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cococandy:
Off topic sha.

pls Don't remind me of Bahamas island last year and their authentic pina colada.I've missed it ever since. What we get here doesn't compare.
I almost feel bad I can't go anywhere this year because of this tiny omomo.

_{I have this topic derailing habit that I need to overcome.}

Back to topic.

lwkmd miss topic derailer, how you doing sis and the little angel?.

@ op shouldn't be a big deal na need coming to net and asking o. just find your way to ibadan zoo, chain herby the neck and have her locked up in the cage for 6 months, trust me she will get tamed. After her taming, cloth her nicely and take her home she will be at your beck and call. If you not certified take her for another 3 months taming. her son and other kids will thank you wahalai. BUT BE SURE YOUR CHILDREN AND FUTURE INLAW WILL DO SAME TO YOU. Gbam !!!

Edwife efemenaxy I hail oo

cococandy:
We are doing fine.
Thank you.
How are yous?

we all are doing great sis thanks. **hugs**

edwife:
We are great as usual, happy people - happy life. Hope you good as well? Sweetheart it's all about maturity and life experience. You know who has been there and who is just starting. I have always said, life is easy if you want it to be. I don't understand people who claims to have a happy life, beautiful this and that but yet are always complaining about things or situations. How does it work out? Everything is like a task, it has to be reviewed and questioned.What the hell?

Learn to be truly Happy and take each day as it presents itself without worrying about negativity. Many of these women grow older because they nag,complain,over-think,worries,analyse everything. Life is beautiful and forever young I remain. Nothing is hard in life, people make it so.

Don't sweat the small stuff, my motto. Know who you marry

GBAM!!! End Of Discussion.


Kimoni I see you o. cococandy ekale o. how you doing and all yours?

flokii:
Hello.. Sorry for interfering

But d lady might not mean 'punish' in d real sense..

Might be that she didn't choose her words carefully.. You should take things easy with people

Some just type to provoke unknowingly.

Mr I beg to differ please Tone or no Tone " punishment " has no 2 meanings.

edwife:
Oh dear no need to get worked up, you should get used to NL by now. Lions of the internet... . What a place for entertainment, we know what time is it, i can't be bother. She will get her answers from the "usual".

Ewuro darling, how are you? Please OP needs a punishment method.Help some sisters.... When some people live with pigs, what do you expect?

sweerie bawo ni? how are you and all yours? trust you all are doing great jare. no mind the op. she wan play fast one trying to change her intentions saying dint I notice the tone of the message.

I don't even know why the thing surprise me sef, ppl just make things very difficult for themselves.
God go help all of us.

Ewuro4:
This woman eh

sis no mind me jare. the thing sound absurd for my ear ni jare. punish like she is dealing with non living thing, on top house chores oo. if the man come cheat nko? I wonder wetin go happen.

how you dey jare and all yours?

Knightngale:
see all these evil wives acting like saints on the internet first of all, the use of punishment does not in anyway suggest the existence of a grudge, if you weren't a retard, you would have observed the tone of the post and know that I didn't mean punishment in the way you have painted it secondly, where did I mention it's about me? Rubbish!

Yea right see who is talking. you come on a social media and use the word " punish " for a man you call your husband ontop washing plate and sweeping. that's ridiculous. you are not a machine neither am I, if you can't finish the chores at once leave the rest until you have strenght / time to continue.

tone my foot. if I hear. and please stop hiding behind the curtain saying " who says it's about me " just come out clean and stop hiding in the closet. we are no fools here.

ppl should just be their selves for once and just playing games with " my friend " " my cousin" my neighbour"

the fact that you use the word "punish" ain't good at all.

like I bloody care however you decide to rule your home or treat your husband. ish

and by the way I am no saint. I got my own issues too and I iron them out. thank you

Knightngale:
Any suggestions? Someone needs an advise.

how about stabbing him in his sleep or putting a nail tru his head that should help you na. or you can get a cane or better still koboko and use it as well . the use of the word " punishment " showed the grudge you already have against your husband.

@greatgod2012 and edwife you couldn't have said it better.

naaa. that's not a pre wedding photo shoot, that's obviously a " pre BONDAGE photo shoot ".. na the man I pity, before he marry he don become slave tied with rope, I wonder how his life will be in marriage.

