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PETRUCE007:
Baba come and pay for that date......it belongs to me officially.....
Oya come and pay your dues....

Proudly may 22nd

If you can judge someone based on third party opinion and neither was any suggestion offered, then I think you are the one lacking sense here.

Back to topic
Op you are very sensitive to petty things. Your wife likes money, I only pity you cos the day your finances go down she will make you even commit suicide. You fear and worry is coming from insecurities. Either your wife is very beautiful and you are opposite or you are brief and your wife is elegant and tall.
For your wife to be giving deep consideration to the offer, it mean there are areas of your role and responsibilities that you are not measuring up well.
There is a Proverb that says: It is a bad thing to stay in water and soap enters your eye.

mysticgal:
If you divorce your wife like an opinion above, it means you have no single sense.
Besides... I have no advice, so wait for married people Good luck.

Hey bro, If a woman you are intending to marry gives you reason to doubt her moves and actions, then thats a red flag man.
Lucky you man. She is only sorry that she was caught, I bet you she has also realized that you are the better option.

Just try your best and move on man. She will look sexually disgusting to you, cos when ever you wanner mount her, you remember a nigga has been eating your glorifies treasure. That emotional burden will never leave you. Its better you quit now than be in a loveless marriage!!!

Op it could be hard sometimes.
Buh seize all contact with her... keeping in touch will only but torture urself with emotional regret and blame for what you missed.let her go and move on man.

All May born male and female jump in here and find your birthday mate.

May 22...buss me up please.

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Yes, you right. Men have different priorities.
Girls can be funny and weird at same time. You meet a lady, chat with her for a short while and when you ask for her digits she say "I dont give my number to strangers", Like WTF.
She sees you subsequently and expect you to walk up to her again claiming hard to get. Who has time for such BS in this 2016.

automatix:
Nigerian girls never understand lol. Times are changing, men do not have time much on their hands to keep chasing any girl.

Op also put into consideration the looks of the woman so as to compensate your shortfalls just for the sake of the kids.
Also be conscious of those who hold so dear the mantra 'fake it till you make it'.

Wish you the best in you pursuit.

Perhaps, what he meant was that she has submitted her EOI, and not the visa application.

Bnimz:
Wait first bros,, you lost me at this point... Exactly how did she APPLY without having an ITA?

Ohhh Noooo. This is a walking corpse!!

The Thicker the berra Ohhh! !!!

#teamThickChicks.

Op,

One bottle of red wine will do the magic for you.
Down one bottle and leave the rest to him..... Is he a V too? if yes wahala dey ohh, If no.... then passport to service.
Make sure he cuts his nails ohh and you guys shouldn't eat suya or peppersoup with hands ohh before any pre-intimacy, to avoid pepper entering below.
It wont be a funny experience ohh!!!!

Unfortunately, this assertion here is irrational, illogical and senseless. To say the least, it just makes no sense.
What rubbish of an advise.

"Don't marry the person you love" and went on to say "Love the person you marry".

ajokeade920:
The thing is don't marry the person you Love but Love the person u marry.

Congrats Man. That was a great score.

Bnimz:
THANKS FOR THE VOTE OF CONFIDENCE

I took PTE-A on the 19th of October. My result just showed up...literally 10 minutes ago.

Listening - 90
Reading - 90
Speaking - 90
Writing - 90

Grammar - 90
Oral Fluency - 89
Pronunciation -90
Spelling - 90
Vocabulary - 90
Communicative Skills - 90
Enabling Skills - 90
Written Discourse - 90





Chai.. well, okay... Funny thing is I had nightmares about this stuff just last night... Anyway,

Thanks to everyone who encouraged me when IELTS knacked me with the dreaded 7.5..

Awaiting EA assessment outcome.

That's an interesting soliloquy!!!

Since no issue yet, it would be more ideal make your own application same time with him ohh. You can work and support the family.
Before those small girls with ride will ride him away from you.
There is thin line between you been ttc and him been abroad for 24months...there is likelihood of trying a shot ohh

You couldn't have said it any better.

Coldfeets:
Where is sagamite?

What do you say you cretinous fucktards?

How people. ...husband and wife... could boldly come here to scam people without shame is really shocking.

Op
Are you a chameleon
No offence ohh, just that the pic on your dp is black and white while the pic you posted here is coloured.

BTW WELCOME to the big family house full of weirdos, foes, friends, enemies and lovely people.

*****Winks*****

What kind of official letter looks like this abeg
Was she sitting in something or was something drilling her for her to compose such letter?

#threesomeloading

I didn't go through her previous thread thou, but if what you pointed out are from her previous post then its shameful to say the least.
You cant eat your cake and have it.
Women are too emotional in nature and fall for the suggestions of others and when reality checks in they start looking for what to hold on to for their bizarre situation.

You can as well remain where you are if you hold --so dear this notion that "My child is more important to me than a thousand husband."

5minsmadness:
So i went through your other thread and honestly felt sorry for you. Its a pity you had such hard luck.
However,

1. Did you eventually wait to hear your husband's explanation or did you get riled up with the advice u got from the ladies in the other thread(most of whom are still happily married)?

2. Your husband finally cut off all communication you say, but in your other thread (2months ago), you said he was trying to reach out to you but you didnt want to listen? You were advised not to see him in his place to avoid being bullied, you were advised not to see him in your place to avoid being emotionally blackmailed... So how did you establish communication with him? Or how was he to establish communication with you?

3. I saw your opinion on polygamy and how u dont want to go through such. I get it. Has your husband returned to SA to be with the other lady?
P. S, i can vouch for what some of the guys were saying in the other thread, SA has become quite tough for nigerians even in the medical field.

