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Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 11:08pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
sonnie10: Funny but true. The question is for how long can the man put up with this existential lifestyle whilst his mates are living big in Nigeria and elsewhere. 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 10:59pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
deebsman1: You are missing the point. Its like those things he mentioned come with the package of living in America. Its not really part of discretionary spending or luxuries. They are the essential outgoings of any working American. Any wannabe immigrant needs to pay careful attention to the list to envisage whether he would be able to control his monthly expenditure so as not to be sucked into a life of debt and denial. 1 Like |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 10:42pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
lemler:God bless you for your refreshing honesty and insight. Yes the OP is for some reason telling Nigerians that they should join him on the ratrace and debt treadmill. That's fine if the person has nothing reasonable doing in Nigeria or is visionless, BUT it is very bad advice for one who is called to do great things in Nigeria. It is not all about instant gratification and shallow American consumerism. In fact the guy is just annoyingly going on about working 70 hour shifts in some blue collar job whilst some people are making it big in Silicon Valley and Wall Street. Some people can dream big and actualise their dreams whilst others cannot see beyond their next paycheck. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:15pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Sarah a: Not every thing that we should be praying about,some time you need to take action .Ach the impetuousness of youth. First of all there is nothing like Heaven helps those who help themselves in the bible so be careful. Another thing marriage is one-chance as nobody is perfect. We are all work-in-progress in one way or the other. Finally this situation does not call for getting rid of anyone but careful repentance and discussion with the wife whereby her fears which may be irrational are calmed. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tensor77(m): 8:03pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Lots of people have given advice. But the crucial fact is that the OP is into a POLYGAMOUS MARRIAGE. This is not normal or regular especially in this day and age, so she should expect all the consequences that result n this kind of living arrangement. OP need to recover your self-respect and dignity by separating yourself and living your life right. |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 7:40pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Raptor X: I dont need to travel anywhere to know its all hype, all the ills you listed up there are not exclusive to Nigeria or Africa. You obviously have not visited America's inner cities were poverty, unemployment, and gun crimes are endemic and pervasive, i could give a flying fvck you live in a western country, while your mates you leftIt looks as if you are yapping but you are just being honest. Everyone is not the same. We have two groups of people affected. 1)Those who are made to go and hustle for dollars in Yankee by working as many hours of the day as possible to keep up with the bills and expectations of a highly consumerist society. 2) Those who are called to be leaders and managers in Nigeria. This category better stay in Nigeria apart from briefs stints in the West for training and education. 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 7:17pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
[quote author=lemler]In thinking about the perennial question whether to come to the US or not, whether you can make it in the US or not, I feel the correct question to ask yourself is this: How much will I make in the US over X number of years for me to leave Nigeria. You see, people saying you can make it here are not telling you the whole truth. Lets look at some issues: [\quote] 1. The average wage in the US for 2012 is $44,321.67 (about 8 million naira) This is what you can reasonably expect to earn after a Bachelor's degree. Without going into details, this is nothing if you have a family (for example, a standard daycare will easily cost you $9000 a year. If you cut corners, think of this- that person you are leaving your child with, is he/she a child molester?) Help me tell them. It looks a lot when you convert it to undervalued naira but you would find that it goes on bills and debt servicing 2. Nobody tell you the whole story: the OP in this thread mentioned living in Minnesota. While I have nothing agaainst livin there, but I people should also have the information that it is one of the coldest places in the US., with easily 6 months of winter (below freezing temperatures) And that is important for those who live in a tropical country and enjoy a free and easy outdoors lifestyle. Its not all about dollars 3. Nursing: Ah! The nigerian favourite. Since I work with nurses, I am aware of the situation. As an RN, you can make between 40-60, 000 working 4 days a week on the average. Sounds wonderful? Well, the whole