Mnit:

i started my baby on size 2 huggies snug n dry cos size one was small for her and she was 3.6 at birth.
this diaper thing is nt just my weight alone sha cos i hv bum bum n hip so my baby follow suit.infact at 4 month she ws on size 3 huggies.

PresVA:
Please how does one know if her Episiotomy site needs to be re stitched? just looked at mine now and it has an opening. . but I'm neither bleeding nor feeling any pain from there..
so scared of going to the hospital

cc tipsyjules , grandyluv and other mamas that hv epi. experience. .

gandyluv:
my birth story

According to LMP and d 3scans I did,i have Oct 6th as my edd.wen I went for my 38 week visit,d doctor said my cervix is so thick and baby has not engaged..the doctor said may be the baby's head is too big dats y it has not engaged so he ended up scanning me..

based on the scan result baby's weight was already 3.6..I wasn't surprised because I ate alot of carbohydrates during pregnancy days so I was expecting a big baby even though I don't want d weight to be more than 3kg

the doctor now advised since this is my first pregnancy,he don't want me to end up with Cs,that if he allow me to reach my edd baby will be too big and I can't push him out.he said I should come for induction on 30th,i told him that I don't want to go through d stress of induction and end up with Cs.
he was able to convince me and he promised me that i wunt feel any pain.

on the 29th Sept I started feeling pains,i went to the hospital and d doctor checked and said my cervix is becoming soft,that we are preparing for baby and baby is also preparing.i was asked to come back tomorrow around 6.am.

wen I went come,i was still having irregular contractions but the were bearable.the contractions became 20mins apart at night and I couldn't sleep.i left for the hospital very early in d morning with my hospital bag and told my mum I will call her wen I need her..

I arrived d hospital around 6.30am,the doctor came in around 7am,he checked me and said I was already 2cm.he said I'll do gud and everything will be fine.i wanted to stand up but the doctor said I should lie down so that the drug he inserted will not scatter.he asked d nurse to get me up after 30mins.

I started sweating around 9am,i was feeling pains that i don't even know how to control it.i was jus rolling on d floor.l called my mum to come that am dying.the nurse came and did a Ve on me and she said I was already 5cm,she wanted to inject me and I asked her was d injection for,she said pain reliever I told her that please I dont want any more pains she should jus let me be,she said I wunt feel any pain after the injection so I allowed her to inject me.

the doctor came in and did another VE and said I was 6cm,he said he will make the labour short so he broke my water.i was in serious pains that i started crying and nodding my head that no one told me labour was that painful.

I was taken to the delivery room and that was history for me cos I don't know anything that happen there.the only thing I could remembered was d gave me like five injections and I slept.wen I woke up d first thing I did was to touch my stomach and d doctor and his team started laughing at me that i am looking for my son??he asked my mum to bring him and I so my bundle of joy..

his name is ECHONME-EMO(love of God) ALI ISTIfANUS.he came out at exactly 11.13am(so I was told) and he weighs 3kg.wishing the remaining mamas supernatural delivery.

sorry for any mistakes as am typing this in pains.my stitches got open and I went back to the hospital,i was stitch back after enduring the pains.the thing is now open again I don't really know wat to do.

cc feddy27

Teal:
My Birthstory Concluding Part

I started shouting that they should do something as am bleeding.....one of the nurses came and said i have injured myself and if i dont cooperate i will end up hurting myself. The blood should have resetted my brain but i cant just describe the pain o, i still couldnt let them. Then the doctor i liked from my ANC came with like 3nurses on duty and my dh was called in again.....the doctor explained that they all shouldn't blame me and be patient with me as some people have ➖ minus pain threshold.....i thanked the dr for understanding my plight and he also used that to cajoled me to be checked but i still closed up.....i was still shouting CS so another older senior dr came by and he said, ok they will do cs for me but that since I was the one requesting for it, my HMO wont cover it and my dh will have to pay 250k.....as i heard that i grunted thinking of the recession but then dh answered that its not a problem and he will pay.....i apologized to the poor dude that i cant help it else wouldnt want him to spend that much then the doctor asked if i will at least let them set an IV line to prep me for the CS.......injection of any kind isn't my problem so i said yes and they set the line and connected an IV....... Some of the nurses were already abusing me,discussing that am just being lazy, am wasteful, not thinking of my dh during this hard times.....i replied one that is it your money or your dh?.....still in excruciating pains o. With the IV, the pain kind of trippled, i was shouting but thinking i will soon be operated on......not knowing the dr just played on my intelligence and the IV was actually to speed things up......before i knew it......in between 15mins.....i felt that almighty urge to poo......one surely cant miss it! I started shouting, baby is here o, i want to poo.......they all came running and took me to the delivery room......i started shouting please tell my dh not to pay that money oooo cos I knew its no refund policy in the hospital..... The nurses shut me down that eh eh, so i can now beg and that my dh has gone o and there is nothing they could do.....amidst other abuses o. But one nice one told me not to worry that my dh was outside and yet to pay......i felt instant relief. Non refundable 250k in this recession fa!!!


