₦airaland Forum

Some argue that the concept of being a gentleman is
archaic. Others argue that the rules of being a
gentleman have not and cannot change, and if you’re
not standing reflexively when a woman enters the room,
then you might as well go live under a bridge. Being a
modern gentleman is both of these things, but also
neither. I’m sure as hell not standing just because a
woman enters the room, or throwing my jacket over a
mud puddle. But at the same time, any man who
wants to rise above and stand out (in a good way)
needs to keep in mind a few things that separate a
modern gentleman from, well, everyone else. Consider
the following:




RULE 1. Make a Good First Impression


How often do you consciously monitor the way you act
around new acquaintances? You may offer a firm
handshake, but do you make eye contact? Do you
introduce yourself politely and clearly, or do you slap
hands and say “Sup, bro? I’m Jake”? If you do this
wrong, you could find yourself paddling upstream,
attempting to land in the good graces of your new
acquaintance


RULE 2. Be Hygienic


There’s nothing wrong with waking up from a night on
the town and throwing on a rumpled T-shirt, last
night’s jeans and a ball cap to make a Starbucks run.
However, those jeans you’re putting on ought to go over
a fresh pair of underpants, and that T-shirt should have
a new coat of antiperspirant underneath it, even if you
haven’t showered yet. There’s no excuse for leaving the
house with your teeth unbrushed, nails untrimmed,
and hair unkempt (or at least uncovered). While you
may not care what the barista thinks of your
appearance, you never know who you might see. Almost
nothing can turn around a bad first impression, but a
bad second, third, or fourth impression can sure as hell
erase a good first one.


RULE 3.Be Honest


We’ve all been there: Maybe you’re seeing someone
casually, or have just begun a relationship, and you
see a woman who makes you do a double-take.
Assuming you don’t have your lady friend in tow,
sooner or later events conspire to make it such that the
two of you have struck up a conversation at the bar.
Assuming you’ve made a good first impression and
have some modicum of charm, inevitably the talk turns
to relationship status. When the question comes up,
what do you do? If you’re any kind of a gentleman,
you come clean and be truthful about the fact that
you’re seeing someone. That may end the conversation
for her, but if she wants to carry on, so be it. Regardless,
lying is unfair to your squeeze, unfair to your new
acquaintance and generally unbecoming of a
gentleman.


RULE 4.Have Context and Self-Awareness


In a social setting, the modern gentleman is
immediately aware of the tone and setting in which he
finds himself. If you’re at a $5,000/plate fundraising
dinner, that shouldn’t be your cue to drink combatively
and test your personal limits. On the other hand, no
one likes a wet blanket. If everyone else is dancing on
tables and singing off-key to Journey, unless you’re
abstaining for other reasons, by all means indulge and
have a good time. Whatever the case, you don’t want to
be remembered as the guy who was out of touch with
the rest of the party. That’s a good way to make sure
you aren’t invited back.



RULE 5. Make Others Feel Like They’re the Center of Attention


Most gatherings, be they social or professional, include
a diverse cast of characters. Wallflowers, attention hogs
and social butterflies are all to be expected. Regardless
of who you’re talking to, you want them to leave feeling
like the conversation they had with you was the most
rewarding one they’ve had all day. You should neither
marginalize a quiet type by overpowering him, nor
should you try to belittle a big talker through feigned
apathy. Whoever you’re talking to, engage them. Listen.
Ask intelligent questions. Even if you’d rather wipe your
ass with poison ivy than discuss the topic at hand, 30
seconds of engagement will earn you far more goodwill
than five minutes of eye rolling. Speaking of wiping
your ass...


RULE 6. Watch your Mouth


There’s nothing wrong with a little cursing here and
there, and there’s nothing ungentlemanly about it,
provided the context is right. If you’re with your friends
or even slightly more mixed company, a swear word
won’t kill anyone. But in the wrong setting, telling an
off-color joke, however funny it may be to you, isn’t
going to go over so well with the black, Jewish double-
amputee you didn’t notice in the corner who happened
to be the punchline of your oddly specific joke. In an
instant, you’ll go from being the life of the party to a
member of the untouchable caste. It’s fine to call Aaron
Rodgers a “f*cking jackass” (because he is) when you
invite your college buddies over to your house to watch
football. It’s not so fine when your boss invites you over
to his.