story is that your salary does not change much over the years, meaning after 20 yrs on the job, there will be no huge difference, and remember, younger people are coming behind, and they will earn almost as you. This is why most people work 2 jobs which takes you out of the home 6 days a week, i2 hrs per day. Now you are begining to see why you have to pay the daycare 9000 dollars. Good points. The truth is that their is a huge demand for nursing thanks to America's demographics and lifestyle issues but there is a huge supply as well. That makes decelerates promotion depresses wages and makes split shift work the norm To truly evaluate people here, just ask them to tell you their net worth, meaning the difference between their assets(how much they have) and their liabilities (how much they owe). You will be suprised........ One odd thing about some Nigerians living in America. is why they have to keep going about how wonderful it is as if trying to convince themselves. The truth is they have all bought into the American culture of workaholism, huge debts and mortgages and coveting of expensive gadgets. 3 Likes |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 7:02pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Somorin#1:Will you guys just shut it about America. As I said it is not the best country in the world but if you want to believe the brainwashing stuff that comes from the mouth of the politicians it is up to you. All Western countries have excellent public schools and excellent health care delivery. Most don't have gun crime or a gun culture either. What is it about the yanks that they need to keep repeating that they are the greatest. Fine just enjoy it by yourself |
Politics / Re: Stella Oduah's CV Released By Senate by tensor77(m): 4:08pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
rudedough:Now that is what I call a very good question. Who would want to do that especially these days when they can be so easily acquired for cash? Its all highly irrelevant as Stella's CV shows that she is more than qualified for the job by work experience. |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 3:37pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
[quote author=jakaiso]Its Easy to Succeed in America For so long-I have heard about how difficlult it is for Nigerians and black people to succed in America. With evidence I have come to the conclusion that this is actually the opposite. Indeed a new book by Yale law professor Amy Chua lists Nigerians amongst 7 other cultural groups as those most likely to succeed in America-this has only confirmed my observations.[\quote] Needless point. The likes of Martin Luther King have long ensured that blacks have as much opportunity to make it as whites [quote author=jakaiso]I have lived in Nigeria,the UK, Ghana and been to other several countries-but I can tell you that IT IS EASY TO SUCCEED IN AMERICA. By success of course I mean- the ability to prosper financially and earn enough money to allow you to live comfortably. Bros-if you are planning to come to America-please come, abeg come...there is milk and honey flowing here! [\quote] Milk and honey flow in Nigeria as well as many other countries in the world[\quote] [quote author=jakaiso]Dont get me wrong-you can succeed in Nigeria as well-but if your dream is to come to America-please come. All you need to do is to follow some simple rules-and success is yours. Forget about all the so called bad things you hear happening in America-its less than 0.00001% of life in America and bad things happen every where. White people are not going to go make life difficult for you. Just obey the rules (and I know sometimes Nigerians find it diccult to obey rules), work smart, not just hard,save money and THINK. There is gun culture and gun crime in America. That makes it more violent than Europe [quote author=jakaiso]You might have heard that blacks are discriminanted against here. The truth is that sectionalism whether it be racism, tribalism, neoptisim occurs everywhere in the world. There are Ibos who hate Yorubas and Yorubas who hate Hausas and Hausas who hate Ijaws and Ijaws who hate Oginis. There are even Ibadan people who hate Ijebu people (yet there are both Yoruba). In Anambra-there are two communities- both speaking the same languagae who have been at war with each othere for decades-with many lives lost.[\quote] Quite silly to compare racism with tribalism in Nigeria which is mainly a vehicle to attain political relevance. 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 3:01pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
akpan123: l don t think he said , everyone should move to the usa, l believe the advise is for those that want to come over or are in the process of coming over.I hope that is whom is post is meant for. I would not like a scenario where people who could be OR are on the cusp of making in Nigeria are lured to USA by this elementary learner manual. However it looks as if the OP post is targeted at those who are just looking to earn money in America by working as hard and as long as possible as opposed to those who would just go there to equip themselves before returning home for nation-building. 1 Like |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 2:45pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Raptor X: Why dont you tell people to stay back and fix their country, instead of painting all these rosy picture of American which in most part are not true. Talking about nurses how many nurses does a country needs, like somebody said earlier stop clogging up the oyinbo man countries and fix yours.I wonder . Truth is east or west home is the best. |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 2:14pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
