Favored4gud:
Thats the problem with folks back home. Dependency life style is killing some folks!! you depend on you brother for something like say na your birth right. My guy, like u said you are not lazy, there are lots of things you can do to bring u some small change while you wait to go serve, teaching, sell food stuffs and all. I did it, hustled and learned depending on people won't get u nowhere unless God shows mercy. U need to wise up.

mafiaso9:
How much money do you need to compete your studies and what's your full name so I can try and forward some funds for you via western union?

Chillisauce:
You never reach to marry
Dead parents ko.! You go invoke tire.

Pls if you are a christian go to your church for funds. No be only to collect tithe them sabi.

If a Moslem, you know your way to the mosque.

If neither of the two. Go get a boyfriend ojare. No be only to do osho free . If you dey chop frog chop better one

Love no dey this one oh.
This is emergency. As you no fit find work take support yourself..it better you know where you are skilled and go for it. Let your Bros breathe abeg.

Time you use to complain from last yr you suppose Don sell 40k recharge card for traffic in one week.

My dear..carry your self and find your way ojare.

N'a your type dey collect handout money 100 times yet no result.

GoldenJAT:
its really annoying.... I read her comment, and I wonder, if some people were created with brains at all.. I know my God is 2 perfect for such.... it would have been better, she kept mute

humbledbyfaith:
hi..
please don't aggravate my already wounded soul..

I haven't really described more horrible details to you to ascertain my stance that I am trying

taryour:



Oh no, I dint keep mute, I only decided to ignore you because silent is sure the best answer for you the your co who quoted me and felt bad about MY OWN opinion. last time I checked it was MY opinion and not yours.

the likes of you are the ones who end up jobless at age 50 lurking up and down with lazy heads and asking favours from their mates who had used their earlier years to work hard and make a better living of them self.

now run along, I see some schools are on vacation and you got plenty of time. wake up boy time is ticking out fast and ain't waiting for no one.

goodluck to you.

crackhaus:
I'm not quite sure how any man lets his wife come between him and the family he's known his entire life, to be honest...it's just something I can't fathom.

I'm sorry about your plight but the only solution I can proffer is that you leave your brother and his wife be, seek your fortunes elsewhere.
When a woman has gained that much control over a man enough to turn him against his siblings, there isn't much that can be done without you coming off like the agent sent to break the marriage.
And you really gotta stop eavesdropping on their conversations - mind your business.

You're a woman, your brother's wife is a woman - are you seeing the bigger picture yet?

erudean:


Some of you on this forum can be very heartless in your comments! Na waoo.

freecocoa:
I uses to watch things like this in nollywood but never really believed they really happen, till my cousin met a girl and married her, though my cousin didn't turn to a complete hediot, sometimes he let's the girl get to him. I'm just saying that some women can actually make things worse.


OP, you've been given some good advice, though I don't know how strong the bond with your brother was, prior to marriage, cos there's no way his wife is taking all the blame, he's not a child, therefore he should be able to tell his left from right.

A brother who cares about you won't leave your to suffer when he can help, having said that, you have to be on the look out on how to take care of yourself, though he's still your brother, he has other responsibilities now, you also have to try and talk to your brother about his attitude, let him know he is fucking up, don't just sit there crying.

darlenese:
U want to sound as pathetic as possible , but I don't want to fall for your story, as a final year student , if u are responsible , u should have a serious relationship by now , pls leave ur brother and his wife alone , most sister in law find it difficult to accept the fact that their brother is now closely tied to another woman who isn't their blood , they want to forever remain knitted witn their brother ,my dear mind or business and accept the fact that ur brother is now raising his own family ,

Stop cooking up pathetic stories and let ur brother be , u are no longer a kid, and u will have ur home someday , that your parents died is not enough reason to be sneaking and eaves dropping on ur brother's privacy !

As for your younger one going to a public school , there is nothing wrong with that , stop being emotional about it, your brother is only adjusting to the new realities on ground , you don't even know how much he earns, he has started a new family and he must be plan for his family !

As for invoking ur dead parents on ur brother , i will advise that u use that energy to pray for a good husband and a good job for yourself !

cococandy:
When someone gets married, their immediate family comes first then brothers and sisters come second.

When you act towards the wife or husband as if they've come to take something that belongs to you, it will breed friction. Your comments about your brother's wife since he got married shows you think that you guys should come first before her.
Sorry it doesn't work that way.

On the chance that your brother is really uncaring like you've painted, you have no choice than to fend for yourself.
If you didn't have him what would you do? See it as your cross and bear it.

Yes your brother was pulled from private school because your elder brother now has more responsibilities. You're in Nigeria. You've the seen the hard economic situation. When there's more responsibility than money coming in, everyone has to adjust. If he kept your brother in private school, where will the money to take care of his new duties as a husband come from? You may not even know how much money he makes. Don't assume.

I believe members of this forum have adviced you enough. You can't keep lamenting from year to year. At some point you'll have to pick yourself up and realize you're the only one you have. Goodluck to you.

uplawal:
Shes making a fool of herself,shes veruy arrogant and an idiot,wicked joined together

marvelous000:
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Very heartless, bro. Just imagine the balderdash she spew

I just don't have time at the moment. I would've taken time to inculcate sense into the empty thing they brand brain.

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crackhaus:

You don't need to leave the house, what I meant by seek your fortunes elsewhere is that you seek other avenues to get the money you need - could be from friends or course mates.

As for your brother, try approaching him again when his wife isn't at home to have a discussion with him regarding the fees you need to pay before the school can let you go.
He is your brother, has always been your brother, and will always be your brother - there's no way he wouldn't want you to go for your NYSC assuming his wife hasn't completely messed up his head.

