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chuks01 it be like say you dey date white girl for papers? i can smell guys like you from miles away. Only losers have loser mentality. Your own don spoil so you dey wish its the same for everyone around you. Pele as for me and my household we dey grooveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee feel free to use me as a prayer point as God as blessed me with a great man may he bless you with a great woman. Say amen and make you too dump losers in ur life

okay how have i lost out? i have a better guy that treats me like a queen, richer, well behaved, real christain and more committed. Abeg all hold up ur wine glasses lets toast to the good life

chuks01 i can see your problem: you have spermatorza for a brain if ur main concern is if we did or did not have sex. The relevance of that is what small boy mentality is that what u guys use to console urself when a girl wises up? pele nothing can stop my happy state today i am on a highhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh  

screw as how?

@ Chuks01 and yorisb
no my lovelies i am not a sore loser just very very freaking happy! We broke up a few months back don't even know if breaking up is the right word cos we never really officially dated don't know who dumped who either all i know is i stopped communicating with him and my life has been all the better for it.
We recently got chatn n i was trying to be friendly to him but then i realised he was more annoying than i thought. Hence why i decided to cut him off from my life completely

I only made this thread cos i'm sick of girls crying on nairaland over breakups or being used by a loser. Not every break up needs to be sad sometimes it makes u intoxicatingly hyper and tres tres jolly!

Champagne on me!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7sbI5auvQg blame it on me, say its my fault, say anything you want as long as its over!

I'm telling you my brothers and sisters happiness cannot be faked! from my head to my toes my body rejoices, my soul is at peace and my spirit is free!!! i tried the lets try and be friends route but boy just has no sense worth mentioning.

I am ready for him if he wants to take the battle to the next level lol he knows nada

Just got rid of a complete loser from my life permanently n forever n ever!!!! oh yeah it feels good

The guy was a no good loser and user. He had absolutely nothing going for him and yet full of himself thinking he was some kind of prize even though the only fish he seems to hook are ugly girls that hv nothing going for them and that others hv condemned n tossed away.

Before u all ask "no" this description doesn't include me oooooooooooooooo i am quality babe jst unfortunate set of events got my path to cross the path of the loser.

I got with the dude briefly cos i was bored and wasn't looking for anything serious just someone to entertain me. At first i was willing to overlook his shortcomings especially since he made me laugh but it is not laughing matter anymore can you imagine the loser joking that i was impotent? which kind joke be that? 27 yr old for that matter he doesn't know how to talk just opens his mouth gbosa, cares about nobody else but himself. I give him 5 yrs when reality suddenly dawns on him then he will probably be in a beer parlour somewhere drinking his worries away while all his fake friends would have left him where he is.

He better get his act together other correct guys are thinking of settling down and getting their affairs in check instead he is comparing himself to idiots that at age 40 are still in school chasing skirts.

Thank God i know better and have already moved on

boys n girls rejoice with me its nt easy recognising a loser and getting rid of him from your life  lets use this thread to celebrate the many losers we have gotten rid of from our lives. IT IS PARTY TIME!
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@ mrbrownjay and talina
not willing to fully commit means that i wouldn't readily want to make life altering decisions for the sake of the relationship. For example if my boyfriend is forced to travel overseas for work and asks me to relocate with him even if there is nothing stopping me relocating i might decide not to. I might also not be eager to move in with him as boyfriend girlfriend or share some expenses and financial responsibilities that might be required in a fully committed relationship. Thats what i mean, i don't mean playing around or seeing other guys.

@ mrbrownjay to answer your question about what type of relationship i want: i want one that both parties can maintain their independence and individual lives but still know how to come together as a couple without the stress, distrust and drama that some relationships endure

Pornodude:
MAKE I TALK MY OWN

PERSONALLY I BELIEVE IN GIVING YOUR BEST SHOT AT ANYTHING. IN THIS WORLD, WHAT IS THE LEAST WE CAN DO? THE LEAST WE CAN DO IS BEING TRUE TO OURSELVES.

BACK TO THE ISSUE AT HAND, EVEN AFTER WE HAVE GIVEN OUR ALL AND WE ENDED UP BURNT, WHAT DO WE DO THE NEXT TIME? WE SIMPLY APPLY OUR LEARNING FROM THE LAST RELATIONSHIP AND ALSO BE TRUE TO OURSELF. IF ANYONE GAVE HIS/ HER ALL AND THE OTHER PARTY CHOSE TO FORK UP, YOU CAN BEAT your CHEST WITH PRIDE AND SAY THAT U DID YOUR BEST, WERE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND THE OTHER PARTY, AND HENCE NO BLAME CAN BE PINNED ON YOU.