Knowing that all will soon be over, i opened up my legs and they said they could see the head but then pain set in again and i started closing up..... The nurses started shouting that i want to kill my baby, am wicked blah blah......i just couldn't help it, she started pinching my thighs with syringe. They called 3other drs aside the one taking my delivery to hold me down and i was asked to push......I was still struggling with them o......then they kind of thought if i dont make it out alive, it might become another legal case for the hosp so another dr looking was asked to video what was happening......i was so pissed as that made me think they actually thinking the worst of my outcome and then breeching my privacy but then the pain no allow me talk......i didnt even know how to push.....i started grunting and screaming sha and they used vacuum or so to help me and also with episiotomy and after two episode of grunting/shouting baby came out..... And the instant relieve God is just too great!!! I was like so thats all and I started feeling ashamed for all have put myself through...... I was so weak, everyone were blurry but i saw my baby from afar.....very fair and i heard a nurse said, see this fine baby this woman wan kill.....and series of abuse started again.......the dr asked if the baby was ok and they replied yes, i heard his faint cry and then one of the nurses came to deliver the placenta.....then i heard them saying am bleeding too much...... The dr then said he cant handle me awake for stitching as i have massive cervical tear with episiotomy......next a man came started asking me questions of what i ate last blah blah and injected something into my IV and i was sedated.


I woke up, everywhere so blurry, i was so weak......i saw a pint of blood already being passed into me......i actually thought i wasnt gonna make it. I started thinking of how i could have managed the pain and not lost much blood.....how i shouldn't have subjected myself to all the stairs climbing, strolling as i was already weak on getting to the hospital to be induced.
Inducement pain is quite much i will say and if you are already booked for one, please just prepare your mind, don't subject yourself to any stress or pain prior to being induced. You will need all the strength in you and seriously i still wish have opted for CS in like 38th week......that labour pain with episiotomy pain join is something else!!!


I asked of my baby, was told he's fine....asked if my dh had seen him and if he was happy......was told yes and they all laughed at me @if he was happy.
I delivered 1:30pm......i think i woke up around 5pm issh.......my dh was yet to see me, he was worried and my dr told me my dh is ready to cause trouble if anything happens to me......i begged him to allow him see me......later on he came in with two family friends drs from another hospital, a GH.......they checked me.....were asking my dr questions and from the conversation, my hope was rekindled that i might actually make it.


I was still yet to see my baby nor held him. I slept off again, woke up....transfusion was through......i was still so dizzy and very hungry. I was allowed to drink tea and told to rest. I couldnt wait to be transferred to post natal ward ......tho things were still blurry but then i will be able to see my baby even if i cant carry him yet.....then see my dh again.....be with my dearest friend who was going to stay the night as my mother wasnt around yet.......I just wanted to leave the labour ward cos of the memories from my drama.


The doctor that took my delivery was actually cool tho, he was patient with me, answered my questions......but then he later messed up by trying to bill dh saying they used an instrument for my delivery that got spoilt in the process asking him to give him 25k....the only thing i knew they used was vaccum oooo .........and my dh was going to personally appreciate him before as he parted with much already to appreciate the nurses (which i wouldn't allow if to say i was conscious) and even messengers but with that, he locked up and refused to drop any money telling him to make it official if truly he's to pay for any broken instrument. Till we left , the dr was still shamelessly disturbing dh like he's not being paid for his job.


I actually didnt have any problem with the way i was treated in the labour ward cos i felt i was really difficult and needed those tongue lashing by the nurses but then my sister who is a nurse abroad and my family friend dr told me I shouldnt blame myself and they are unethical with their words and procedures as they were expected to show empathy and be courteous. I was in pain for hours, i wasnt given anything to at least help with the pain......if the senior dr didnt come and help with the IV that speeded things up, i wonder how much more pain my body could have taken......


By 1:30am, i was moved to the post natal ward, my baby was placed beside me and i was mesmerized by his sight. I started crying for joy and thanking God. At a point during my episodes in the labour ward, i told the nurse i didnt care the outcome that am not doing again and i just want the pain gone and to go home. Hmmmmm, i wonder what i would have done if have lost my bundle of joy.......things we say when in pains sha. Am just grateful!!!
Recuperating in post natal ward is another story......the pain from episiotomy site and having to battle with breastmilk flow and getting transfused with two more pints of blood is nothing compared to pain from negligence, sauciness and incompetency of nurses and some drs in that ward!

