peacefull:


Thank you so much!
I appreciate you!!

Maybe how I asked him is made him feel so bad.
But I wanted him to know that his life is first.
Helping family and friends is very good.
But someone who don't have money, but sending money to help other person is not good.
I'm very difficult to understand that.

I'm still hiding about joined this website from him and I don't wanna tell him.
This is my secret

yes, keep the website from him and keep advicing him

i wish you happiness in your marriage

peacefull:


I'm happy to hear that
Please keep in safe!
I'm good too. Thank you!
Many peoples feeling fed up about this virus.

Good to hear you're staying safe and put.
The whole world in general is fed up with the Virus Trust me.

peacefull:

Last time, he went back to Nigeria like emergency.
He asked me about borrow money.
His plan was stay there very short time.
But he stayed 2months and almost lose his work again.
This happened made me decide to ask him about his money.

We all know most people that leave their home to a new place do feel home sick and they all would love to visit their home place or country.
But his case in which he always end up spending too much time down at Nigeria and not thinking about losing his job is something to be worried about.
To me I feel theirs something keeping him company in Nigeria that he is not telling you. Although I did mention he might have additional family (Wife&kids or lover) down at Nigeria but I'm not 100% sure on that.

peacefull:

Since long time ago, I tried to tell him about start business and save money many many times.
Not for me. But for himself and his life.
If he could have side business and he could save money, anytime he go to Nigeria is not problem.
He don't need to worry about lose work or buy air ticket.

I don't know how to say this but you said he earn Triple compared to your earning but he keeps asking for money even with your little earning.
This is bad, I don't know what to say on this because he is not being fair to you and have no respect to your feelings despite knowing you earn little and yet he still take money from you to foot his bills and get ticket money.

peacefull:

I'm trying to save money little by little.
Not easy for me because my money is not big money. But I'm trying.
He is making money at least times 3 than me. Why he can't do that?

Thiers something about certain individuals (Nigerians) who left Nigeria for other Countries when Going back to their home town they would want to show off that they are doing fine even if they are not.
That should be one of the reasons you won't see him save a dime.
Since you guys don't stay together you need to create a special savings for your self for Future reference.
Mind you this should be a savings that won't be touched no matter how much heat and pressure he put into you for a loan.

peacefull:

So I told him that I know I have no right to tell him how to use his money.
But I'm still his wife, I maybe have right to know about what happened his money like if he sending money for someone etc.
He said yes but sometimes.
He doesn't tell me who receiving that money.
I told him that's good if he has money and if he can help his family and friends who need help.
I will do same thing if I had enough money.
But he still always saying he don't have money.
Sometimes asking me borrow money.
That's no problem.
If I could help or assist him, I must do that.
But help him and assist him is affecting my savings he knows that.
What will happen with us if we can't work again and no savings.
I'm really worry about that.

You have the right to ask him about his financial affairs because you are his wife.
But since he won't open up to you then You have to keep a special savings aside, because from the above it means his main concern on how you would survive when you no longer work is not bothering him, All he care is to ask you for money which he would send to his concubines in Nigeria.

peacefull:

So I explained him that his life is first.
If he had no money, he should not sending money for someone and when he has money, he can send them and assist them.
I know if loved one need help, ignore it is very difficult and very hurt.
But I'm not talking about ignore them or don't help them.

I think from the above its high time you accept that he is a polygamist.
Theirs an additional family in Nigeria with a woman calling him my husband and if possible kids calling him daddy.

peacefull:


Maybe that my talk made him angry?
If not taboo, maybe my how to talk with him made him feel so bad.
Or maybe I was too much talking.

Anyway, I'm sorry for long long writing and disturbing you over and over again.
Thank you so much always giving me advice.
I really really appreciate you.

Theirs nothing to be angry on just because you asked him about his salary or give him advice on how he should save more and not accept to send money out when he is not financially stable.
A good wife should always Help give advice to her husband.
Thiers no country in the world in which you advice your husband on financial affairs and it become a Taboo. Definitely not in Nigeria.

And lastly it's my pleasure to assist you with your issues & keep up with the English, you are getting better gradually.

Do have a nice day ahead, hope to hear from you soon

Michaelcas:
yes, keep the website from him and keep advicing him

i wish you happiness in your marriage

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

If I will continue to hiding this website from him, is that bad things? Bad secret?

error4040:


Good to hear you're staying safe and put.
The whole world in general is fed up with the Virus Trust me.



