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Diary of the uncheck and unrealistic youth

When things that tingles the ears harshly become easily heard, it will soon assume the status of normalcy.

nairalife2013:
U hav a weak spirit. Yur power of resolution is low. U are controlled by yur subconcious mind, like everyoneelse but yur subconciuos mind is comparably weak, probably due to hidden pains and bouts of agony shrouded in recent ecstacies. Hidden Pain or hurt inpires rugged behavious such as smoking, drinking, wild or illegal sex arising from uncouth affection and unguarded desires, growing crave to be seen or heard and self satisfaction when any of these is achieved...thereafter d urge returns again and again. Be careful. Most men dont like too much confession... I slept with david and abubakar when I was single; I had a liking for chinedu when I was in sch; I once thot how will I feel if another man f-ckd me; I wish men and women were at par in bleepin outside. Watch what u say. He might not hate u or send u packingfor telling him any of these or similar tales but his heart might unwittingly severe some respect for u and that could lead to other little unwholesome attachments. The husband's love for his INNOCENT wife grows more and faster than that for the fairly GUILTY in some cases. Avoid by all means to hav sex wid the guy u hav an extramarital affection for - it is transient. The feeling wil go away. The curse or family thing has no force. It is just d reoccurence in yur awareness that has registered it in yur subconcious mind and giv u d wild drive. Pray hard.

Nice thought there bros, it takes a teachable mind to listen and consider obeying it.

Sometimes you wonder what a solution to a problem could be.

I think she needs help both from her hubby and a professional councilor.

Mod, can you get this to FP.

Pervert1:
are you a writer for Hints magazine?

No dear,
the link is stated right there, it contain the writer's name.

Guys,

I think we can learn one or two things from this write, the truth will always set you free;
its kinda long, but is rewarding if you patiently read it through.

Here is the link;
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elloa-atkinson/i-love-my-husband-but-heres-why-i-want-to-cheat_b_5909882.html?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000592

SO, lets enjoy the ride below;

I'm one of the lucky ones: I'm married to my soul mate.

The first time I ever saw Nige, my heart caught in my throat and my stomach dropped faster than you can say "love at first sight." I was captivated, awed and knocked sideways by the depth of my attraction to him.

We met during a life-changing workshop. He was an assistant, I was participating. Having clawed my way to life over the previous two year from an disorder that ravaged my soul and filled me with shame, I had learned to practice radical honesty -- especially when I didn't want to.

"Secrets keep you sick," my mentors said. I didn't want to be sick, so I went against all my instincts and told Nige and the group members in the therapeutic community he was co-leading of my attraction.

There was never an agenda for me other than to feel better.

Somehow, my honesty made way for love to enter. Four years after that first moment, we went on a date. Eight years after that first encounter -- almost to the day -- we got married.

My commitment to honesty means that I share the secrets and dark thoughts that would otherwise quietly eat away at my sense of self-trust and integrity.

Today, my secret is this: I love my husband, but I often want to cheat.

Recently, I met K while walking the dog. We just... clicked. The conversation flowed easily, we shared doggy jokes and I walked home a little taller, a little bit excited. I checked in with myself: Do I fancy this man? The answer was a resounding 'No.' I wasn't physically attracted to him.

Yet, I was happy when we bumped into each other on the field from time to time. I lingered longer than I normally would. He seemed kind of troubled, unclear about his life. His dissatisfaction with the world, his relationship and himself leaked out through seemingly innocuous comments. No, I wasn't attracted.

Then, one day, we spent two hours together. The evening was chilly. Normally I would have gone home, but I didn't. Neither did he. We just... stayed. Talked, joked, hung out.

A fellow dog walker asked us if we were married. Alarm bells went off. I thought of Nige and a quiet guilt nagged at me. This had become a secret.

Over the following days, I obsessed over K, wondering whether I'd see him. I was confused -- I wasn't attracted to this man physically, yet I was getting off on the idea that he liked me.

Here's what I don't want you to know: I started walking Molly past his house, hoping to "accidentally" bump into him.

I "coincidentally" walked the dog at the time he walked his -- 6 p.m.. I felt disappointed each time I didn't see him.

I thought about him a lot. At work, on the way to work, on the way home, at home, in the morning, while walking, while spending time with Nige.

His name even came to mind while my husband and I were having sex. I mentally ejected him from my thoughts -- I wasn't even attracted to him, and I had never fantasized about anyone else while being intimate with Nige.

The cumulative impact of these behaviors -- these secrets -- on my sense of integrity was indubitable.

I felt guilty and ashamed of myself.

I also felt scared: Taking the next step felt so... easy. So close. I knew that I could up the ante just a little bit and find myself in deep waters.

