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peacefull:
Oh! Really?
Sorry
Connect internet have many issues in Nigeria? Very expensive?
My husband always told me expensive.
That's why not easy to contact me when he is stay in Nigeria.

About 7,000yen is not so cheap.
But what I read about that application is anytime can learn.
So I think not so expensive.
But if someone don't have time,maybe use that application only once or twice of a month, then I think expensive.

Sorry, my husband said if I join to English school, wasting my money.
Because he said I'm married with foreigner(my husband) who can speak, read and write English.
So I can learn English free from him.

peacefull:
Oh! I understand now.
I'm also once banned before on culture section.
I didn't even know what is meaning banned.
So I checked it and I was very surprised!
I still don't know why I banned.
Maybe what I wrote in Japanese is bad meaning in Nigeria.
I'm not sure.

But if Japanese and Nigerian language has the same word, but the different meaning is very interesting!
I know one Igbo word and Japanese word is the same but different meaning.
My husband taught me!

I checked about that English application.
Very good!!
Thank you so much!
But I have to ask my husband first.
If I join that application, I have to pay about 7,000yen every month.
If I wanna buy something, I wanna do something etc, I always ask my husband first.
Of course, I will use my money.
But I must ask him first.

Before I wanted to go to English school.
But when I asked him, he was not happy about that and told me about wasting money.
Because I'm married to a foreigner man, I can learn English free.
So he said nonsense.

He will not force me to stop it.
But if I will hear or see him like that, I can't ignore it.
I only can ignore him is when I wanna cut my hair

But I will ask him and tell him how much I wanna learn more English well.
Thank you so much!!
I really really appreciate you!!

peacefull:
Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

Nagging can use husband too?
My husband made me confusing

I still can't understand well about banned.
You are just helping me.
And I really appreciate you.
Very very helpful.
Why you banned?
Banned is something break rule?

Anyway, I will check it!
Thank you so much!!

peacefull:
Thank you so much for taking your time again!
I really really appreciate you!!
And I'm really sorry for disturbing you too much.

Mi is Yoruba language?
Oga mi is Igbo language and Yoruba language!
Wow!! I love this word!!
I can speak 2 language at same time!
I will say it for my husband.
I hope he don't know mi.
So I can teach him and I can make him surprise

Now I understand how Nigerian peoples learn many language.
Thank you so much!!
Really amazing!

Homonym?
I learned new English too!
Japanese also have it something like that.
Language is really interesting!

I learned many many English on this website.
When I learned word nagging, I told my husband and I said he is a nagging husband.
He was laughing and he told me there is no nagging husband.
I'm confusing.
I asked him about word nagging is only use for women?
He said no, I can use that word for both men and women.
But there is no nagging husband and he told me that nagging wife, not nagging husband.

I still can't get it well.
Very difficult and confusing.
What is meaning that?

peacefull:
Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you again!!
You are always helping my learning language.
I really really appreciate you!

Oga is boss, Oga mi is my boss.
Mi meaning mme

I learned about pidgin English on here.
But many times I'm still writing pigeon.
I don't know why I'm always misunderstandingpidgin and pigeon

How do Nigerian peoples learn many languages?
House? School?
My husband taught me before that English can learn in school.
What about pidgin English?
Does Pidgin English also learn in school?

I'm sorry for disturbing you over and over again.
And asking you too many questions.
I'm really sorry.

peacefull:
Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you.
I really really appreciate you!!

Please I wanna know more about word Oga.
Can I say Oga to women too? or Oga is only for men?

peacefull:
Thank you!
Imela!
Ese!

Learning a different culture and language is very interesting to me!
I'm having fun
But sometimes I made mistake and embarrassed myself.

I saw some words on this website many many times.
I wanted to know what is meaning that word.
Ashawu? Ashao? Something like that.
I asked my husband and he taught me.
But after some time, I forgot that meaning.

When I saw my husband's good friend, I didn't see his long time.
I wanted to tell him I learned many Igbo languages than before.
Then I told him Oga, Igbo amaka etc.
And I said that word.
My husband warned me that word is not good and he taught me what is meaning that word again.
I was surprised and very embarrassed!
I said sorry to him.

