₦airaland Forum

redsun: Nice is not always the best.It is good to be a little bit of both to maintain some balance.And always look out for your interest before any other thing.

Women hardly appreciate nice guys too,they sometimes see it as a sign of weakness and dormancy which does not leave any room for challenges and competitions.

Another challenged unguarded utterance by Redsun. The truth is both men and women go for those they are compatible with.
There is no set formula and no hard and fast rule as to which personalities are compatible. The issue that causes confusion in Nigeria today, in fact, is rampant promiscuity. Why would a bad guy want to go for a nice girl when he is only into casual relationships for the moment. It makes more sense for him to go out with his fellow bad girl in that scenario. The problem then is that such a guy may eventually be trapped to marry such a runz girl. Stranger things have happened.
On the other hand being nice does not equate to being a doormat or a pushover. It just means acting with wisdom, love and consideration at all times.

Ladybianca: yea God will surely reward me,
buh u knw heaven helps dos who helps themselves, jex want to spice up my niceness to
NICE NAUGHTY/CRAZY LADY...... hw abt dat?

Where is that in the Bible? Be that as it may if you act like classy you will get suitors. No need of forming bad girl.

Boss13: There is nothing as a nice girl or nice guy. We all have our shortcomings and weakness. I think it should renamed - dumb babes and smart babes.

Smart babes know how to get and keep a man, dum*b babes don't. It's so funny when a guy gets a Babe and she wants to be the center of attraction hence she watches the guy to criticize his behaviour, compares him with her ex, listen to jealous tips from gal friends and finally blames guys for her loneliness. They want a man to do all for them but contribute little or nothing to the relationship.

Gals guys don wise up. Stay there to form nice gal no go wise up

Another very unwise post. All these negative traits have nothing to do with niceness. Listening to nasty tips from so-called friends is just naivety whilst constant criticism of a partner betrays lack of love and arrogance. Nothing to do with being a good girl at all so just shut it there.

Baby mama: If you are that black man then the black women and unborn children are doomed
Eligible black man is what the ladies want not a man with a chronic personality disorder manifesting as narcism and misogynistic tendencies

True. A man should just act like a normal human being. That means being kind, understanding and considerate to his wife. Really who wants a thug for a spouse?

alingo4life: It is because the so-called Nice Girls are too conservative and Rigid.And at times they nag a lot.They think time is still on their side,so therefore they treat would-be suitors like Shit.They believe they are the best and do not want to change.Most of them do not take to co-rections as they believe they are perfect.Seeing them afar,They are good people,But by when you go into a relationship with them,you'll discover they have a lot to work on themselves.Have you asked the question why so-called good girls marry late or have no suitors at all?Am speaking from experience..

Silly post by Alingo. What has nagging and arrogance got to do with niceness. Stop the uncouth generalisations and get a life.
Your problem appears to have been pure incompatibility with your girl. Get over it man.

Matthew briggs: >>Let me go with your proposition that states that Fidelity does make marriage safer.
We both know that given the way marriage is structured the possibility for fidelity is higher than in un married couple... given that the stake are much higher... This invariably makes marriage more safer... so are we not saying the same thing.
(fidelity[b] is not only [/b] what make sex safer... the emotional and financial security marriage IN MOST CASES presents and a list of other factors I mentioned earlier makes sex after Marriage safer)

Excellent points. I reckon this Horayce is just acting obtuse to justify his hedonistic lifestyle.
Of course the stakes are much higher in marriage. The couple have made a commitment before the whole world that they will stay loving and committed to each other. Compare that to a live -in relationship where no so commitment is made at all. In most cases the lady involved does not even know what the man's intentions are.
Then we can go to the issue of the emotional security of children born out of wedlock to those born to a married couple.

Horayce: 4. Entirely subjective. Humans value attributes like discipline, success, career accomplishments, leadership, intelligence, a great sense of humour, charisma etc so much more. Only someone with a warped sense of what it means to be a human being would value viriginity over any of those.

Hedonistic Horayce thinking so superficially. SMH. Career accomplishments charisma success humour are all subjective and really are things to be evaluated and appreciated by the couples involved. Wetin concern you with that?
However for a woman to retain her virginity till marriage exhibits that she has not had sexual intercourse which in of itself shows she has the level discipline self-respect and dignity that would build a happy home. If the man is also a virgin then the marriage is being built on a rocky foundation that should stand the test of time

Horayce: 2. Marriage does not make sex any safer. Fidelity does. An irresponsible wife or husband would bring STDs home regardless. An unmarried couple that is faithful and committed has no worries.
3. Obviously people who have to depend on sex(or alcohol or dope) to escape any underlying emotional problems will come up short. But the research u cite is irrelevant to ur argument. How convenient of u to cite a study conducted on children and developing teens(14-19). They do not apply to the topic at hand(premarital sex for adults.)