4. Are your parents still pleadingon his behalf? If yes, what are thier reasons? Financial or because he was well behaved in thier eyes.


Caveat: I am not saying that what he did was honourable or proper or that you have no right to be angry, but is it possible that this issue could have been resolved and in a more amicable way if you had not brought it to nairaland and some posters had not given you very venomous advice? Or making you feel like a fool if you even tried listening to what he had to say?


What i am saying is, barring everything you read here, would you have actually been able to forgive him if you alone were left to make that decision? It would have been a tough thing to do, many men and women wouldnt be able to forgive and they woud be right to do so. But would you, if left to youself, have been able to do it, forgive him that is?





Finally, i think it would be best if the people who told you to leave your husband without listening to his side of the story first be the one to come and advice you now on how to manage your single again status. Just saying.

I totally agree with your view point. Courtesy demands you at least give the person a call if it's ok by the host. however, I used the word "emergency" or "unforseen circumstances" to coroborate my previous comments with op's action.

Teespice:
what she did is in order.

there is something called courtesy. if you are to visit someone at least give a form of notice. even if it's unplanned and unforeseen, a phone call at a short notice would suffice.

someone visited me out of the blue and at a time I was drifting to sleep. he was talking and I was yawning where I was. at a point I told him I was sleepy and he needed to leave which he did but not before telling me in not so good terms that what I did wasn't fair.

OP
yes, it really challenging been a single mum in our present day Nigeria, as most of them are stereotyped to believe you are the orchestrator of your marriage breakup.

Be of good courage, you will definitely pull thru.
You could try a new hobby to substitute your idle time and distract your lonely feeling, you could take a walk sometimes to clear your head and not let the stress overwhelm you. You could try a new vocational skill like knitting for you child or you could take your child to kiddies play ground.

#respecttomums

Nne were ya nwayo, anyI anaga see okwu. Taa by kwa nbosi ukah.
I get your point now, I however veto individual principles as standarda and privacy needs to be maintained.

Sapphiredamsel:
Nah I plan my movements well and it's good to know everyone's principles and policies. My friends do know that you don't come to my house without informing me and getting my consent is key. If I wanna spend the night at someone's place, I call to inform to inform before hand and ask if it's okay to come over. Don't tell me how to live my life inugo?

Only you or you will have yourself split ed in two to accomplish all these.

Mindfulness:
I would like to play in a team, football or volleyball or handball. I could also be the new Serena Williams but I will probably be the new Queen of Pop or Hip Hop.

@dyt come and hear.

Vincent580:
I have been I member of the site, but always come in as guest. I am having my own problems this evening but far from money. I have never done this before, but I don't know what came over me. I will give you enough money to feed you and your family. My first name starts with V and the last is L. You will get an alert from me and it will be 25k hope that helps you alittle bit.

I like your style. Perhaps very few people could must up that courage. I believe she wanted you to stay more so you can be helping out with house chores and errands.

seizethaBae:
I remember when i got admission @16 and my guardian in d same state said i must stay with her because i was too young to b living alone,say i fit get belle sef because of too much 'freedom' and i was like 'emagbami ke'.

Fast forward to 4yrs later when i came to lagos for my NYSC and i was staying with one of my uncle,My uncle's wife ehn! I told her about my interest in tailoring and to have a fashion store after nysc,she said 'God forbid' how can a university grad stoop so low to become a tailor. Few mths after i started my first job,i just cooked up one story dat my company provided accomodation to all staffs staying on d mainland. Omolomo larin ero, I rented an apartment,learnt as many skills as possible,switch jobs,did business as i like. I hardly invite my female friends to d house sef not to talk of a guy. Life is too short to be bothered abt 'society view'.

Pros
10. you can pkekus when and who you wanted unperturbed

Cons
7. Your mind might be the devils workshop esp when you are ideal and dont have a regular job.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...

Living alone doesn't have anything to do with suitors IMO unless you wanna turn your house to an hotel.

Pros...
1. You practice being your own madam
2. You can do as you pls in your space
3. You can afford to bring whoever you pls home
4. You can divert your movement without a care in the world
5. You can decide to be super clean or super lazy
6. You don't need to report yourself and movement to anyone
7. You can eat and cook anything you like
8. You can decorate as you pls
9. You would generally become responsible...u keep the space in order


Con...
1. You run the risk of being too independent
2. Your bills and burden are all yours alone
3. If you don't cook, you don't eat...or if you don't provide food...
4. You could end up having unplanned overnight guests
5. You could end up being princess lazy
6. Boredom might give you bear hugs from time to time


I live alone(shared space ) though I have folks in Lagos. Today I could be in gbagada, the next in Opebi...yippy! Life of a single girl. I could cook enough for a nation and stock in my fridge or I could turn the fridge to wardrobe and start putting cloths in it. Whatever tickles my fancy! I could decide on my way home from work that I don't wanna go home and just head to my ex-flat mate's house. Na me be my boss. But of course, I sometimes miss having someone to talk to. When that happens, na to pack my stuff and head home until further notice! Options girl

21? You done old for the ministry nah.

zeb04:
Very funny question. I started living alone at 21

That was quite unfair to treat people that way. Tell me you have not been in that situation where you had to go to someones's place to pass the night due to unforeseen circumstances.

Sapphiredamsel:
I live alone and my landlord asked where I worked. I gave him the location not the company's name he insisted, when I told him the company's name lasan, omo see respect.
I stay alone because my family house is far to my workplace and it was spelling doom for my job security, omo I respect my self and got an apartment. But I have my own set rules. If you come my house unplanned, na outside you go sleep, ive done it for 2people before.
That is even if you know my house

Oya I pledge 1k to open the donation floor.

#helpDYTonrecession