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If a lady should stay with a cheating man, there are many things involved:

1) She's not faithful herself

2) Some benefits she's enjoying from the man and can't afford to lose

3) She might have some dangerous plans to nail him down. The man should be very careful. She might be planning a grievous revenge.

4) She doesn't know where to start from if she leaves the man i.e she gat no other options and she depends solely on him especially if there are kids involved etc. She might have also over invested herself in the relationship.

5) Societal discrimination: In a bid to avoid being the subject of gossip and unpleasant reference among friends, colleagues, family members, neighbours and even siblings, some women have had to put up with cheating husbands. She might also stay put in order to avoid being blamed for the failure of the marriage.

Sibtygar:
Funny enough I have read this thread upto around page 18 before asking questions. Coming to nairaland and to romance section, after some comment from some people I decided to take a peep but right now I think the redpill is bad, like really bad

Please pardon me if this reply will derail this thread more further.

This exact feeling is what one feels when you are first being introduced to the Red Pill. Because of the fantasy that you have before getting to know all these, it will be very hard to accept but trust me when you finally get to understand the message behind TRP Philosophy you would wish to have known all these earlier on.

If you really want to learn, you'll first erase all the fantasy you've once had and you might be saying this simply because you haven't been a victim of women's manipulations or deceits. Experience is the best teacher they say but why must you wait to experience something bad before you learn? Why can't you use the story of those people that once experienced it and use it to your own advantage and try to avoid falling into the same error they did?

And please, TRP isn't about teaching men on hating women. I have repeated this several times. It's about enlightening men on women's nature and how to deal with it accordingly. If you still can't understand this message then nothing can convince you any further. Peace be with you.

Instrumentalng:
I guess that person is a girl hiding under the male account
Women I know how they reason
Only a man wey woman never do something
De talk like that

Of course! Even if he claims to be male, his reasoning is same as female, no offence! The best thing to do is to ignore him/her and stop quoting him/her.

When the person behind the moniker learns to read to understand not reply then maybe we can give him/her the attention he/she seeks. SMH. He/She will learn when the time is right (Sarcasm).

Are you trying to narrate the movie "Fatal Affair" ?

Visit Life Matters Nigeria Page on Facebook and you'll see different stories on how men are still simping around on women and narrating their heartbreak stories. Its just so sad. Anytime I read men stories on that page, I just keep thinking that are some men really that dumb?

SIMPs are a disgrace to Manhood. In this current generation, some men are still simping joyfully. SMH.

CAPSLOCKED:
OGA,
IF YOU LIKE GIVE HER YOUR HEAD, LUNGS AND KIDNEYS. THE DAY SHE'LL LEAVE SHE'LL GO WITH THE GUY THAT GAVE HER ORDINARY GALA, AND PROVIDE ENOUGH NONSENSE EXCUSES TO JUSTIFY HER ACTION.

Exactly!. You just said my mind. Some men will never learn. If that guy had invested so much in his wellbeing, family or business, he would have been more proud of himself.

Like I always say and I repeated myself again to @Fact1 few days ago. It's women that led most men to TRP. You'll surely learn when woman show you shege. Its just sad. Some men came across this knowledge for free and ignored it. When they became victims of women's manipulations and deceits, they come back looking for it when its too late. SMH.

mrkings84:
In a union ordained by God Himself, divorce is a NO NO!!

If it was ordained by God or if God was involved in the relationship progress, Divorce won't happen

Fact1:
Okay sir but if we think ham this way
The girl is so beautiful aswear,,,,,she get for front and back,,,,,,no man can resist,,,,,,,,,,,

We've been together for months she's not a carelesss spender,,,,,,,
She said it just because she might need money urgently and she's also working,,,,,,,,,

LOL! I thought you were against the Red Pill Philosophy. So why do you have to come back here to seek an advice?

The thing about the Red Pill is that it's women that led most men to TRP. You go learn the hard way when woman show you shege. SMH.