PBundles: I applaud you achievements, but read carefully my point. Im not saying one cant make it to the contrary...Im just saying its NOT THE BEST COUNTRY TO LIVE IN.Then you are wise. OP Speak for yourself. You think everyone is crazy about America. The answer is No I don't want to go to America. Enjoy it yourself if you want. You should be talking about how to make Nigeria better instead of trying to encourage the gullible to leave Nigeria. |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 2:04pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
romero: tks for ur educative and eye opening post. God bless u, d giver in Js name. Amen. Kindly help me. I intend to relocate to America for a change of environment. I like it easy;I want a transformation of life; peoppe tel me Naija doesn't fit me except abroad. I also agree with them. I currently do businesses, Iam a landlord with tenants. I have almost N10mllion at my disposal. Unfortunately, I don't no anyone in US to stay with. I want u tell tell me what I can do to get visa to live in my dream country. I eagerly anticipate ur response. tnk uBetter know what you want for yourself and be content with what you have. If what you wrote is true you better stay in Nigeria and ignore this workaholic advice. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Travel / Re: How To Make It As A Nigerian In America In 2014 by tensor77(m): 2:01pm On Jan 10, 2014 |
Who is this OP guy. What's your business? Please every man should focus on what works for them |
Politics / Re: Check Out Photos Of Ex Abia Governor, Orji Uzor Kalu Living In Opulence! by tensor77(m): 7:21am On Jan 09, 2014 |
ketoprofen:Error of judgement there. Ojukwu's prime mover was always political power, not secession or primordial tribal politics. No doubt if he had the means in 1967 he would have removed Gowon and seized power for himself. |
Politics / Re: Check Out Photos Of Ex Abia Governor, Orji Uzor Kalu Living In Opulence! by tensor77(m): 9:43pm On Jan 07, 2014 |
ilugunboy:I am not sure what your point is. We are on about which towns have modern housing you are there talking about the 1920s. So a house built 100 years ago cannot be modernized and redeveloped? |
Politics / Re: Check Out Photos Of Ex Abia Governor, Orji Uzor Kalu Living In Opulence! by tensor77(m): 9:38pm On Jan 07, 2014 |
ketoprofen:And why should they have voted for Ojukwu? Was he a better leader than Buhari or Obasanjo. I am not aware that he won a single election since he returned from Ivory Coast in 1983 which should tell you something. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 2:17pm On Jan 07, 2014 |
ledafaze:Nobody is perfect. Besides I strongly suspect that there is a breakdown in communication here. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 11:25am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Lordlexyy: And what meaninful contribution have you made thus far than siding your woman counter part and her evil genuises. A man marries his wife not for him alone but also for his family. People like you had cornered your husband and you want to force it down everyone's throat. A man's child is his parents kid, he/she bears the family's name. All this manipulative tendency to run and alienate the man from his family is sheer wickedness. I can only wish every woman what they wish the op, because what you sow, you will surely reap.You are just stereotyping and as usual turning this to a battle of the sexes which really its not what marriage is all about. It is a union whereby two separate individuals become one flesh, one spirit and one soul. Hence as the leader all a man's words and deeds concerning his marriage must have this goal in mind. A contrary spirit would just rupture the home. I am a man but I have to be upfront with the OP. Its entirely up to him whether he takes my advice on board or not. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 9:33am On Jan 07, 2014 |
rebecca167: @ op, don't you have bamboo tree around ur house? If u have, use it to flog her out of your home. If you don't, I can charter a trailer load of it where ever you are in 9ija land.Is that the best you can come up with. Physical violence because he refused to have his way. Well you are wrong on many levels. In this scenario the OP should place is wife and kids first. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 9:29am On Jan 07, 2014 |
ledafaze: OP,Another posts full of unguarded utterances. You are definitely not a Christian as your comments betray you. This is his wife we are talking about here not girlfriend. There is a big difference. What grounds would he have for divorcing her, scattering his home and breaking his marital vows? That he stubbornly insisted on taking is kids to MIL without his wife's consent, and his wife started acting up. That sounds childish. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Stella Oduah Lied About Her MBA Degree - Sahara Reporters by tensor77(m): 9:01am On Jan 07, 2014 |
