Chunua Achebe

carry out all the neccessary checks to confirm he is not traditionally or legally married to the woman.

wow! very interesting thread.

violet, it seems you have a lot of knowledge regarding the finance sector. please, can i have your email address? someone dear to me is considering some career moves within the finance sector and is in need of some advice. thank you

any core network engineers in the house?

Credibility my foot !

emmatok:

@ Poster

If you you really want to get married then you need to start working on your SOCIAL AND INTERACTIVE LIVE.

Its easy for people to say "do this and do that,  get your mind off marriage".

But the truth is that you are not getting  younger  but older by the day.

I will advice you to, go out and  make friends, interact with people and pray.

You will surly find your match somewhere someday.

best advice

OP, listen .

info pls anyone 

tigerpaws, thank you. Any decent part of London will do.

Am quite flexible. Although, i will prefer if its located close to a train or tube station

please, i need a furnished apartment in london to stay for one week (last week in january) with my partner.

we are having a short vacation in london.

please, i will appreciate information on this. merci.

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insight04:

I nominate Londoncool for his services and contributions to the Travel section over the years for being a reliable source of assistance to all and sundry with UK visa problems.

Londoncool 
Who? ? He has not offered any advice to anyone in that section for over two years.
I can't even remember the last time anyone read any of his posts in that section.
The most active and useful people and most consistent in that section are funkybaby,akolawole,justwise,mrpataki and vicjustice. .

^^^^^* well said

why not just wait for 28 days and then apply with your dads current account. Anything worth doing at all Is worth doing/planning well. 28days is barely three weeks from now and most schools do not resume till september .

I do not think it has expired. You can present the bank statement to the bank within one month of collection from the bank. .
So for example if the statement was printed on the 1st of july, you have still the 30th of july to present this to the bank. .

menana:

thank you very much. i stil have his personal statements and fd accounts statements before the money was discounted. should i submitt that one,or i can submit the new personal bank statements together with the fd accounts statements

no. do not submit the new one. or else they will refuse you based on the new bank statement and pretend they didnt see the fixed deposit account statement.

so just submit the fd bank statement before the money was discounted. make sure your dad writes a letter saying he is your dad and the financial sponsor of your education and that he is in full support of your quest to study abroad.

menana:

I will like to make a few enquiries about my visa application



About proof of maintenance, my father is fully sponsoring my studies. He has provided me with the following as eviidence of ability to sponsor me



Personal bank statement
short term roll over fixed deposit(91 day) investment statement
Fixed deposit (91 day) investment


My father has [color=#990000]written a letter to his bankers to discount the investment and put it in his current [color=#990000]account for me which they have done. Discounting is done with just one days notice .A copy of the letter of instruction was given to me yesterday. Eveen though the money hasn’t been in his personal account for 28 days, [/colour] can I still apply considering the fact that its an fd account in his own name with the same bank where he has his current account ?

if you do that your application will be refused. and that is because the moni has not been in your dads current accounbt for 29days. .
you had no reason to cancel the fixed deposit. i will suggest you print the statement of the fixed deposit (investment) and use that to apply. afterall the money haas been in the account for 91days which exceeds the 28days required by the embassy.

justwise:

As long as your are sharing the same family name with them then great, they can sponsor you.

Its better you transfer that money in your account and leave it for 28days b4 making an application

not reallly. the money can remain in the sponsor's account. this is clearly stated on the UKBA webite.