Here is Definitely another one on the loose. eleyi gidi gan oo. them plenty for nairaland so ain't surprised.

double post

Aminat508:
@bolded, Now I am confused!!! Funjosh

LWKMD. sorry dearie. you must be a leaner. lol

" by the way e no concine me " lol

ifyalways:
I will PM you.

I called her now and she said she's fine, in church actually. And she doesn't want her account number posted here. Please let's respect her privacy.

Email ifyalways at gmail with subject " Account" and I'll send it to you.

Cc Zed7

hi sis good morning. please kindly mail me her account details as well. Thanks

Godzchild:
Thank u sir,I can send all that is requested to ur mail.pls if u don't mind dropping a mesg on my mail with blessingchigozie872@yahoo.com so I can reply u via same mail address..l I will forward whatever proof u need same way I have done to the previous mods.quote author=jaybee3 post=45366426]

Please forward the emails to me...
I'm sure she wouldn't mind

Help is on the way....

Chai , if ONLY everyone can be HONEST. there will certainly be less difficulty and this world would have been a much much better place.

@ op IF your story is real then I really feel for you. I try imagine someone in your shoes and I think the best option for you now is find a relative to stay with, it can't be that bad so much that a relative wunt want to take in a "heavily pregnant woman and that's if your story is real "

it's not about sending funds to help you cause there are a whole lot of good hearted people on nairaland who are still willing to help out BUT their fingers has been bitten is the worst possible ways. for your own good and for the sake of that innocent child coming " if your story is true " someone here will find time and be kind enough to verify you.

and besides I don't see any big deal in posting some info about you here EVEN if it's your face, afterall it's not your face that matters but your child, and besides who keeps tabs of ppl faces when there are millions of things occupying ones mind on a daily basis.

Edited: I can't believe I just typed all that. Op your story really got me but pls do the needful and people will sure help you.

ronald4ever:
Very irresponsible and disgusting parents who shouldn't have procreated in the first place. Now see what they are putting innocent kids through. Fools if you can't take care of kids stop procreating. Id1ots.

And in your church mind, you just typed something sensible is it the fathers fault that he can't walk? or were you told he injured himself intentional so he could beg on the road with his child you need to cover your face, ask for forgiveness and God grace. And finally THANK GOD FOR YOUR OWN....

The tragic incident of Sunday, April 24, was one that the family of Ashinwo, did not see coming.

Had a prophet told Oluwatosin, her siblings and their widow mother, of the danger that lurked around the corner that day, it is unlikely they would have believed it.

In fact, months after they all knew 45-year-old David Ogundele, an engineer, who was deeply obsessed with 30-year-old Oluwatosin, they had no idea they had a killer on their hands.



But it is late to regret; Oluwatosin is dead after being stabbed multiple times by Ogundele along with her mother, who was trying to ward off the attack on her daughter in a flat she rented at Tanke area of Ilorin, Kwara State.

As of the time of filing this report, Oluwatosin’s mother was still in intensive care at  a hospital in Ilorin where she had undergone a round of surgery to repair the extensive damage caused by the knife attack on her body.

In fact, one of Oluwatosin’s brothers, told our correspondent that their mother was stabbed more than his sister but she survived to tell the story.

For her sister, the story is grimmer. She had bled to death by the time help came.

Agony of love unreciprocated 

The story that culminated in the tragedy that has befallen the Ashinwo family started late last year, Saturday PUNCH learnt.

Oluwatosin, who was a customer care executive with telecommunication company, MTN, had just been transferred from Kano to Kwara State when she met Ogundele.

Our correspondent was told that while Ogundele had a massive crush on the young woman, she had other things on her mind.

“My sister did not love him back and she did not hide it. He did everything to win her love but she just did not like him back,”  one of Oluwatosin’s brothers told our correspondent.

Soon, Ogundele was said to have reached out to the young woman’s siblings with the hope of winning their approval and convincing their sister.

Oluwatosin’s brother said, “At a time when I was in Ilorin at the end of last year, I visited my sister one evening when the man came around. I saw him a second time, two weeks after that in December. I did not ask my sister about him because I knew she was old enough to handle her affairs. But it was clear my sister did not like him.