RULE 7. Remove Your Hat Indoors



Yes, this is an old one, but a good one. If you’re going
someplace and you’ll be staying a while, take your hat
off. It just shows a little respect for the establishment
you’re entering. Don’t want to because your hair will
get messed up? Too bad — in that case, you shouldn’t
have worn a hat. This isn’t the 1950s, and a hat is no
longer a de facto part of a man’s wardrobe. If it’s the
dead of winter and you’re wearing a beanie or ski cap
for warmth, don’t worry about it. Everyone else’s hair
will look just as bad.


RULE 8.Wait For Others to Get Their Food Before Eating



If you’re out for a meal with a group, the gentlemanly
thing to do is to wait for all parties to get their food
before digging in. You don’t want to be the one guy
shoveling food in his face while others are still
conversing. Plus you’ll finish before everyone else and
have to sit in silence while they finish. Speaking of
which, take small bites. It’ll help your meal last longer,
and you never know when you might want to jump into
the conversation. The exception: If there are more than
six of you, go ahead and eat. There’s no need to make
others feel like they’re forcing you to let your food get
cold while the waitstaff brings out eight more plates.
When You're With A Woman
While some things have fallen out of fashion, other
stalwarts of the gentleman’s code are just as applicable
today as they ever were. Let’s take a look.

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prettythicksme:
I am fine dear&u?i hardly see u online these days.

nope, u rarely comment or possibly someone hijacked U from Jack *sad*

prettythicksme:
How dear?

haven't heard from U inna while, whassup with U?

prettythicksme:
Who help me see Tbillz

Bae of lyf! U jilted me nah. #notfair

Do the needful bro

Nairalandi:
pointless argument!

yourself :your view!!!

Your reaction?

ammyluv2002:
Nope! De Gea at the post biko

experienced goalie but replaceable.

1. Employment is based on certificate - our Nigerian parents believes certificate is the only way out. And so we the students too. 18years of schoolin na beans? 6-6-4-2!!!
2. Youths are not innovative - i ask U; the Nigerian man who discovered HIV drugs where is he today?(Dr Jeremiah Abalaka) The students who make car running on batteries where are they today? Despite publications on media for government to cheer them Up.
3. Luxury - U are only recognized when you command respect not witj your MSC still riding okada or napep.
4. Respect given by the society - U nailed it.
5. Financial packages - I know of a guy who got a job with an oil company and rides on big wheels within 3 months. Your savings from those WCjs can aid your personal savings and set up a personal business. Reasons why everyone admires the packages.
6. Some parents insist WCJ job- when you become a parent u might understand their angle of view.
7. Unfavorable economy - which is the reason why we discussing this long story. If its taken care of, we might be discussing another productive topic.

Segadem:
Without De Gea?
u meant top 4 contender?

if ramos, hummel n otamendi can get into the squad i bet u without Gea we still a contender sir.

Emenandez4lyf:
Mueller and Otamendi

brother otamendi seems realistic but muller might just be a dream.

Last season mou was the smart coach in the transfer market and that was a strategy that won him the league. But LVG has being busy in the rebuilding of the shaky team with the capturing of Darmien, Bastian Schweinsteiger, depay and " Morgan
Schneiderlin" what do you think about this very formation and which additional player do you think will make United a title contender?

Jollyjoy:
Mtheew.

u get d/k?

