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pocohantas:
Good evening. Glad to read this. Would you be required to go buy it outside or what? Anyway, until tomorrow. Jisike.💕

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pocohantas:
Good evening. Glad to read this. Would you be required to go buy it outside or what? Anyway, until tomorrow. Jisike.💕

Good afternoon ma, the doctors caim today and ask some questions. They told me to go to account department for the surgery fee, when I got there they asked for my son card and printed a bill out and gave me, when I checked it , I saw N90,000 thank God compare to the N110,000 they wrote in a paper.
Then I proceeded to pharmacy in the general hospital, they also asked for my card and they checked the system and printed the items needed. The ones they have is N3,850, they told me to get the circle ones out side so I entered Maruwa and went to pharmacy at garage and got the rest N15,400 including cotton wool which I got N100.
Clarendon gave me N110,000, I paid for tests N20,500, items needed N19,250 so I paid from the money Clarendon sent to me.

pocohantas:
Good evening. Glad to read this. Would you ne required to go buy it outside or what? Anywayz until tomorrow. Jisike.💕

I will know that tomorrow ma, thank you very much ma.

pocohantas:
You will not develop high bp biko. Thankful it is almost the surgery day. Since April you started this waka. The boy sef done try.

God bless you too.

Good evening ma, we have been admitted for the surgery and doctor said he will write out the items that will be needed for the surgery tomorrow.
Thank you very much ma.

pocohantas:
You will not develop high bp biko. Thankful it is almost the surgery day. Since April you started this waka. The boy sef done try.

God bless you too.

Amen

pocohantas:
Good morning. No problem at all. Let's just leave it till Sunday, I will balance whatever is the deficit, so we don't keep going back and forth.

What time on Sunday?

Thank you very much ma, I am on my knees ma I really appreciate you.
The doctor said we should come by 4:00pm on Sunday, thank you very much ma, I would have developed high BP without your assistance, I really appreciate you and Clarendon.
Almighty God will continue to shower His blessings on you and your family.
Thank you ma.

pocohantas:
Good evening and thanks for this feedback because all I had in my head was Dec 2nd, since you said no payments would be made until that day.

God bless Clarendon for his help to you and yours so far. He is highly appreciated.

I got quite confused there. The way general hospitals operate confuses me, tbh. There have been too many appointments, I have gotten confused. But whatever comes up, do let me know ASAP. Regards to everyone.

Good morning ma, I took my son to general hospital today for the tests, when I was going I was holding N5,000 thinking the cost will not be more than that but when we got there the total cost is N20,500, I had to withdraw it from the money Clarendon sent to me. I am afraid I don't know how much the drugs and injections will be when they admit us on Sunday and I have been pressuring my husband to bring money but he is only giving us N2,000 daily after the day I complained about the children feeding.


I also called my daddy but he said he is also struggling financially, it is only Nairaland members assisting me presently.
This is the receipt of the payment for the tests my son did today.

pocohantas:
That is fine. I support you on this. It is quite a sensitive surgery, so let's ensure it is done by the best hands out there. I will save the date.

Good evening ma, we went to general hospital today being the last appointment date before the surgery date. The doctor said we should come tomorrow for some tests then I should bring him on Sunday afternoon to admit him for the operation that will be done on Tuesday,
Clarendon has sent N110,000 to me for the surgical fee the doctor said they can only give me the cost of drugs and injections next week.
I really appreciate your assistance and Clarendon, you are more than a family to me, when things are difficult for me, you people are supporting me.
Thank you so much for believing in me and making life easy for me when no where to turn to, Almighty God will always answer your prayers.

Clarendon:

Hello! I have just sent you N110,000 for the medical operation of your son.

Kindly use it solely for the operation and not for anything else. Do not use it to buy food or to settle any bills/debts.

I pray for a successful medical procedure and quick recovery.

Good evening sir, we went for the last appointment before the surgery date today, the doctor said we should bring him tomorrow for test and he will be admitted on Sunday afternoon to prepare for the operation on Tuesday.
Thank you very much sir, I really appreciate your assistance whenever you and your family need help, Almighty God will always send helpers to you.
Once again thank you sir.

Clarendon:

Hello! I have just sent you N110,000 for the medical operation of your son.

Kindly use it solely for the operation and not for anything else. Do not use it to buy food or to settle any bills/debts.

I pray for a successful medical procedure and quick recovery.

Thank you very much sir, I really appreciate it I will surely use it to pay for the operation.
I was afraid on how the payment will be easy for me on that day now my mind is at rest.
Almighty God will reward you immensely and He will continue to bless you and your family sir.
Thank you sir.