Hedonistic Horayce talking nonsense.The big difference between marriage and a live-in relationship is commitment. Without commitment why should any partner feel secure in the relationship to make the required emotional investment.

Typically the relationship is one-sided in that the man wants to enjoy the benefits of marriage without getting married whilst the lady naively hopes one day the man will propose.

It is still theft and deceit because the guy has not declared his intentions publicly.The girl is still someone's daughter and sister don't forget. In fact if I were to be the brother of the lady I will call the guy out and challenge and confront him.

ayo84: Sexual incompatibilty is a big issue nowadays, ladies who have tasted it from married men and professionals, don't want a male virgin with no idea of how to last long in bed.
And most experienced men, don't want a rigid, unexpereinced woman, if you have two virgins, its cool, if they go into it together.
But when you have one partner who has explored all kinds of fantasies and the other partner , a novice, then there would be problems, a case where a lady who has warmed the beds of so many men, decides to settle down with an innocent, young, virgin dude , that's going to be disastrous.

Another devilish post from a sex obsessed poster chatting hogwash. The only proper place for sex is within the institution of marriage. That is the only proper place to get the vaunted experience is marriage in the first place, so stop yarning bullshit.

We are not talking about the consequences of marriage to a partner that has engaged in a wayward life before marriage but about people who have lived right now going into marriage. There is a difference.

Those who become sex-obsessed or diseased due to their own wayward lifestyle need to deal with the consequences before getting married.

2tek: Imagine dating a lady for 4yrs nd giving her d necessary financial assistance she needs (note: I'm not encouraging such assistance) nd d relationship ends, what will b d guy's ROI(RETURN ON INVESTMENT). D money d mumu guy would hv used in training his younger sisters or assisting his mum.
IT IS called TRADE BY BARTER.

Silly post by a wayward poster. Okay after "helping" her she should now open her legs for you. Nonsense as if you were forced to help her in the first place. The only proper ROI in such a scenario is marriage not fornication.

Paris-fran:
This topic only becomes an issue if two people of opposite sides of the fence are in a relationship. A guy that believes he must bang his Babe before being serious with her, will then see a girl that will tell him No sex before marriage and yet he will still want to go ahead believing he can make her change her mind. When the girl will refuse he will go to the male thread and complain that women are not realistic and the girl will go to the female thread and start quoting scriptures that can mean 10 things, then twisting them to justify herself.

I just believe everybody should date their type of person. Stop believing you can change the other person. It's when a person is seduced or forced to change their beliefs that the person comes out shouting, "I've been used".

Well said. There is really no sense whatsoever in a guy trying to force a girl to commit fornication when she has already told the guy she does not do fornication. In fact such controlling and manipulative behaviour is a form of witchcraft and mind control.
Surely such a loose wayward man should go and look for a runz girl that will fall in line with his evil wishes.

Lordlexyy: However you paint it, especially the ladies, the emotional trauma and the indecisiveness to stick with the wrong guy is a huge lost that will take divine intervention to get bail.

Don't be facetiously ignorant Lexxy. The spiritual consequences for a man engaging in fornication could be very disastrous and life changing. They far outweigh the consequences on his female sex partner who may in fact be a runz girl going into the fornication game with her eyes wide open.

teemy: hello friend. since when did sleeping with one's wife become fornication? guess you made a wrong conclusion. no hard feelings ore

All your CODED posts here do indicate you have engaged in fornication.. But if you are now TRULY married then all well and good.

teemy: i came into this world not knowing how to put on a vcr, use the computer or play soccer but learning made the input chips of the almighty activated. all things can be learnt by s/he who wills, but there is a time and a place for all things

Hypocrite GET A LIFE. How does the life you live correspond with your words?

teemy: i am really pleased with reading sister ngokafor's testimony. God bless you dear. keep your resolve and help others achieve same. God bless you all.

STUPID TEEMY SPOUTING HYPOCRISY get a life man and stop fornicating

teemy: i am really pleased with reading sister ngokafor's testimony. God bless you dear. keep your resolve and help others achieve same. God bless you all.