“My sister used to tell me that he works at Omu Aran. She said the man would always pester her that he wanted to marry her.

“There had been pressure from my mother and other family members for her to get married but she always liked to handle her issues herself. She was the one who sponsored my university education. She was very hardworking. Even apart from her MTN work, she was still selling shoes and bags on the side.

“It happened that the man (Ogundele) got the numbers of my brother and I somehow.”

Soon, Ogundele started to send messages to Oluwatosin’s brothers.

The screen capture of one of such messages shown our correspondent, reads, “Your sister is giving me a serious headache. I don’t know what to do. I love her so much but…Join me in prayers that God should soften her heart.”

In another text message he sent to one of the brothers, Ogundele wrote, “I am at the health centre now. It is your sister’s behaviour that landed me there o. Always thinking (sic) I covet your prayers for survival. If I die, I die for love. You can’t understand.”

At this point, the brothers reached the conclusion that the man was terribly obsessed with their sister, who insisted that she was never going to get into a relationship with or marry him.

Saturday PUNCH learnt that it became clear that Oluwatosin’s mind was made up when Ogundele undertook the most unexpected and shocking step of organising a big birthday  party for the young woman when she clocked 30 in February.

Apart from organising the birthday, he bought a Toyota Matrix as a birthday gift.

As the birthday ceremony started, Ogundele reportedly put a call across to Oluwatosin to come. She never showed up.

“If my sister had accepted the gift, it would have been the same as accepting his proposal. He felt so bad about it,” the deceased’s brother said.

This was said to have infuriated Ogundele, whom they said felt ashamed in the eyes of the guests he had invited to the party.

Oluwatosin’s brothers said her resolve was more affirmed because she had learnt that Ogundele was married already.

Saturday PUNCH learnt that after Ogundele established contacts with Oluwatosin’s siblings, he went ahead to get in touch with their mother too.

“He kept disturbing my brother. My brother initially felt pity for him for the disappointment when he told him he bought a car for my sister but she still disappointed him. When he got my mother’s number, I explained to my mother that he was not the kind of person my sister could marry. My mother decided to tell him that there was nothing she could do about that because she could not force a man on her own daughter to marry.”

On Saturday, their 53-year-old mother travelled to Ilorin to visit Oluwatosin.

That was when she learnt that there had been an incident recently which Oluwatosin did not tell them.

“I called my mother that day and she told me that she was happy that she visited my sister. She said the man (Ogundele) threatened my sister. My mother said my sister told her that the man held a knife to her neck and collected her ATM card and withdrew money from her account.

“My sister told mom that the man threatened that if he did not marry her, he would waste her. We could not finish that conversation that day.”

Then between 8am and 9am on Sunday, the Ashinwo’s worst nightmare came true. Ogundele made good his threat.

Saturday PUNCH learnt that Ogundele showed up and an argument ensued, during which Oluwatosin insisted the man must leave her house.

But rather than leave, in anger, he ran into the kitchen and grabbed a knife.

By the time, he was done, the two women, Oluwatosin, and her mother, who tried to stop the fight, had both been stabbed multiple times.

It was learnt that Ogundele locked his victims in the room, thinking that they were both dead.

Saturday PUNCH learnt that the house was deserted at the time as other tenants were not around.

But unknown to him, Oluwatosin’s mother survived and she alerted a trader who had a shop in front of the compound.

The severely injured woman, who had managed to narrate a little of what happened, said she watched as her bleeding daughter breathed her last, as Ogundele locked them inside and fled.

She was later rushed to the hospital where doctors performed an emergency surgery to save her life.

Photographs of the scene of the attack, which were shown our correspondent, showed patches of thickened blood which had turned the white tiles red. The photographs gave an insight into the brutal attack that took Oluwatosin’s life.

 

Conversation with killer on the run

In a shocking conversation our correspondent struck with the alleged killer (Ogundele) on WhatsApp, he simply rationalised his act by saying “I was bewitched.”