I will just say post natal service in that hospital is so so so bad. Maybe if one could deliver with little or no hassle and get discharged same day......one wouldn't have all this horror experiences. Have stayed 30days in UCH ibadan before, it was like i was in private hospital and i still have cordial relationship with some drs and nurses from there till today so i wouldn't generalize about medical personnels.....surely we still have the good ones.....we have them on this platform as well....I just dont know why those at federal staff come to work each day like they were being forced to or not getting paid for their job.


Any mama who is still registered at that hosp, if not too late, please get another hospital. I dont pray anyone go through all i did but then i was also warned.


The joy from holding my lo each day makes it all worth it and i pray all woman gets to experience this joy also in Jesus name. Safe and easy delivery to all other mamas.

Vigilante is real o, am taking native concoction to still augment my blood level but am much better now. Baby has been on NAN o, breastmilk not flowing well.....taking plenty akamu, amala and tea.....want to order fenugreek sha, i hope it will work. If there is any other thing i can do, please mamas, help o. I really want to breastfeed my baby.

Many thanks to all mamas on here. My able captain @sugah, you did a great job, thanks for the encouragement all through. I find this platform so so useful.....to those that ask questions and those that take their time to answer, you all are all adding immensely to us. God bless you all.

peggygee:


Ehn ehn, and I was abt recommending the hospital to a frnd of mine o. Because of my experience with general Hospital, I wanted her to use that Federal staff jabi.
Abeg which other hospital is better aside general here in Abuja?

Abeg don't recommend it o.Am glad that someone else experienced the same thing,so it won't be like am painting them black.

Cc: all abuja mamas

comtem2011:
Big boy, how many kg @bir.th? Hope ur site is healing gradually?

God bless ur prince.

Always scared when I read about all this tear tear jajaina, didn't experience it, and my baby weighed 3.2kg @birth.

Thanks to u and Teal for exposing that hospital o. wish u guys emotional healing.

Onegai:
tipsyjules and evacroft, please submit your registration for this thread today #Threadbabies

Gaily04, what a handsome lad

Teal:
Wow!!! Am screaming here too. My prayers and thoughts were with you.......even when i went back to be induced on 25th, i still thought of you praying you had safe delivery. am glad you are ok now. Congrats once again.
I can so relate with all you went through.......be thankful you spent just a day there o my sister......i spent 5days, i must to cry everyday not even due to the pains i was in but the nurses non challant attitude and negligence. I was warned too o by doctors from another hospital but it was too late as my HMO was registered with them and then i thought it must be the bad eggs among them thats giving such bad impression as i was impressed by the neat surroundings and ANC was ok all through.
In all, thank God we are ok with our LOs.

jazzyjazz:
My sister, me I can't afford to be hearing stories that touch!

I'm carrying the first grandchild in dh's family, and this is also my mum's first grand child, so nobody just want hear say wahala de!

That's why I jejely carried myself to Limi Hospital. Private and very expensive! And they care too much about their reputation so they don't even mess up!!!

When u enter the hospital, no matter how tiny you look na "welcome ma" you go de hear everywhere!


May God help us all

Akorkor:


I think we need to spread the name of this doctor. On twitter, on nairaland, on facebook and every other social media until he lose his job. If he is tired of the profession and lack manners he should quit. Not by force nah. I think we should use him as samples for all other doctors in Nigeria.

I wont be able to do this because i am not the one involved, but if you post it on any social media please i will support the campaign until government hear our cry. He does not need to be in that profession at all. He is a he goat that just use human body to cover. * So angry*

jazzyjazz:
FSH Jabi??
Thank God I told dh I didn't want to be there cos that's where he initially suggested

He must be a mad man to behave that way with women in extreme pain!
Ah!
Imagine the nonsense!

jazzyjazz:
My sister, you calm o!
If na me, after I don born my pikin finish, I for face am well, warn am make he no ever talk to person for him life like that ever again! Better yet, I for report am to the hospital Mgt or his superior!!! Those kinds of words to a woman in labor is uncalled for!