Clarendon:

Hello! I hope you are doing fine, and I hope your son is doing great too. Are you still using the same Zenith bank account you used the last time? If yes, you do not need to resend the account details.

Also, I was asking the other time if your son still feels the testicular pain, and if his testicles are still larger in size than normal.

Good afternoon sir, yes sir I am still using the Zenith bank account, his right testicle is larger than the normal, the operation date is 2nd of December this year.
Almighty God will continue to bless you and your family sir, I really appreciate you sir.
Thank you sir.

It would have been better if he is a my minister of Defense

pocohantas:
Good afternoon! Apologies. Must be network.
You don't have to.

Haaa you type is not common thank you very much ma Almighty God will continue to bless you and your family. Amen

[quote author=pocohantas post=124146986][/quote]Good day ma, please ma I am trying to contact you, I want to return that thing.
Thank you ma.

Clarendon:

Hello, yes, I did see your previous message. Thank you for drawing my attention to it again. Sure, you will not be stranded that day.

Just to be clear, the surgery is for inguinal hernia, right? Does your son still feel the testicular pain? And, the doctor who would be performing the operation, was he/her the one that made the initial diagnosis of inguinal hernia? If it was some other doctor that made the diagnosis, did this current doctor confirm the diagnosis?

Thank you sir, since we have been transferred to surgical department, we have seen 4 doctors on each appointment date and each doctor checked it and all information is computerized but I don't know the actual doctor that will do the surgery until that day comes. God will take control and it will be successful by God's grace.
Thank you sir for your support, I really appreciate it Almighty God will continue to bless you and your family. Amen

My mum got married at 18 , I got married at 24 as a virgin yet she was angry at me for getting married at that age saying I was supposed to continue giving her my salary, til today she still hate me.

Clarendon:


Hello, good afternoon! Yes, I see the notification, but I cannot see the content of the message. Could you send it here? Thanks.

Thank you for your assistance sir, please sir I want to remind you concerning the operation date, the doctor has fixed 2nd of December for the operation and the bill is N110,000 not including drugs. I asked for the cost of the drugs they said they can only give me the cost on the operation date and the account to pay the N110,000 will also be given me on the surgery date.
Please sir, I don't want to be helpless on that day sir, God will be with us sir.
Thank you sir.

Clarendon:
Hello Telltruth123,

I only just started following this thread, and it seems you’re going through quite a lot. I am glad good people on this thread have come to render help to see that your son gets back in good health.

I see that the thread started on a chaotic note, with someone accusing you wrongly. Although the person went about it the “absolute” wrong way, I think the person was only trying to protect others from something which could potentially be a scam. I also appreciate how you handled the matter.

You said your son was diagnosed with inguinal hernia. I am very sorry to hear about that. I would advice you discontinue the herbal treatment, as this is something that needs surgical intervention, not herbal medicine. It is looking like doctors are yet to decide on a date for surgery. Hopefully a date is decided soon. I can also see that you’re scared of taking too much time off work to attend to your son’s medical needs, and I absolutely understand.

You should let your supervisor at work know exactly what is happening, and let them know what times you would like to be excused off work, so they can plan appropriately. Any reasonable superior at work should understand and try to work with you as you navigate this.

From one of your previous posts, you said your husband sponsored you through school at some point. God bless his kind heart. You also mentioned your other children needing money to take UTME exams or some other exams, plus difficulty feeding, paying back loans, saving money for business and spending it all. Looks like a lot to me.

Financial stress could be really troubling and very difficult to manage. I can only pray and hope that things get better for you so that you can begin saving once again and one day start your business. I should state again that I am glad that some kind people in this thread are willing to support your son’s medical bill. On my end, I am willing to support other minor general needs, primarily food and/or academic needs like the UTME fee you talked about earlier, or school fee as a new school session is just on the way.

How much do you think could augment your current household income to sort some of the most pressing needs currently? Please do not exaggerate how much you need as I am not rich, I just want to help from the little I have, and I need a reasonable estimate that I can work with.

Best regards.

Good afternoon sir, sir I sent a mail to you sir.

pocohantas:
Good afternoon!
It is always my pleasure.

If I get you right, no payment would be made until December 2nd and this includes the cost of drugs. So we wait...

Alright then. I will keep this in mind.

Yes ma, we can only make payment on the operation date, we don't know the cost of drugs yet, they said we should wait till the operation date.
Thank you ma.

Clarendon:


That’s great news! Congratulations to her!

