₦airaland Forum

SalamRushdie:
Obasanjo has forgotten so soon he initiated them into Armed Robbery when he started when started bribing them and offering them bogus allowances just for them to endorse his unpopular and selfish agendas

Benita, where have you been?

ekems2017:
This man should go pick up the pieces of his life and move forward. You never treated her well. Because she is not begging to eat as you thought now it has done on you that she can live without you.
Never lay your hands on a woman men would not hear.
Since she left you, you can't suceed in anything you do. This is what the bible says never maltreat the wife your youth. Now see your life. Go ask her for forgiveness so that she can remove the curse she layed on you. It's not a social media thing.

Dont comment because everybody are commenting. i am sure you re still a baby.

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

My brother we are on the same page, I lost my job last year and it'sbeen from one quarrel to another, she tells everybody in the community and her family about the financial assistance she renders at home, she has left for her sister's place with my kid. My brother please just be patient with her so that you won't be traumatized emotionally. It's not palatable. It will end in praise.

Segadem:
[color=#1986BC] hmmmm, the topics that make front page these days about family, gives no options for women.
Is it only women that can mess up their marriages? [/color]

yes,Foolish women destroys their homes.

sexybbstar:
Broke Nigerian men keep complaining that women reject them because of their lack of financial ability. This self pitying consoling thought line is always sold by these men to compensate their poor ego but that's not usually the case. It's not always because of being broke. Sometimes, maybe, most times.

Now, here's the reality.
We always assume that every women rejects a man because he's just broke.
This makes us ignore the possibilities of other inadequacies that could be a deal breaker in men.Money is not all. In fact, it's a myth that women are after money. A lot of broke dudes still fall in love and get married.

So, There's something these rejections are about that is far from money.Cool, you don't have money.

(1)How about your confidence?
(2)Your self esteem?
(3)Do you exude low self esteem and talk out of pity?
(4)How intelligent and engaging are you?
(5)Can you make intelligent conversations and brainstorm with a woman?
(6)Do you have a vision?
A feasible and promising vision you're relentlessly pursuing?
(7)How's your sense of humour like?
(How's your sense of dressing?
We know you have cheap few clothes as a broke dude, but how do you use and combine the ones you have?
(9)How romantic are you?
(10)How clean are you?
(11)What are your values like?

A lot of broke young men are nil when it comes to these aforementioned questions, so when they hit rejection from a female, they say, ‘Its because I am broke..’
‘Women love money .’

No bro.
You're the problem.
You lack money.
And you lack every other thing.. .

See, I keep saying it, Money doesn't make a man. Most times it's low self esteemed men that flaunt money to attract women; they use money to cover up their inadequacies.
Take away money from them, nothing is left.
Poor souls.

Y'all broke guys should go back and build yourself, nah, I don't mean financially.
Go check your confidence, intelligence, humor, resourcefulness, maturity, focus, etc.
Go check all of these.

Many times you're rejected for something far from your broke state.
Go work on all this inadequacies, without minding if you have the cash or not you'll see ladies flocking around you.

#solomonbuchi

hmmm

Coldplay007:
She at least has money to take care of him.. She is not broke and jobless.
Bro, forget your son for now.. start hustling. Start a business and stop looking for a job.. When you can take care of a family, your wife will listen to you..

And is it suppose to be so?

delishpot:
Hmn.... she no try sha. Well, keep talking to her parents and lets see where it leads since you dont want to go the legal way which I understand why(you dont want to complicate an already dicey issue) your son needs you too. She is clearly not thinking things straight. Wait a while and see what her parents would do about it. If you offended her too, biko appologise and make up. I know losing ones job may cause a man to read meaning into things and being at home may mean the wife expects some extra suport and help at home which would make the man feel insulted. At times like this ego helps no one as long as you doing it for the joy and comfort of your spouse who is also putting in effort for the family to stand. You guys need to adjust, she needs to understand how to support you at this moment while you also need to appteciate her efforts at this moment too. Its unfortunate what has happened and I trully wish you guys jump tgis hurdle safe and united as a family. Pkele

Thank you very much for this advice, I appreciate.

delishpot:
Then she prolly is scared that you would sieze him from her?

can't seize the baby from her, anger is that she has no right to withhold the boy from me, though I've informed her dad about it. I don't want it to get to legal practitioner because what she's doing is parental kidnapping and it ll be used against her that's why I'm seeking advice here.

thorpido:
If you want to see your son,try to make arrangements with your wife(maybe get her parents involved).
You can't have your son stay with you now,his mother has to nurse him

I hope you guys can resolve your differences quickly.