But I'm very lucky.
Because that friend is always a very kind and very gentle person.
He just laughed and told me it's ok.
Since then, I don't forget that meaning!

I believe that learning anything is never too late.
When I have interesting about something or I wanna know something, I will search it and learn it!

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I will continue to learn about Nigeria and Nigerian peoples!
And continue to learn English too!
Maybe next is small pidgin? pigeon? English!

peacefull:
Oga
How far? (Am I correct how to write?

Thank you so much for taking your time again!
Really helpful.
I really really appreciate you!!

I still don't know if he is saving his money or not.
But his salary is not too small if he can manage it well.
I didn't know how much is his salary before.
He doesn't tell me and I don't ask.
But when I write his tax paper, I can know.

Talking about his money is not easy for me.
I'm his wife in here.
I maybe have the right to know about his money.
But his money is his money.
Not my money.
Only he has the right to how to use it.

If he is using his money to help someone, I can't say anything.
Helping someone is a very good thing.
But if his life is getting hard because of helping someone, I'm not happy.
His life and his future are first.

I really wanna go to Nigeria one day.
But I'm already giving up about see his family.
I stopped having hope to see his family anymore.
See his family and have his baby is no more hope to me.
Very very hurt.
But if I continue to have hope, that's more hurt to me.
So I stopped thinking about it and I'm ok now.

About his cousin, I don't have any evidence.
This is also I don't think about again.
Oh! But when I see him, I'm always asking him like what about his wife? (of course joke)
Amaka

Many peoples don't know what they have and don't wanna appreciate what they have until they lose it.
Some peoples still don't know or don't wanna know after they lose it.
I never ever wanna be like that.
My husband is a good person.
I must always appreciate him.

I know small Igbo and Yoruba language!
Oga, Amaka, Ese, E kaaro etc.
But I don't know how to write many words.
I wanna try to know some Hausa word now!

Threebear:
Khloe insulted K brule's late parents ...Erica only insulted Laycon.

There are no grounds for issuing strikes here .

iLegendd:
Below are pictures of some of the things I sprayed, painted, or about to spray. Maybe I should write a book on how to paint or spray things when you're bored at home.

I'm teaching myself home decoration. I hope I'm trying.

Emmalez:
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It started with a tweet. A Lagos State University student and Twitter user, Oduala Olorunrinu has successfully united and galvanized over 2,000 “lazy” Nigerian youths into action by simply taking up the baton of alleviating the needs of the people.


This is interesting because she is a 300-level student of Chemistry from a poor home who feels youths can also take responsibility against the spread of the pandemic. She has refused to wait on the government like others and decided to help sensitize Nigerians with a single tweet.


The tweet read “I am a chemist. I can help in making Hand Sanitizers so we can distribute to people. All we need is 1. Isopropyl alcohol 2. Glycerol 3. H202 4. Distilled water 5. Spray bottles. Let’s get a company to donate ethanol. Some people can’t afford hand sanitizers #FightCOVID19” on the 23rd of March, 2020.


This was very thoughtful, considering that there has been a huge increase in the price of hand sanitizers of over 50% since the pronouncement of the pandemic.


She started with an initial target of 10,000 hand sanitizers which has long being exceeded.

The journey from Material procurement, scarcity and hike in price of sanitizer bottles, movement over 50 kilometers everyday during the lockdown to produce sanitizers, delivery to states under lockdown, funding and distribution to different states in Nigeria with no personal car and little assistance is a question we should be asking Miss Olorunrinu despite the lockdown as it’s baffling and surprising that such a young individual could take such a daunting task and be determined to execute it without any support from the Nigerian government.


With Petty Donations From Well-Meaning Nigerians on Twitter, Miss Olorunrinu popularly known as “Chemical Sister” started this daunting task of providing as many as possible free hand sanitizers for the populous black nation of almost 200 million people in spite of the lockdown. This birthed a movement with the hashtag #OperationSanitize. Although, celebrities and some other twitter users have created a form of helping people through giveaways but this is quite different.