Dpsychologist:
Whoever it is.
It is an example to drive home my point.

I love what you did there. There's no point trying to argue who the said person in the picture is as long as the point the OP is trying to clarify is understood. I would also agree that the person in the picture is DJ Cuppy but there's no need for argument.

Resist The Urge To Shalaye - RTUTS

Thazard:
I can't forget about it.It's just 6 month's old.I can't afford another one.

I have to find it somehow.

I lost two 40K plus phones in 6 months. 3 months each. I didn't die. I'm using one small phone now and I'm thanking God. Na who dey alive dey use phone. Take heart bro. Just forget about it. The cost of tracing the phone and the stress might not worth it. Well, I won't discourage you.

Dpsychologist:
I recommend the movie, Marriage story it is a real life account of the divorce a movie director undergo.

I loved the movie. Interesting!

dollarstays:
enough with the importance .....lets set the pace in this set piece!.... NEXT:: STRUCTURE OF SMV

I wouldn't like to interrupt you but you posting all these will likely derail the thread. We should wait for the OP to do that

Joker09:
Redpillers, I have a question that's been bugging me. Pls is taking a girl out on a 'date' sensible at all? Or it is a beta move?
Coz I want to believe a girl that likes u should be the one to choose u and not give u any stress after you've exchanged contacts and talked on phone.

Taking a girl out on a date doesn't invalidate TRP philosophy or make someone less alpha. What invalidate the teachings is taking a girl on a date just to impress her especially a girl you just met because you feel you don't have her attraction and you think you can earn it by doing that. If you are to take a girl on a date, then you must have verified the girl is attracted and interested in you before making that move. Women are attracted to you mostly on the first meet so you should know where you stand through her body languages and actions before thinking of a date.

You should be the one to decide the success or failure of that outing.
Texting a girl on WhatsApp too doesn't make one a Beta, just don't do what SIMPs do. For example, if you just collected a girl's number, don't call her on that day, call her maybe 2 days after and don't show your desperation or act like you haven't seen a lady before. Always act cool and always expect 'No' for an answer so you can move on quickly.

If you collected the number and found out its the same number she used for her WhatsApp account, don't text her through WhatsApp, even if you see her suggestion on Facebook don't add her. The first time you talk after collecting her number, call her (after few days) and ask her or suggest it will be better if you guys can talk better and ask if this is her WhatsApp number or something similar, her response and actions towards you will let you know how you'll determine your next move.

Pstarogood0100:
Please I have a question.

Is it profitable for a guy to show a lady that he his jealous about her dating another guy or other guys are drooling over her.

We guys need to show our woman in one way or the other that we truly care and love. Not showing jealousness can also implies that we don't love. Because, if we truly love, we should be jealous.

FOR ME I don't like showing my woman that am jealous even if I am and, It has been profitable for me though. But, am still verifying the application of not showing jealousness in relationships.

WHAT'S YOUR TAKE ON THIS

Is it good to show it, weather its fake or not.

PLEASE, intelligent contributions needed based on your experience and wisdom not just mere knowledge.

Well, for me I'm very unpredictable in this case I.e. I decide when to be jealous LOL! Let me explain.

Sometimes, when a girl really loves you she does things on purpose just to make you feel jealous, or angry stuffs like that just to make you react (I can sense if this is the case immediately I see it) this is the time I act as if I didn't even see you and act very normal for example, she may try discussing about a guy that's disturbing her or upload a guy's picture on her status then I tease her when chatting that mehn accept that guy now, he's handsome this and that you grab na LOL! This will keep her thinking that shey this guy nor like me ni? When you've mastered this technique very well they won't even try to make you jealous again sef because they will say this one nor dey jealous (I mean act of jealousness not cheating oo)

The key is that when she naturally expects you to be jealous, don't be. Act very normal even tease her with it. When she doesn't expect it, that's when you act that way (not that you're really feeling jealous). Like for example, when you're walking with her you can say see how guys are looking at you they want to collect you from my hand abi? I can't let any man touch you oo.. say it but don't act like she's one and only blah blah blah like SIMPs do .. you grab?
Sometimes a little show of jealousy is good bro. It strengthen love. Just don't do like a SIMP.