We all know most people that leave their home to a new place do feel home sick and they all would love to visit their home place or country.
But his case in which he always end up spending too much time down at Nigeria and not thinking about losing his job is something to be worried about.
To me I feel theirs something keeping him company in Nigeria that he is not telling you. Although I did mention he might have additional family (Wife&kids or lover) down at Nigeria but I'm not 100% sure on that.



I don't know how to say this but you said he earn Triple compared to your earning but he keeps asking for money even with your little earning.
This is bad, I don't know what to say on this because he is not being fair to you and have no respect to your feelings despite knowing you earn little and yet he still take money from you to foot his bills and get ticket money.


Thiers something about certain individuals (Nigerians) who left Nigeria for other Countries when Going back to their home town they would want to show off that they are doing fine even if they are not.
That should be one of the reasons you won't see him save a dime.
Since you guys don't stay together you need to create a special savings for your self for Future reference.
Mind you this should be a savings that won't be touched no matter how much heat and pressure he put into you for a loan.


You have the right to ask him about his financial affairs because you are his wife.
But since he won't open up to you then You have to keep a special savings aside, because from the above it means his main concern on how you would survive when you no longer work is not bothering him, All he care is to ask you for money which he would send to his concubines in Nigeria.


I think from the above its high time you accept that he is a polygamist.
Theirs an additional family in Nigeria with a woman calling him my husband and if possible kids calling him daddy.



Theirs nothing to be angry on just because you asked him about his salary or give him advice on how he should save more and not accept to send money out when he is not financially stable.
A good wife should always Help give advice to her husband.
Thiers no country in the world in which you advice your husband on financial affairs and it become a Taboo. Definitely not in Nigeria.

And lastly it's my pleasure to assist you with your issues & keep up with the English, you are getting better gradually.

Do have a nice day ahead, hope to hear from you soon

Yes! I'm stay in safe.
Thank you so much!
But very close to my area, some peoples got that virus.

I understand if he miss Nigeria so much.
If that is me, I'm sure I will miss my family, friends and my country.
So going to Nigeria is not problem for me.
But what I can't understand is borrow money for buy air ticket.

Last time was emergency.
He had to go back. But I already told him about save money for kind of happened before.
If he saved some money, he doesn't need to has stress himself about how to get money for go back to Nigeria.

And that time, he was really frustrated about he couldn't come back to Japan.
He even worried about his work.
Stay long time is not his plan that time.
I tried to make him calm down.
But after 1month, I started wondering.
I couldn't understand well about his situation.

Please, I'm sorry about I can't explain well.
He is not always asking me money.
And sometimes I can't help him.
When he need assist money from me, not big big money. Small money.
And anytime when he need help, he has worry etc, I really want him to talk with me.
So everytime I'm glad when he tell me his problem.

We are not always have problem about money.
In fact, I don't like talk about money, money, money!

If he has a kid in Nigeria, I really want him to tell me.
We must support and protect his kid's life.
We must make sure his kid have peaceful life.
Enough food, good health, education etc.
I'm already told him about that.
But he always denied it.
So I have to trust his word.

Most of his friends in here, every year going to Nigeria.
He even told me about some his friends stay in Nigeria 3months or more.
And someone go to Nigeria once of 6months.
He said if he has enough money and don't need worry about work, he wanna do.
They are always go back to Nigeria without their wife and kids.

Is that common for Nigerian men?
And most of them lost work and change work over and over again.
I'm really difficult to understand and I'm always got confusing.
Is that common?

And yes!
Not bad when he go back to Nigeria and show his peoples he is fine in Japan life.
Especially showing his parents.
Not good for making them worry about him.
But something is surprised me.
Like he bought very expensive soap before.
We never had buy it in our home.
But he bought it for go to Nigeria.
Because he said after he leave, he also leave that soap for them.
He said he knows they will be happy.
He never had use it in here.
I really couldn't understand that time.
But I learned it. So now I can understand.

One lady he say his cousin.
Many many times he sent her gift when we lived together.
I was doubt about them.
But he always said that she always help him that's why he always send her gift.
I still don't know if she is his cousin or not.
I just have to trust him.
I don't mind any more.

I maybe shouldn't tell him what I wrote it yesterday.
Because after some time, I tried to talk about our future including about money on the phone.
He heard me and didn't get angry that time.
I asked him what he think about that.
He said very good.
Maybe he don't want me to talked about sending money for someone.
That's why I made him angry.