Thank you very much

delishpot:
So you want him back home to drop him with someone else? Doesnt make much sense to me. Why not get her family involved? Or get those agencies who help spouses esp women get access to their kids? You also deserve to see your son. Yes at his age he is best left with mom not you but, you also have a right to see and spend time with him. Maybe she is afraid you may take him from her by force should she allow you have him? Be honest, would you take him from her and keep him if she allows you to have access to him?

she doesn't have time for the boy either, she works with bank.

delishpot:
Hoe old is your son and can you personally take care of him?

I can't personally take care of him, but she isn't taking my calls to see him, the boy is 9month old and its not save to be carrying him about

Dear all, please I need your advice at this point in time.
I lost my job sometimes last, and it has been from one issue to another between me and my wife ever since. We had little argument last month end, and she has since then left the house with our son to her sisters place. I don't have problem with her leaving, it's one of those things... My problem is my son she withhold since then I've not been seeing my son and I don't want to go to her sister's place to make any trouble. Please I need a mature advice on what to do to get my son back home, I'm missing him seriously.

Thanks

mastermaestro:
I am curious why you want us to have your email. This explains why your husband is uncomfortable letting you go out alone. I ain't judging you already, but I think you sound like an insincere person, and he knows this. You just are looking for freedom to go where your soul longs for. Hey, you are married now! Marriage comes with restrictions and loss of some freedoms.

God will bless you my brother.

Dottore:
Op in written English as well as other languages, there's what is called "paragraphs". It's makes long write up less boring and scary.

Cairman, check youself first before correcting others. The write-up has been spaced accordingly, so, no need of paragraph.

Abeg who win?

Do not outshine your master

Wiseandtrue:
What woman would want to leave her home and children if she is treated right and happy

While most women have taken it upon themselves to help their husband some men are abusing this.

Men should realise that women are over burden. A responsible man will always make his wife happy. Like it or not their HAPPINESS lighten your home.

Emeka Ike, If I am not mistaken has being seeking the wife's forgiveness for over a year now. For her to hold her ground means she had endured more than enough.

A lesson for all don't mistake someone's quietness for foolishness.
When you keep pushing them to the wall a time would come when they will face you.

With the way Emeka was going about the reconciliation, I had hoped that they would work it out.
What a shame.

You don't know what you have till it's gone.

Madam, can't you read and digest? "Devil entered her the day she paid the children school fees".no doubt pride has entered. Stop judging without facts okay? Don't assume.

The dogmas of the quiet past are inadequate to the stormy present

Goodluck

How much per bucket?

That's lovely

BrownShawty:
Omg,happy birthday to my favorite moderator

I wish I could kiss you fr right now,anyway have a nice day lalasticlala I wish you all the best as you get older,and may you live long for the world..I.love you lalasticlala

Sister love anyway yayy,have a swell day

Monicka

You people should leave this snake guy now. HBD bro. Age with snake

This is bad day devil drink water. Ojo buruku esu gbomi mu

Happy Val Benita27

Happy Val Ma

She doesn't have sense. Why would she block him?

Martinez19:
I wish my kids don't inherent my temper. It rarely manifests except I am REALLY pushed to the wall. What I can do when I get angry is unspeakable . Good thing is that I am slow to anger

Clearing throat.

I'm looking for Benita27. Where are you pls?

Juicypot247:
Marriage is for better you stay, for worse you run o. It has turned to a deception tool by men to pleasure themselves while holding women in bondage.

You can't cheat on him but he can cheat on you without any regret, you can't raise your hands against him but he can pull your teeth off. That's why I'll never encourage marriage. Just screw them, have a child if you want and dump them.

No man is worth the headache. If you can't abstain, get a Love Machine and masturbate to porn.

A lot of your mates are in there and they are doing fine. Stop being irresponsible. It means you have a stinking attitude.

riborobo:
LAWD, have mercy! Not all men are bad. Do not demonise all because of some bad eggs.

Don't beg that lady to marry. She didn't mean it

Juicypot247:
Marriage is for better you stay, for worse you run o. It has turned to a deception tool by men to pleasure themselves while holding women in bondage.

You can't cheat on him but he can cheat on you without any regret, you can't raise your hands against him but he can pull your teeth off. That's why I'll never encourage marriage. Just screw them, have a child if you want and dump them.

No man is worth the headache. If you can't abstain, get a Love Machine and masturbate to porn.

Goodluck!