NB: I've known this technique even before I came across TRP and it works like magic if you know how to use it very well!.

Trex4:
Please does Anyone know the answer to this question? Cc. Luminouz Skepticus

If she doesn't reply then you move on bro! Why get into mood changes because of unreplied messages? That girl that didn't reply your own message is waiting for another guy to reply hers and give her attention. You waiting for a girl to reply seems you are desperate and you might begin to do what SIMPs do in order to get a girl's attention. I read about a guy that sent #50K to a girl just because she replied his message LOL!.
Just forget about it since she's neither your sister nor your relative. She doesn't even know you.

This is what I usually do: if I text a girl and I didn't see any reply, I won't send another message until that earlier message is replied. Rejection doesn't mean you aren't doing things right. Even those playboys get rejected more often than its known but they move on quicker and focus on what's ahead. If a girl is attracted and interested in you, you won't go through stress and her actions or body language towards you will tell you that.

Faber:
See as una dey defend a random girl you guys don't even know and may not meet till you guys die. Pussy-niggars. My post don expose all of una.

Bro, you still don't understand what they are trying to tell you. Well, there's no point trying to explain further or prove anything to you because it will only lead to more argument and risk of thread getting derailed. Just suit yourself bro.

#Peace

JasperVII:
I just posted that same thing on my WhatsApp status and funny enough a female course mate supported it and said they're saying the truth.

Just imagine bro! Many ladies lost their integrity a long time ago. I just pity the poor guy that's gonna date or wife them. SMH

JasperVII:
Women in-group bias

LOL! We all know how narrow their thinking can be so I'm not surprised by a ho's comment

Dpsychologist:
NOTICE
I know most of you have missed for some days now.
However, I have been seriously sick since on sunday, that is why i was unable to update this thread. Even as i am typing this now i am finding it very difficult to type. You guys should wish me a quick recovery.

I will encourage you guys to keep the legacy going. No matter the setback we ride till the end. When i am medically fit i will join you guys soon.

Dpsychologist

Love you so much bro. I wish you fast recovery

Faber:
Hehehehehe...better begin take the red pill and wise up o... If you are yet to do so.

A girl forming single bla bla bla for me. I just ask her for some of her pics... From the pics I discovered she is a lying hole...

Only veterans for the game will discover the clue. Never trust these people.

#TRPTheBestPill

Hmm, lecture us on it bro. Give us the clue

Brunosamel:
yes we are, she gave me her virginity...

Alright then

Brunosamel:
thanks bro I have tried talking to her but she is not giving me a listening ears, she have refuse to pick my call... I love her and I have never cheated on her although she have been acting lately I guess thats the way she want it to be I can't do other wise...

Then ignore her, if she's not giving you listening ears then it's her headache not yours. Don't call her. Don't let any girl to emotionally drain you. Just focus on yourself bro and keep handling productive activities.

When she comes around, Don't be so cheap, let her chase you then after a while calm her down and hurt her with the truth. Tell her you won't tolerate that type of attitude any longer. If she doesn't trust you or she brings up any similar issues like this that you won't have any choice than to stop the relationship with her since you can't be with who can't trust you. I guess you guys are in a sexual relationship right? Hope she's faithful also sha ?

Brunosamel:
@Dpychologist

Please is there anything wrong with this sms
Cuz my girlfriend broke with me because of it this morning

Hmm, to my own opinion, you don't need to acknowledge that women are flocking you, of course she sees that, saying that will just hurt her more. Hope your words is not contradicting with your actions? Like hope you're not doing things that will make her keep questioning your love for her? Its true to always let ladies be on their toes that you can always leave but it has to come in moderation bro but don't be dependent on her and don't let her take you for granted or disrespect you.