Anyway, Thank you so much Oga
I really really appreciate you!!
In fact, I still wanna ask you many many things.
But I have to prepare for go to work!

I'm really sorry about disturbing you too much.

This thread breaks my heart every time I read an update over the years

NoToPile:
This thread breaks my heart every time I read an update over the years

Oh!!
I'm so sorry if I'm making you sad.
Maybe how I write is bad?

I'm happy to hear from you again!
I'm really sorry about I'm making you heart break.

peacefull:


Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

If I will continue to hiding this website from him, is that bad things? Bad secret?

it's your choice, you should know if he would feel bad when he knows you access information from here and try to hinder you

peacefull:


Oh!!
I'm so sorry if I'm making you sad.
Maybe how I write is bad?

I'm happy to hear from you again!
I'm really sorry about I'm making you heart break.

Sorry its not you personally please, its just your story.

Michaelcas:
it's your choice, you should know if he would feel bad when he knows you access information from here and try to hinder you

Ok!
Thank you so much.
He maybe will not say anything.
But I will not tell him.

This website is like my text book!
I'm learning many many things from here including about my marriage.
Very helpful to me!

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

NoToPile:


Sorry its not you personally please, its just your story.

Oh! Please don't say sorry.
I must say sorry to you.
I'm really sorry about making you feel bad.

I'm still laughing with him anytime we spend time together.
Our relationship is always good and very calm now.
But we are not perfect.
So sometimes misunderstand, sometimes difficult to understand each other etc.

I was really selfish wife before.
I had too much jealousy.
I maybe always gave him stress.
But he still with me.
I must appreciate him.

I'm really sorry for making you heart break.
I'm apologies you.

peacefull:

Ok! Thank you so much. He maybe will not say anything. But I will not tell him.
This website is like my text book! I'm learning many many things from here including about my marriage. Very helpful to me!
Thank you so much! I really really appreciate you!!

You're welcome

peacefull:


Yes! I'm stay in safe.
Thank you so much!
But very close to my area, some peoples got that virus.

I'm glad to hear you are staying in Safe.

peacefull:

I understand if he miss Nigeria so much.
If that is me, I'm sure I will miss my family, friends and my country.
So going to Nigeria is not problem for me.
But what I can't understand is borrow money for buy air ticket.

As I said earlier his reasons might be that the money he earn from his salary is ment to do show off to his people down at Nigerian indicating he is doing well

peacefull:

Last time was emergency.
He had to go back. But I already told him about save money for kind of happened before.
If he saved some money, he doesn't need to has stress himself about how to get money for go back to Nigeria.

And that time, he was really frustrated about he couldn't come back to Japan.
He even worried about his work.
Stay long time is not his plan that time.
I tried to make him calm down.
But after 1month, I started wondering.
I couldn't understand well about his situation.

If he keeps taking his salary to Nigerian then he has a family with kids, I might be wrong on that but I do feel that is why he always have issue coming back to Japan

peacefull:

Please, I'm sorry about I can't explain well.
He is not always asking me money.
And sometimes I can't help him.
When he need assist money from me, not big big money. Small money.
And anytime when he need help, he has worry etc, I really want him to talk with me.
So everytime I'm glad when he tell me his problem.

We are not always have problem about money.
In fact, I don't like talk about money, money, money!

If he has a kid in Nigeria, I really want him to tell me.
We must support and protect his kid's life.
We must make sure his kid have peaceful life.
Enough food, good health, education etc.
I'm already told him about that.
But he always denied it.
So I have to trust his word.

I don't know how to say this but tell him to always save part of his earnings so things would go fine with you two future not just about saving to travel down to nigeria.

peacefull:

Most of his friends in here, every year going to Nigeria.
He even told me about some his friends stay in Nigeria 3months or more.
And someone go to Nigeria once of 6months.
He said if he has enough money and don't need worry about work, he wanna do.
They are always go back to Nigeria without their wife and kids.

Can you try and save some money ? So you can tell him you also want to visit Nigeria to see his family, because from the above I feel he is hiding something away from you.

peacefull:

Is that common for Nigerian men?
And most of them lost work and change work over and over again.
I'm really difficult to understand and I'm always got confusing.
Is that common?