Good morning sir, I really appreciate your assistance, Almighty God will continue to bless you and your family. I went to Ikorodu general hospital yesterday for the cost of the operation which the doctor gave us 2nd of December. The doctor wrote the operation type in a paper and told me to go to account department.

The account department wrote N110,000 on the paper, they said that they can only give me the account number on the operation date which is 2nd of December. They said the cost of drugs and injection will be known on the operation date.

I look up to God and my Nairaland members, God bless us all.

pocohantas:
Good evening! So sorry about this. I am also disturbed at how long it has taken and we are still on more appointment dates. I really did think it would end today and you would be given a surgery date. Yet it is another appt again. What stopped them from giving you a surgery date today? It is not like they are doing further diagnosis.


Wait a minite, I thought it is 25th of August.
Just seeing it is 25th of September!

Do you want to switch to a private hospital?
It is assumed govt hospitals are better for surgeries as they have better hands, but the choice is yours at this point.

Good morning ma, I really appreciate your assistance ma, you are a God sent. I went to Ikorodu general hospital yesterday concerning the requirement for the operation which is dated December 2nd.

The doctor wrote the operation type in a paper and told me to go to the account department to know the cost of the operation, when I got to the account department, they wrote the cost on the paper which is N110,000 not including drugs, they said I will go to the pharmacy to know the cost but not until that date.

So, the account department said it is on that operation date they will give me the account number where we will pay the money, I pray everything to be successful.
The next appointment date they gave me before the operation date is 27th of November, 2025.
Thank you very much ma.

pocohantas:
How many times have you said this?
At a point you even called me your sister, but I am not a fool to fall for it.

Once you see people don't hate me like you want, you crawl out of the shadows to start fighting direct. You will not heal o. The osukosu never even start.

Good evening ma, I am so sorry for the attack you get here concerning my issue, I will really appreciate it if you can ignore, people see things in different ways, @ Nonexisting is also trying to advice me in his own way, I am sorry for how he replied you. I will really appreciate it if you can ignore. You have been a great help to me and my family which I really appreciate you a lot and I will never forget.
Thank you so much ma, when I see nobody you stand by me , we appreciate you ma.
Thank you ma.

pocohantas:
Look at who is calling someone narcissist. How many fingers are pointing back at you? Once una jam who pass una, narcissist go dey fly upandan.

I will narcissize you, you go run! 😂

Sir, I really appreciate your advice thank you so much, concerning what pocohantas said about how much drivers make daily, I was able to have discussion with my husband early this morning concerning his earnings and how much drivers make daily because I didn't have the idea before and he said he his trying to get Korope that will make him work full day .

Concerning pocohantas, please don't fight her, she has really been a great help to me and my family which I appreciate a lot, she is a good woman and one of the good people I will never forget in my life.
Thank you sir.

frozen70:
Sorry for the light issues in your area it has caused issues that one can not do business that needs electricity

The Ponmo issue pls go to the women in the markets that sells the neat roasted ones, they also sell black ones

Discuss it with them and they may link you up with their contacts on Ogun state Ijebu Ode

Though they will ask you for a token to do that

I wish you good luck

Thank you ma, I will find out

Kaczynski:
list your marketable skills. what can you do that someone else is willing to pay for? do you. have a university degree? can you type? do you have any technical skills? don't overestimate your capabilities.

your daughter's university admission is an asset not a financial burden. what is she studying? i hope its a stem course not some dei shmit

start a small-scale food vending business (if you can cook) focus on high-demand, low-cost items like akara, okpa.

offer laundry or cleaning services to your neighbors around your area.

your husband is not very sincere with you, bro might bring half money to the table and the other fit end for sporty or fish mouth.

I have HND in Accounting, I have worked as an account officer which I have 7 years of experience but I was underemployed with salary of N30,000 I left in 2021.
Presently I am doing sales representative and my daughter is studying Entrepreneurship.
I have sold food before, I rented a space in a market I would cook from home and take it to the market, but some area boys frustrated my life because I refuse to date one of them and my husband stopped me from selling food.
If I see remote job, I will really appreciate it, I am very hard working.
Thank you sir.

pocohantas:
Then you two have to put head together to find a way. Working half day for 2k is not it. Even labourers earns more.

As for freelance and online jobs, it is not something you enter and start cashing out tomorrow. You need to have a marketable skill or learn one. Either way, it isn't easy. You need a skill, time, data and work tools (laptop especially). There are some people do with phones, but I don't know anything about it. I am sure you will find something if you search Nairaland.