But like you said, at the end of the day, thank God your baby was fine and handed to you in one piece!

kemesty:
BellaElla, thank God for a safe delivery. With this experience you wonder how women go on and on to have so many kids. It's not easy but we thank God. Kisses to your son.
Tipsyjules, hmmmmm that your experience is better not imagined. You marvel at how professionals who are meant to provide succour and comfort at their best, leave you to the fate of the devil. Was it a general hospital yoi used? Pls name o. I cannot come and go and be thinking of delivering in such facility.
Just console yourself in the fact that your baby is well and alive.

ultimatebunmi1:
congratulations am so happy for u GOD bless the little baby,plz would like to ask if this hospital is a general or a private hospital

Favouredmom:
Tipsyjules I felt so sorry for your predicament after reading your birth story. What they did to you wasn't fair at all, no human being should have to go through what you went through in their hands. May God help our healthcare facilities and staff in Nigeria, especially with their nonchalant attitude. Sometimes you wonder whether they were forced into the profession

The only consolation is your healthy baby that you have to show for all the pain. May God keep him for you.

iomoge2:

It better work well o.
Hian

I went on fact finding misdion yesterday at my hospital.
They said its standard to give LA when sewing up.
Said there is even a machine 4 sewing at extra cost
I used to think its only neddle n thread.

They also said 4 fibriod, they dont remove it with baby during cs.
the person will come back after 3 months.
I said ahhhhhh. For pendiculated fibriod too..... thats wickedness o.
Cos with my lay m@n knowledge, its not like those in d womb dat are connected 2 numerous blood vessels.
Just one blood vessel dat can be cut n burnt or tied n d fibriod is out.... but wat i know?

Akorkor:


Which hospital gives epidural in lagos? 100k is not that expensive for epidural oh if you know how much mother spend on childbirth abroad you go shock. In this economy now, 100k is less than $300 so that is quite okay

suzy:


Are u sure about dat ? well i hope ur hubby comes dis dec and lets see whether u will not register for new team. D pain will soon disappear dear. Sorry about it. The Lord is ur strength
E-hugs

missmalachi:
@tipsyjules.......i can relate with ur experience.i too was re suture and it was one hell of a pain.despite d Anastasia given ,i felt the horrible pain.i cried till i got home.....infact am sure most people that saw me leaving the hospital will think i lost someone.

realdentist:

Na so u go talk now. by January u go de ask us whether it is normal not to see ur period even 4 months after childbirth.

Besea:
Tipsyjules scary birthstory but thank God for you.
There are some birthstories I read and I'm like ehn? In this world? Someone's experiencing this kind of thing?

dexterush:

Sorry you had to go thru all of that,our medical pratictioners need serious koboko and orientation safe for few. That was why I blatantly refuse to go to GH cos of their attitude everybody was just pursuing me to go and register there ,the day I finally decided to go for peace to reign was the day I gave birth.
Pls no hot water sit bath oh,anything they ask you to do confirm very well fist b4 doing it. Quick recovery to you and kisses to your lil prince.
Friday is thread babies abeg make we see him face

callola:
Tipsyjules, thank God it ended in praise. I can relate with their i don't care attitude, i remember when I had a preterm, I had to buy diesel to power their gen cos of my baby. At the end of the day I went home empty handed. I even made a vow that I will never register there again. Though, it's our family clinic.

ozycy:
Tipsyjules, you went through all that? Labour is so real and Naija hospital, dr's , nurses ain't helping matters. GOD help our system, I know with time, we will progress.
Abeg try hussle that visa incase of next time.
Your MIL, I trust her, they shud thank their GOD no be police she call for them

AlphaHandMaiden:


Welcome welcome.
So so good to read the part 2 of the BS. Would have missed it on the pregnancy thread. That thread get rocket... one day and na 10 pages you go see!

Abeg take it easy oh. Sitz bath na warm water not scalding -plucking-chicken-feather-hot. But give your stitches some time to heal before you do it again. It should be a relaxing experience. There are a few tips on how to deal with the episiotomy site. So read back or do a search. Everything from rinsing, using a pad or tissue to push on the site when pooing, and doing a witch hazel healing pad. I even found a link which i posted on doing a frozen condom popsicle as a cold compress.


Congrats again and kisses to your little one.

sugarbuns:
Tipsyjules if you hear my scream in the office because of your re-stitching ehn. Fear don enter my body oh.
Congrats to all mamas that have given birth may God protect your LOs and give you plenty money to take care of them.

In other news I have affordable waist trainers for sale and can deliver to major locations.

Florena:
Nigerian women are strong sha, aaaaa
@tipsyjules thanks for sharing the last part, very informative, hope you have resumed kpekus
The kind fight wey I go fight for my hospital if dey try negligence with me, may God give me strength. All this stories are just too scary!

feddy27:
Tipsyjules, your story gave me chills! It is well with you dear! Pls take care of yourself and your son. Hope dey gave u strong pain killer like 600mg Ibuprofen. For your episiotomy, you can use ice to numb the pain.