Youths all over the nation have taken this initiative to help raise public awareness about the danger of the COVID-19 pandemic in their respective areas while sensitizing on the preventive measures. This is but one of the many goals of her movement. The main goals are the distribution of free hand sanitizers, food and proper enlightenment on good hygiene to the uneducated, educated, old, vulnerable and young and the importance of social distancing along with obeying government health officials.


National unity is portrayed as most of the messages used or displayed in the cause of this operation are being translated into the many ethnic languages in Nigeria carrying almost every citizen along.


As of the time of filing this report, Miss Olorunrinu has been able to get over 20,000 hand sanitizers to over 7 states in Nigeria mainly, Oyo, Osun, Ondo, Ogun, Benue, Abuja, including Lagos, the epicenter of the COVID19 virus in Nigeria and she is still producing more.


For more information on the project, you can check the hashtag #OperationSanitize on Twitter, or check her personal handles @rinudear or @savvyrinu.


source
https://www.reportnaija.ng/2020/05/twitter-influencer-savvyrinu-produces.html




Call the convener on 07035110228, 07017553964 or email her @savvyrinu@gmail.com.

tunmiluabi:
My story is quite long, please run through with patience.

I married my wife about 11 years ago. By the way I am 46 years old. Before I married my wife, I was not doing well neither was my wife. She was working with a multinational company, earning an equivalent of N40,000. I had a small graphic design business after trying many times to find a good job. I looked for jobs and contracts without any respite. But At this this time, my wife's support was good and I did appreciate every bit of it. At lest we survived on the low...

As time went on, I got a job in one international corporate training company as a Statistics and Business Analysis Instructor, was earning about 90,000 naira. During the times before I got my job, we had accumulated debt and my new job provided us an opportunity to pay them up.

We decided we were going to save part of her salary every month for servicing the debt and save the rest for a rainy day. I was supposed to pay the rent and all other domestic bills, light, kids school fees etc.. Some time she helped with food/groceries. After sometime, she advised we move to a bigger apartment. We still had a daughter by then. I obliged and we did.

To cut the story short, after four years of working, the company folded up because of government policies and we were all laid off. This meant we had to prepare for the hard life ahead. It was hectic and devastating. Me being me, I took it with all sense of grace and hope things will be fine. But the more I thought about this the worse things got. One day out of curiosity I asked my wife if it would be nice to have another child and she advised it was not the best time. I understood and agreed. I then advised my wife if we could start a business and with some savings we had, maybe I could use it to enhance my former business, maybe things might be better this time. She did not show any interest. This time I discovered changes in my wife.

One day she asked me if she could use part of them money to do a course, honestly I was shocked but asked why she did not oblige to my own request. She said "its my money I can use it for whatever I want". My wife however did the course.

To cut the story short, 3 years down the line, my wife stopped having sex with me and this continued for a long time. I became like "shit in her eyes". I lost a bit of confidence though. she would wake me with insults and barrage of dirty words. Because of our child, I agreed to stay a home and try to work online and seek clients and jobs from old client. It was not bad but not promising.

Fortunately for us, my wife got a promotion and her salary was increased to about 170,000. This actually brought out the worst in my wife. Her calmness disappeared and all decorum was buried. We would quarrel everyday and not talk for weeks. She became really mean and controlled everything at home. Please note, she is not a bad woman but can't explain the reasons up till date. I was with no option but to query her sincerity as a wife and that continued for a long time. Our sex life became zero, she would tell me having sex would make her pregnant and was not ready for a second child. Her stories kept on changing and became even worse, rather than coming home she would pass by her mom and be there till late in the night before coming home.

After about 3 years of trying to get something to do, I finally got a place on the island sometime in February 2018, where I would be paid a stipend of 50,000. In addition, I would use my free time to design, print and sell business cards to small companies. The overall income was small but enough for some immediate obligations at home. But to be fair, that was the best I could get since I have not had money in a long time. Unfortunately my wages were not consistent due to challenges the company was facing. But I used the Business card printing to augment wherever possible.

