my past experiences so i am always careful in chossing a partner.

@ petersecur seriously i am nt lyn something directd me to nairaland today n i saw ur post. I think we r meant to be wat r u doin 4 val's day? p.s. i hope u believe in fate n love

Pogistega (what a stupid name) sounds like a tablet one uses to purge one's system n how i badly wanna purge u out of nairaland! ehwy u suck

@ poster on behalf of all the posters (wit atleast a trace of a brain cell) we r sayn thanks but no thanks to your analogy mayb ur wife n daughters might b interestd in how ur brain works n ur theory on relationships

@ pogistega,, and u cn never pass an IQ test! wat r u doin resuscitatn dis thread afara u better bury it now! dnt make me count up to three!

u jst came on here to brag if it realy bothers u u will stop givn her all she asks for

teddy bear? except d girl is under 18 i hv teddys given to me wen i was younger n i thought it was cute n i still hv them but now maturity don set in teddy bear on its own is nolonger cute as a gift. Get her a nice top or take her for a picnic or eatery that u kno she cnt blow ur budget. A cake n mix-CD of her fav songs is another option.

i think people are missing the point. She isn't sayn she hates her mother-in-law or even mind her stayn its d bossing around that is makn the mother in-law's stay unbearable. The job of the husband was to address his wife's concern but since he chose nt to then she shld find respectful means to cut the stay short. All those suggestn she shld b rude/harsh r naive n hv no understandn of the importance n influence of the mother-in-law!

Invite ur mother or another family member to come n stay over u dnt evn hv 2 let ur mother-in law or husband know that u invited the family member but make sure their stay is nt objected by either by insistn it is a necessity or family emergency trust me ur mother in law will feel less comfortable dictatn especially if it is also an older family member or someone she fears/respects u invite + she will b more likely to cut her stay short

hmmm i tink i'll go for snazzydawn girl fine shah

for the wrestling pin a small cloth (using safety pin or so) to the back of ur shirt then lie down n challenge her to grab the cloth using any means she cn e.g. tickln u or punchn or without turnin u over

Pogistega i am very OK certified mentally stable n able. What is daft is u providn examples of women reactn in a senseless manner to diffuse situations that cld b handled in more mature n sensible manner. If a guy wants to move in another woman why nt ask him what he expects from u? why nt calmly tell him u r nt happy wit the situation n look for exit options that wld pay u?

or why i luv u n hate my ex-girlfriends quiz. Give her three possible options relatn to questions, stories blah blah i smell trouble

find the bury treasure game. Write different actions u wana do on notes n hide in different parts of d hse. Write out clues or draw a map of where to find them n let ur girl discover n let the action play out.

@ poster enuf of all dis senseless examples! wat stops d guy bringn another woman wat guarantee that the other woman wld b sensible enough to leave. No wonder Nigerian women settle for less because they hv people like u advisin them on how to be used n abused n thinkin they r fortunate! ur subject shld b understandn lowlifes nt men

Pogistega:
I do not subscribe to the beastly man's attitude, but only wanted to guide the women on the proper way to react in extreem situations. The point is, fire cannot fight fire.

not every woman likes drama either but hvn said that that doesn't mean u shld bcum a doormat. Proper way 4 her 2 hv reacted wld b 2 get a locksmith to break the door open (afterall it was only 8:15pm) n then quietly walk to her room to sleep n if d man was makn noise n causin drama she shld hv packd a week worth of clothes n stayd wit a friend. Or she shld hv jst left the compound that night n slept at a hotel or at friend's n wait till the husband was out of the house break the door change the lock n let him see how it feels to b locked out.

@ poster wat were u tryn 2 achieve wit dis intellegience-devoid post? men shld b encouraged to treat women wit respect n women shld b taught to demand that respect. If my husband shld lock me out the hse i hv tons of options but sleepin outside the hse n then rewardn his "insensitivity" with food wldnt b wat i wld choose.
Is that your own example of a happy, healthy n equal relationship tlkless of marriage? understandn men my backside!
if i were d woman i wld hv cookd him nice efo riro with dog food for extra flavour

@ poster no offence but "FOLEYS HAVEN" is a bit lame. The "mummy n me" name is quite cool n i hv another suggestion "Pebbles". I hv more suggestions but i charge a fee,

jst tell her u rather nt live wit her for the moment they no dey arrest someone for sayn no

you r doin the right thing its good to mourn the loss of a loved one n tlk. Theres no magic way to get over loss but in time u will feel stronger to carry on. U might want to carry a little momento of her to remember her maybe a picture of the two of you or necklace or something so that you feel u r doin something to keep her memory alive. Deepest condolence

it use to happen wit my ex we still laugh about it. The kissing was good but it always left my lips bruised although recently when i kissed him my lips were alright i guess after a while the nerves on ur lips jst die n no more bruisn possible

depends on if the woman has money of her own i.e. career woman n if they want to start hvn kids immediately.
If a kid is to be delayd and the woman works then he needs to hv half of what will make comfortable yearly living for the two of them and extra towards investment. I would estimate £25k-£45 income per annum n £5k-£20k for investment n savings. In Nija terms expectations will be less ofcos maybe 1mil per annum and 200k for savings.
equate kids n u need double of everything equate house wife then triple.

Now for wedding ceremony depends on how many countries and events. Naija one shld b between 1mil-5mil, UK £10k-25k, honeymoon £3k-5k. Marriage no easy oooooooooooo