Silly TEEMY SPOUTING HYPOCRISY get a life man and stop fornicating

oilykid: am nt surprised,if obj cud massacre helpless women n children in bayelsa,then kilin d old man was ntin to him..it runs in their blood

OILY CHILD just shut the hell up about Odi. Can't you be original for once?

mgbeketoto: OBJ THE MURDERER!!!!!!
Till today, no news is good news for NIGERIA and Nigerians!!!!
A country of MURDERERS!!!!!

MGBEKE WOMAN why not just SHUT THE HELL UP.

bisiopinion: My post is not for religious bigots but possibly a young guy or girl, who's considering having sex and is being told to sit down and read a bible. That's not going to help. At least know what your options are. If you want to wait fine, if you don't want to, that's fine also. There is nothing wrong with you.

Arrogant female poster talking a whole load of hogwash whilst spewing brainwashed Western Decadence. Get a life girl.
Fornication is immoral and children born out of wedlock as well as abortion is an inevitable consequence.

dotcom_na_me_na_me: Heyyy, very simple to agree with you, but on one condition,: Can you swear with God, Shango, Ogun, Shopono, Obatala, and Instant Death that u won't run from a man if u discover he is an impotent man after you got married to him and maybe you've waited for 3 to 5 years or not.. Oya Swear

Dumb poster asking daft questions and revealing his fetish inclinations. What concerns you with what happens after a couple is married? How does that concern you in any way shape or form.
If the couple are really Christians they know what to do anyway.

Waspy: Cos, to be realistic (Lying will make me more of a Sinner), Can a guy trully love a girl, say a chick like Genny or Mercy Johnson or Beyonce or K. kardash.......e.t.c and not imagine or attempt to go sensually physical with her?

Confused Wasp. There is a difference between lust and love you know.

jp philips: so when the fg puts a ban on basic commodities and the resulting inflation drops the par capital income further, what do you expect the LGA's to do?

yet the minister of economy failed to be circumspective in churning out such anti mases policies.

Another dumb demagogue . What federal economic policy has prevented the STATES AND LGAs from developing their domains. And NO the FGN DOESN'T have to be socialist or communist before the states provide basic infrastructure. That is not too much to ask.

Beastly Occupy Nigeria protesters and Dumb Demagogues. It is not the duty of Madam Ngozi to make any poster here rich or enable them to live in luxury. That is something you all have to figure out for yourselves.

leatherman:
It's not my fault that you don't understand what I wrote. God help you.

I maintain my stance as a NO to fornication. Cheers

I repeat you are totally confused and all over the place with your replies to this thread. Okay I get it now. You are just a hypocrite and actually practise fornication. GET A LIFE AND STOP FORMING.

ayo84: E go shock some guys, that while d babe dey form innonence and holier than thou, and trying to woo you into marrying her, and potraying to the whole world that she's a saint, there is one bad guy, who is hitting it so hard,

There are some ladies who have lived very horrendous sex lives, but they chabge location, come to a new town and hook up with an innocent brother.

Your point is what? Some girls are just not interested in fornication. Get over it. What is even your business as to how she lives her life if you don't want to marry her?

leatherman: Oh, you think "she chop clean mouth?"....A man's food is another man's poison, but some things are poisonous to all men when done outside boundaries.
In case you don't know, even water can be poisonous!

Confused man confusing others. What is it about the statement No to "fornication" you don't get. Yet you are applauding someone who learnt the hard way. Get a life man.

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For what? Learning from experience has always been costly not to talk of being very unwise. Everyone should know that fornication is wrong.

born_to_be_gr8t: After reading some of the comments here,it's very clear that people will never support anything they feel is against them irrespective of its element of truth, having said that ,I wish to say that every point I mentioned is jus my opinion and i am in no way forcing it on anybody, but inasmuch as the religion is concerned we shud remember that times are fast changing, and we shud change with time, cos if u dnt change with time ,time will change without u

Don't be so crass and foolish. Look if you can't exercise self-control man up and admit it . Stop deceiving gullible people here with your negative generalisations.
Be that as it may don't ever expect to become great whilst you continue your promiscuity in the name of "testing", that is if you have not already been dealt with by runz gals.

swezenberg: Seed how tribalism has blinded the eyes of many Nigerians to the point that their grand mothers and fathers regret ever producing their parents.

Tell me one thing this government has done that deserves to be applauded.

What is your point. Its now about Government and not about Okonjo-Iweala. However you should ask your state government what they have done since they came to power. STOP BEING SO NEGATIVE

scarred9jan: You don't know what ur missing *winking*

And what is she missing. All the carousing and fornicating you've done as a man what value has it added to your life?