Later in 2018 around September, I discovered that my wife had been having an illicit engagement. She had a male fried and I finally got to know about it and confronted her. She did not deny it, she begged and I forgave her. Anyway, I had made up my mind to forgive because of the kid and I never told anyone till date. Moreover, since we were not making love that was of course enough reason for the drastic measure, I told myself. To be sincere I had lost feeling for my wife and sex was difficult. We finally started having sex but I had little to offer her. I would pretend and even have to watch Indecency to be able to have sex with her. I was dead inside. At least my wife was still with me. That was my solace. I guess trust was broken. She however continued with her escapades. The quarrels increased and got worse. There and then name calling became our breakfast and dinner. She advised that since I would never look at her the same and bringing little or nothing to the table that I was free to go. The quarrels went on for quite some time, my wife will go very violent on me some of the times. I am marshal artist with black belt and I have great restraint - for me, fighting and going violent on her was never on the table. One day I thought there was a need to move out and I did indicated to her that I was not comfortable living with her anymore.. That wherever I am, I will see how I can take care of the kids.

She did not care and things became difficult for me. I felt maybe I could stay for sometime, It might be a difficult condition but still not impossible. This became my Achilles heels. There and then I knew my relationship had broken and irreparable. I accepted there was nothing I could, but to be patient and tried to convince myself about our situations and believed our situation was bad, but God’s willing we would overcome. The fight even got worse and became very violent and physical, I would normally just take the beating or hold her hands to avoid any injuries.

The quarrels was beginning to be in the glare of my Kids and since it was not abating, there was little I could do to change the situation. I finally made up my mind on the 19th of May 2019 to move out, but actually moved out on the 30th of May, 2019. Before then on the 26th of May, 2019, I discovered my wife was again engaging in the illicit affair. She would claim she was going to church only to be found at a different location. Honestly I can’t blame her, I blame myself and the situation that caused the demise of our once cherished marriage. At this point in time I realised I had lost and had no fight in me anymore. My kids are still very young. Everyday quarrels, lack of sincere engagement, denials upon denials and her fear of facing her “DEMON” with little chance of her understanding the consequence of her actions - I was left with no choice but to stop FIGHTING. I had no fight left in me. The ultimate decision was to leave. I did not inform her parent about the issue because I had indicated to her I did not want them to look at her differently.

God so good, I got a 500,000 Naira job through a friend in an oil company with a 3bedroon in Lekki fully paid up for 3years by the company. By the way, I am Data Analyst but never practiced for a long time. I studied Computer engineering but for a long time grace did not smile on me. I take care of my kid and I really don't hate her and I am at peace with everything. She still has her job and doing well.

Please note that she did not tell me to leave, I left on my own volition. I could not share the same bed with my wife anymore she apparently could not muster enough strength to stop all iniquities for a conversation that will help see things through. Rather she is turning to blame it on me. We have however resolved to part on a friendly note for the sake of our child.

My reason for posting this is because most us sit behind the desk and computers and do not understood the demons everyone is battling. On a bad day, the best husbands are MONSTER, while the best wives are DEVILS. When we make judgment as males or female. We should not forget about our female child/children, same goes for the male child. I don't know what my wife tells people about what happened but I really don't care and I have made up my mind never to defend myself.

Thanks for reading.

Tunmi

peacefull:
Thank you so much!
I appreciate you!

I know that word, determined!
But I still don't know what is different between determined and decide.
That's one of my problem about learning English.
Like pretty, cute, lovely.
Crazy, mad etc.
Some words, I can't understand what is different.

Anyway,Can I say that word for myself?
Like I'm strong will, or Can I say for someone, like You are strong will?
Or just use that word like that?
I mean just say Strong will for someone?
I'm sorry for many many questions.

peacefull:
This is new English to me.
Thank you for teaching me new English!
I appreciate you!

I used dictionary for check the meaning.
Strong will meaning is like stubborn?

Johnames:
please edit my name from that your quote please bro

Privatepart00:
. Transferred already from GTB ,