HOW CAN WE TELL IF A RELATIONSHIP WOULD WORK OUT? THE ANSWER IS THAT WE CANT. ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT WORKS OUT WAS BECAUSE OF A CONCERTED EFFORT PLAYED OUT BY BOTH PARTIES. THEY BOTH PUT IN A LOT OF TIME AND SACRIFICE TO ENSURE THAT IT WORKS AND IT FINALLY WORKS.

NOT BECAUSE PAST RELATIONSHIPS DIDNT WORK, THEN WE FOLD OUR HAND AND HOLD BACK WHAT WE ARE SUPPOSED TO SHARE (PLAY ON THE SAFE SIDE). ALSO REMEMBER THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT A ONE MAN THING BUT A TWO MAN THING. WE ARE SUPPOSED TO COMPLEMENT THE WEAKNESSES OF OUR PARTNERS. SO IF THE WEAKNESS OF A GUY IS PURSUING OTHER LADIES, THE OTHER PARTY SHOULD TRY TO CURB SUCH EXCESSES BY SITTING AND DISCUSSING THE PROBLEM, AND ALSO MAKING HERSELF APPEALING TO HER MAN. IF A GIRLS PROBLEM IS BEING TOO MATERIALISTIC, SUCH SHOULD ALSO BE DISCUSSED AND I FEEL THE GUY SHOULD TRY TO PROVIDE ENOUGH FOR HIS WOMAN. THOUGH SOME LADIES' APPETITE FOR MATERIAL THING IS INSATIABLE.

JUST REMEMBER THAT HOW MUCH BEAUTY A FLOWER GIVES OUT DEPENDS ON THE AMOUNT OF CARE GIVEN TO IT. THIS SHOULD BE THE SAME IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP.

GBAM!!!

wow i really like your point if only the other party is also willing to put in the effort. Mind u its nt that i intend never to commit its jst that at a slower pace and when i feel i cn give the other party a fair chance

i use to do rebounds too infact i enjoyed them but not anymore homegirl is maturing + you end up liking the rebounds and they are guys that you necessarily wouldn't or shouldn't pursue a relationship with in terms of something more long term

Inked_Nerd:
Hmmm, interesting question. I'm curious to see how people answer.

me too

i was talking to my guy friend today about the topic of commitment and he was trying to understand why i have a carefree attitude to relationships. From our convo it became clear that according to the rules of dating when a girl is not willing to fully commit to her boyfriend, most people like to jump to the conclusion that she is just not in love with the guy, she's playing the field or seeing someone else but i was trying to explain to him that sometimes none of those reasons are true and there's the "other reason".
For me its a matter of i am just not ready to go there. I have done the commitment thing in the past stuck to my side of the bargain but still ended up being burnt as we all know being betrayed is not a pleasant experience and even though i don't dwell on past hurt (as in i consider myself baggage free- no ex boyfriend drama or anything) i am still not prepared to take the risk with another charmer and frankly i enjoy my freedom + for now i have career, money and family on my mind so i have no time to be completely devoted to a guy.
So how best can a girl communicate this position to her boyfriend without him second guessing her love for him or thinking that she can't be trusted?

so from that convo u think she wants u back? u r funny o arent u jumping the gun a bit all she said was she was missing u! if u dnt miss her u dnt need to see her

doctors in the house please share your opinions

hurry i'm so exciting!

i just tried searching u on facebook no profile is coming up. try me

come on i'm waiting, ,

ok whats ur facebook name i will add you now

i'm currently in Enugu so maybe thats why its not going thru the network in this country self i tire o where r u my dear? r u on messenger/ skype?

Mcfemad:
@sugar pp, not getting thru as well
@moimoi, y you?

i won't give up i hv a really good feeling about u

lovemoi2:
Whats ya height?
Are U light in complexiön?
How big is your manliness?
How long can U last during se.x?
Do u lick pus.sy n can u make a gal cu.m?
Most importantly how much do U have in ya account?

woman i hope u r asking those questions on my behalf

do u believe in love at first chat? 08071301795 call me

i just tried ur no. its not going through! pls give me a call i'm thinking about leaving my man

funi

wassup!

u guys dnt sound like exes jst bein friends. The relationship is nt healthy

sir t:
So sad that u didn't see anything bad in her behaviour. Is dubious character synonymous to smartness? Seems most ladies are very far from been called "VIRTUOUS" --------- it sucks real time!!!!!

