@ weev

The lady in that pic looks mixed. You are right. To a white person you look a little dark and to a black person you are definitely white. I guess i have seen too many shades of black so much that it is easy to tell.

To put my own 50 cents on the interracial issue, i don't have a problem with it. I don't need to marry for paper or anything and yet my ex-fiancee was white. I guess it is a matter of love. I have found out that your skin color has nothing to do with love but it does have a lot to do with other things. I have seen interracial marriages that stood the test of time. So i have no problem with it.

Happiness is what is important here. Does the guy in Naija make her happy or is she just planning to marrying him because she feels she has no other option?
For me sha o, she needs to ask the American bobo why he did not call or write her for 2 years! A marriage that is based on convenience may not see the light of dawn. She needs to go with the one that makes her happy. Note that i didn't say love but said happiness.

you are better off without him. If he can contemplate cheating on his wife, he would have done thesame to you.

Love is joy, love is peace and love is pain.

Love is the joy you feel when you are around that special someone or think of that special someone.

Love is the peace that comes over you when you are in the arms of that special person

Love is the pain you feel whenever you hurt that special person (unknowingly of course )

I can go on and on but will never reach the end of it. Love happens to be the hardest thing in the world to define. Great poets and writers have tried to no avail. Even William shakespear couldn't.

Love is a feeling that clouds one's sense of reasoning.

Like you asked, i would be very respectful and not insinuate anything. But you really have to take a look at the situation critically. Are you scared of being hurt? Did you have a good relationship with your dad as a child? Is this religion-based? There is always some kind of psychological reason behind decisions that we make. If it is one of the goals that you've outline for yourself, that is understandable (i.e finishing school first before relationship). But if it is not, there must be a subconscious reason why you would rather have buddies than boyfriends. We should not confuse morals with the natural workings of the mind and body. What I'm trying to say is that, if it is a conscious decision by you, then no problem, a lot of people do that. But if for some reason you are just not so inclined, then look deeper. Hope i have not confused you more.

How about just telling the girl that you couldn't help but notice her and you would like to get to know her? ask for her name and number and give her a call to ask her out later. That seems to work for me. I don't think you need an elaborate scheme or line nowadays. Trust me, most girls already know if you are their type before you even open your mouth. Sometimes we guyz even ruin it by opening our mouths with these ye-ye lines. Just be yourself.

Please don't tell a girl that you are meeting for the first time that you love her o! Her answer might be, "what exactly do you love about me? you don't even know me!!"

"Love is a thing that grows out of familiarity while Infactuation, on the other hand, occurs at first sight" (copy right - thagodfada).

I am not going to say i am an expert when it comes to kissing, all i know is that i have made quite a few girls quaver or buckle at the knees just by kissing them.
There is no one way or perfect way to kiss. Your method may not work for someone else. It is all about being very relaxed, sensual and being able to feel your partner's emotions through her lips. That is what you respond to. That gives you a clue on when to be soft and gentle, when to be hard and when to pull back.
Every woman knows how she wants to kissed, so it is her duty to let her boyfriend know if he is doing a bad job. But be gentle about it. For example, you can say "darling i would rather you kiss me this way cause it sets my body on fire!! "

I have started a few fires myself

I wouldn't if it is a cold. It is not about love but common sense. But a cough is different. It could be due to a lot of things and it may not be infectious. But if it is a cold, chances are you might catch it (kiss or no kiss )

There is nothing wrong with a girl making the first move. I have had girls give me their numbers and ask me to call them and i never had a problem with it. I just think some people know what they want and, depending on their level of confidence, would go to certain lengths to get it.
If the girl wait make you make the first move she fit wait forever O! That does not make her cheap!!!

Byt i agree with some of you guyz sha o! We men are hunters and like the lion we like to hunt and kill our own food. A lion doesn't eat well prepared barbecue ribs

My point is, we guyz treasure the hunt more but sure appreciate a free booty now and then. So my broda, tap that assand more power to you