1. mama chosen

2. gon gon. like early morning gon gon

1. mama chosen

2. gon gon. like early morning gon gon

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bluefilm:


That will be quite suicidal for you on the long run.

So look and look very carefully, before you leap!

im so confused

as in.

imagine me an outsider coming to soeone family to solve problem. have i even solved the problem in my own fmaily

fyzaila:



You made a valid point here. Op look very well before you leap.

how can i get to know someone who says she does not even like people from my tribe?

he has promised to stand by me but im still scared of marrying into such family

i font want to get engaged and then have to call of the engagement because someone is making things difficult

that is interesting

maybe i have been confusing him being a generous and giving person with being kind?

but he does do kind things

fyzaila:
I wouldn't and would never go into any family in the name of marriage if my potential husband family don't like me. If i sense any form of dislike from them i am backing out let alone this your case where they show you theirs to your face.

Besides do you even know the meaning of kind, it looks to me that you're mistaken his generosity for been kind. A kind person is simple, gives without barrier and has a forgiving heart. Its doesn't seem like this guy of yours his. How can he abandon his sick dad in the hospital all because of family grudges? And he is even saying he will stop giving his mom allowance if he moves out with you.

How all this things sounding in yours ears. Remember you're a woman and will become a mother-in-law someday, will you be happy a woman come into your sons life and your son abandon his family because of her? You better think twice.

My advice for you is two,
1. You have to find a way of making his mom and siblings to make peace so that they can absorb you too.
2. If you can't do all that in the first, then back out.

i tried to build a relationship she isnt interested

Cruise777:
A man would end up treating his wife how he treated his mother

Since he is a good man and financially ok

Try and build a relationship with his mum

Visit for weekends and see if you guys are compatible

Major things women drag are territorial.. so stay off her kitchen if she doesn't ask for help

he abandoned his dad when he gott sick because he cut his dad off due to parnts bad marriage

does hat mean he can also abandon me?

this woman has caused many issues in our relationship

I met a man, we have been dating for over a year and talking about marriage



- he is tall and handsome (there are 3 things that I don't really like about his appearance, but they can be worked upon and I am not the most beautiful in the world)

- he is super healthy, takes care of himself

- he earns 77,000 dollars a year (before tax), and is likely to get more and more money in his career as he progresses

- he is in the process of buying his first property this year

- he is educated and has a good job

- he has all the qualities i look for in a man: kind, caring, thoughtful, considerate, funny, family-orientated, generous (took me on trips abroad, etc) and more. Nobody is perfect, he also has unresolved trauma, but again these things can be worked upon

- he loves God

- we have similar hobbies: travelling, events, he is literally my person and the male person of me



HOWEVER!



He doesn't talk to his dad or his dad's side of his family because in my opinion, his mother has brainwashed him against them. He also doesn't talk to his mother's side of the family (she doesn't talk to them either). He doesn't talk to his siblings, except 1, despite living in the same house. His mother doesn't like me, as she feels like I am taking him away from her and she doesn't like people from my country. She has tried to interfere and break us up, but he has stood firm and now she has said she doesn't want to be involved in our relationship. This is very hurtful for me. I am concerned that she could cause problems for us in our relationship and marriage. He gives over half of his salary to his mother every month (she doesn't work as she struggles to work because she has depression that is debilitating), but he says he will stop once he moves out. I believe that it takes a village to raise a child, and I am concerned that it will just be me, him, our kids, and my family. I am not welcome in his mother's house, and I have said that if I am not welcome there, I don't think it is approrpiate for him to still visit, just like if I was welcome somewhere and my husband wasn't - I wouldn't go. That person will then change up and act accordingly to make my partner feel welcome, but I think he is just enabling bad behaviour. I am scared he will one day resent me or accuse me of affecting the relationship with his original family. He has said that he plans to just have two families (me/the kids.. and his mother/sibling he talks to) and I am scared it will be a case of a man having two "wives", pivoting between two households, being the man of both households. I don't want to share my husband!



Would you marry a man that was the perfect man for you, but his family wasn't good/his mother did not like you?

I come from a dysfunctional family with every type of abuse
many times i did not want to come home because of the abuse
now im 30 i can create the family i have always wanted. a beautiful nuclear family parents in love and happy and focused, healthy and thriving children. family unit. safe space and more. yes we may have some trials and tribulation but it wont be major and we will overcome. and good relationship with extended family with healthy boundaries

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She won't tell me I think it is an insult

Thanks

any other examples?

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thank youuu

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tnx

why is it called dorime

Davinity:
The act of spending (especially money) lavishly

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advice

bump

1. what are things that i should do in my 30s

2. what are thing si should achieve in my 30s

3. what are things you wish you knew when you began your 30s

4. what are your biggest regrets of your 30s

thanks!

yes why shud i let someone spoil us

Blessedarethepe:

Hallelujah
Congrats to you

Blessedarethepe:

that's costly, but what if he didn't come back?

we r back

its ok we are back together gonna give it another try