It frightened me that my hunger for a cheap thrill had the power to overshadow the vows I took on March 16, 2012. To throw away the trust, intimacy and love that we'd worked so hard to build felt unnervingly easy, so easy to throw away.

Part of me was actively fuelling the obsession. Part of me wanted to cheat.

What was happening in my marriage, that this might be sparked?

Little things. A courageous conversation or two was needed, but it was nothing drastic -- honestly.

What was happening in me, that this might be sparked?

Ah. Here is where the juice was.

I was afraid of love. I know it might look like I was looking for love, but I was really following what A Course in Miracles describes as "the ego's dictate": seek and do not find.

What drove this attraction, as it has done many others before, was a hidden belief that love is dangerous. That if I fully dive into my love for my husband, it will engulf me, swallow me whole. There'll be no "me" left. Just like when I was a young girl and my mum's alcoholism drowned the whole family in her sorrows.

What drove this attraction was the possibility that I might be deeply, unwaveringly loveable. That it might actually be possible to be in love, on purpose and successful.

What drove this attraction was a subconscious drive, handed down through generations of women in my family, to sabotage happiness and push love away. I'm one of the lucky ones, married to my soul mate. This cannot possibly last. I must create trouble at base camp.

The work I live by and teach reminds me daily that I have a choice about who I want to be in the middle of my struggle. Deny what is happening inside of me, and I set myself up for a fall.

Tell the truth, and I make way for love.

So I shared it with Nige. All of it. It was hard. I felt swamped with shame. But I did it anyway. I probably saved my marriage in the process, and I'll do it again if I have to.

I want to cheat on my husband some days.

But I want to know him, and to be known by him, more than I want to prove my fears right.

And that, my friends, is why I tell the truth.

Now the chickens are coming home to roast.

Lagos state is really working indeed, I thought they said the LASU school will soon become a world class school.

with all this points hanging on the head of Lagos Govt, why the increase then. Now the last ASUU strike is over, the various schools will not hide anymore to display their own grievances.

Tell me what I don't know.
what a misplaced priority, so I ask, how will this improve the transportation sector in Lagos.

will it reduce the trans fare, or minimize the traffic over Lagos.

Ok we kept hearing ASUU is fighting a good course, they are making sacrifices........So I asked,
When you make sacrifices, you giveaway something, what is ASUU giving out for this course?

I can see the ones from the Student and its obvious and the one from FG, so I ask again what is the sacrifices ASUU is making.

Signed.

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Thanks.

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Hi

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Hi Femmy,
How much will it cost to clear a honda pilot 03.

Please add more points if you can and lets be informed about this thing which is almost burying our enviable sector

It’s hard to get, however, am picking the points via the net on a one on one basis as I come across each; below are some of the points though may not be in the order as listed by ASUU. other points to go; Please I culled these from different newspapers and stand to be corrected if its otherwise.

1. I[b]increasing the retirement age of lecturers from 65 to 70 year[/b]s…….. Learn this had been taken care of or sort.
2. Pay each lecturer N12,500 per month as profit from allowance, “The allowances include excess work burden, high carriage of scholar per lecturer, blame allowance, extending from administrative blame borne by addresses for demonstration, as Head of Department, Deans of abilities, written test agents, Course Advisers and Supervision of thesis.

I guess this is the cruise of the matter and that cumulatively came up to 92 billion Naira “And out of the N92 billion earned allowances demanded by ASUU, government has offered N30 billion to them for a start

3. A[b]lso that they are expecting that government should every year release N400 billion as infrastructure development in the various universities.[/b] (The Federal Government had promised to increase the N100 billion it had earlier released to the universities for infrastructure upgrade to N150 billion by next year.

“If government is going to increase the N100 billion for example and the N100 billion that will come from TetFund, what government is going to be giving is about N200 billion; not from Federal Budget, they still have their budget from the normal Federal budget.'' according to Education Minister

4. Federal Government assistance to state universities, What happens to the state Govt and their own role to their schools?
5. Establishment of NUPEMCO, (Nigerian University Pension Management Committee) I understood this is happening already as we speak as
6. Progressive increase in Annual Budgetary Allocation to education to 26 per cent between 2009 and 2020; This should be progressive I guess as they agreed, not automatic
7. Transfer of government landed property to universities How will this help the education sector if it is done? yet they want FG to still assist even when FG had transferred all the landed property to universities.


If you know about other points please feel free to add them.

I once over heard that it was a 7 or 8 points agreement on Channels face off program, but I tuned in late, so couldn’t pick out the content and what the point are meant to address, wither the Lecturers, Students or the school infrastructure.

