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Eyahhhh.!!!! Dyt is quite unfortunate that the recession is heating you up.
Oya how do you need the money? Cash, cheque, or kind.

#helpDYTonrecession

May God bless all those who have supported her and those yet to support.

That was quite an accusation. If you have your acts and game together, I doubt there will be room for suspicion.
Oya come and confess your sins that it may be forgiving.

2dugged:
Happy suspicion, one thing about suspicion it's usually because the same person is doing the same thing, so they usually think everyone else is like them,have a nice day

Congrats buddy.

sammywemmy:
Good morning all. U know dat sweet feeling where u feel pretty and just wanna kiss urself?
I woke this morning feeling dat way; I still do.

23 January 2016 : IELTS (L R W S - 9, 8.5, 8, 7). I immediately requested for a remark of the speaking section.

24 February 2016: PTE (L R W S : 90 85 90 66)

22 April 2016: IELTS speaking bumped to 8. Plus I got my refund.

31 May 2016: CDR submission to EA

17 June 2016: Positive outcome (Engr. Tech)

18 June 2016: EOI submitted

06 July 2016: Invitation to apply

09 August 2016: Visa application lodged

12 September 2016: CO contact for wife's functional English (she wasn't satisfied with letter from her school)

25 September 2016: Uploaded wife's PTE scores. L R W S 82 74 66 81

13 October 2016: Grants received in mailbox, for me, my wife and daughter. IED 9th Aug 2017. Processing team - Brisbane.

I didn't use work experience points. Just d minimum 60 points.

After worrying and fuzzing over nothing, I finally have it. At work right now, but it is a sweet feeling. Still thanking God for it all. I read contents on this forum and expatforum, and it has rili helped. Grateful to everyone for their contributions. I wish us all success in our endeavors. May our dreams come true.

Do you if you will cheat tomorrow? After all married women who cheat are also humans.
I'm suspecting you infact.

2dugged:
you and I know it has always been a different case when a woman cheats, so I can't put myself in that position

What about scenerio where you are the one cheating? ??

2dugged:
true talk

So in conclusion, Never say Never.

quote author=2dugged post=50170552]yea,some times our adrenaline may not respond in the way we anticipated[/quote]

Sorry didn't follow through the comments was responding based on ur reply to me. Sometimes when reality calls,wetc might not even do a drop of what we have held strong in our minds that we will do.

2dugged:
if you read through my comments you will notice that didn't even exempt my own father nor brothers infact I once caught my dad at a sharp joint, be rest assured I will classify my future husband where he belongs that will be in the future sha

Well at least is good you have in your mind that 95% of men cheat, just in case your man falls among that %.
I trust you will quickly send him to where he belongs

quote author=2dugged post=50166988]I know that not all men cheat, that's why I said 95%[/quote]

You are been economical with ur response.
A straight forward reply would have been more ideal.
Married men and women cheat... or are classifying cheat to mean only when there has been a sexual penetration??
#notallmencheat.

2dugged:
from the title of the topic and my other comments you can deduce that

What is the consequences you are talking about so we put this in perspective.
If for example your hubby cheats on you, what will you do I need a concised response to this question please.

2dugged:
I doubt every married man evaluates the consequences, they feel its a normal thing, some even claim they are polygamous in nature and therefore they were born with it and can't help it

They must have evaluated the situation before delving into it. That's why they are ready to same the consequences.
A person who will cheat will cheat.
If you don't feel OK staying with a man who cheat.. the onus is on her to leave/divorce him. Even the bible supports it.

2dugged:
I quite agree with your last statement, the choice is all on us sameness reason I will hold a married man responsible for cheating on his wife and not the unmarried lady he sleeps with and vice versa

I just love you opinion. Real and undiluted truth.

@OP head off home and look for it elsewhere.
Life is too short to be in a sexless or miserable sex marriage.
Even the Holy book says; Do not deprive each one of it.
If she ain't fulfilling her vow on this, she has defaulted and you have the right to seek what you crave outside.

LynnPetra:
Haba. What's wrong in swallowing a piece of flesh every now and then?
Funny how they go to market to buy full cow's blokus. To chop husband own come become gbege. .

If you know the consequences of every action, lots of mistakes would have been easily avoided.
There also times when people take risk and damn the consequences.
So the choice is on us!!

2dugged:
of course I have,some consequences for some mistakes are more severe than others the more reason why it should not happen in the first place

It's a lose lose situation. Ain't no winner dear. The satisfaction that she ain't there to torment him no more massages his ego in jail. **winks**

naijafeminist:
But they killed them and still ended up in jail.

Well we all have made mistakes one way or the other. You ain't immune to it either. You might have made one mistake along the way too.

2dugged:
actually it's deductive, and 5% of 160 million us quite a large number, I don't see why the fuss,anyway I guess you would have been more comfortable if I had put it at 50%?but no I still maintain my 95%

You talking about figure...figure. your figures are not right. Did you ask up 50% of Nigerian men if they cheated on there wives? how did you even make up the 95% claim in a population of more than 160million.
What kind of research method did you carry out,what variables were you evaluating? How did you carry our your analysis to reach to 95%? Was it Qualitavie or quantitative? Inductive or deductive? ??
We live in a society that impale a woman who was caught cheatin on her hubby buh pardon the man that does same.
It's on record that the 1st issue of lots of men are not there's.
My dear take it easy OK. Men cheat women cheat. None is exempted.

