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cococandy:
I've an assignment for you. Stop. Take a deep breathe. And ask yourself how your comment is helping the OP.

The fact that people like me advice her to stop looking up to her brother and try for herself doesn't mean we think he shouldn't help her.
Yes he should.
How about in this situation that he isn't doing it? What's a better advice than encouraging her to see herself capable than dependent?

Does your ranting against his wife and other posters help her? Instead of giving her constructive advice like things she can do to get by, you're indulging her in the pity party that she's been looking all year long.
Ask yourself again if after instigating her to hate the sister-in-law more, you'll be there to give her actual practical physical support that she needs when they get more and more alienated from her brother due to her attitude towards his wife (read her past posts).

Meanwhile you call yourself a good person. Taking the liberty to insult all the Christains on this thread by saying our way of life is evil. What have you done as a good Muslim to help her now?

You're even judging people you don't know. Maybe we should all call our brothers and sisters-in-law to come show you how our husbands have been helping them before you know you're not the only 'good' wife on this thread. Right? Madam good woman.

GBAM!!!

uplawal:
Nothing is wrong,i have just said what the Almighty demands from close families/siblings,you people are so ignorant of life,you do as you wish,no laws to guide you on the right path,if you people dnt know,its a very big sin to neglect your siblings in this situation,very big sin before Almighty God,and the siblings bond should never be broken,thats the way of God,and anyone doing opposite will reap it consequences,no matter what your siblings has done to you,they are your siblings and the ties should not break.Now the wife and husband has not only broken the bond but has wounded the ladys heart,left her shattered.

oh cool. how nice and kind hearted of you. keep rubbing your sibling on the head and parting their back. you know they have you so they don't need to work at all. you should literally give them every kobo they will ever need in life. they should be totally dependent on you.

even after they marry, you will have to continue paying their bills, house rent, kids fees, clothe them and their spouse and also don't forget to give each of the pocket money weekly including their spouses and kids.

according to your rules up their, siblings are never to be independent.

cococandy:
Something is obviously wrong with you.

Coco you sef det see what am sawing.

freecocoa:
How convenient, and the brother is what? An 1mbecile that can't control his life? The man is as guilty as the woman.

yes you are very right freecocoa, the brother wife might be bad, and brother bewitched.

but really it's not about the brother or the wife now. it's about the op being INDEPENDENT of anybody. it will really go a long way in her life before and after marriage.

uplawal:
Shes making a fool of herself,shes veruy arrogant and an idiot,wicked joined together

why is my post affecting you this badly that you have gone on and on discussing my post with someone you don't even know.

Yea you been married for 7 years so like I bloddy care. you are yet to wake up and face reality. if you got a mentality like the op and you are married (and probably with kids) then you need your brain examined .

GoldenJAT:
its really annoying.... I read her comment, and I wonder, if some people were created with brains at all.. I know my God is 2 perfect for such.... it would have been better, she kept mute

Oh no, I dint keep mute, I only decided to ignore you because silent is sure the best answer for you the your co who quoted me and felt bad about MY OWN opinion. last time I checked it was MY opinion and not yours.

the likes of you are the ones who end up jobless at age 50 lurking up and down with lazy heads and asking favours from their mates who had used their earlier years to work hard and make a better living of them self.

now run along, I see some schools are on vacation and you got plenty of time. wake up boy time is ticking out fast and ain't waiting for no one.

goodluck to you.

Askmewhy:
Favour this is Africa it's our custom here to wait for our brother or sister to lend a helping hand. So don't blame the young girl for doing that and it's her right to get something from her people.

Lol. You mean in this 20th century? with this current situation of the economy? you gotta be kidding me man.

WHOcarex:
Taar!!! Don't mind that liar. Go through her other topics you will see what I mean. She is just a jealous and lazy being. Bitter wicked thing. "worked in a saloon, I have been paying me and my bro fee" my ass. Her brother is simply tired of her attitude. Mtcheew

oh really? dint go tru any of her past post though. her brother go don try wella no be small.

olowookerekemi:
this r so lovely ma

thank you so much sis God bless you.

humbledbyfaith:
by dear..

it seems everyone doesn't get the real picture..

@taryour..
I virtually paid my school fees since my year 2 up till my finals..

I hustled through hair dressing and all but I have stopped all that now.. as I want to fully concentrate on my final year of study..
mind you,upon inception, I literally take care of my self and my little bro..
my bro treats us with apparent disdain...
whatever the wive have spoken to him I don't know...
I have tried to bring her to my heart as a sister Inlaw but it seems she sees me as a competition for her husband..
well,I leave everything to God Almighty...

thanks dear

oh my bad. sorry about my previous post. you dint put the part where you funded your fees and for your younger bro. it is well, such is life. God will sure see you thru this trying times. it is only but for a little while.
be strong.

humbledbyfaith:
ay family landers,

I am so depressed as of right now..

