₦airaland Forum

Diamond098454:
People do make mistakes because of too much temptations .
I'm a good girl

Diamond098454:
Thank God this is coming from a man.

I don't know why men find it difficult to forgive even in a relationship .

AdisGlobal01:
According to research that Nigeria have one of the highest number of paternity fraud in the World, this genuine reasons why I am asking the public what did you think can make a woman to sleep with another Man outside; is it poverty, lack of sexual capabilty, emotional disconnect.

Let me here your Òpinion in the comment section.

paulino31:
Now you see the reason why you will be unfortunate and can’t make it in life.How can you prosper when you’re trying to bring another man’s business down?.Kindly reflect on that question and answer yourself sincerely.Thank You(I’m done replying you,BYE)…..

Nextjs:
It became our business when people are killed, children and women killed, land disposessed

By a particular set of people and barbaric faith believe

Nextjs:
The average northern doesn't see the yorubas as true moslems

The average Arabs don't see black moslems as true moslems.

Boko haram don't see moderate moslems as moslems.

For an example in kwara state when they attack woro communities. The king or emir said they came and told them that they are coming to preach their version of moslems when they refused they launched their attack

Nextjs:
While many debate and others watch on let's consider this two verses


surah 2 vs 191 :
"And kill them wherever you overtake them and expel them from wherever they have expelled you, and oppression is worse than killing. And do not fight them at al-Masjid al-Haram until they fight you there. But if they fight you, then kill them. Such is the recompense of the disbelievers."


Surah 47:4 (Surah Muhammad):
So when you meet those who disbelieve [in battle], strike [their] necks until, when you have inflicted slaughter upon them, then secure their bonds, and either [confer] favor afterwards or ransom [them] until the war lays down its burdens...

AdisGlobal01:
SHE_NEEDS_YOUR_ADVICE

My wedding was scheduled for March this year, but everything changed after my fiancé's father passed away unexpectedly in November.

His funeral was held just three weeks later, in December. I genuinely wanted to attend, but there was one major problem: my employer had a strict policy against granting leave during the December holiday period. When I accepted the job, this condition was clearly stated. Despite explaining my situation and pleading for an exception, my request was denied.

I informed my fiancé immediately. At first, he appeared understanding. I even contributed financially to support the funeral arrangements.

Then his mother called.

She told me that if I truly wanted to become part of their family, I had to be physically present at her husband's funeral. I tried explaining my circumstances, but she ended the call before I could finish.

When I called my fiancé afterward, I expected him to stand by me. Instead, he asked:

"If it were your own father, wouldn't you find a way to attend?"

I explained that the situations were different because my employer might make an exception if it were my immediate family member.

That was when he dropped the bombshell:

"No presence. No wedding."

I thought grief was speaking. I thought time would calm him down.

I was wrong.

The wedding was officially cancelled.

My family tried everything to reconcile the situation, but his family refused every attempt. Eventually, my father advised me to accept the loss and move forward with my life.

It broke me, but I did.

Months passed.

Then, on May 20th, my ex-fiancé called me.

What he said left me speechless.

According to him, I had failed the test of being a good wife because I stopped trying to convince his family after the wedding was cancelled. He said a "real wife" would have kept begging until she was accepted.

Then he announced that he had "forgiven" me.

Not only that, he had already chosen a new wedding date in August and expected me to start preparing immediately.

As if the breakup had never happened.

As if my feelings didn't matter.

As if he alone had the authority to decide when a relationship ends—and when it resumes.

Without hesitation, I told him I was no longer interested.

His response shocked me even more.

He said:

"I'm not done. You don't have the right to be done."

I blocked his number immediately.

But that wasn't the end.

A few days later, he appeared at my father's house carrying the bride price and all the marriage items he had previously rejected.

My father told him clearly:

"My daughter has moved on. As far as this family is concerned, she is no longer available."

Still, he refused to accept it.

Since then, he and his mother have continued calling, visiting, and pressuring both me and my family despite my repeated refusal.

Now I'm beginning to wonder:

Is this really about love, or is there something deeper behind their sudden determination?

What troubles me most is the mindset that someone can cancel a wedding, disappear for months, return when it suits them, and expect another person to simply obey.

I am now considering legal action because the constant calls, visits, and refusal to respect my decision are becoming disturbing.

My question is:

If someone ends a relationship, then later decides to "forgive" you and resume the wedding without your consent, would you see that as love... or as a dangerous sense of entitlement?