Ladies find it hard to trust guys that are ladies man, but since you've assured her but she's still doubting you (I hope you're not cheating also) then just act normal around her and ignore her when she brings it up again, that if she cannot trust you she should let you be. But if she insists, there's a chance she might be cheating also.

That's why in my own opinion, Men need to very careful when dealing with women. I usually recommend dating the said woman very well and not just dating but getting to know her deeply, finding out about her friends, family and asking questions about her from people she's well known to (undercover job). Sometimes the red flags are there but we tend to ignore them. That's why the knowledge of red pill is important. But sometimes I do think Karma comes to play.

Some men might have hurt so many women before they settled down and when Karma comes to play we tend to judge the women in question not knowing that the woman the said man married is Karma herself paying back all the evil the guy did. Some Men are very dangerous also, so as Women.

Why we hear of so many breakups and infidelity in marriages these recent times is because many people got married for the wrong reasons. They don't even go through the normal process before they start calling themselves couples and when the problems starts they put the blame on themselves and seeking solutions where there's not.

Akinbahm:
Exactly they will find ways to shift the blame, always hold her for her actions she's is a human not animal that's why The Creator gave us thinking faculty to think b4 doing things.

If she gonna play by ur rules nd u wanna marry her true true u can reconsider her provided she never fvck another dude and if shes willingly to submit to you biko never break her heart

I always let her face the charge when she does something wrong and I applaud her when she does something right. She respects me for this.

Yes, that was my plan for her. Although this was what I had in mind, if she fvcked, then she's a gonner already.

Akinbahm:
Everything to me seems to be planned by her but you didn't allow her to execute it her way i.e u outsmarted her to her game kudos to you.

At the emboldened, are you sure she didnt have s3x with the other dude if she did red card straight up and if she didn't and you are 100% sure not 99% biko continue the relationship with her...

At the italicized dont allow her to play the victim card for u and dont be lenient with her.

The part she said she was waiting for u b4 she allowed the dude, never accept any mediocre behavior/attitude from a lady who left u for another guy. Shes trying to shift the blame on you for the stupid act she does dont fall for the guilt shit.

The part she said she realized the other dude is not serious dont mind her she came to understand that you were better than the guy in all ramifications she's weighed you both and she realized u are a better man to the other dude.

The gift, I think she's trying to use it to soften your mind for you to relate with her i.e trying to hook your attention with the gift.

Note: if you found out she fvcked another dude biko dont hesitate to help her with her loads to the nearest pack.

My observation based on what you typed up there Good nyt bro!

That's just it. That's women nature, they will still find a way to push the blame. She wanted to be emotional so I could pity her not knowing that I've already calculated her steps with red pill lenses. Even if she bleeped or not that's none of my concern because to be honest I feel like I should let her be.

She's just trying win me back and even if we are to get back together she's gonna play by my rules or she's out completely! If I'm to be a cruel guy, I will just toy with her emotions and dump her later but I don't do that. I will just let her be.. Thank you Sir

Dpsychologist:
Seems she want you guys to get back

Love is just stressful sometimes. I'm still in my development phase. I don't wanna commit for now. She can get along with other guys. I will still keep the relationship in a platonic way.

Sorry if this will derail the thread

What's your take on exes giving gifts after breakups?

We've known each other for 4 years plus. My ex-girlfriend brought me a cloth gift today, she said because she didn't give me gift on my birthday which was couple months ago that she decided to bring this for me and we've broken up long before my birthday and this is not the first time this kind of scenario occurred. She's generally hot tempered but she cares or so I thought lol.