Anal Haemorrhoids (aka Pile) jedi jedi (yoruba moniker ) is a medical disorder which can be found in both men and women but basically the forum is for guys alone. Jedi as popularly called can be caused by excessive sugar intake, not just the mere taking of raw sugar but high consumption of beer and other juicy drinks. U might assume to have escaped NOT consuming high sugar content but high carbohydrates intake can also pose a threat. However the symptoms of this disorder include but not limited to lower back pain, constipation and PREMATURE EXPULSION. The last among the aforementioned seems to pose the worse threat, ladies can testify. In my own view the very best and natural way to tackle this disorder include exercising and sweating. We all have divergent opinions on counteracting jedi jedi. Feel free to share yours!

I have read online about this very questions but i will appreciate nairaland with practical experience, who has been confronted with this very question to pls shed light on it. Thank you guys

Borderless:
So you mean truth from an unreasonable person automatically makes it a lie isn't it? Quite funny. I fear for this country if it's future depend on poo-filled brains like yours.

You better concentrate on your cattle rearing you this agoi.

Your profile speaks alot about U. Pls get a life! Jobless mofo

coppers being serving my phone all diz while...#sayNoToAllu

RATIONING 100UNITS SO AS NOT TO GET IT EXHUASTED(PARENT), WANT TO CALL EVERY NUMBER ON THE CALENDARS AND PAPERS (KIDZ)

Borderless:
You had better listened to the truth rather than ranting like a he-goat whose pair of scrotum has just been crushed!

the truth from a reasonable being not someone who has contributed nothing to the nation when he had the chance. lastly your madness is now borderless according to your monika right? no matter how mad a dog is we alwys have his own chain. Watch your mouth suzzy Niqqa

Isi ewu fighting for front page..... co·i·tus in·ter·rup·tus with that your olos'ho don dey make u cap nonsense? I blame u? As u no dey mark register for court again!

[center][/center]That money your atm card go missing and you keep receiving debt alert from oshogbo

WHY ARE WE BEGGING TO STAY TOGETHER AS A NATION AND WHAT HAVE WE ACHIEVED AS A NATION?

Nice tips. I just discovered i was living with inanimate tortoise all these while. My charger is slower than GEJ'S ADMINISTRATION. TIME TO CHANGE

International Kissing Day takes place on 6 July in the UK. However, the day has now been adopted worldwide and is also known as National Kissing Day or Kissing Day.

When I think about it, the concept of a kiss is everywhere in society and has many meanings. A first kiss. A formal kiss. A passionate kiss. A kiss goodbye.

Kissing Day aims to make us appreciate a kiss in its own right. No conventions, no social norms, just a kiss. Across the globe we embrace the kiss by embracing someone else. KISS SOMEONE YOU KNOW BUT KEEP YOUR BREATH FRESH TO AVERT DISASTROUS SLAP®

Politics forum

OLADD:
Stop falling for theater of scams. The same way you were brainwashed for APC change is what is playing out now. APC and Buhari undoubtedly had (and still has) sympathy for Boko haram but the sect has grown much more than they can handle. You can bet it with me, the next step Buhari will take is to grant Boko haram unconditional amnesty. Nobody in his right sense will dispute the fact that Buhari and APC benefited from Boko haram carnage.

will subscribe to your ideas if you have a tenable evidence against him. PDP did not benefit from BH? So why the shiver all over the spine when they are been asked to produce the evidence of weapon procurement? The plane seized In SA loaded with dollars was claimed to be for weapon procurement and where in the world do people move around with crude cash to procure weapons?

Mrslimblack:
Do you have sense @ all, he was sponsoring them until they had ties with ISIS. Now they have gone beyond hiss reach

give your nairaland space to think tanks who has something to offer... register your name in the children forum please

Dauraking:
Most terrorist organizations turn agsinst their sponsors when they become big. The Muhajadeens of Afghanistan turned against their American sponsors.

reasonable response #nice one

GMB was assumed to be sponsoring or subscribed to the idea of BH back then.... If its true, the question is i.] can he be sponsoring terrorist against his own government?

Happy married life bro...... Wish U a happier life after 9months!

Dirtydeeds:
Not really bro...just diverted to anoda sport.

if its paying off pls let Us in bro