Thank you very much ma, I hear about online work, remote jobs well I don't have laptop but I can learn with my phone.
Thank you very much for your assistance ma.

jmoore:
Your daughter should apply for the student loan.

We have tried to apply but they are requesting for matriculation number, I think it's not for freshers because before she gets matriculation number, she has to complete her school fees payment.

We4all:
OP, I am curious about the emboldened. If you are graduate, then what is your husband's qualification? What sort of job do you do and how much do you earn monthly? The 1K your husband gives you daily is supposed to provide for how many family members? After using 1K to eat his own food, will he also join you guys to eat at home? Why can't he give you more, so you can cook and package some for him to eat later?

Additionally, why are you the one carrying the family's financial burdens? Why can't your husband do more to sustain the family? You are getting yourself worked up, and I find it interesting that you guys started a building project. The truth is, you should never have embarked on that project; considering your financial constraints. It is good to own a house, but not at the expense of your immediate needs. My advice is for you to put the house up for sale,, use the proceeds and do one of those bank investments that guarantees at least 5% monthly interest. That should ease off some of your financial burdens. With time, you will be able to own another land and start another building project. You can't have over ten million naira asset at your disposal and still be crying for money.

It is not up to that sir

pocohantas:
So sorry you are going through this.
The question should be what kind business moves in your vicinity? What kind of business can you conveniently combine with working 6days a week without breaking down?

It has to be something solely sales oriented and to do it in a way that can cater for your family would be medium scale. You have how many kids?

Also your husband is not being sincere. Korope takes 8 passengers per trip. I don't believe he wakes up everyday to drive bus from morning to night for 2k. The bulk of his earnings is definitely going to your co-wife because he knows you can adapt.

I will advise you take the suggestion for your daughter to apply for student loan/ scholarships. You can create a thread in Education section. Let the students in same shoe advise you.

Does your daughter have a skill?
My cousin teaches lessons to make his feeding money. He has been doing it since SS3. Sadly she cannot afford to be a child. So if she can braid hair or knit, she has to put those skills into use to make money legally and honourably.

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How much do you have for business and are your interests?

well mostly I am always at work, I go out in the morning and come back at night from Monday to Saturday. I hear about freelance and other online jobs if somebody can put me through personally.
Thank you very much ma, my husband collected mini bus on hire purchase, when he was about to finish the payment, the bus had accident and he could not repair it so the owner collected it. The bus he is driving presently is always giving to him half day because the owner is also using it.
He said he doesn't want to take a bus on hire purchase again that if he prefers a daily deliver.
Concerning my daughter, she didn't have skill work, when I wanted to put her in hairdressing training, her daddy did not agree with me, he said it will distract her from studying but presently when she go to school, I have told her she will start learning, because reality has dawn on me I don't think I can foot all the bills.
Thank you very much for your concern.

frozen70:
Weldone for your efforts to start some as side hustle

You can be doing pap and distribute to neighbourhoods

You can fry grandnuts and bottle them neatly and sell in your area

You can also buy those black ponmo and soak them as they do and sell them, but you need someone to teach you the trade

May God help you with ideas

Thank you very much ma, the pap aspect, we find it difficult to get water to use at home, people complain of the cost of light and and recently there is no light, people rent generator to pump water.
Ma, do you have experience in the Pomo business, I am ready to learn.

Please Nairaland members, please which side hustle can I do that can sustain my family. I am a graduate that works from Monday to Saturday but the salary is not sustainable, reality Dawn on me when my daughter gained admission to university last month, I borrowed money to pay acceptance fee and the school fees is yet to be paid.
I have realized that my salary cannot sustain the family and I don't want to live a life of begging people for help, I want to work and be able to provide for my family. We cannot afford fish or meat , I collected salary last month end, and I used it to pay for debt for acceptance fees
We moved to our uncompleted building where we are managing one room, for the past two months now when there is no light, we beg people to fetch water because we don't have borehole, some people will not give us due to the present situation of the country, we go far away to fetch water and you can't go there until after 3 days, it's like to be a life human being is war.

My husband do commercial bus driver, after paying the owner of the bus daily, he gives us N1,000 or N1,200 which cannot sustain us, he said he also take N1,000 for food. Nairaland members have helped me but I want my own work to be able to sustain me, since yesterday, I have been worried because my daughter that gained admission will start asking for money.
Please anybody that can help me with side hustle I can do, am ready to learn, I don't want to beg, I want my work to be able to sustain the family, I manage the little resource I have but it cannot sustain us.
Thank you