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Baxilexi:
While others see this as a weakness and a setback, this is what the rule of law entails. This is democracy at its finest.

It takes a certainly level of eternal subservience to prefer Russia, China and the IRGC over the western governmental system. Where everyone has a voice.

IRGC supporters know more about what’s happening in the US than in Iran and they call Trump the tyrant.
They watch a leader and cleric seat kids and tell them to say death to certain people and when they’re old enough they should kill these people even if it costs them their lives.

The US should know this truth, if their partners in the Middle East don’t feel secured they’ll move to Russia or China. And Russia would do a better job on Iran without batting an eye lid. And when this happens lazy American would be crying about more than the price of gas at the pump. Already, NVIDIA lost all its market share in China, and it’s fighting to retain its place globally.

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I meet about a year and half ago..we meet and vibe then start about a week after we meet..she was loving real not materialistic and very smart this make me fall more for her..she was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship she was always active infact she was more dedicated and active than me.so I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her so fast forward to a month ago she suddenly changed..she stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me..for a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..it really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

Gotocourt:
Things fall apart, iran caused all this mess for Lebanon.

Kobojunkie:
Most men are not forced into marriage or relationships, for that matter. The vast majority of men out there choose for themselves whether or not to enter into marriage, whereas the same cannot be said for women who, to this day, in many parts of the world, are literally forced or sold into marriage. Marriage, for men, has never been compulsory, making it of no need to ask this useless question time and time again.

Kobojunkie:
This woman is right! According to Islam, a woman's money belongs to her. So the woman is right in determining that in her Islamic marriage, her money should belong to her. Unfortunately for her, the arrangement also determines that since she is her husband's property in marriage, he can decide whether she can work during the marriage or not. 😒

For non-Islamic marriages, however, these rules do not apply at all. 😒

TylerForbes:
​Every day online, you see the same exhausting debate: “What does a lady bring to the table?”
​Men are angry because they feel women are hypergamous, and women are defensive because they feel men are cheap. But if we are being completely honest, the men who aggressively scream "What do you bring to the table?" are usually guys who are still struggling in the trenches or just starting to see small money.
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When you are broke or managing a startup lifestyle, you naturally look for a Co-Founder—a woman who will split bills 50/50, help you pay rent, and endure suffering with you. That is valid for that stage of life.
​But once a man breaks through and begins to build a real empire, his operational requirements completely change. A wealthy man doesn't need a woman to bring raw capital, business partnerships, or financial assets to his table. He already owns the table, the chairs, and the building the table is sitting in. He doesn’t need a co-founder. What he needs is a Sovereign Partner.
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When you shift from building wealth to protecting a legacy, a woman’s value is no longer measured by production, but by preservation, discretion, and peace.

​Here is what a high-caliber woman actually brings to a wealthy man's table:
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Peace (The Ultimate Asset)
The business world in Nigeria is a brutal, chaotic battlefield. A man handling high-stakes deals, regulatory stress, and constant market pressure cannot afford to return home to another battlefield of drama, unnecessary attitude, and emotional instability. A sovereign partner provides an environment of absolute peace. That peace is not passive; it is a critical infrastructure that resets a man’s nervous system, sharpens his decision-making, and prevents the burnout that destroys empires.

​Gatekeeping and Risk Management
Men who are focused on aggressive expansion often miss subtle social cues. A high-caliber woman possesses an incredible, highly accurate skill for people's hidden motives. She can spot a snake in your circle long before you do. She acts as a secondary security layer, vetting friends, business associates, and hangers-on. While a chaotic woman is a massive liability who leaks your secrets, a sovereign partner carries herself with a level of class and discretion that protects your brand.
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The Culture of the Estate (Legacy)
An empire that dies with the creator is just a temporary business. To turn wealth into a generational dynasty, you need a woman who can govern the internal culture of the home. She ensures your children are not raised as soft, entitled rich kids who will squander your hard work, but as capable successors who understand power, discipline, and responsibility.
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Stop looking at relationships through a poverty mindset of “Can she buy me a shirt?” or “Can she pay for her own food?”
​If you are a man of substance, you don't need her money; you need her character, her loyalty, her emotional maturity, and her peace. She isn't there to lay the bricks of your empire—she is there to ensure the foundation never cracks.
​Build your wealth first, become the player on the chessboard, and you will realize that the highest value a woman can bring to your life cannot be quantified in a bank statement.