In the meantime, try as much as possible to avoid anything that will cause direct altercations between you and his wife...do your chores, mind your business, and stay out of her way - you're the one who needs their help and even if you don't like your SIL, false humilty and loyalty always works wonders.

Remember to only have discussions with your brother when you both are alone.

uplawal:
Christian way of life is evil i tell you,no reasonable muslim will reason the way you just did,from islamic perspective,its the duty of the brother to finance her on her education and all until she get married,its her right which is incubent upon him to fulfil,thankGod for Islam.

clintonsparkz:
just checked ur gender, and ur female, my dear take it from me, U B WINCH

uplawal:
Christian way of life is evil i tell you,no reasonable muslim will reason the way you just did,from islamic perspective,its the duty of the brother to finance her on her education and all until she get married,its her right which is incubent upon him to fulfil,thankGod for Islam.

2sexynet:
Aside that , the OP is a girl. Do this people expect her to be forking around? I saw were someone was suggesting she should sort her fortune elsewhere, I wouldn't be surprise if she meant going to sleep with men because that one no dey hard people to say.

humbledbyfaith:
hi family landers,

I am so depressed as of right now..

I have a bro who recently got married to his fiancée..

we were happy as a family until my bro's wife started interfering in between my bro and I..
it all started when I had an urgent need in school, I approached my bro with the most humble scenery one can ever imagine, his wife just cut me short, and said they was no money, I was shocked as my bro sided with her and said they was no money.
I took it in good faith and went away.
later that day ,when they were back from work,I overhead my bro talking to someone in his bedroom..
I went closer and behold my bro was talking to his wife sis asking her if she had seen the alert of the money he sent to her..immediately I heard that,I just sat on the floor and sobbed loudly..

I wonder why my bro will be treating me and my junior bro like this ,we are orphans (lost dad and mum the same day in a car accident)my bro is in jss3 in a public school(my bro's wife changed him with the pretext that they couldn't afford the private school fee).me,I'm in my final year in the university, just remaining my project and my final year school fees..
I am really depressed as my mates have already gone to nysc..

I can't go to anywhere because of clearance and my bro has turned a deaf ear to my appeal to set me up with something I can do to at least clear my self in school..
I am not a lazy person, God forbid that I be lazy but I don't have the necessary incentive to startup something..

I am just fed up with the whole scenario, I have thought of suicide, but ithat will be foolishness as my junior bro will be left in this world to suffer alone..

If my parents are seeing all that is happening, they should please intervene on our behalf because I'm almost giving up... ;'(

sorry for bothering you all with my trouble

humbledbyfaith:
hi family landers,

I am so depressed as of right now..

I have a bro who recently got married to his fiancée..

we were happy as a family until my bro's wife started interfering in between my bro and I..
it all started when I had an urgent need in school, I approached my bro with the most humble scenery one can ever imagine, his wife just cut me short, and said they was no money, I was shocked as my bro sided with her and said they was no money.
I took it in good faith and went away.
later that day ,when they were back from work,I overhead my bro talking to someone in his bedroom..
I went closer and behold my bro was talking to his wife sis asking her if she had seen the alert of the money he sent to her..immediately I heard that,I just sat on the floor and sobbed loudly..

I wonder why my bro will be treating me and my junior bro like this ,we are orphans (lost dad and mum the same day in a car accident)my bro is in jss3 in a public school(my bro's wife changed him with the pretext that they couldn't afford the private school fee).me,I'm in my final year in the university, just remaining my project and my final year school fees..
I am really depressed as my mates have already gone to nysc..

I can't go to anywhere because of clearance and my bro has turned a deaf ear to my appeal to set me up with something I can do to at least clear my self in school..
I am not a lazy person, God forbid that I be lazy but I don't have the necessary incentive to startup something..

I am just fed up with the whole scenario, I have thought of suicide, but ithat will be foolishness as my junior bro will be left in this world to suffer alone..

If my parents are seeing all that is happening, they should please intervene on our behalf because I'm almost giving up... ;'(

sorry for bothering you all with my trouble

freecocoa:
How convenient, and the brother is what? An 1mbecile that can't control his life? The man is as guilty as the woman.

uplawal:
Wallahi the worst thing a man can do is to neglect his siblings,am a wife of seven years too,and i alwways let my husband play his role as a provider for his siblings,the brother and the wife are not looking at the big picture,what if in the future God forbid both of them die and his kids are left to suffer the consequences of their action,what goes around comes around.

banmee:


I don't know if you are serious or not, but I have been thinking of doing something like this come first of January. It would be nice if we, and by we, i mean people who are not rich but can help students in Nigeria with small stipends to sustain them in school. I am thinking of giving one deserving student, no older than 22, 50 to a 100 dollars a month for a year, every year. Problem is the selection process. What do you think?

cococandy:
Something is obviously wrong with you.

cococandy:
Something is obviously wrong with you.

2sexynet:
Nairaland has an NGO body that is called TEHN, they can help sort that out. Just send your proposal

uplawal:
Honestly i find it hard to believe women think so evil like that,am still thinking dear.

uplawal:
Nothing is wrong,i have just said what the Almighty demands from close families/siblings,you people are so ignorant of life,you do as you wish,no laws to guide you on the right path,if you people dnt know,its a very big sin to neglect your siblings in this situation,very big sin before Almighty God,and the siblings bond should never be broken,thats the way of God,and anyone doing opposite will reap it consequences,no matter what your siblings has done to you,they are your siblings and the ties should not break.Now the wife and husband has not only broken the bond but has wounded the ladys heart,left her shattered.