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So I was talking with my girlfriend today while we were settling an affair issue. She then offered that if I wanted a chance to possibly regain her love again, I had to accept not to have sexual intercourse with her for 90 days, within which if I stayed faithful, she'll accept me again.

I turned down the offer which led to our breakup because I belive that sex should not be used as a tool to for punishment or reproof, but as a healing experience. I also felt that such a term is a misplaced priority because sex should not be the ultimate thing she can offer. Sex can be gotten from any other girl. If she feels like sex is her biggest investment then she has failed as a girl.

So my question to you is... If your girl gave you the same condition, would you take the offer?

MrBrownJay1:
Very simple:
The friend of your woman (who, by the way, probably knows more about her than you) is YOUR friend. You would/should certainly spend time together (aka tell him to invite his wife and you all go out together), get to know the person who spends so much time with your woman and since he is her best friend, he will be around you guys a lot (whether you like it or not). You have to look at this man as YOUR ally, because there will be times when HE will get you out of trouble.

Bro, that's the man that your woman turns to when she is upset, has worries, when she is too afraid to share stuff with you (YES, you should be the one that your woman turns to for such thing, but we all know how some won't, even if you are the most open man on earth)

by the time you get to know this man, you will certainly understand that he is harmless, and can help you in many ways than you can think of:
-if you don't understand your woman, talk to him, he will fill you in.
- If you don't know what she really like (with anything) ask him....especially on bdays.
- if you can't get a hold of her, call him FIRST.
- if you want to surprise her, ask for his help
Etc etc etc

Again, if your woman has nothing to hide, she will have absolutely no problem with having this man around you...and if you can't stand the sight of the people your woman spend most of her time with, then I suggest you find another babe to be with.

Respect bro. This is good stuff.

MrBrownJay1:
There is a huge difference between a soul mate and a bestfriend... some people out there have been friends for more than 20yrs, people they' ve known since childhood who know everything about one another and care for one another in a fantastic level.... yet some deluded insecure dude will come into this woman' s life and expect to challenge this +10yrs friendship?!?!?!?! You insecure men make NO DAMN SENSE!!!!
NO wonder these bestfriends would hate your guts, if you think they cannot meet their "friend" because of your childish insecurities....

The only reason you would even think in such a foul manner is because your misplaced ego would automatically believe that this man is after your woman or that he is playing/plotting against your happiness or that they having sex.

Then how do we deal with this insecurity. Educate us. Because it seems you've gotten over it.

Abfinest007:
u have failed as a boyfriend if your girlfriend have a male bestie apart from you.learn to play discuss with ur girl

Yeah, but not entirely. Why does it have to be a failure on the part of the boyfirend? What's stopping the girl from making her guy her bestie?

Besides, failure as a boyfriend does not translate to being a failure at life..

Probably only if they are HIV positive and want to end youe career.

Guys thanks for your comments. I know we are helping a lot of guys in the same situation.
Let's also know that by Male Bestie, I don't mean Male Friend. We all know what we mean by a "Bestie". They can do almost everything together that even she and her boyfriend cannot,
.

I was having a discussion with a girl last night and she confessed to me of how she has always been deeply in love with her male bestie even while in a relationship. I've also observed the same trend in other relationships where the girl eventually falls for the bestie as soon as she has a problem with her boyfriend.

So my question guys is: "how do you handle the fact that your girlfriend has a male bestie who she is very comfortable with and who might not be living in the friend zone?"

"Why can't your girlfriend make you her bestie?"

CC
Ubunja
Haddon
and all the Misseducateds, Legends and guys in Nairaland

A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because,they refused giving them sex,some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys

muller101:
competition increases productivity

No. Competition encourages duplication. It's INNOVATION that encourages productivity and monopoly.

Nice write up. Lets keep them coming. Critics are welcomed too but meaningless comments will be ignored by defualt.

Logobenz:
Could be a scam!
How did the guy that put up his number get It?
I'm not sure though But let's just clear the air and see beyond some things that look like a charade.
Not calling it a charade yet though.
I am sure it must be money related.inside life ehn!

check the guy's posts please. Dont be this inhuman.

