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Marriages are going through a turbulent time for various reasons and this is no joking matter. One of our mandates with couples is to help them navigate trust breakdown, communication issues, infidelity, intimacy loss and addictions. The only time we recommend a separation is if any form of abuse is present. Are you separated or going through a tough time with your spouse? This may be for you.

Simply click here https://ivlv.me/CzmPG and in approximately 50 seconds, you should be taking our exercise with your partner.

Wishing you all the best.

For Organizations and Individuals looking at service options, we can also assist. Simply send us an email on templescounsel@gmail.com or on value@templescounsel.com. and in approximately 50 seconds, you should be taking our exercise with your partner.

(Married Couples Only) https://ivlv.me/CzmPG


Marriages are going through a turbulent time for various reasons and this is no joking matter. One of our mandates with couples is to help them navigate trust breakdown, communication issues, infidelity, intimacy loss and addictions. The only time we recommend a separation is if any form of abuse is present. Are you separated or going through a tough time with your spouse? This may be for you.

Simply click here https://ivlv.me/CzmPG and in approximately 50 seconds, you should be taking our exercise with your partner.

Wishing you all the best.

For Organizations and Individuals looking at service options, we can also assist. Simply send us an email on templescounsel@gmail.com or on value@templescounsel.com. and in approximately 50 seconds, you should be taking our exercise with your partner.

When well-meaning individuals online and across other channels fail to balance out their message, on the importance on being an entrepreneur, damage is done. A toxic hustle culture is created.

Click the link on an article dedicated to exposing the toxic hustle culture.

https://templescounsel.com/this-toxic-hustle-culture-theres-still-dignity-in-process/

When well-meaning individuals online and across other channels fail to balance out their message, on the importance on being an entrepreneur, damage is done. A toxic hustle culture is created.

Click the link on an article dedicated to exposing the toxic hustle culture.

https://templescounsel.com/this-toxic-hustle-culture-theres-still-dignity-in-process/

Agreed. Abuse must always be navigated carefully depending on the type you are faced with.

valuedrvn:
This is a regular African occurrence considering the environments we grew up in. That does not make it acceptable though. Read through it and loved your take on it being an addictive cycle. Thank you for not asking an abused to stay back too cos many need to reconsider their marriages.

Trauma Bonding, Relationships Built on Control and Abuse is a conversation long overdue for most relationships today. Pretending all is well with your relationship and marriage does not make it well. Working towards making it better improves it. If any of the following points below sound like something a friend of yours may be going through, it makes that person a prime target for an abuser.
A) They are affected by separation anxiety

B) They have unhealthy attachment style

C) They have a history of childhood or relationship abuse

D) They are overtly dependent on their partner or spouse

E) They are intensely affected by rejection

F) They are suffering from anxiety, BPD or depression

If any of these seem vaguely familiar. You can learn how to identify when a relationship is built on control and abuse by clicking the link below.
https://templescounsel.com/trauma-bonding-relationship-of-control-and-abuse/

Schools are on holidays and children are home. Many observant parents use this period in discovering amazing things around their kids but others are stumbling on unsettling truths about their teenagers from drugs, sexual activity or cultism (yes, even for the secondary school students). The cases around teenage marijuana use has become unsettling and seeing the level of desensitization around this topic does not help either.

Firstly, don't get me started on the medicinal uses of Marijuana because we have researched, released publications and spoken on this as well. Today we will be focusing on our adolescents and teenagers. After all, I believe that even a parent who uses marijuana for whatever reason deep down does not want their child dependent on it.

It goes by many names Marijuana, Mary-J, weed, pot, dope, grass. They’re all different names for the same drug that comes from the cannabis plant.
Click on link for full article: https://templescounsel.com/teenage-marijuana-use-in-a-world-that-normalizes-it/

Schools are on holidays and children are home. Many observant parents use this period in discovering amazing things around their kids but others are stumbling on unsettling truths about their teenagers from drugs, sexual activity or cultism (yes, even for the secondary school students). The cases around teenage marijuana use has become unsettling and seeing the level of desensitization around this topic does not help either.

Firstly, don't get me started on the medicinal uses of Marijuana because we have researched, released publications and spoken on this as well. Today we will be focusing on our adolescents and teenagers. After all, I believe that even a parent who uses marijuana for whatever reason deep down does not want their child dependent on it.

It goes by many names Marijuana, Mary-J, weed, pot, dope, grass. They’re all different names for the same drug that comes from the cannabis plant.
Click on link for full article: https://templescounsel.com/teenage-marijuana-use-in-a-world-that-normalizes-it/

Schools are on holidays and children are home. Many observant parents use this period in discovering amazing things around their kids but others are stumbling on unsettling truths about their teenagers from drugs, sexual activity or cultism (yes, even for the secondary school students). The cases around teenage marijuana use has become unsettling and seeing the level of desensitization around this topic does not help either.