No it is not common, If he truly see you as his wife
And then he needs to take you to see his family and Introduce you to them so you would be fully convinced that yes he is not married or have any kids that he hides from you.

peacefull:

One lady he say his cousin.
Many many times he sent her gift when we lived together.
I was doubt about them.
But he always said that she always help him that's why he always send her gift.
I still don't know if she is his cousin or not.
I just have to trust him.
I don't mind any more.

I don't accuse people without evidence. She might be his cousin and she might also be his concubines, whatever the case you need to find out her true relationship with him.
Don't be scared to ask him or find out about the cousin because you are his wife and you the right to do so.

peacefull:

I maybe shouldn't tell him what I wrote it yesterday.
Because after some time, I tried to talk about our future including about money on the phone.
He heard me and didn't get angry that time.
I asked him what he think about that.
He said very good.
Maybe he don't want me to talked about sending money for someone.
That's why I made him angry.

If he is truly in support of saving for the future then he needs to prove that to you that he would stand by you and not just say it without taking any action

peacefull:

Anyway, Thank you so much Oga
I really really appreciate you!!
In fact, I still wanna ask you many many things.
But I have to prepare for go to work!

I'm really sorry about disturbing you too much.

When you mentioned "OGA" it really made me laugh, how did you come across that ?
Anyway it would always be my pleasure to assist anyone I come across my life and, when you feel like speaking to someone on any issue related to Nigerian you can ask. I can answer to my best knowledge and understanding.
Keep up with the English you are at least improving.

注意して安全を確保してください

error4040:


I'm glad to hear you are staying in Safe.



As I said earlier his reasons might be that the money he earn from his salary is ment to do show off to his people down at Nigerian indicating he is doing well



If he keeps taking his salary to Nigerian then he has a family with kids, I might be wrong on that but I do feel that is why he always have issue coming back to Japan



I don't know how to say this but tell him to always save part of his earnings so things would go fine with you two future not just about saving to travel down to nigeria.



Can you try and save some money ? So you can tell him you also want to visit Nigeria to see his family, because from the above I feel he is hiding something away from you.



No it is not common, If he truly see you as his wife
And then he needs to take you to see his family and Introduce you to them so you would be fully convinced that yes he is not married or have any kids that he hides from you.


I don't accuse people without evidence. She might be his cousin and she might also be his concubines, whatever the case you need to find out her true relationship with him.
Don't be scared to ask him or find out about the cousin because you are his wife and you the right to do so.


If he is truly in support of saving for the future then he needs to prove that to you that he would stand by you and not just say it without taking any action



When you mentioned "OGA" it really made me laugh, how did you come across that ?
Anyway it would always be my pleasure to assist anyone I come across my life and, when you feel like speaking to someone on any issue related to Nigerian you can ask. I can answer to my best knowledge and understanding.
Keep up with the English you are at least improving.

注意して安全を確保してください

I just saw the word Oga, and I'm very happy she's learning fast

error4040:


I'm glad to hear you are staying in Safe.



As I said earlier his reasons might be that the money he earn from his salary is ment to do show off to his people down at Nigerian indicating he is doing well



If he keeps taking his salary to Nigerian then he has a family with kids, I might be wrong on that but I do feel that is why he always have issue coming back to Japan



I don't know how to say this but tell him to always save part of his earnings so things would go fine with you two future not just about saving to travel down to nigeria.



Can you try and save some money ? So you can tell him you also want to visit Nigeria to see his family, because from the above I feel he is hiding something away from you.



No it is not common, If he truly see you as his wife
And then he needs to take you to see his family and Introduce you to them so you would be fully convinced that yes he is not married or have any kids that he hides from you.


I don't accuse people without evidence. She might be his cousin and she might also be his concubines, whatever the case you need to find out her true relationship with him.
Don't be scared to ask him or find out about the cousin because you are his wife and you the right to do so.


If he is truly in support of saving for the future then he needs to prove that to you that he would stand by you and not just say it without taking any action



When you mentioned "OGA" it really made me laugh, how did you come across that ?
Anyway it would always be my pleasure to assist anyone I come across my life and, when you feel like speaking to someone on any issue related to Nigerian you can ask. I can answer to my best knowledge and understanding.
Keep up with the English you are at least improving.

注意して安全を確保してください

Oga
How far? (Am I correct how to write?

Thank you so much for taking your time again!
Really helpful.
I really really appreciate you!!