Just that I wuldn't like to go into details. I had called to congratulate her and she was ashamed of herself. I didn't post here to seek for sympathy, but rather to let guys learn how to deal with ladies. If I had no knowledge of her ways, I might probably be in shock by now and for your information, I'm searching.


@ sugar pp,

1) I didn't seek for anybody's sympathy------get that straight into your head.

2) I never wasted my time, rather I deliberately wasted her time and used her to pass time, U might see me as a wicked person, but I'm definitely not.

Our relationship was barely five months wen i discovered her way of life and I decided to teach her the lesson of her life. She got married to her ex-boyfriend out of frustration------u might be curious to know------- After her youth service, she said we should go for proper introduction and I refused cos I can't marry somebody I can't trust like YOU. Guess she began to suspect my move and out of desperation, she got belle for her ex and refused to terminate it.

I shouldn't av stated all this and many more I didn't say, but u and others that didn't see anything bad in jumping from one bed to another forced words out of my mouth. She has her good side too, just that the bad one out-weight the good one. Now, do your calculation and see whether u can learn from it. Don't think u can outsmart your boyfriend. because he didn't complain about your escapades doesn't mean he didn't know. His silence might be to punish you and teach u lessons u might not forget for the rest of your life.

@ poster 1st of all i am nt condonin what ur girl did bed hoppn is nt my thing neither is it bcumn of a lady but ur thread to me is without form or reason. Let me address the areas in bold.
You mentioned that most women r nt virtuous women based on what? ur ex goin back to her ex? what u hv to understand is that the dating game is complex it is possible in the first few months (even yrs) for someone to contemplate between partners it is nt a crime! maybe she liked the two of u at the same time and was trying to decide who was the best and because of ur initial reservation n suspicion which manifestd in ur treatment towards her YOU pushed her further into the arms of her ex.
You say u knew her ways which were what? it is possible that u jumped to the wrong conclusion also u guys dated for 5 yrs people change mayb she was tryn to change n u wldnt let her many girls hv past and discussing things with her would hv been a much more matured route. Instead u chose to "waste" her time because what, u r God? theres the yoruba sayn that loosely translates to "what u won't eat dnt bother smelling it" basically if she wasnt the type of girl u were lookn for u shld hv set her free a longtime ago n let God bless u.
I'm sure u r secretly hopn she will live to regret her decision n will continue to b obsessed about u but she jst might surprise u n her husband might end up  bringn out the best in her n successfuly "tame" her ways
I hope other guys learn from this post how not to handle a situation like urs

@ poster the advise only applies to a girl that knows she is ugly which is just 10% of the ugly girls population. You will be surprised bout how many ugly girls will still be trying to protect their botched up face in a fight little do they know that a little smacking around cn do them a wealth of good for example realign their misaligned face

you've been dating the wrong guys. When a guy truly loves you he won't complain

dear poster i dnt really get the purpose of this thread. Is it to garner sympathy? get encouragement or what? so far ur responses seem to be defensive bordering on aggressive when peeps point out the obvious that she is nt necessarily worse off in this situation.

1st of all ur story does nt conclude in a sad endn for her but rather a situation in which she gets married (presumably happily) u on the otherhand wasted 5 yrs of ur life in a relationship you refused to quit even though you claim you were aware of her "true" agenda and not being entirely surprised by the wedding. So while she accomplishes her goal of finally getting married you open a nairaland post dedicated to her (this is a guy that claims "he is written all over the girl" from the looks of things you are the one that is still obsessed and refuses to move on not her.

Please face reality and stop livin in denial- on this occassion she outsmarted u, probably used u n took u 4 a fool. I normally feel sorry for those that suffer from an underserved heartbreak but when u try to disguise it in a ridiculous way i just hv to give u the brutal and honest truth. MOVE ON BRO!

confront the woman tell her to explain the meanin of the rubbish she was sending ur husband let her know that u r nt a softy n will nt entertain her inappropriate conduct towards ur husband. U dnt need to discuss the issue again with ur husband jst make sure u r on top of ur game at home and around him. I'm sure something is goin on between her n ur husband or is about to start so u hv to make things very uncomfortable for her