Firstly, don't get me started on the medicinal uses of Marijuana because we have researched, released publications and spoken on this as well. Today we will be focusing on our adolescents and teenagers. After all, I believe that even a parent who uses marijuana for whatever reason deep down does not want their child dependent on it.

It goes by many names Marijuana, Mary-J, weed, pot, dope, grass. They’re all different names for the same drug that comes from the cannabis plant.
Click on link for full article: https://templescounsel.com/teenage-marijuana-use-in-a-world-that-normalizes-it/

It could be more than these points above but these are the constants in most unhappy marriages I have seen. At this point it is important to mention that 40% of the marriages around you today are unhappy. The divorce rates around you would attest to this fact. The other 60% comprise of both couples who are happy and those who despite being unhappy decide to keep going. This willingness to keep trying sometimes ends in unhappiness but at other times could also record improvements.

I liken this stage of marriage to the last few miles of a long-distance race. The athlete is metering out little spurts of oxygen. tired yet going the long distance. If you are in an unhappy marriage you must;

Emotionally detach
Begin a Self-healing Journey/ Re-discover Yourself
Get Professional Help
The List

to read the full article, please follow this link. Wishing you all the best in your attempt to salvage a failing situation. I will include an exercise for you and your partner on the post.

https://templescounsel.com/how-to-survive-an-unhappy-marriage/

Just before we proceed, I'd like to mention some tell-tale signs you may be in an unhappy marriage. If there is;

- A persistent issue with communication
- Physical emotional or verbal abuse
- Exclusion of respect for each other or by one party
- A lack of alignment in family priorities
- Pending and unhealed issues due to death, infidelity, financial concerns etc
- A Struggle with Intimacy

People who take pride in their ability to walk away are usually the ones who try everything to privately fix a marriage that isn't working. I may not be 100% correct but i believe this unwillingness to open up is tied into a certain pride in their ability to make good decisions.

This article is for anyone who is currently struggling and trying to at least make an unhappy marriage work.

We see many advisors on social media and their various advice on how to leave an unhappy marriage. Despite this advice, we have also noticed that these advisors are the ones who will never let anyone know once their marriages begin to struggle.  - TCMA

As a much younger therapist i would not have attempted a write-up with this title but with age comes new realities. Living in a happy marriage means that you and your partner are going through the experiences of marriage as a team. This definition by itself sheds light on what an unhappy marriage is. It is hell on earth and leaves you with feelings of shame, regret, depression, worthlessness and more.

Marriage was never meant to be survived. It was meant to be enjoyed & cherished even with it's various challenges.


https://templescounsel.com/how-to-survive-an-unhappy-marriage/

Marriage was never meant to be survived. It was meant to be enjoyed, cherished and exciting even with its here and there challenges.

As a much younger therapist i would not have attempted a write-up with this title but with age comes new realities. Living in a happy marriage means that you and your partner are going through the experiences of marriage as a team. This definition by itself sheds light on what an unhappy marriage is. It is hell on earth and leaves you with feelings of shame, regret depression worthlessness and more.

https://templescounsel.com/how-to-survive-an-unhappy-marriage/

saddening but true.

Bullala1:
Las las most useless men men go still marry marry. Respect for marriage no dey again. Useless people go hide behind phone pad dey type shit. God dey watch and e must catch everybody.

You are right on both counts.

stillwerise:
I believe this is partly economic OP and secondly it's a discipline thing (or a lack of it). Regardless, there's no stopping it. It's here to stay until the end of time. Regardless, I read your piece and anonymously shared it with a fake account to 4people wey need am pass me.

No truer words spoken. However if you stayed on NL for too long, you may begin to believe the reverse was true

Supplensour:
Isn't this whole "All men cheat" and "non monogamous" cliche's becoming an excuse for humans who know they have failed at teaching themselves discipline in that area of their life?
Not a saint myself but I know good peeps who are wealthy(in cash and intellect), sexy, straight, successful and ",FAITHFUL".

Glad it helped. I must add that stopping isn't that easy but you actually took your first step.Nextbsyeps is find out why you considered it in the first place. Welldone.

stillwerise:
Thank you as always. This link was helpful. Was about to get into something I don't know the head from the tail.

Cases of workplace extramarital affairs are more rampant than we think. You always believe no one else knows until you find out the whole office and their families knew. Suddenly you Don dey drag your spouse commot from una church of many years, common friends or anywhere else the story could leak from. Not just the guys initiating it now. Even the married women are initiating with colleagues, junior and senior alike.
This thing always gets the heart pumping with excitement until it turns bad. Marriages are breaking down all around owing to this. Stopping an extramarital office affair is a choice no one needs to make for you. If you love your affair well-done mon ami and carry on but if you want to stop, this link is for you because our lead counsel has created a quick guide to help you through this.