I still don't know if he is saving his money or not.
But his salary is not too small if he can manage it well.
I didn't know how much is his salary before.
He don't tell me and I don't ask.
But when I write his tax paper, I can know.

Talking about his money is not easy for me.
I'm his wife in here.
I maybe have right to know about his money.
But his money is his money.
Not my money.
Only he has right to how to use it.

If he is using his money for help someone, I can't say anything.
Helping someone is very good thing.
But if his life is getting hard because of helping someone, I'm not happy.
His life and his future is first.

I really wanna go to Nigeria one day.
But I'm already gave up about see his family.
I stopped having hope to see his family anymore.
See his family and have his baby is no more hope to me.
Very very hurt.
But if I'm continue to have hope, that's more hurt to me.
So I stopped thinking about it and I'm ok now.

About his cousin, I don't have any evidence.
This is also I don't thinking about again.
Oh! But when I see him, I'm always asking him like what about his wife?(of course joke)
Amaka

Many peoples don't know what they have and don't wanna appreciate what they have until they lose it.
Some peoples still don't know or don't wanna know after they lose it.
I never ever wanna be like that.
My husband is a good person.
I must always appreciate him.

I know small small Igbo and Yoruba language!
Oga, Amaka, Ese, E kaaro etc.
But I don't know how to write many words.
I wanna try to know some Hausa word now!

Michaelcas:
I just saw the word Oga, and I'm very happy she's learning fast

Oga Michaelcas
Thank you so much!
You also help me a lot too.
I really really appreciate you!

peacefull:


Oga
How far? (Am I correct how to write?

Thank you so much for taking your time again!
Really helpful.
I really really appreciate you!!

I still don't know if he is saving his money or not.
But his salary is not too small if he can manage it well.
I didn't know how much is his salary before.
He doesn't tell me and I don't ask.
But when I write his tax paper, I can know.

Talking about his money is not easy for me.
I'm his wife in here.
I maybe have the right to know about his money.
But his money is his money.
Not my money.
Only he has the right to how to use it.

If he is using his money to help someone, I can't say anything.
Helping someone is a very good thing.
But if his life is getting hard because of helping someone, I'm not happy.
His life and his future are first.

I really wanna go to Nigeria one day.
But I'm already giving up about see his family.
I stopped having hope to see his family anymore.
See his family and have his baby is no more hope to me.
Very very hurt.
But if I continue to have hope, that's more hurt to me.
So I stopped thinking about it and I'm ok now.

About his cousin, I don't have any evidence.
This is also I don't think about again.
Oh! But when I see him, I'm always asking him like what about his wife? (of course joke)
Amaka

Many peoples don't know what they have and don't wanna appreciate what they have until they lose it.
Some peoples still don't know or don't wanna know after they lose it.
I never ever wanna be like that.
My husband is a good person.
I must always appreciate him.

I know small Igbo and Yoruba language!
Oga, Amaka, Ese, E kaaro etc.
But I don't know how to write many words.
I wanna try to know some Hausa word now!

You know Oga which means Master or Boss.
Ese which means Thanks
And E k'aro which means good morning, that means you've really taken time to understand some of these words. It just a little time left and you would have mastered everything. By the way, your mastery of the English language has improved immensely.

temitope23:


You know Oga which means Master or Boss.
Ese which means Thanks
And E k'aro which means good morning, that means you've really taken time to understand some of these words. It just a little time left and you would have mastered everything. By the way, your mastery of the English language has improved immensely.

Thank you!
Imela!
Ese!

Learning different culture and language is very interesting to me!
I'm having fun
But sometimes I made mistake and embarrassed myself.

I saw some words on this website many many times.
I wanted to know what is meaning that word.
Ashawu? Ashao? Something like that.
I asked my husband and he taught me.
But after some time, I forgot that meaning.

When I saw my husband's good friend, I didn't see him long time.
I wanted to tell him I learned many Igbo language than before.
Then I told him Oga, Igbo amaka etc.
And I said that word.
My husband warned me that word is not good and he taught me what is meaning that word again.
I was surprised and very embarrassed!
I said sorry to him.

But I'm very lucky.
Because that friend is always very kind and very gentle person.
He just laughed and told me it's ok.
Since then, I don't forget that meaning!

I believe that learning anything is never too late.
When I have interesting about something or I wanna know something, I will search it and learn it!

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I will continue to learning about Nigeria and Nigerian peoples!
And continue to learning English too!
Maybe next is small pidgin? pigeon? English!

