₦airaland Forum

Bayoonanuga:
did Jesus kneel down to propose to any lady

Fridud234:
**“A married woman is junior to anyone that was married into her husband's family before her and also junior to every child born before she married into the family, and she can't call them by their real names even if the person is a baby. However, if they are junior to her in age, they will also respect her in return.”**

That statement right there is what I find deeply troubling.

It is baffling to me that a form of “respect” that can directly subjugate one gender is still so tightly upheld and defended, particularly by men.

Why should a woman become “junior” simply because she married into a family later? Why should the same principle not apply equally to a man who marries into his wife's family? And why should a woman have to subordinate herself to a child simply because that child was born into the family before she married into it?

At what point do we stop calling this respect and start calling it **hierarchy and subjugation**?

And honestly, it makes me wonder about something deeper: **does the average Nigerian man truly understand love as equality, partnership and mutual dignity?**

Or has the struggle, patriarchy, social conditioning and the constant emphasis on hierarchy shaped so much of our thinking that some people genuinely struggle to recognise when a cultural practice is degrading to the other gender?

I'm not saying Nigerian men cannot love. Of course they can.

I'm questioning whether we have sometimes been taught a version of love where a woman is expected to **submit, adjust, endure and become “junior”**, while the man's position remains largely unquestioned.

A culture existing for generations doesn't automatically make every aspect of it good, fair or necessary.

We should be able to love our culture and still question it.

We should be able to respect our elders without institutionalising the subjugation of women.

And we should be able to ask uncomfortable questions about traditions that have been normalised for so long that people no longer stop to ask whether they are actually just.

**If respect is supposed to be mutual, why are the rules of “respect” so often disproportionately placed on women?**

ebubeson:
To have a relationship, if someone says "I am not interested": does it sound rude. Which way sounds better?

Assuming a guy woos a lady, and she says, "I am not interested", does it sound rude or unfriendly?

Please give a polite way you can respond if you do not want to enter a relationship. Say it in such a way you would want someone who does not want you for a relationship to respond to you.

footballpunter:
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Amotolongbo:
As someone living abroad, I don’t really subscribe to developing property in nigeria. I only buy the land then send the documents home to my parents.

If you are someone that isn’t settled in the country you are, it is not advisable for you to start buying lands and develop them in Nigeria when you don’t have the time or option of going home to monitor the projects yourself.
The annual rent you get from 2 3bedroom flats could barely settle your 1month bill in UK. After a year, you will nearly cry while trying to fix what got spoilt in the property by the tenants.

Getting a trustworthy manager of the projects is another big time challenge, no matter how close you are. They see that as an opportunity for making the fortune from you and not delivering a nice job or nothing at all

Webbyguy:
Itel 5kwh battery @550,000

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doctore212:
Wetin concern me concern zodiac sign.


Once I collect beta doggy from the girl am good

Chegesnd:
Iran is rebuilding what?
Keep deluding yourselves!
What do you mean by US loosing strategically?
Economically, do you know the Inflation Rate in Iran?
An average Iranian in the street, do you know how they are managing to survive?
It's just because they're helpless, they can't protest or challenge the absolutist government.

Chegesnd:
Every war has a consequence on both sides, no doubt.
But it's only a fool that will think that Iran is gaining any advantage.
[b]Iran cannot rebuild what it has lost in this war in a decade, [/b]let's not talk about human casualties.
How many bombs have landed in US territory?

QuinQ:
Easy for you to say. You don't know how hard it hits for a lady to be rejected. I may never recover from it. The closest I'll get is smiling at you broadly and looking into your eyes and looking "shyly" down

dododawa1:
Of all the religious obligations of a Muslim, the most important is Prayer of Salat. It is compulsory for all Muslims, men and women equally. The Holy Quran states:

Observe Prayer in the prescribed form. It is enjoined on the believers to be performed at its appointed times.” (4:104)

All the compulsory Prayers should be performed in congregation if possible. On Friday, however, a special mid-day Prayer Service is held in place of Zuhr Prayer. This is called Jum’a Prayer. Of all the Prayers, none is so essential to be offered in congretation as the Jum’a Prayer. The Jum’a, in fact, is the greatest Muslim festival.