Unfortunately, the media had not done good job on these demands, they need to let the Nigerian people know and understand what these demands are, so you and I can really join hand to advice both parties accordingly.

So who’s got the demands?

Who' got a copy, please help out.
am sure many of us will be surprise and might even change our backing to either of the parties involved.

Still waiting.

Okay thats it, Time’s up. So much noise for ASUU and FG signed Agreement.
Can someone who’s got a copy of the ASUU signed agreement give us a peep into it, cos’ am tired of people backing and arguing about what they are not informed of?

Let’s for once look at this agreement critically (Point by Point) as it is and even know what was agreed.

Information is power and can only direct you to the right way if you know it.

Cheers!!

Hi All,

wanted to know if it is possible to change a car leather seat to Fabrics especially the 2 front seat (Driver's and Passengers)

Will also know at what estimate can this be done.

Thanks

Ok APC,
but wait ooo, who are this APC people? new breed of politicians?

Abeg, comot for road make I see something jor.

Hi bros,
am considering a honda pilot 2003/2004 model.

how much will this cost landing at my door step and and secondly assuming I already have it send by a friend over there via ro/ro, how much will it cost clearing same from Lagos port if you will be helping out?
please send reply to my box: princeuche_god@yahoo.com
Thanks

Chief,

for a 2003 Lexus Rx300, whats the landing cost. no accidental car please.

Even though am not in support of the Morsi guy and his unfriendly way of leading his people with numerous mistakes, what has happened there this evening is purely a coup d'etat by the military and should not be encouraged in any way.

There are other ways of going about this democratically. Democracy is of the will of the people and not by force via military power.

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Guys,
I got this from a comment by one OpenJusticeOrg on Vanguard Online news,
Can someone verify this as its a gross disorder of the highest order in Nigerian education and federal character arrangement.

The Federal Ministry of Education 2013 National Common Entrance Examination for admission into Federal "Unity" Colleges.

The cut-off marks based on state of origin are:

Abia - Male(130) Female(130)
Adamawa - Male(62) Female(62)
Akwa-Ibom - Male(123) Female(123)
Anambra - Male(139) Female(139)[
Bauchi - Male(35) Female(35)
Bayelsa - Male(72) Female(72)
Benue - Male(111) Female(111)
Borno - Male(45) Female(45)
Cross-Rivers - Male(97) Female(97)
Delta - Male(131) Female(131)
Ebonyi - Male(112) Female(112)
Edo - Male(127) Female(127)
Ekiti - Male(119) Female(119)
Enugu - Male(134) Female(134)
Gombe - Male(58) Female(58)
Imo - Male(138) Female(138)
Jigawa - Male(44) Female(44)
Kaduna - Male(91) Female (91)
Kano - Male(67) Female(67)
Kastina - Male(60) Female(60)
Kebbi - Male(9) Female(20)
Kogi - Male(119) Female(119)
Kwara - Male(123) Female(123)
Lagos - Male(133) Female(133)
Nassarawa - Male(58) Female(58)
Niger - Male(93) Female(93)
Ogun - Male(131) Female(131)
Ondo - Male(126) Female(126)
Osun - Male(127) Female(127)
Oyo - Male(127) Female(127)
Plateau - Male(97) Female(97)
Rivers - Male(118) Female(118)
Sokoto - Male(9) Female(13)
Taraba - Male(3) Female(11)
Yobe - Male(2) Female(27)
Zamfara - Male(4) Female(2)
FCT Abuja - Male(90) Female(90)

Why the segregation of this order, yet some people want good positions in federal organizations.

Mod, can this fly to the front Page?
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Price Sir,

state the price @Op

@ Poster,
This thing happens in almost all homes, most women will still continue to do it till tomorrow, so you need to devise a way to deal with it. That said............... I have a serious problem with the word you attributed to your wife. Using Stealing is most degrading for someone of your second half irrespective of what she has done.

I can relate with you been angry, if you said she’s not coming up when asked about it, but if she said she is the one, it is what is it, yours and hers as well.

Bros, this woman is your wife not girl friend nor your junior sister, so treat her with some respect for your own good.

You can place your wallet far above her reach as you suggested and that's one way to deal with it

I think we all can just let these guys be.
Yes, it wasn't a fantastic outing, but we got the result QED, and also with lots of goals.

Have you tried playing football with not so good a team before? or play with a child?

If they had played wonderfully well and got no result, we will still come here and compliant about it.

I believe in Super Eagles and will support them, what about you?

Its a good development so long as they are paying the Nigerian engineers of similar remunuration

Yea right!!
Believe that and believe anything.
with just party registration, they ends insurgency......., then there's something they are not telling us about this monster of mass destruction