Just seeing this thread now.
Hope your marriage is doing well

Petyr1:
Just seeing this thread now.
Hope your marriage is doing well

Yes! I think my marriage is good.
But sometimes I'm confusing, misunderstanding etc just like when I joined this website.

Thank you so much for asking me!
I appreciate you!!

peacefull:


Thank you!
Imela!
Ese!

Learning a different culture and language is very interesting to me!
I'm having fun
But sometimes I made mistake and embarrassed myself.

I saw some words on this website many many times.
I wanted to know what is meaning that word.
Ashawu? Ashao? Something like that.
I asked my husband and he taught me.
But after some time, I forgot that meaning.

When I saw my husband's good friend, I didn't see his long time.
I wanted to tell him I learned many Igbo languages than before.
Then I told him Oga, Igbo amaka etc.
And I said that word.
My husband warned me that word is not good and he taught me what is meaning that word again.
I was surprised and very embarrassed!
I said sorry to him.

But I'm very lucky.
Because that friend is always a very kind and very gentle person.
He just laughed and told me it's ok.
Since then, I don't forget that meaning!

I believe that learning anything is never too late.
When I have interesting about something or I wanna know something, I will search it and learn it!

Anyway, Thank you so much!
I really appreciate you!!
I will continue to learn about Nigeria and Nigerian peoples!
And continue to learn English too!
Maybe next is small pidgin? pigeon? English!

There are some words people find offensive, although at times we use it to tease ourselves here. Someone who is not used to the way we tease ourselves here will find words like 'Ashawo' offensive although what it means is Prostitute which we both know it's offensive.
Pidgin is cool if you take time to learn it. I will say go for it since you are interested in learning it. The way to get a hang on any language is to find someone who understands it and have conversations with them using the language, before you know it you will speak with ease.

peacefull:
Hello everyone.

Thanks for open this topic.
And sorry about my English is very poor.
Coz I'm not English speaker.

I really need advice from who is Nigerian(Igbo) and who is marry with Nigerian(Igbo)guy.

I'm married with Igbo guy more than 10years.
We started relationship totally almost 15years.

But I'm still dont know lots of things about Nigerian culture.

Now we are living separate.
Coz he got new work in far place.
That's why he is only pay for house bill where I living.
I also working.
But my wage is very small.
He always demind me to pay for lots of things more than my wage since when we married.

In suddenly he leaved our house w/o any discuss when after he spoke his friend who is introduced him to new work.

Get new work is ok.
But what I dont understand is always he decided by himself about all of things.

My health is no good.
I suppose to be go to hospital what doctor said when I went to there @ last time.
But I still cant go there more than 4month.
Bcoz of money.

I told him that how much so hard life.
But he always ignoring me.

I know that he has money.
Coz every year he go back to Nigeria.

He can buy air ticket and many gifts for his family but he has no money to take me to hospital.

Is it his culture?

Wife must pay for life more than wage?
Husband salary is more than wife.
But still must pay half and half or more than him?
I know that not everybody same.

If wife have sick,still have to go to work and have to make money to go to hospital by herself?

Is that Nigerian common marriage life style?

He started stay in Nigeria more than 1month when he go back to Nigeria.
He told me 3months by this time.
Now he is in Nigeria.

I can understand that everybody who is stay in abroad want go back to own country and missing family.
But why always w/o wife?

People who is married and living in Nigeria,every year take holiday 1to3month?
No work,no pay,w/o partner.
Is it common?

And my husband dont wanna give me any gift and dont wanna spend time with me on any celebrate day.
So I also stopped gift for him.
I have no experience about dating with him as like common couples.
Is it Igbo culture?

I know that I decided marry with him.
But I didn't know kind of hard and lonely life Iwill get.

I still wanna ask many things.
But already too much writing.

Sorry about my poor English once more time.

I hope many people can understand what I'm trying to tell you.
PLS I NEED HELP.

THANKS.

Chai...should we tell her?

peacefull:


Yes! I think my marriage is good.
But sometimes I'm confusing, misunderstanding etc just like when I joined this website.

Thank you so much for asking me!
I appreciate you!!

I like the way you have kept this thread alive for almost 3 years.

Hope you're enjoying your marriage now.

peacefull:


Yes! I think my marriage is good.
But sometimes I'm confusing, misunderstanding etc just like when I joined this website.