ndu_chucks: I will not believe this story until I have concrete evidence of the following:Yes I would be sad and disappointed if it is true BUT there has to be strong evidence. You know just because some of Stella's supporters are paranoid does not mean that they are not out to get her. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:43am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Johnnycife:Its just that I detest people generalising when it comes to very specific circumstances like this. The Bible says by their fruits we shall know them. By the OP'S posts on this thread it is pretty clear the kind of person he is and why his spouse has reacted the way she has. Well he has been given good advice as well as some clearly twisted mule-headed utterances. Its up to him to choose which ones to follow. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:30am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Pastor Olu T: "If the foundation be destroyed what can the righteous do?"Don't judge. What God has joined together let no man put asunder. You really are kidding yourself if you think that the wife would have gone along with his plans to send the kids from to MIL if they had not had premarital sex. He is just bringing that up to spite the woman as if he were not the one that initiated the act. Maybe he even went to the fellowship specifically to look for a wife rather than because he is a "brother". His words and actions betray that he has never been one. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 8:22am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Johnnycife: I want to know where your wife is from, I have some how come to realize that most of the women from the south don't respect their husbands--mind you before somebody misquotes me I said not all. They always want to take laws into their hands sometimes if you are not careful they may even beat you up, especially now that we have been seeing head lines of women using kitchen knives to cutoff the manhoods of their husbands. Women of these last days honestly are getting really weird I know that I'm 22yr and am not married but I cannot give a phantomable report of the woman that is in our house now because that now na fire.Johnny Jony SHUT UP. If you are just 22 years old bachelor to boot why start generalising. Respect is a two-way street and in this scenario the OP selfish actions and self-indulgent attitude have led to his marital probems. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 7:32am On Jan 07, 2014 |
Kirinwa:Your words betray that you are still a kid. Is it compulsory to comment? |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 7:25am On Jan 07, 2014 |
slightlyMad:See how you get things twisted. This case is not about acting out outdated inaccurate stereotypes as to what it takes to be a man, as if it is a Nollywood movie. The issue is really a very specific problem that is threatening to tear the home apart. Namely the security and custody of the children. The solution is communication. I suppose that the OP has very unwisely acted like a dictator and taken steps with regards the kids without discussion and consent of the wife carelessly thinking that she would go along with whatever he decides. It doesn't work like that in such a charged sensitive matter. This is precisely the time for the OP to apply tact, wisdom and discretion as opposed to using caveman tactics. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Divorce And The Suffering Of The Nigerian Women! by tensor77(m): 11:54pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
paris10: As in the norms in Nigeria, women who get divorced or are been thrown out of their matrimonial homes by their husbands tend to lose out alot.This post would have been excellent BUT for the fact that it advocates rewarding promiscuity. No way. A promiscuous spouse should live with and deal with the consequences of her actions upon divorce. That is all. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 11:29pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
TechWalker007:That is something that has always struck me. |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 11:23pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
apache77:You do realise that you haven't solved the problem. You have in fact been using the threat of violence to maintain peace in your relationship. Now the question is what if your partner has not forgiven you for almost beating her to death in public but has secretly vowed to take vengeance. She could well be biding her time as women do. Yet foolishly you are coming here to brag instead of being remorseful and repentant for your animalistic behaviour. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: What Sort Of Devilish Wife Did I Marry? by tensor77(m): 11:10pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
TechWalker007:One of the few posters here that has written with wisdom insight and understanding. Which begs the question who are these guys on this thread just chatting bullshit. What is wrong with them that they have to contribute to this delicate matter even though they have nothing constructive to add. |
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