She is a university student, and one of her lecturers, who is married and much older than her, has been making repeated advances toward her. He keeps asking her to meet privately, sends messages frequently, and has hinted that being "friendly" with him could make things easier academically.
She has politely declined every invitation and has tried to avoid encouraging him in any way. However, she is now worried because he teaches one of her core courses and she fears that rejecting him could affect her grades.
Recently, the pressure has become so overwhelming that she broke down in tears. She doesn't want any relationship with him, but she's also afraid of possible retaliation if she reports him.
Has anyone experienced something similar? What would be the safest and most practical way for her to handle this without putting her education at risk?
Any respectful advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
It depends on what you want, if you want the lecturer to back down, she should just tell him politely that she is not interested jokingly, but if he should take it seriously, then threaten him to back down.
Better start gathering evidence of phone call recording, messages, etc. Student harassment is a serious case, just write a petition to ICPC, a petition to the school board, present your case before presenting evidence, don't warn him you are gathering evidence, don't threaten him if he doesn't threaten you.
Most importantly, face your study so you won't be at his Mercy
Neutral15: My ex was fond of insulting her aunties that were above 30. She kept saying they don't want to look for husband and marry. That she can't get to that age single. So she dumped me for someone else that was doing better than me and he promised her marriage. The guy ate and dumped her. She was shy to come back to me and tried a couple of guys but realised I was the best. Well she came back and after 3 years that I didn't love her, else I would have fought for her. I told her I was sorry and was praying she comes back safe. The interesting thing this time around is that she's the one insisting on spending. That I should save my money for our wedding. Nlanders, I'm tired of knacking free kpekus and I want to tell her that she's wasting her time because I will never marry her even if God tells me she's my missing rib. She just reminded me that she's 32 now. That I should come and see her parents. Should I just tell her to forget about me or still playing her since I'm getting both kpekus and money for free
Why give her assurance when you knew you can't wife her. Just tell her your other banny is taking over.
Melodydoctor: More like she wants to advertise to men that she's still single and searching.
Which Man want a 40 years old lady in Nigeria. The only condition maybe she has money or something valuable that guys wanted. To have a child with her will be very hard, a widower might consider her.
meobizy: Since everybody on Nairaland has become a professional on women’s affairs. Let me hear your opinions regarding such case.
She asks, I come up with excuses. She says “okay” then asks a fortnight later. I come up with excuses again. She keeps at it without shame until I gift her once. She goes silent for a month then returns demanding more.
She doesn’t laugh at my jokes. She doesn’t encourage intellectual discussions and she doesn’t feel the need to return financial favours. At this point, I’m the one literally entertaining both of us despite being the breadwinner of a non-physical relationship. In fact, this one na friendship at this point.
Nairaland, should I risk cutting her off?
Livingiconrebor, yes, this is a Ugandan tale. Come and engage.
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YoungLionken: Masturbation wan finish these Muslims on top this news . All Iranian top leaders are dead, but somehow, y'all have won the war on top fake news (verify before you argue with me) . Joke! Joker!! Jokest !!!
Jokes on You. Most of Those Top leaders are military officers, who have signed up to die. So what's the celebration of walking dead man, Abi killing an 80 years old man who will eventually die very soon is special to you.
Emeskhalifa: If he is your son, will you say the same thing you are saying now??
Firstly, I am not his fan. This is the type of situation that fuel his career, you want him to stop, yet you keep fueling him. The uprising of the Olodos is not limited to those who are not educated or graduated. There are lots of Olodos among graduates too, if you are a graduates and you have no job and can't make money with your skills you are an Olodo.
While Chinese youths are learning AI the wife of Nigerian President is telling us to start frying Akara business and corn roasting.
Nigeria’s First Lady, Senator Oluremi Tinubu, made headlines after a video surfaced of her advising citizens that starting small-scale businesses, such as frying akara (bean cakes), roasting corn, or making kuli-kuli (peanut snacks), does not require much capital.
It doesn't matter where you go, if you don't know where to go. It might sound brutal, but it's the basic truth.
Authority1o1: The debate as to whether the ₦50,000 empowerment made by Remi Tinubu, Nigeria's First Lady, is simply based on a realistic economic calculation and the acknowledgement of the existence of lower class will not end if a breakdown is not given.
So, what can such an amount afford for someone who wants to really go into akara business?
Here is a breakdown:
1. Gas cylinder (3kg): ₦25,000 2. Cooking gas (3kg): ₦1900 × 3 = ₦5700 3. 1 painter of white beans (depending on the location): approximately ₦5000 4. Groundnut oil (2 litres): approximately ₦4500 5. Medium-size frying pan: ₦11,000 6. Utensils and containers: ₦10,000 7. Ingredients (pepper, salt, Maggi etc): ₦2000 8. Beans grinding cost: say ₦500 per round.
TOTAL: ₦63,700
VERDICT: Even for low income earners, ₦50,000 is insufficient to start akara business.
They are expected to go and cut wood inside the bush to fry the akara, secondly we will be highest exporter of Akara balls in the world 🌎
When asked if they'd want to marry a non-religious person, everyone says yes. Almost nobody wants to marry a religious person. When asked how important religion is to them, they respond "Not at all".
It's not just the diaspora. It's all Iranians.
Well some Nigerians on this honourable forum are practicing it on behalf of Iranians
Iran has almost 9 to 20 million population and you were able to interview all of them. As how now
Akir2025: This guy Went through hell ,Luck finally shines on him. He got a Big contract ,Made Good Fortunes .
You Weren't With him.,He Decides to Marry ,After Marriage ...You think you can cage him ,Na Only you he would carry for head ,U don't want any Woman Arround him ,Na Soo Ur body go dey hot.
So Na only U wan camp the guy alone to dey enjoy an Alone .
U better don't give yourself hypertension.
Just Stay for where he keeps U and keep enjoying yourself or else U go soon find yourself out .
Truth is Bitter .
The one wey Funny pass Na even when the man is not married ,The lady go just dey craze ,dey mad at the guy when she sees any lady Arround the guy
Baxilexi: There’s a video of him shooting not holding a gun. He also wore the Hamas headband. Cmon, don’t insult his martyrdom. He knew what he was getting into. If I wear the swastika then i’m nazi.
Do you actually believe that narrative? Your obvious answer will yes, but If I claim the evidence was doctored, your obvious answer will be No.
Asmanthinket: is it only an 80 years old man you saw in the killing? Didn't you see that all their leaders and scientists have gone? The worst is that the 80years old man was so foolish that he died with all his children. Even the one that is believed to be alive is no where to been seen You think it is easy to get back all the lost leaders with the same belief system? Infact Iran lost big timr You guys should stop encouraging yourselves
So they don't have any leadership? Do you know how silly you sound
Asmanthinket: must you wait for intelligent people to know that Iran lost it completely. Are you not intelligent enough to know that all their leaders who were hell bent in going against Americans decisions are no more, and the next leaders will be very careful in going against American any day.
If killing an 80 years old man is called winning, you need a review of your life.
ChizzyBuna: What I found out is that if you simply tell a girl that you want sex and will pay her
97% of the time, they feel offended and want to be seen as a girl with value
The interesting part is that they want it But the will say No and reject your advances
3% will say yes and agree So that is to tell you that women do not like honesty and straightforwardness They shout that they love honest man But once they see one they reject him
That's not honesty, that's violation of the game rules.
The game is about hide and seek, it's not that she doesn't want it, she only want to be talked into it.
Even your wife/girlfriend wants to be cajole into sex, even if she want it. She will always want it to be your idea not hers.
Why do to think an ugly girl wants you to tell her she is beautiful.