Asked if Oluwatosin provoked him, he said, “It is well.  What can I do now? I was bewitched. How would I attack a lady I claim to love?”


source : http://www.punchng.com/horror-rejected-suitor-butchers-mtn-worker-stabs-victims-mother/

I spank my kids when the need arises and I do it with love and caution. so the answer to your question is " if you HAVE to punish a child PLEASE do it with LOVE and CAUTION "

now it depends on the meaning you give to my post. good luck. #myopinion

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GBAM!!! irony of life. to each his or her own destiny/part.

go inside my bathroom, screams my lungs out and cry for 5minutes ( for the big job they have created for me) . when am done expressing myself I will clean them up and the mess, feed them and later explain why it's not good to go to/ touch what mummy/daddy says don't do/touch.

my boys have done something close to this before, just the smile and their giggles melted the anger in me. kids will always be kids, in their innocent minds they are having fun. may God keep and protect them for us and nuture them in the right part. AMEN.

nice one...

haul:
Sir, nothing is new under the sun, don't go choke yourself up like you've committed a grave offence.

Now, you bought condom and you forgot to use it?

You departed for over 20yrs just to find out she's childless?

You both got in heat of the moment and the result was a beautiful daughter?

The cynthia husband probably gave birth to kids outside without informing cynthia.

Nature just have a way of compensating cynthia also by giving her a child, you're just a the person used to drive all these nature bound things to happen.

I study coincidence a lot, and I know nature bound one when I see them.

For all those condemning him, jesus is naturally bound to be betrayed by someone, jesus knew this, judas was just a victim of circumstance.

He who is without sin should cast first stone. Sir, go and make peace with your family, you've done no wrong. If your wife can't understand you, then I guess she can live, but if she knows you well, she can stay. "We live and you learn, either you freeze or you burn"---jadakiss.

Person wey go marry two wives nogo stop at one.

I can believe some men can reason like this! you mean what the man in question did wasn't wrong at all OMG you call after 20years of departing a coincidence if the wife doesn't understand she can leave? what ever happened to the trust and love they shared? does that mean the man has been using his wife to console himself till he meet with his ex? so he has wasted 20 years of her life using her as a second fiddle and now that his almighty EX as appeared she can then go to blazes you have gotta be kidding me with this post above.

would you have accepted such if it was your wife that got back to her ex after 20 years and bears a child for him right under your nose that's if you are married anyways.

once you are married, your ONE. you don't toss your partner emotion about like a tennis ball please. this is ridiculous..

you mean after 20 solid years of parting with her, you still had the feeling enough to UnCloth and get down with her, you friend must be a joker.
don't abandon your child from the other woman. free your mind and tell your wife what you have done and face the brunts of your own 5 minutes StupiditY.

it would have been better if this fling wasn't with your EX. what the hell... EX should be dead and history.
there are just some things a Woman will NEVER forgive her am for... women are different though, if your wife falls in such category then your friend is headed for the rocks.

Pweetymoi1:
Hello nairalanders, please I need you guys help urgently on this. My brother has just been innocently scammed of a whopping sum of money (money he even borrowed) by a buyer he met on OLX. I have called and threatened the guys on phone as I got their numbers from him but they won't burge. Tried checking them up through true caller i.d but it keeps displaying only their names(not full names) without displayinig their locations. My bro n my entire family are heart broken right now cry. Pls anyone with useful information on how to track these guys down as their phone lines are still up and ringing should please tell me. Mod please kindly move to front page. Thanks.

how exactly was he scamed did he pay before meeting with the guys for his goods or what is he a learner ni even OLX warms buyers and dealers to be careful. It is well, may God help your brother find them o and that's If he will get his money back.

chie8:
This is the unedited narration of the neighbor of woman who constantly locks her children in their flat in Onitsha while she goes off to work in Ebonyi state. I personally think this is wrong. What if there's any form of danger…how would these children escape?

I want you guys to analyse these two pictures very well,it's been bothering me but I don't know what to do..
THIS is where I live in Onitsha,and this pic is my neighbour's flat,we share the ground floor..
The mother of the house is a teacher who teaches in Ebonyi state,nd leaves Onitsha everyday to Ebonyi..She has 5 kids,12,6,3,2 and 1 year respectively. .she travels with the one year old everyday and locks the rest at home..she goes out with the key..so the 12 year old is the one I circled in the pic,I came home for lunch now and I saw the boy crying there,his mom locked him in that place and locked the younger ones in the house,ofc she took the keys ..Prior to this time,she used to lock them all in the house,but the 12 year old will scale thru the toilet window which is the no 1 picture,go out and leave his younger ones in the house from morning till night.Yesterday,his mom came bk around 4pm,earlier than expected and he didn't come bk till 7pm..that's what prompted her to leave him in the mini cell with no food or water.. Firstly , I think locking kids in the house is a bad idea.