It is the easiest way to know if your man is cheating on you. This method is well tested and proven. It works.

much ado over nothing. he has explained. why not give him benefit of doubt? people sef 
its not like he logged in with another ID to lie or perpetuate fraud.

take a chill pill , ok. mr. detective

nice thread.


joe 

every man or woman has some element of madness/wildness in him or her

just that this trait become exposed in different situations

a man can be as gentle as a dove with his wife, family and colleagues at work but when the side mirror of his brand new range rover sport gets smashed by a danfo driver, he gets down and gives the driver some heavy punches that will make samuel peters green with heavy

apologise to your husband

you do not insinuate to your husband, someone that paid your bridepride and chose you over so many other girls that he stinks and has a body odour and you expect him to kiss and hug you back. some men will do much worse than your husband did. so count yourself lucky that all you got was two slaps.

my boyfriend with all the love he showers on me will not take it. infact, if i dare such, am a goner  

just go and beg him

and stop talking to him with your bad mouth. reserve that for people outside your home

your husband should be treated witth respect., respect and respect

dellynash:

i asked him why he is sleeping without taking his bath, i got so angry and insulted him,  he  has not been talking to me for three days now.I over reacted and said some unpleasant things to him

you sound to me like a woman that has a bad mouth and a caustic tongue

are you trying to insinuate that your husband stinks and he has a body odour

am very sure that must have been the way you sounded indirectly by asking him why he should sleep without taking his bath

which man will accept that  

for example, rather than saying bluntly that my husband should go shower , you can say it in a funny way that will make him laugh.

i suggest you go and apologise to him

speak to him politely

if you know you cant, then ignore whatever he is doing. if he feels all sticky in bed, then simple, dont cuddle next to him in bed ratheher than asking him why he should sleep without taking hius bath. is he a 10years old boy?

when he accets your apology and things are calmer between you two, call him , and cry and tell him that he really hurt you by guiving you those slaps and that will be the perfect opportunity to tell him that you wants to return to the way they are and that you miss him calling you ''honey''

pls anyone with

obesere - fuji tosibe . from his american faagi series album

i need it real baddddd

Please can anyone give me the address in abuja where i can get a temporary tattoo done on my body?


It is urgent.

lynn26:

miss 83 whatever you call yourself!! She is an imposter!!! You are not East African. Come on admit it slutty bitch. You are a Nigerian(Yoruba Woman) You are not livng in the UK somewhere close to it.(maybe west of it). You F**KING IMPOSTER. COME ON NAME AND SHAME YOURSELF OR DO YOU WANT ME TO DO IT FOR YOU!!!

Why the name calling? Take it easy.

Stop drinking panadol on another woman's headache? Abi e pass this issue.

Seems you are married, hence your hatred towards the likes of miss83. you scared someday your husband will leave you for someone else?

if you are using that name-calling-tongue on your husband or boyfriend, be rest assured that sooner or later he will leave you for a calmer woman. Men hate disrespect.

Majority of the problems that arise from failed marriages are caused by us women. We push our men outside to seek comfort and peace from another woman.

Miss83:

Yh thnxx hon, I will do tht and I will keep u updatet
kunze80 nah its just I went bck to him and got more information,thts all. He told me this story today.
@ lynn26
Im sure u would love me if i invited u on my wedding thts going to happen on Hilton Hotel

You are most welcome darl. Keep me updated. Like i said earlier, dont rush things. Give your relationship time to grow.

So many girls will kill to swap places with you.

There are so many girls out there that are past their prime and there is not even anyone asking them out how much more a marraige proposal. Some are stuck with low lifes and poor backside niggas. Some are in abusive relationships. Some are stuck with guys that dont give a hoot about their feelings.

These cartegory of girls will kill to swap places with you.
Failed marriages happen all the time. Should such men stay forever unhappy?

Miss 83, if he loves you, cares for you and you are sure he is done with the woman, Please go for him.

Miss83:

@ lynn26


Listen hon, relax and take a chillpill,call me whatever u want but the truth is tht u have no idea what or who u chattin about!!! We see everyday men leave their wives, whats the BIGGIE ABOUT THAT IF NOT WITH ME,,HE WOULD LEAVE HER ANYWAY, AND LEMME TELL U THIS , He iS DAMN LUCKY TO EVEN TAKE SMELL OF MY P***Y AND HIS LUVIN IT AII!!
I can get any man out there cause im conceited but u know what HE IS the one I WANT for the meal.