( Don't let anyone tell you how sweet/cool it is because that would be an ignorant approach to a huge lie. these affairs largely happen for 3 reasons)
1. People going through issues in their marriage and want to escape it without putting in work to fix things.
2. Irresponsible people looking for a kick.
3. People looking to climb financial/career ladders.

Niggu/Niggeress stay sharp, be wise.
https://templescounsel.com/workplace-extramarital-affairs-how-to-end-it-maybe-still-retain-the-job/

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JOACHINpedro:
I still dey hail our headmasters
Make una sha quit kissing babies with una badtoto infested mouth

Treatment For Paranoia

For many victims of this condition, treatment simply means providing them with methods through which they can cope with the symptoms while leading happy lives. Depending on the severity of the condition, various treatments may be applicable to an individual such as;

Medication – This is our least favorite treatment because learning to fight paranoia by using anti-anxiety drugs or antipsychotic drugs may not give you the requisite knowledge required to manage this condition. However when combined with proper professional therapy, this could prove somewhat effective.  However, I'd like to also mention that most patients would mostly not take medication when trusted to do this because they are afraid it may harm them.

Full Article: Click Here https://templescounsel.com/paranoia-understanding-this-anxiety-disorder/

Therapy – this can help the person cope with their symptoms and may improve their ability to function. However, a person with paranoia is unlikely to talk openly and freely to a therapist, so progress can be extremely slow.

Coping skills – se other treatment options only concentrate on helping the patient's ability to function socially and handle the lingering after-effect of a paranoid bout. This includes things like relaxation therapy, techniques to reduce anxiety, and behavior modification.

Hospital admission – this is for severe cases where the person may need to stay in hospital until the condition causing paranoia stabilizes.

I hope this piece has been beneficial for you or someone you know. Paranoia is a condition that can be managed and in it's management most will outgrow it with ageing. Until next time, live your best life.

Full Article: Click Here https://templescounsel.com/paranoia-understanding-this-anxiety-disorder/

. Almost 2 in 4 today.

Onyiiet:
That report was in 2015 or 2016. Only God knows the prevalence rate of Herpes this 2022. The country got harder, even principled men and women have been shifting goal post.

If there was a time in human-kinds history to avoid hooking up with random sexual partners from dating apps, kissing just anyone, having extra-marital affairs or go down/head up in unverified spots, it's now.

https://templescounsel.com/herpes-warning-2-3-of-individuals-under-50-have-it-who/

My dearest, money is simply a tool. We do not blame a crazy bike for hitting someone but instead the cyclist is to be blamed. Money could become either a positive or negative force depending on whose hands it gets into. Secondly I must also mention that a cheat is a cheat. Cheating is a learnt behaviour. Both the person cheating consistently or the person who cheated once (with tha sales boy).. Hope this helps.

If she has always dressed this way before you met her, the first question is why opt in if you knew this was not cool wiv you. Secondly, a woman asking you to NOT call all the time. It's a red flag that says you are either choking her or maybe there's someone with a better Convo tickling her mind. Partying till late etc. If those are not your thing, then go look for another woman who does not do all that.

As we publish the article finish na so "politician" come dey smell everywhere. Well all the facts are research based o. I no point anybody governor ......or president.

(Please Note:  narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary).
Their sense of self-importance is very exaggerated
Their sense of entitlement is obnoxious and require excessive admiration
They expect to be recognized as as superior even without achievements that warrant it
They believe they are super-talented and key achievers
Their minds are usually soaked in fantasies of power, success, intelligence, beauty or the perfect mate
Their superior belief ensures that they only identify and associate with other equally special people.
Their "Modus Operandi" during conversations is to monopolize it and if you are perceived as inferior to them you may not even get a chance to speak.
They avoid healthily confident people and give you reasons why you must avoid them as well.
They expect special favors and unquestioned acceptance of their demands
They will take advantage of you to get what they want regardless of whatever relationship you share with them. (spouse partner parent sibling relative friend colleague etc. )
They struggle to recognize the needs and feelings other people around them may have.
They are usually envious of others and believe other people envy them as well.
They are brash, arrogant, boastful and good at hiding their truest intentions.

Full article here. https://templescounsel.com/identifying-narcissism-narcissists-are-created-not-born-part-2-of-2/

Shebi you and am still be mate. Age is over-rated and as long there is understanding trust and a healthy self-esteem you guys will pull through.

This is the real problem with Nigerian politics that everyone seems to miss out on. It's not the occult dear politicians. It is simply governance but as is quite rampant with the average African, everything must be given a fetish twist. So the ones who don't even agree with how their benefactors operate are scared to leave. Rather , they'd aspire for their ogas position hoping they've garnered enough goodwill through the ranks.