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Daresh: I have 2 kids, my son is almost 6 and my daughter is 3 and I dont beat them.

My children are not drums. I usually talk them thru it.

Occasionally I spank their bums but then they have committed grave sin.

I think naughty corner or locking them in the room serves as a better punishment than beating.

I'm not a violent person by the way, I don't like fighting and I can't kuku fight sef

I think what I said is same as what u just said,cos if occasionally u spank their bums den dats beating too,we've different types of beating I never said beating like a goat,like I said too much of it makes dem worse .Another thing is child differs, some children are well behaved naturally even without scolding dem dey knws wot is wright

Yomieluv: My cousin left his wife for being dirty, we drove back home one day,wife had gone to her shop,and home looked unkempt,my cousin started snapping the rooms with his phone as evidence.

Before we know wazzup,he had sent her packing on that excuse of being dirty.

3years now,he's still living alone,frolicking with different ladies.

Dats not a good reason 4 him to leave his wife,d woman 4kup though,she's suppose to use wisdom, my elder sis hubby doesn't like d house looking untidy,and d wife does not ave d strength to do it alone,immediately d hubby leaves 4 work,she has a woman dat come to d house 2 clean d whole house she pays her #2,500 monthly,d hubby does not even knw about it.

It is not possible 2 raise a well behaved child without beating,but I think too much of beating makes dem worse,dey get used 2 it and no longer scared of beating,teaching dem body languages is very important,hubby started spanking our son at a very tender age nw he understands his body languages he doesn't go near visitor with drinks ordinary eye rolling is enof to correct him.

D best is 4 u to get ur apartment,I remember when I had my child,I hardly sleep even at night due to exclusive breastfeeding,hubby had to start preparing breakfast 4 himself 4 me to ave a longer time to sleep so I sleep and wake anytime d baby wakes(at times 10 or 11am),he was d 1 going to market 4 like 3-6months to relieve me of d stress all I do is take care of d house and baby. imagine I was staying with his parent dey'll say I lack home training .she might be lucky and enjoy staying there dat she won't want to leave again after u get ur own place,am sure u won't want to take d risk

Which area in abeokuta and how much is it

carefreewannabe: Marry an intelligent man an not a boy and you won't have such problems.

That's all, I bliv D way ur inlaw threats u depend on d kind of man u marry,no matter hw a man luvs his mom he has 2 set boundaries,cos as far as am concerned 2 women cannot love a man and their won't be problem.

purplesummer: If both husband and wife are complete olodo, they can't turn their child to Albert Einstein by breastfeeding him for 3years. Genetics play a major role in a child's Intelligence quotient.

Gbam!!! U said it all, genetic plays d role,I ave a niece she refuse breast milk herself at 4months,so she was fed with formula all thru,she's so smart dat pple doesn't bliv her age,at 4 yrs she's going to primary 1 due to double promotion given to her,breastFeeding is good as its give good immune system

Where are u based. @ op

Ofcos,I wear it at all time,hubby will not like me go out without my band,same to him too

Just now

Naso some men dey turn,at a certain level of their life their money becomes difficult to spend,when d wife dey borrow dem money nobody go hear,anytime she refuse dat is when war stars,thank God u ave a good mum,u can talk to ur dad sha,if he won't feel u're siding ur mom

Rara o,tori kini, is he my father? Wetin do his first name

nikilala: I think it leads to cheating.....

person wey dey stay untop ur nose sef fit cheat on u,a cheat will always cheat,staying in same room or not

babamadiba: dats my point. Wen u av d same room, it's easier to settle beefs dan in seprate rooms. My wife wount even allow us try dat.

Lolz,Was just kidding,its not dat bad,even pple dat share same room ave more differences dan we do,its all about understanding,had to move 2 a separate room cos of cold,he loves his A/C on with fan, he has 2 switch dem off if we're to sleep in same room,didn't want to die of cold so I ran 4 my life.but dat doesn't stop us frm

Well,I don't see a big deal in it,we have a separate room it doesn't stop us frm having access 2 eachoda,though d room is linked together with a door in between. it even make it sweet wen am angry I lock d door behind "no entry"

Nairaland is so full of fun,if u say u no won laff u no go knw wen ur 32 go show, ayaf laff taya

@ op God bless ur home,u're not only bonding with ur family u're raising ur son in a way he'll never depart frm it,pls keep it up

Nawa o,we Nigerians and our mentality of betrayal frm wife,who told u ur own broda cannot turn his back against u wen he's rich? If u doubt me ask PSQUARE,if broda frm same womb born same day can turn their back @ eachoda so wots d point, wot happens if u loose ur job 2morw and unable 2 feed ur family and dis ur same bro refuse 2 help u?.God help our men

egopersonified: Op, this man is not doing anything for the wife, he is constructively forming a bond with his kids, moulding them to a future he is looking forward to without regrets.

Gbam,u're so right.all d guys saying dey can't do dat,till u old u'll say ur children are not close to u,sorry 4 una

Randy100: NEVER I dey mad na poverty dey cause all this

Na only poverty fit make u baf ur own pikin? Wen no be say u're not d fada of d child

arvinsloane: what are your reasons?

Growing up under his roof was hell anytime he comes back home we(d children) ave to find our way to our bed ,too harsh,polygamous setting etc

Adaeze003: He goes to calabar you say? And spends months at a time seeing his sister?? Lol

U brought all my teeth out,@ op I ave a question 4 u ,dat ur boyfriend's sister no get her own boyfriend ? Abi hw will her own bf cope with her brother bin around his gf 4 a whole month, I smell somtin

No, I can't