Ride on girl. Give it to them!!! That's the spirit.
Why should the man stay in a relationship that he is totally unhappy with. A disrespectful wife? OMG ! What could be worse.
Ya'all fail to get it: The man will still leave his wife whether the poster marries him or not.

miss 83
Follow her heart. Be smart. 4 months is still too early. Give the relationship more time to grow. If 8 months from now, you still feel the same way towards him and he feels much more towards you, then go for him.

davidylan:

not always true. I take sides with the woman more often than not and i know an uncle who was even worse.

I still insist she tells the guy, there are certain things you don't hide and this is one of them.

Daviddylan

If i tell him and he confronts his mum, what becomes my fate
I could just as well as break up with him
Because i will never ever be confortable going to see his mother again

4 Play:

@sunshinemi

Abeg, carry this your cock and bull story to a publisher or something.

@4play

You actually think i am making this all up.
You think i dont have better things to do with my time at few minutes to midnight than to cook up stories

This is an issue that is giving me serious headache.
If you have nothing serious to contribute on it, please shut up and move to another thread.

@daviddylan

thanks for your contribution

I was coming all the way from Port Harcourt with my boyfriend to meet her in the Western part of Nigeria.

I did not want it to seem like i was coming ''empty handed'' from a ''long journey''.

There was no other gift idea that sprung up to my head. I was flying down, so its not possible for me to bring her yam tubers, etc. Milk, cornflakes, etc would have seem childish. So i felt the fabrics and jewellery were just approriate.

I was just trying to be courteous and not going all out to impress her.  

LadyT:

You shot yourself in the foot darling.

If her son takes such good care of her why the need for you to do so much?  Are you trying to buy her?

Nothing wrong in buying her gifts and things with your boyfriends knowledge not that you have to flash it in his face like look what I'm doing for your mother!  

But everything should be above board and honest.

I suggest you stop giving her money now and pray your relationship is not finished

I was not trying to buy her. I was just being nice. Thank God i have a good job so i saw no harm in texting her recharge cards once a while.

Her son takes very good care of her and i am veryyyyyy sure of this.

I have never flaunted anything i got for his mum in his prescence. Infact, i am sure that he is not aware of all the things i have given his mother because he has never thanked me or mentioned it. Which means she has never told him '' thank your girlfriend for me , she did so and so for me''

He was aware of the fabrics and jewellery. I showed them to him. As a matter of fact, i was even shy to present it and he had to give her on his behalf. He did something really smart. He didnt give her until i was about leaving after spending about three days with both him and his mother. i guess he did not want her reaction to me to be influenced by the gifts. Like i said earlier, she was really nice to me.

After my boyfriend gave her the gifts, in the prescence of my boyfriend and i, she just thanked me casually and she expressed surprise ( she didnt act impressed at all, as a matter of fact, at that point, i felt maybe the gift was a bad idea and maybe she felt it was too soon since we were just meeting for the first time).

However, about a week later, she called me expressing profound appreciation and praying ''correct'' yoruba prayers for me over the phone. Let me admit, the praise and prayers she showered on me made my day   , hence, i sent recharge card numbers to her few weeks later.

KarmaMod:

I do know that you had better stop telling her stuff aboiut aboard and what not

Better start pretending to be a pauper. Start visiting her in rags

Thanks for your contribution.

I did not tell her that i was travelling abroad.
The last time i gave her money, i was actually on my way to the airport and i only decided to say hello to her since i had no plans of calling her throughout from overseas only for her to tell me that she needed money to take care of a bill that just came up. I had to quickly change a few foreign currency i had with me to naira and then i paid it into her account before leaving for the airport.


I am a modest young lady. Like i stated earlier, my boyfriend has been so good to me and occassionally gets things for my siblings. My siblings never demand anything from him. Infact, they dont even have his mobile number. The normally show their appreciation for anything he gives them via me. I only felt that i should show the same love to his mother. I never in my wildest dreams imagine she could interpret it to mean anything and also become an extortionist