I have a bro who recently got marrier to his fiancée..

we were happy as a family until my bro's wife started interfering in between my bro and I..
it all started when I had an urgent need in school, I approached my bro with the most humble scenery one can ever imagine, his wife just cut me short, and said they was no money, I was shocked as my bro sided with her and said they was no money.
I took it in good faith and went away.
later that day ,when they were back from work,I overhead my bro talking to someone in his bedroom..
I went closer and behold my bro was talking to his wife sis asking her if she had seen the alert of the money he sent to her..immediately I heard that,I just sat on the floor and sobbed loudly..

I wonder why my bro will be treating me and my junior bro like this ,we are orphans (lost dad and mum the same day in a car accident)my bro is in jss3 in a public school(my bro's wife changed him with the pretext that they couldn't afford the private school fee).me,I'm in my final year in the university, just remaining my project and my final year school fees..
I am really depressed as mates have already gone to nysc..

I can't go to anywhere because of clearance and my bro has turned a dear ear to my appeal to set me up with something I can do to at least clear my self in school..
I am not a lazy person, God forbid that I be lazy but I don't have the necessary incentive to startup something..

I am just fed up with the whole scenario, I have thought of suicide, but ithat will be foolishness as my junior bro will be left in this world to suffer alone..

If my parents are seeing all that is happening, they should please intervene on our behalf because I'm almost giving up... ;'(

sorry for bothering you all with my trouble

well this might sound harsh. I don't feel sorry for you. only sorry about your parents.

1* what have you been doing from your year one till your final year? depending on your brother? do you also ask him for funds to get your sanitary pads and lingeries?

2* you eaves dropped and heard about some money being transferred into your brothers wife account, do you know what excatly the money is meant for? or you just concluded it's for her to enjoy.

3* eavesdropping is a very annoying attitude. STOP IT.

4* No your brother or is wife are not doing you any wrong, rather they want you to be independent.

5* it's not to late to get doing something with your hand. there is a whole lot of ideas and people are making millions for themselves.

don't even think about keeping malice with your brother or his wife, you will end up biting the finger that fed you. you are not a child so get busy lady.

best wishes.

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Acidosis:
If she had refused being raped, the robbers would do what they have to do anyway. When a robber says: "your life or your money?", the money would still be gotten even if you choose life.

My point is, if the robber had shot the man, the robbers would in fact, do more harm to her for being so "heartless". No woman can refuse being rap.ed when confronted with a gun, so she should keep the "sympathetic" stories aside. She didn't only save the 'man', she saved herself and her family.

It is one thing for a wife to be raped, it is another thing for one's wife to be raped in the presence of the husband. Men and women view s.ex differently so I cannot totally fault the man. We have seen women who voluntarily allow their husbands sleep with strange women. We have seen women who bring home a 2nd, 3rd wife. This ideology however does not work for men. The man needs time to get over the thought.

On the path of the woman, she needs to be understanding and be patient with her husband. Seeing 2 men taking rounds live on his wife can even affect erec.tion. It takes a very heartless man to witness such and resume active s.ex immediately without any thought of vengeance, or plans for arrest and prosecution of the robbers.

oh please, according to your epistle up there, so the woman shouldn't be sympathetic in any way? do you know what it means to be raped by some dirty stinking filty animal in human skin not just 1 but 3 dumb aSs. do you know how long it will take some other victims to recover from such trauma

is the husband traumatised ? YES for witnessing such.
is the woman traumatised ? YES cause she is the victim and feels worse than her husband. she needs care and reassurance from her husband, she is dirty now and feel so much shame, anger, depressed, fear,outcast e.t.c
Who else needs to be closest to her now if not her spouse, on whose shoulder should she lean on and cry her bitterness on if not her husband?

it's 6 months gone by already and the man isn't over it. if he can't go on he should just open up to her rather than make her feel worse than she is. some victims never recover from rape cause they tend to withdraw to their selves.

that man needs to man up to his responsibilities. his even lucky his wife is ready to move on. some other women will turn to stone after such even, and will feel disgust towards their husbands for not being able to do anything while she was being given a life time scar.

Acidosis:
So what do you think? The man should hump on the woman immediately after the rape incidence? Cmon, only a dog would do that.

how about she had refused being raped and a bullet put thru the man's head and her life will sure continue afterwards init

but no for the love she had for her hubby she took the brunt and now she is a bitch who can't be touched again by the man she saved

Kaira333:
He is our enemy yet he came to us for solutions abi? Simple sense u won't have, mumu.

you are so damn fast @ throwing insults at people ( people you don't know and might never get to meet ). yet you can't take one for yourself, jeez wake up woman, grow up and stop being childish.

Timbuktou:
Mrs. Solomon, you'll live long enough to know how foolish you really are.

GBAM!!!

EOD

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