This is actually what happened after the last breakup. Although we've broken up a couple of times too before this one but we keep coming back again

When we reconciled, she told me when we were apart (breakup), some bleeped up things happened, I said some bleeped up things as what? I asked her that did she date another person? did you have sexual relations or romance with another person? she said no. In my mind I said what bleeped up things can be greater than these two reasons? I let it slide and we resume the way we normally do. ( you should understand lol)

I started noticing some changes in her character. She protests when I touch her, she complains and there was a time when she said I shouldn't touch her anymore, I was shocked but I decided to play along I didn't react. my mind was already looking for options then. Sometimes she act cool also like she normally does but those changes I saw was glaring

After a while, she confessed that when we broke up she met a guy blah blah blah that she was waiting for me to call her lol (someone that said she should have broken up long ago with me on the day it happened) that I didn't show, she told me that she later met a guy after a long while of waiting for me, the guy gave her shoulder to cry on blah blah. she said that they made out but no sex. I just kept my cool, because in my mind she has already broken my protocols, there's no way she's getting back with me

After she landed her rantings, she said she later realised that the guy is not serious with the relationship that they broke up 3 days ago (not from today's date) so she decided to tell me lol I said okay. I asked her what do you now want me to do? she said nothing lol. I know she didn't wanna appear desperate .. she was expecting me to flare up with her story but I kept my cool and didn't react or act surprised.

She said she thought she could eat her cake and have it or she thought I would tell her what she needed to do to regain back my trust lol. I said she can't eat her and cake nor have it. I thanked her though for opening up and after that I zeroed her.. but we still talk though she tries to get close to me, make me notice her lol but I just act normal around her and I didn't act pained. I still talk to her normally but now on a platonic level.

She wanted me to say something which I know I won't lol but I act as if I'm gonna say it this will keep her mind burning up, I'm starving her of attention. What do you think.?

Dpsychologist:
I guess you are referring to dread game

Well, I don't know what's called Sir.

Joskiro50:
Guys I have a question oh

There's a tendency for the red pill to affect your relationship negatively if moderation is not applied. Take for instance, to keep the spark in your relationship going, you have to meet the love language of your partner especially the crave for attention and to be listened to.

Most times, you cannot help but stop giving your woman attention when you discover the red pill and to be honest, this affects the relationship negatively. She starts looking for the attention somewhere and with time, you lose whatever you had on her.

How can one BALANCE the knowledge of red pill with meeting your woman's love language?

This is where so many people got the message of red pill wrong.

If you continue to show a woman a harsh side just because of the theory which says "women tend to fall for who treat them bad" then you'll be making a big mistake.

Sometimes you have to let your guard down not because you're stupid, but its because you have to be unpredictable! Sometimes you have to behave like a simp (in a good way). If you keep showing her the same pattern she will get used to it and what you do next won't amuse her anymore. You have to play your cards wisely.

Let her keep finding you amazing and mysterious. You can just do things out of the blue for her just to surprise her. Sometimes she just needs you to listen to her. Only apply the red pill philosophy when needed. Don't be too harsh and egoistic. #Peace

Dpsychologist:
Can you explain again cos i don't get what you mean

I mean I thought there was a theory or some red pill quotes that supported women love competitions e.g a women love when they know other girls are chasing her man. This gives her the feeling that the man can always leave her since there are many options and thereby the woman will do anything to have him all by herself.

AdesewaAde:
so how has my previous post gotten to do with this ?
I may take any bullshit from you,but I won’t take calling a lair,you are free to just pass if you don’t have anything to say

It proves your story doesn't add up and probably you're trying to hide something.

Don't try to prove you're right. You're very wrong. You just came to post your story here to get validations for your actions because some people might support you and to boost your ego.

You're just being emotional in your writeup so people can believe you. Don't try to emotionally manipulate or blackmail the man. Another person might have done even worse. That's a stupid thing to do. You have to apologise sincerely with words and actions to your man.

I'm not saying you shouldn't work, but forgetting to tell your man that kind of development? That's not acceptable. You should have seek permissions from him before anything. You can't just decide some things on your own. You guys are together for a reason.