Muslims are asked to leave all their worldly pursuits when they are called tothe Friday Prayer, and assemble in mosque to offer this Prayer with due observence of all its requirements. The Holy Quran states:

O ye who believe, when the call is made for Prayer on Friday, hasten to the rememberance of God and leave off all business, that is better for you, if you only knew. (62:10)

The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“Your best day is Friday, so you should be diligent on that day in calling down blessings on me, for your blessings are conveyed to me.” (Sunan Abu Daud)

“The best of days on which sun rises is Friday; on that day was Adam created, on that day he was admitted to the Garden and on that day was he expelled therefrom.” (Muslim)

In regards to the preparation for Friday Prayer Service, the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“A Muslim takes a bath on a Friday, makes himself thoroghly clean, and uses scented oil or just some perfume. Having thus freshened up, he goes to the mosque. He occupies a place without disturbing people sitting on his right and left. He offers the prescribed prayers, and when the Imam appears, he listens to him in silence. May God forgive his sins between that Friday and the last.” (Bukhari)

Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, relates that concerning Friday the Holy Prophet, peace be upon him, said:

“There is on that day a brief period of time during the service when whatever supplication a Muslim servant of Allah makes is granted.” He indicated with his hand that the period is very short. (Muslim)

Abu Said Khudri, may Allah be pleased with him, relates that hte Holy Prophet, peace be upon him, said:

“Bath on Friday is obligatory on every adult Muslim.” (Muslim)

Ammar bin Yasir, may Allah be pleased with him, relates that he heard the Holy Prophet, peace be upon him, say:

“The length of a person’s Prayer and the brevity of his sermon testify to his intelligence. Make your Prayer long and your sermon
short.” (Muslim)

BlackViper:
Why does this sound like fake news?

People don't die from brawls, lol.

You really want us to believe that fully armed US Service men put down their Service issued fire arms and beat themselves to death with their bare hands?

At least try and apply intelligence when crafting these stories😂😂😂

Johnames:
Please, how do you guys deal with boring girls. Girls that cannot hold simple conversations. They can't chat properly.
I'm currently dating a girl, that every minute she is calling me up and down. But she expects me to do all the talks. In the past I have dated a girl that is interesting and sweet. Please I need opinion on how to deal with someone like this. Because I'm tired already.

Dtruthspeaker:
I am sure that everyone can see that Muslims are in everyone's backyard. Clearly we are surrounded. And it is playing out all over the world.

As this guy said
voortrekker966:
Smart moves by northern governors. They are building an army while we southerners are imitating the western world by marrying just one wife and having at most 3 children.

In 50 years or less, the real jihad will start and they will easily win with each of their households putting in at least 15 military age men.

It is already happening in western Europe. Germany's population is seriously ageing while they are being replaced by jihadists. It is the same tactics in Nigeria..."

So, as this man has confessed the plan and telling us that Muslims have a right to inslave other people, (which now i see why Isreal does not give them space at all. Now I understand) https://www.nairaland.com/8725823/shafiy-adeba-says-muslims-right

So anyone who refuses to take their Mark, would be beheaded as the God had Said.

And from Revelation after beheading the first end of the world where satan is bound is not far.

iz2much:
How much is reasonable to send retired parents monthly for food in Nigeria?

For those of you supporting your parents back home, how much do you normally send them every month specifically for feeding?

My mum and dad are both retired and receive their pensions. They live in their own house in Ilorin, so no rent involved. Thankfully, no sickness or regular medication expenses either.

I’m mainly trying to work out a realistic monthly amount for food for just the two of them — normal groceries, rice, beans, meat, fish, vegetables, cooking ingredients etc.

With the current prices of food in Nigeria, what would you consider reasonable for two retired people per month?

₦100k? ₦150k? ₦200k? More?

I know everyone’s situation is different, but I’d like to hear from people who actually support their parents or know what two people currently spend on feeding in Nigeria.

Imalwayshorny:
He broke me up with me cos I’m always Hot and demanding him for sex

What should I do please 🙏?

I need your advice

Unclebayo:
Good day, pals.

I’m currently a 300L student, and honestly, there’s this girl who always checks up on me. I mean, every single time, whether I’m doing well or going through a rough patch, she’s always there for me.

I don’t have any feelings for her, and I don’t think she has any feelings for me either. It’s just pure friendship.

Right now, I’m going through a down period, so I deleted WhatsApp to avoid distractions and focus on myself and bounce back.

But somehow, this girl still messages me on the second WhatsApp account I use anonymously.

So, I’ve been thinking that if I eventually make it and bounce back properly, I’d like to buy her a new phone or do something meaningful for her, just to appreciate her for being genuinely loyal and always checking up on me.

I don’t have a girlfriend, and honestly, I’m not looking for one. And she’s not even someone I see myself dating.

Is this way of thinking normal, or am I overreacting?

Usmanovic95:
You will soon know why everyone is worried. When they start giving birth to kids they won't be able to take care of and they in turn start terorrising the neighborhood and the whole country at large, you'll know why everyone is agitated already.What is important to these between empowering them financially and sponsoring their marriage? Nigerian government have lost it at all levels.