2dugged:
you can only disagree if you have a figure of your own,which you obviously don't, it's like asking someone why don't you like this,and the person replys I don't know why I don't like it,anyway way I am not married

Hey, I don't pre-judge. Let's not get it all twisted dear.
My position still remains, that the both party are guilty of your assertion but you made it seem like 95% of men are cheaters, which I disagree and oppose.

2dugged:
your last question is probably so you can plot a basis for your next reply I guess, anyway, I knew that this will not go down well with the male folks not because my statistics is out of place but because the same male folks that were brought up by our forefathers who made laws that placed the girl as inferior to the the male child, hence why most cultural practices seem to place women at a disadvantage.so I am not surprised

There are two sides of my statement of which you fail to address, only to pick one side of the statement to point out the "gravity of my comments"
Perhaps you would not condemn ladies who send their hubby to jail for defaulting on court mandated alimony.

Bollinger:
So, that is why you should kill them abi? Or didn't you understand the gravity of your comments when you wrote this;



Talking to Nairalanders is like talking to a wall; It makes no sense.

Does it not sound ironical that a learned man is talking to a wall?

Even God said to Adam, to dust you are to Dust you will return.
And I say unto man, from punna you were brought forth, to punnaney you shall go back
Man's journey back to his root!!!

My dear, we can argue this until like forever.. because the variables upon which you base your assertion is skewed to favour your conclusion.

Now you are asking me to ask questions on the basis of "golden age" and "jet age" of which (time) is the only variable you are considering here.
Note that even during the times of our grandparents, the culture permitted them to marry more than one wife.
You can seldom hear of a case of cheating back then.
However, cheating is rife in this present dispensation which suggest that there has been a decadence in this present dispensation.
just curious: Are you married?

2dugged:
lets start from here,how many of your mothers and grand mothers cheat while still married and compare that statistics with that of the men

If that is your basis of argument and the premise with which you came to that conclusion, it is very baised and sentimental. Because another person can also argue that women are worst just that they dont get themselves caught compared to men who do carelessly.
Look my dear women are the best cheaters, they clean there tracks nicely.
The both party cheats...so when making such bogus statistics, at least review other sides of the story too.
cheers.

2dugged:
you seem not to understand, I said at one time have had an affair, how many Nigerian men can swear that since they married their wives they have not slept with another woman even if it was a one time thing, that's my point, and that is where I got my statistics from , and I am talking from the vantage point of the married woman, if a married man decide to cheat on his wife, he should be held responsible for lacking self control to stay true to the vow he made to his wife, not the other way round

If your statistics shows that 95% of men cheat... who are they cheating with.
If it us assumed that men cheat with different women, does it not show that there are greater percentage of woman who cheat than men.
Your premise for you statistics is floored. How you graciously exonerate the women and impale the men beats me.
Abi the men sleep with their fellow men!!!

2dugged:
well since you don't have yours,you are in no capacity to determine if mine is correct or not,as there is nothing to compare with,just your hunch

Are you intending to marry a non-Nigerian

There are lots of faithful men in Nigeria.
The only unfortunate thing is you can't have it all.

Joavid:
I've made up my mind Never Ever to put up with a cheating spouse.

Even the Bible permits divorce on grounds of adultery. so who's society?

Finding a Naija man that doesn't cheat is like looking for a needle in a haystack. and that's one of the reasons marriage doesn't appeal to me, (among other vital reasons).

Hey birthday mate....how are you doing?

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24th[/quote]

Why won't life serve you stone when you're always "going to sleeping" .
When you stop "going to sleeping" then things will improve for you.
Even the Holy scriptures said :Go to the ants and learn from them....

#peace

If you got married to make yourself and family happy.. only for someone you love to make your life miserable and unbearable? Common

Life is too short to be in a miserable marriage.

Bollinger:
Are you sure you thought through your comment before you wrote them?

Why would you need a whatsapp group Post whatever it is here so the wider populace can learn and lean their voices too.
And slam dem girls that ignored the conspicuous behavior and bad attitude of their partners before marriage.

oyindahk:
I realise some of us here need a group chat to disscuss and seek advice on our marriage life,And as a wise man use to say,2 heads are better than one. Let's come in and share ideas,insights,advice and be a pillar for one another..for mature minds only no insult or fights..drop your no if you are intrested.

Why won they kill emmm.

You don't kill her she sends you to jail for the rest of your life plus paying child support from jail.
Since the women has decided to be wise, the men has resolved to be smart.

Too many fatherless boys these days in America.
#ticfortac

hello my month mate. hope you doing great. which day of the month are you?

queenet246:
Congrats month mate.

No they are triplets. Look closely

drnairalov:
are they twins?

Really thats nice. Good to meet you new friend.

ItsQuinn:
we could be friends ... i live in lekki