Thank you so much for asking me!
I appreciate you!!

you're welcome.
Don't worry, everything confusing will become clear on day

temitope23:


There are some words people find offensive, although at times we use it to tease ourselves here. Someone who is not used to the way we tease ourselves here will find words like 'Ashawo' offensive although what it means is Prostitute which we both know it's offensive.
Pidgin is cool if you take time to learn it. I will say go for it since you are interested in learning it. The way to get a hang on any language is to find someone who understands it and have conversations with them using the language, before you know it you will speak with ease.

Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you.
I really really appreciate you!!

Please I wanna know more about word Oga.
Can I say Oga to women too? or Oga is only for men?

EgusiSoup:



Chai...should we tell her?

Oh! Please tell me!
I appreciate any advice.
I appreciate everything!!
Every advice peoples gave me and giving me, really really helped me and helping me a lot!

mabea:
I like the way you have kept this thread alive for almost 3 years.

Hope you're enjoying your marriage now.

Thank you so much!
Yes! I'm always enjoying my marriage.
I'm always trying to appreciate what I have.
But I'm not perfect.
So sometimes confusing, misunderstanding etc.

Thank you so much for asking me!
I really appreciate you!!

Petyr1:
you're welcome.
Don't worry, everything confusing will become clear on day

Yes!!
Even when I'm confusing, I can still keep my smile and laugh

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

peacefull:


Yes!!
Even when I'm confusing, I can still keep my smile and laugh

Thank you so much!
I really really appreciate you!!

by the way, is employment rate low in Japan? I mean is it very easy to get a job there?
I'm planning of emigrating to Asia or North America

peacefull:


Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you.
I really really appreciate you!!

Please I wanna know more about word Oga.
Can I say Oga to women too? or Oga is only for men?

Oga is not gender-based. It can be used for both male and female.

Oga mi my master or my boss.
Mi pronounced in a similar way as Me in English but the 'e' sound has a higher intonation than the 'e' sound in me.

Petyr1:
by the way, is employment rate low in Japan? I mean is it very easy to get a job there?
I'm planning of emigrating to Asia or North America

This virus is affecting many people's work now.
Many peoples lost work.

I don't know if get work is easy or not.
But from my experience about my husband, I think language is important.
If you can speak, write and read Japanese, I think you can get work easy than someone who can't speak, write and read Japanese.

But some company don't need it.
Like Rakuten.
This company even have work for foreigners in abroad.
Very big and famous company.

temitope23:


Oga is not gender-based. It can be used for both male and female.

Oga mi my master or my boss.
Mi pronounced in a similar way as Me in English but the 'e' sound has a higher intonation than the 'e' sound in me.

Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you again!!
You are always helping my learning language.
I really really appreciate you!

Oga is boss, Oga mi is my boss.
Mi meaning my?

I learned about pidgin English on here.
But many times I'm still write pigeon.
I don't know why I'm always misunderstand pidgin and pigeon

How Nigerian peoples learn many language?
House? School?
My husband taught me before that English can learn in school.
What about pidgin English?
Pidgin English also learn in school?

I'm sorry for disturbing you over and over again.
And asking you too many questions.
I'm really sorry.

'Mi' means me or my in the Yoruba language.
Most of the languages we speak, we learn them either through interaction, family and school. Say for example you are born in a place like Lagos and your parents are Igbo there is a likelihood you will speak Igbo by learning from your parent, Yoruba from interaction with neighbours or classmates in school and then English language because you were taught in school. Pidgin is not formally learnt in school, but in some school, it could be the language most students use in communicating outside the class.

I understand why you mistake pidgin for pigeon, you know they have the same pronunciation but different spellings. Words that have the same pronunciation but different ways of spelling them are called homonym in the English language.

I am not angry, I will do the same if the situation is reversed. You are welcome.

peacefull:


Thank you so much!
I learned a lot from you again!!
You are always helping my learning language.
I really really appreciate you!

Oga is boss, Oga mi is my boss.
Mi meaning mme

I learned about pidgin English on here.
But many times I'm still writing pigeon.
I don't know why I'm always misunderstandingpidgin and pigeon

How do Nigerian peoples learn many languages?
House? School?
My husband taught me before that English can learn in school.
What about pidgin English?
Does Pidgin English also learn in school?

I'm sorry for disturbing you over and over again.
And asking you too many questions.
I'm really sorry.