Sad... My birthmate as a matter of fact. Him own better sef... He had a wife, a car and an apartment. Me stilll dey 300level and am still optimistic of a good life. I don't see how suicide will solve his problems when life can be sweet. Sha people go through a lot of deep stuff.

Am sure he meant during his autopsy.

Ladies will soon storm here and start shouting Purple Pill, The Box, The Circle.

Here we go again!

The information about the drug possessing sterilization effects and resulting to permanent inability to concieve is TOTALLY FALSE!

AnalQueenluci:
I forsaw more gruesome MANIPULATIONS as you opined .
I pity u guys

a. Pity - Emotions, irrational
b. Education- Logical, Rational
i'll take b please.

AnalQueenluci:
I forsaw more gruesome MANIPULATIONS as you opined .
I pity u guys

a. Pity - Emotions, irrational
b. Education- Logical, Rational
i'll take b please.

AnalQueenluci:
I forsaw more gruesome MANIPULATIONS as you opined .
I pity u guys

a. Pity - Emotions, irrational
b. Education- Logical, Rational
i'll take b please.

I doubt if any rational person will ever opt to subscribe to your channel because it is clear that it has no Value to offer.

I hope that your prospesed miseducations will not be geared towards countering what Ubunja has spoken about, or about a way for females to develop new strategies to further MANIPULATE men, or an antidote for the redpill. Women face a lot of problem in relationships like some of you rightly pointed and I expect that your miseducations will focus on identifying and providing solutions to these problems.

Shatta Banddles distant cousin I guess. Don't attack people. Present facts and ideas and we'll listen to you. You sound like you're below 18.

We really need to start a training course for those naive guys out there still bowing low to so called pussy power. Imagine if he had invested that 300k to enroll into a course that teaches financial freedom and wealth creation, or even bought some of ILegend's books... ?

Guys Beware!!!

It's not suprising that we are yet to see a single rule from the ladies... Think of it... Asking irrational thinkers to produce a set of rational rules. Rules are for rational and logical thinkers. Their emotions will always get in the way.

Someone collected money.

All I see are needy, Nice guy, pussy starved SMSes.

If girls were not so manipulative, and are honest about their sexuality, then we won't be talking about cheating.

Like I always say... That little shakara you are doing to hurt is ego is opening a portal for your replacement.

Hail: Ubunja Harddon, iLegend.

Somebody5589:
Period ending on Thursday isn't day 1, but day 3-5, depending on how long her period lasts, and also assuming she's someone with a 21day cycle of 35day cycle she'd probably be ovulating earlier than usual, and if the sperm is quite fertile it'd also last longer than usual..Point is she probably had sex on day 8 of her cycle which is during her fertile window, means she has a MEDIUM chance of getting pregnant..

Solution now is that, you should be hopeful depending on the outcome you want, nothing else can be done
P.S Abortion is never the solution

Thanks for the addition.

Op there might be a solution if you can confirm that she is actually pregnant. I suggest you do a strip test possibly 10 days after the intercourse.

It possible if she ovulates early after her period otherwise chance MAYBE low. Since it is not easy to pinpoint when ovulation starts, it is really hard to give a final answer. Also if ovualtion doesn't occur immeduately after her period, sperm can survive for upto 7 days and if she ovulates during these seven days after the intercourse then she may get pregnant.
So heres the breakdown...
►Period ended on thursday... Lets call it Day 1
►had unprotected sex on Sunday... 3 days later = day 4
►Assuming (hypothetically) sperm lives for 7 days = 4 + 7= 11days after her mensuration,corresponding to exactly day 14 of her cycle.
If her period lasted 4 days then she most likely has a 28 day cycle and ovulation starts at day 14.
You can now see that she is most likely going to get pregnant if you ejaculated completely and the sperm last 7 days in her. If they don't live upto seven days then you might be safe!

Best regards!

The first line of action would have been to give her postinor 2 after the intercourse. It obviously too late for that now. All you have to do is keep your fingers crossed.

Dating drills by Hardon is a thread that chaged the way I dealt with relatuonships for the better. The wisdom in that thread is priceless. if you really wanted to up your ga,e with girls, then that's the best place to start.

Recently though the thread has not been active. I think we need to revive it and preserve its precious wisdom so that other guys can benefit.

Hardon's Dating Drills + Ubunja's Miseducations = Super Redpill!