Secondly, I don't know what to think,how to advise her and all coz she needs help.. A 12 year old boy scaling ?his younger ones are watching ,what do u think will happen?

Source: http://www.trezzyblog.com/2016/04/is-it-wrong-for-mother-to-lock-up-her.html?m=1

there are indeed different types of mother. I don want to imagine how hungry and unkept those children will be. is she insane? what if the kids play rough and one hits his or her head? what it the 2 year old guts injured or beaten by the elders? who is feeding who or caring for who in her absence?

I don't blame the 12 year old for scaling out tru the window, he simply doesn't want to be locked in from the outside world, if the younger ones could they will scale with him. so the silly woman decides to starve the 12 year old till she returns has punishment Na wa o, she is raising thugs without her knowing it. I hope for her sake and those children's future, she doesn't realise her mistakes when it's too late.

God please protect those kids from any danger.

eyinjuege:
She really cannot force grown ups who want to be dirty to be clean.
The only person that can solve the issue is her husband.
She should always complain to him anytime she comes over and ask him why he's so comfortable living in dirt!
If he can't ask his sisters to clean the house, he could at least try cleaning it himself na.

To be honest, the man is also dirty, since it seems OK for him to live in filth despite having 2 other grown up ladies living with him

hmmm your last paragraph is so true. like brother like sister.

domwas2:
Form the picture can a Nigerian trust a brother, friend this far

sure why not? not every one is full of evil. life is beautiful.

God please save this innocent little one in your mercy. I hope he or she is still alive.

Edited...

its so unfortunately the little one died. This could have been avoided if abortion was done. why go thru the stress for 9months and thru the pain of labour and at the end of the all leave the innocent one helpless to die.

why by the gutter/bush/pit/river etc Why not by a church gate, hospital, motherless baby home, NGO, the baby would have been saved and taken care of. so sad, when will this wickedness stop.

chocolateme:
She is my long time friend and has a very calm nature. She got married last two years, she lives at Owerri working while her husband stays in Lagos tho she will soon join him.
Now 2 of her husband's sisters are with him in Lagos, whenever she comes on visit, I will go meet her up but it amazes me to see how she behaves timidly towards them. She will be complaining heaven and earth to me and basically turn to house girl. In the morning, one will leave for work, the other will be on bed browsing and chatting. She will ask that one to help clean the house and she will ignore her. My friend will end up washing all the dishes, sweep, clean and put everything in order. ( meanwhile that house is so dirty and untidy. They don't even help their brother wash his clothes.
I asked her what her husband thinks about it, she said that his sisters are not in his house as house girls. So she decided to stay like that but she always cries and complain.
Imagine every time she comes, she will take days to wash and keep the house in order. Wash curtains, stove cookers, the back of her pots and everything. Then two weeks later, she will travel back to east and they will start their mess all over again nawa oo. What kind of nonsense is that?
Well I told her that as she makes her bed, so shall she lie on it. She has no boldness and courage and strong will, that's why she can't call them to order ( she is older than one and the other is 2 years older than her) so she has to manage until they get married and leave her house for her. Husband not even helping matters.

this shouldn't be a big deal at all na. since the ladies enjoy living in such filth then knave them to have a fill of it. When they begin to fall sick their brains will reset.
whenever she is home with her hubby they should eat out, she should wash only her hubby clothe and leave the rest. leave the kitchen as she meet it. If she does that for them twice or 4 times her husband will know she means real business and correct his sisters.

There is no point telling the sisters what to do anymore hence they label her rude and ordering her sister in law about. neglect them like they don't exist, leave the house in a filth as you meet it, you are married to their brother and not to become their maid.

its difficult but you have to endure till you see changes. If you can't stand the mess, while your hubby is away at work, stay out all day till, he returns from work. and please make It clear to your hubby that when you moving finally to Lagos, it's you and your husband alone a beg. no point having a relative leaving with you if they can't help with house chores and run little errands.

Still taking orders. Good afternoon.